Pain During Sex Anonymous 15442
I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for almost two months. We’re both virgins, and over the past week we've tried to have sex on two separate days, but each time we've tried it’s been really painful for me (like, a burning pain. It almost feels like he's hitting a wall at the entrance) Even when he was just fingering me it would hurt at first.
The second time, we used a lot of lube since I’d been pretty dry before, and while that helped maybe marginally (it got a bit further this time and hurt a bit less), it was still painful. I’ve always had trouble inserting things (I could never use tampons) but I sorta just assumed that was normal and that sex would just somehow like, work out(?)
After reading about pelvic floor tension online, I’m starting to wonder if that could be the issue? When I’m completely relaxed, we’ve been able to get a finger in (I've tried both on my own and with him), but it’s not really consistent.
My boyfriend keeps telling me that it’s normal for it to hurt the first few times and told me he loves me and doesn’t want me to stress about it, and that we'll figure it out/it’ll get better with time, and that even if it doesn't we can do other things, but I’m still worried.
What should I do? I'm supposed to have a gynecologist appointment in January (this was the soonest possible time) but…
Anonymous 15443
it's possible, but before u jump to that conclusion, i would first try a lot of foreplay and leaving penetration to when you are close to orgasm. in my experience penetration is way easier when i'm close and has next to no pain. i think the vagina naturally relaxes more or something. it could also be condoms, i get irritated when my bf uses latex condoms.
Anonymous 15444
>>15443I'm not really sure if I've ever orgasmed before even on my own tbh. :( Like, I usually feel some sort of release and then a sense of relaxation when I masturbate but people online keep saying that I'd like "absolutely know" if I orgasmed. I'm just so confused rn
Anonymous 15445
this can range from psychosomatic issues to vegetative system dysfunction etc etc. but you should check with gyn first so they can give their conclusion.
honestly if you can pay for a gynecologist you should, waiting until January is too long imo
Anonymous 15446
>>15444from my pov it feels like a huge increase in pleasure only lasting like 10 seconds then things get too sensitive to touch. maybe try experimenting more with yourself to see what feels best for you? i use a toy on my clit during piv sex because i can't orgasm without clitoral stimulus.
Anonymous 15447
>>15442>I’ve always had trouble inserting things (I could never use tampons) but I sorta just assumed that was normal I've always been able to insert tampons easily, so this doesn't sound normal to me at all.
I don't like the feeling of putting stuff in my vag, but I've never had trouble or pain putting anything inside either, be it medication, tampons or a menstrual cup. My vag also gets slick with arousal easily when I'm masturbating, but touching inside just never felt as good as outside and around it. Things do go in very easily if I ever feel like trying that out though.
