/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>120663
look a the website youre typing this out at. do u really think YOURE normal? be honest.

>>125750
Nta but people who come on here to gripe about how abnormal and ugly they are are the only abnormal ones. Speak for yourself, you sound like you just capitulate to moid opinions 24/7 constantly regurgitating their opinions in feels. I don't have you're stupid moid mindgutter problems or desperation to suffocate myself to appear normal

Your attitude is what isn't normal. If you had self respect it would show to others and you wouldn't experience what you do. Your obsession with appearing normal and rigid social rules is probably why people hate you in the first place

This has nothing to do with thinking of murder just the stupid twats who come on here with disastrously mismanaged self esteem

This whole sub feels is P-A-T-H-E-T-I-C

>>125753
shut the fuck up

abusive stepdad.
he died naturally and I eventually forgave him. wasn't fun to carry around that much hate and animosity.

>>120653
I've always seen myself as a pacifist, because I can see the humanity in abusive people, I know that they're operating under the same human nature as I, I understand that hurt people hurt people and I've had a hard time reconciling these views with my abusive dad's misogyny and so on, whatever, but I was determined that I'd never want to stoop down to someone's level, to become vindictively murderous when there is a better way…
But then someone raped my mum. She didn't report it. I've never seen a report of sexual abuse work out in the first place. I only found out about it because this man's wife called my mum about why she cheated with her husband. He didn't call it rape, he called it cheating, as if breaking into her home at night and threatening her was merely "cheating on his wife". And I felt such rage. I kept asking myself "Is there really no other way? Is that it? He can just do that and the only repercussion is his wife being upset about him 'cheating'?" and… I've never wanted to kill anyone as much as that man, that shitty cultist and "friendly neighbour" rapist who hurt my mum so much, she was afraid to sleep at night and couldn't even tell me about it because I was also just a minor and just… I found out years after the fact, I don't know where he lives, but when I remember this, I still just want him dead. But truly, I wish the law and police could've been reliable and trustworthy at the time and landed this rapist in prison. But none of the rapists I know ever went to prison. And I don't know what to do about it…
I used to think myself above being swayed by my emotions to commit a murder of vengeance, to even entertain that I could ever be in favour of such a crime. But I had to accept that I'm not above that kind of feeling at all…
I don't think it's likely that I'll ever find myself in a situation where I'd really kill someone… I still would prefer a solution and outcome where no one has to die… Where the law does a great job and no people would be tempted by vigilantism, where these cases are taken seriously and rapists face some repercussions… But in my experience, they just don't. And I do worry that I could feel tempted to really hurt someone under certain circumstances. I'd rather not be in that kind of situation, but… Yeah…
So anyway, that's how I felPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>125726
Maybe this sounds insensitive but like why can’t you just lose weight? Do you have a food addiction?

>>125727
I should have included that I have lost weight and seen very clearly how differently I am treated being skinnier. It's like night and day and it makes me very depressed.

Yes I do. My family bullied me for being “fat” as a child. This caused complex ptsd, bpd, body issues and more. I have health complications so I can’t lose weight naturally and the trauma doesn’t help. I saw your other comment about how different people treat you, this is one of the things that terrify me. I feel as though if I lost all the weight I wanted and naturally became confident over time, having family members treat me differently due to how I look would honestly fuck me up.

>>125717
I mean good god "just a pick some finance moid and throw out any other standard " is only a call you make if you're destitute from southeast Asia ( even then they usually clue in to the maga crap, decide to just pump and dump him and escape for their lives)

>>125713
But you just implied we should settle for mr. moneybags who is never home .. ? If I have to wait until he leaves to be happy what is the point?? lmao??

>>125713
>I guess I overestimated ppl's mental capacity here.
most of the people's rhetoric here consists of calling you a moid whenever your opinion slightly deviates from theirs. it's pointless to discuss anything in earnest with someone like @07 or @11 whose posts may as well be identical if you really get down to their point

>>125721
Big surprise most women here don't want to settle for being a tradwife, which is the what you're proposing honestly

>>125721
Well, it’s pretty difficult to not question your femininity when you practically said “just find a rich guy bro”. That’s a very common low iq moid take…

>>125071
Jesus fucking Christ what is the point ? If you put up with this horSe shit from men what other insufferable things do you put up with ? And what is the point ? I wouldnt touch a filthy moid shit with a 70 foot pole

>>125605
I don't give a shit how it makes me sound "having too high standards" they are irredeemable in relationships. All of them. There are so many more BAD ONES. It's not worth sorting through the bottomless horse shit that is the moid population just to find a scrote that doesn't suck.

>>125197
And women don't ??

>>125606
Tinder ain't what it used to be

No matter how well you think the relationship might be going otherwise, I do not think a guy who'd tell you this will be good long-term. He's immature and will not get over the resentment.

yeah men are incapable of real genuine love. stop dating them.

>>125619
Everyone does. Honeymoon phase never lasts. The best relationships are with people who understand this, the worst with people who keep chasing the high.

>>125619
>Does honeymoon phase end in every relationship?

Are you really this sheltered

In the back of my mind I feel like my boyfriend hasn’t dumped me yet because he’s convinced he can’t get anyone else to like him even though he’s so handsome and kind.

>>125501
>it felt so good to cone hone, not take a shower or wipe anything, put my bag in the living room and just sit down

For years you've been saying some variant of this every time you leave him for a day. Your larp needs new material

>>125501
Yes nona you are an evil bad person for wanting a normal life like a normal American woman. Why the fuck are you in Japan dating an ethnically Japanese dude from Japan again? The Japanese are schizophrenic OCD egomaniacs culturally since the beginning of their civilization

OP here. I sent a long message to my mother in law about my feelings and all of the cleaning I've been doing (and abuse I've faced). She talked with the hospital and the doctor is going to strongly suggest my husband see a psychiatrist. I hope it works.

>>125583
No one asked ni gga nobody cares

>>125583
No one cares anymore this shits been going on for too long

please don't take this as me being dismissive of your feelings. but the odds are, you are overthinking it a bit. you don't have to worry about him anymore, don't let him control your feelings or life. legit, the odds of stumbling upon that person are almost zero. just delete whatever socials you used to talk to him and chillax with your life

>>125618
idk if this is the right or wrong thing to say, honestly, but i have had this happen twice somehow…both times they never actually found me irl. there are too many people , too many places to go.. also online stalker type men tend not to go out much anyway

>>125618
it sounds like this was a while ago and tbh he's probably creeping on another girl rn esp if he's a pedo, you've aged out relax sis

by "it" I meant to say attachment theory specifically, sorry

>>125589
probably something like that, i think im dismissive avoidant. wanting to talk to someone genuinely makes me feel humiliated and when he does something nice for me or i tell him i enjoy something it makes me angry almost?

>>125590
Damn an irl tsundere

>>125590
I'll make a guess based on limited information I see.

There's probably something in your past that is making you act. Unhealthy attachment styles are an adaptation to shitty relationships, generally. They're fixed by having healthy relationships.

If your reactions to social interactions are this turbulent you're probably around a lot of crazy schizos or something because it's not very normal. I kinda relate to what you're saying and I got better after getting better and more understanding people around me.

>>125601
i was for a loongggg time i was a shut in and a neet. for the last year and a half ive gotten normal and around normal people, surprisingly integrated really well into everyone elses world outside of my computer. but until then i was staring at a screen with social invalids and yeah i think having a crush on a guy i met irl through mutual friends who is normal is driving me batty

>>125492
Gross ass animation

>>125492
I have had boyfriends but the fact of it is going on dates implies sex and I don’t want that. It’s pointless and useless. I don’t want some perv who’s just gonna shove his hands down my pants. I’d rather go to a professional where my boundaries will be respected. I know in Japan it’s more common for women to seek this sort of thing. :/Nona if you decide to go down that road pls report back.
>>125493
I haven’t gotten a massage but I have gotten facials and I get my hair cut regularly (I love when the hair dresser scrubs my scalp). It’s just that I wanna genuinely press myself against someone. I don’t have friends or family so it’s not as simple as seeking out physical touch from loved ones.
>>125496
I don’t think you really seek validation from prostitutes

No sex required? I'll do 40% price match.

>>125533
Are you offering to be my prostitute lol

>>125547
Don't call it that you said no sex stuff

>>125541
What are your issues? I’m not liking how he blames you for his negative view of marriage and relationships. Seems unfair to say to tou even if you really have changed it. What do you both think have you done that warrants such a comment? Also your age gap may not seem like like it makes a difference but it really does. And I say this as a woman who has always and still prefers older men myself.

>>125542
Well, he said he changed his mind when he met me, as in he liked me enough that he decided we could have a family together… I caused him to change his mind again by being kind of mental. That’s what said, at least. The other day he told me that I am too fragile and "not wife or mother material." I was often asking him what I could do better, or if he was happy with me, and I don’t really have friends any more so I became clingy. Also I am a high school dropout. ;_; I’ve been working on my GED for a while but I find it so hard to motivate myself to do anything most of the time. I am really terrible. I just started taking ssris again, and I am going to try my very very best to finish school, and then maybe I can go to college… And redeem myself? He was pretty mean to me last week, I don’t think I was ever that mean to him, but I wasn’t a good girlfriend. The thing is, I asked him if he was happy with me many times and he always said I was the best girlfriend he’d ever had… I wish he had told me he didn’t love me anymore, I seriously would have gotten my act together. I really hope he’s just angry and that maybe in a few months he will reach out. This is the weirdest experience ever, I had no idea that breakups feel like this.
>Also your age gap may not seem like like it makes a difference but it really does.
Most of the time he’s super silly, but this week I really felt it. I feel like I am speaking to someone much more mature than me. He never spoke to me that way when we were together… He was always goofing around. I hate it, it feels awful. He was so cold when I saw him in person.
Thank you for your reply, anon. <3 I’m really sorry for bombarding you with all of this. It’s nice to get my thoughts out, and if I don’t put them here I might try to message him again.