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Anonymous 110010[Reply]

He would rather play fetch with my dog for 3 hours than watch a movie with me.
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Anonymous 110184

Let him run around until he tires himself out, then give him a bone and put on a movie.
I miss my dog.

Anonymous 110185

if he doesn't take him out for the walk regularly without complaing, dump him

Anonymous 110238

If he likes dogs that much, he's a green flag for sure

Anonymous 110252

>>Let him run around until he tires himself out, then give him a bone and put on a movie.
The moid or the dog?

Anonymous 110282

What's da difference? OH!
-Andrea Dice Clay


us vs them (IMPOSTER amogus) Anonymous 110257[Reply]

here's a random thought -
sometimes there are people in your "in-group" who use their in-group identity to get away with acting abusively. the problem may not be with the group identity itself, but the fact that the group enables abusive behavior solely because the person acting abusively is part of their group, or so they believe.
the problem with this is that by enabling an individual in their abusive behavior, the group is enabling the abusive behavior itself. so the person continues to act in that manner, and drags down the rest of the group in further conflict or regression, possibly even dividing their group by creating new conflict. the behavior doesn't get corrected, and any values derived from that behavior will result in cognitive dissonance/a decay in one's humanity.
i dunno why i felt compelled to say this but, it often seems like i am more angry at a behavior these days as opposed to an actual politically defined "group." there are people who think that, just because they share an identity with you, you'll enable their bad behavior and let them get away with things. ultimately i enjoy teamwork and HEALTHY competitivity over being pitted against people for no reason all the time.

Anonymous 110259


One rotten apple is enough to spoil the whole box. The decomposition of the rotten apple starts from the inside, and lets out ammonia and other decaying compounds anaerobically, even if the whole box is sealed and air-tight, and the microorganisms start to develop and eat other fruits in the lot.

It's the same with furniture. Suppose you accidentally bring in a furniture that has a termite hive, the termites will start to spread and infect every other furniture near it.

Same with psychopaths. They act like your friend, they get in the bunch and preach the same values and ideals, and instead of being an instrument of these ideals that they preach, they only preach them because they get attention and they feel special. Soon, they start to take over the ideology itself, just because they get to feel special.

Anonymous 110265

so who do you think should correct them and why is it not you?

Anonymous 110266

i believe "enabling" behavior is the root issue as opposed to some tangible entity. ultimately, i think lots of things can enable those that are dragging down their in-group, and there are lots of weird parallels with amogus, hence the meme. for instance, supporting others instead of giving attention to ill-intentioned people. offering solutions along with criticism instead of "circle jerking" over problems and any bad emotions that may arise. there are lots of ways in which enabling behavior can manifest, but the main point is not rewarding those who only seek to drive conflict as to feel empowered to behave abusively.

Anonymous 110267

and again, the problem is not some inherent issue of competitivity, but an unhealthy form in which individuals who are not great themselves use their in-group identity to become powerful. an environment which allows an invasive plant to strangle other vegetation - the problem is not the plant but the environment.

Anonymous 110268

also - one last point, activities which challenge people's teamwork and ability to compete in a healthy manner may prevent people like this from becoming powerful in the first place.


PCOS has ruined my life Anonymous 110226[Reply]

Been diagnosed since i was 16, and all it did was give me the worst fucking acne of my life, i grow hair on my face like a man and i never have motivation to do anything. everyone is talking about how lifestyle is the biggest factor or go on this or that medicine but im from a third world country with the most controlling mother who cannot wait to marry me off. how do i even cope with this?? will i ever look like those normal woman with nice legs skinny bodies and smooth skin or am i destined to grow thick beard hairs for life

Anonymous 110239

i can assure you, that there is a man who will find you attrative. men do not care about appearance nearly as much as you think they do. just shave your face, its not like he is going to know.
>t. cystic acne haver who has a bf

Anonymous 110245

I'm also a pcos haver, I've gotten sir'd at stores on days where I had an unshaved face and my hair up in a pony. To be honest, lifestyle factors can only take you so far. I've lost so much weight and my period has become regular (until now, more on that) and painless, however, I'm still growing facial hair.
I'm mildly gender nonconforming and have a bit of a female-machismo complex, so it doesn't bother me too much in relation to my identity and individuality.
However, I do get insecure when it comes to dating. I question if men will accept my chin scragglies. I shave before dates, so they won't know, but I wish this wasn't a thing I didn't have to account for. Yes I don't have to, but I don't want to limit my dating pool. Simply, not all men are attracted with hairier girls.
I recently got on spironolactone to address the hair and acne and I'm 3 months in and my period stopped. My acne hasn't. My hair growth is slowing down at least.
I think the only thing that I can ultimately do is acceptance. I'm considering electrolysis but I'm conflicted.
I have no real advice to offer, I'm sorry, but I hope one day you can feel more comfortable.
Sometimes I feel like my body force transitions me

Anonymous 110246

>third worlder with helicopter mom who wants to arrangedmarriagemaxx
It's over unless you're Sara Ali Khan.

Anonymous 110247

There is some over the counter medicine that helps with acne if you can't see a doctor, you can take it and hide it somewhere.


Anonymous 109487[Reply]

I've never been catcalled. I'm pretty. Why?
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Anonymous 110003

I think it's a compliment. Means I am not ugly as fuck.
(Never been catcalled)

Anonymous 110107


On the internet it's a different story but I've noticed men IRL are intimidated by me. I'm not especially imposing, and though pretty mediocre looking, I've seen uglier girls harassed. it's my vibe. I have an aura that's scary to men. This is one of the few things I actually like about myself, and when men do harass me I have nary a problem telling them to fuck off.

Anonymous 110123

Your morphology is just excessive technology. You have been stripped of sociological stress. Your unconscious mind is likely OOP. You're just autistic as your biological fields. Do you even have a soul, universal cadaver? I hail you to service.

Anonymous 110136

My main downside is that the type of moids who do see me as harassable are the worst of the worst. It's a double edged sword. The fifth dimension spergery does not stop them all

Anonymous 110236

Me, too.
Though I have a weird power where even the freaks don't harass me, they pursue me earnestly in romance. This is awful in a different way.
Last one was a man who I didn't know was banned from half of the campus for sexually harassing women. He treated me so innocently it was fucking bizarro. (Never liked him and ran the fuck away after finding out)


Social Anxiety Disorder/Agoraphobia thread Anonymous 101071[Reply]

Imageboards attract us like flies so i made this thread so we can feel less lonely, here's some questions to get it going
>How is your life right now
>Do you go outside?
>Any friends or company?
>What do you do to cope with it
>Share a highlight from your life
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Anonymous 110179

congrats on your job interviews.
question,, do you fear others looking at you while on your walks or at the gym? how do you manage your social anxiety going to packed places like uni and the gym? i feel like there's so much going on all around at both

Anonymous 110186

Sometimes I think I'm getting better or it's just cute behaviours, then I can see girls having troubles socialising and start wondering if I also look that pathetic it's disgusting

Anonymous 110199

Thank you. When I'm on my walks, there's nobody ever around, usually. It really can get overwhelming at the gym, but most of the times, it's like I'm living half-reality, half-fantasy world in my head. I always have a fantasy going on in my mind, and it usually keeps me distracted from what's going on around me. But sometimes, I laugh randomly as a result of what occurs in my fantasy world, and I sometimes wonder if I look crazy to others.

Anonymous 110213

ohh okay that’s actually really beautiful! i wish i was more of a creative person, i fear my anxiety and dreadful thoughts have dimmed my light lol. keep being u nona :,3

Anonymous 110227

I go into work everyday and suffer from social anxiety and agoraphobia. Physically being there in the presence of others wears me down daily. How to overcome the fear of doing the small talk routine and saying hi to people? Why can’t I just sit alone in my cubicle and stare at a screen all day, I’d rather communicate via email instead of face to face…


Bullying and body dysmorphia Anonymous 110205[Reply]

There don't seem to be many threads about eating disorders and I wanted to know if there were more nonas with similar experiences.
First of all I am going to clarify that I am not pro-ana, I wish I could eat normally but I have had anorexia since I left high school. During school my "friends" used to call me fat (actually at that time I was a little fat and I wore glasses and my face was childish) but it still hurts me, they also used to call me ugly and autistic for being shy. I used to skip gym classes a lot because I was afraid of receiving comments, one time I was running like everyone else but when I finished, one of them came up to me to tell me that I sweat like a pig.
Other times at lunchtime some boys made pig noises as they passed and looked at me.
I wish I could leave that behind, but even though I am underweight now, my intentions to continue losing weight increase along with the fact that I no longer look in the mirror often and I hate seeing myself in photos.


People with motivation are blessed and privileged. No matter what background. Anonymous 109641[Reply]

People who find this planet motivating nowadays are just stuck in a fantasy illusion someone built up around them all their lives. I'm seriously tired of hearing that theres something wrong with me because i never had that delusion from the beginning.

90% of the time work is some form of wageslavery that fucks you or amounts to 60 years of theft you never get back. Most people cannot even afford homes or childcare nowadays.

Only men truly benefit from work and have a fulfilling experience from it because they're bolstered and motivated by delusional male power fantasies and fantasies of patriarchal rape /burn it all capitalism. A fantasy thst disproportionately rewards them and celebrates them.

Women always end up getting nothing but hate and shit on when they attain real things in life that arent pregnancy. Or they stagnate in wage slavery. All because anythimg else would taking away from the male power fantasy. They're dragged down in a spotlight and destroyed by drama way more often. So we should have motivation to do what exactly ??????????????

When scrotes open their mouths about the "reward" of work this is the deepest vilest most dishonest lie they use.

Women who gain nothing from shitstain male delusion in real life do not share any of the same benefits nor motivation because they know they will be left behind or conned somewhere; dragged down or doxxed somewhere. they know theyll actually gain nothing from the hard work that only benefits if you if you're blessed with the horse shit male power fantasies to get you there and accepted. The males that don't have fantasy delusion also lose a staggering amount from work, the same way.

Why do we never call out this insane lie??

The worst possible thing about it to me is hearing that you can climb out of systematic psychological ruin/ depression/ passivity/ feminization/ through wage slavery. That anything related to work will get you out of a rut.
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Anonymous 110196

I only like that work gives me money so I can buy delicious baked goods and cool drinks in the sun with my friends in the summer. I also have motivation for my hobbies on my time off.
Call it cope but I know I can't change the system, so I enjoy the small things I can. It's either that or rot or kms. This is objectively the best choice.
Perhaps I do have the privilege to not be fully depressed. My life has been a bit shittier than average in the Western world and my family was working poor growing up, but I still enjoy things on the planet.


stupid moid bf won’t stop looking at girls online Anonymous 109246[Reply]

I found out my bf had been searching up girls on IG and saving photos of egirls on twitter after I’ve told him a million times that it makes me feel like shit. I’ve also found memes that he saved basically fetishizing girls like me and making fun of one of my past suicide attempts.
I feel so stupid for staying but I legitimately feel like nobody else would want me. I have no other friends and no money and I’d be completely alone if I didn’t have him even though I can’t fucking stand him. Im mentally ill as fuck and super mid and nobody really shows any interest in me.
It disgusts me that he’s saving pictures of what he wishes I looked like and doesn’t understand why it makes me upset. I fucking hate moids so much but I don't want to be completely alone.
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Anonymous 109957

damn truth

Anonymous 110015

How the fuck you guys settle for the lowest of the low?
I might be autistic too (extremely insecure even tho people called me cute all my life, lost my virginity at the age of 20 after dating this guy for 6 months to make sure I loved him.) But holy shit I would never settle for these subhuman males that can't even have the minimal respect when in a relationship.
And yes, my bf is a college dropout bum as well who at best gets a part time job once in a while, but at least he gives me quality time, cuddles, snuggles, pillowtalk and doesn't look at other girls/cheat on me with porn, and I have enough money to sustain both us so NEET'ing aint a problem.

Anonymous 110022

So look at hot bish moids online and read tons of yaoi.

Anonymous 110027

Not to be rude but this is literally the "first world problems" equivalent to relationships.
Even in the best relationships you will be facing much much worse challenges together, if this is enough to derail thing now, you aren't ready for a serious relationship.

I remember how when my mom and dad were unwinding in the evening in their room, my mom reading and my dad watching a film, they would casually comment on the women when there were naked/sexy scenes. The boobs on this one, are the real/not etc. My mom did it in the most casual way possible, couldn't care less if my dad was enjoying a nice pair or a steamy sex scene.

Anonymous 110044

Nah its weird to be constantly looking at pics of girls online when you have a gf, you literally have a real life girl you could look at and do stuff with and are ogling photoshopped onlyfans chicks online instead, wack


A Random Letter To The FBI Agent Watching Me/US Government Anonymous 109928[Reply]

I stumbled across some old posts of my journal and found a funny entry (looking back on it) dedicated to the "FBI agent" that was watching me. Obviously it was mostly tongue-in-cheek but it was kind of interesting to read back on.

Here is a thread dedicated to random letters you want to say to your government. For venting purposes!

(Sorry if this isn't the right board for this sort of thing :P)

Anonymous 109975

Dear Government,

The state-mandated bf you assigned me is malfunctioning. He mistook his primary task of licking me like a kitten for playing shitty mobile games instead. Please fix this bug.

Also, can I get some of that oil money that you've been pocketing? Norway gives theirs to the citizens, could you please maybe also do that?

Thanks love

Anonymous 109985


Lay off the drugs <:)


Kill me kill me Anonymous 109845[Reply]

I acted histrionic and ended my relationship with a man who has kids and a gf he lives with but he wants some sex cult thing but it’s all over now after like 5 years and i don’t know if I’m in the right or made the wrong decision. He ended things officially. I fucked up. Kill me.
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Anonymous 109879

this post is so retarded i lost braincells reading it

Anonymous 109887

>i don’t know if I’m in the right
>relationship with a man who has kids and a gf he lives with but he wants some sex cult
You can never be wrong in this scenario. Never.

Anonymous 109890

I didn’t know for a long time in. Couple years at least. He just accepts me I think but I don’t know because I think I’m too crazy even for him. But I think the way he acts makes ME act crazy, but deep down I really don’t think the things that scare me and bother me are crazy. I think I start to act crazy when he ignores me or leaves mid conversation over text, but I always try hard to address a conversation rationally and he just tells me he’s sick of my complaining and he’s not discussing the issue anymore. So I snapped and I left and I ruined everything.

Anonymous 109900

You removed yourself from an unhealthy situation, good job. Stop thinking you've done anything wrong.

Anonymous 109954

You made the right call ending it, there's no reason to stay with someone who abuses you like that. There's plenty of people who would have someone like you and accept you with all your craziness without being abusive sex cult leaders. Hard to find, but they're out there.

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