/hb/ - Health & Beauty

sorry meant to post this in /hb. mods please remove

Radfem pill cured me, made me realize I only wanted to be hyper feminine and skinny because I hated myself. I had a bf and did what I thought was expected of me. Girl need to be pretty girl need to be skinny, no one will love me if I'm not pretty and skinny, was my thought process for so long until I was introduced to the obvious explanations on why I thought that exactly. Misogyny beauty expectations etc, right before I got radpilled I even thought maybe I'm trans nonbinary because I'm a human and don't want to live up to rigid stereotypes. Anything to escape. Luckily I didn't and now I'm fine I gotta thank the transphobic women on here for introducing me to the concept of being a woman comes from being female nothing else. Misandry is the cure, accepting yourself is the most radical thing you can do to stick it to people who want to put you in a box. Radfem pill, pink pill, in general made me start appreciating and loving women, and in turn myself more. Don't miss it and, I wish the same positivity or neutrality on body image for any other girl or woman.

Had pretty severe BD (wanted to kms constantly because I thought I was so fat and ugly, despite being a completely normal weight, also heavily relate to the no-photos thing) and binge-restrict cycles. Now I'm fully recovered, really, and life is a lot lot better. For me, it was a period of letting myself eat whatever I wanted, with no restricting (the kicker for me was reading Brain over Binge). I gained weight but not to the extent of becoming overweight, before things stabilised and I lost most of what I gained over the span of ~3 years.
I do not miss it. The only thing that came out of it is probably my depression art, and even that is shit. Some advice:
- it's a process, you don't magically get better overnight, but incrementally over a long period of time until one day you find yourself 'recovered,' and eating food like everyone else.
- Even then there will still be bad days where you fall back into the ED-depression mindset, but you must acknowledge them as bad days that will pass. And then they do. Idk but it works for me.
- the biggest mindset change for me was probably that my BD was vanity. Like, caring that much about your appearance, hyper-focusing on it in any situation, crippling self-hatred - that's vanity, and also a distorted sort of narcissism. What's important isn't you, it's what's outside of you, and that's what you need to focus on in order to live life properly. And so now I can go outside, talk to people, and experience things without constant anxiety. So it's pretty worth it.

>>18410
I was taking the radfem pill even before developing an ed but it's not working.

>>18408
When I really recovered, it took me around 4-5 months to gain what believe was around 30 pounds. It happens really fast, and you have to force yourself to do it and have someone for accountability. I knew I wasn't recovered mentally, so it felt like another fake attempt. But you really can not recover without being weight restored, which is not only dysphoric but also uncomfortable physically (you can be really bloated much of the time). However, AFTER that process, I continued to work on my mental health. I just had to tell myself over and over again, writing it down even, that I'm more than my appearance. Look into body neutrality and try to really internalize it, it's okay that you don't believe it at first. Avoid mirrors and scales (obviously) and social media and any focus on your body during this time. I can tell you that it is completely worth it once it's over. For me I still don't view food 100% neutrally unfortunately, but I never feel guilty for eating until I'm full or enjoying desert. Best of all, I don't control my food portions and can still maintain a natural weight. If you are eating intuitively, you will NOT remain overweight (even if your natural weight is slightly overweight BMI-wise, it really won't matter, no one would think you look fat. fat people are really overweight or obese, and that won't happen if you are recovered). Intuitive eating works only AFTER being weight restored, before you need to eat what is advised medically. Now that I'm recovered, I feel like this is my body, how it is if I just eat what I want and exercise when I want. And I can have a significant other that loves my body as it is uncontrolled and I don't have to worry about 'letting myself go', because it is in its natural state when I eat a balanced diet (which includes some 'unhealthy' food!) and only really walk (which I love to do). Social events are so much easier because I eat what everyone else is eating without any guilt. It is real and worth it, but it takes at least a year of hard work and faking it. Weight restored is necessary for recovery, but weight restoration =/= recovery, and when you quit at that state you quit at the hardest part without reaping any rewards for your efforts.