/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Hi nonas
I really need help
I really like this guy and he really likes me, we spend all of our time together to a downright obsessive degree, and ive never really experienced something like this because i was not very appealing to boys growing up. But now, Im having trouble going forward with him

He is still hung up kn a girl he dated a year and a half ago. Usually this would immediately turn one away from pursuing anything, but he is so tied to my hip that i dont doubt his affections for me. But he does say things that worry me, I fear I cant shape up to this girl that he had a really thrilling romance with, everytime he mentions her I feel like he misses her more and more. He mentions how nice she was to him, and how well they understood eachother, and it is so affectionate. I am so sad, these days, I cry a lot, but he also freaks out if he feels like I’m upset with him or just disappointed with him, I dont doubt he loves me, but i dont think he will ever love me as much as he loves this other girl. I am really autistic and i have troublr understanding other people on a degree like that. They havent spoken in a year but its still like this.

I feel so stupid and dumb and immature, i feel like a failure of a woman, im 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, so this is my first time experiencing soemthing like this. Am I desperate? what should I do?

Am I a bad person? I always lurk here and read the posts from the nonas, but I don’t really feel anything. I understand the reactions and emotions of people who suffered harm and want to do harm, but the only thing I can do is come up with a very generic opinion about it. I don’t think I’m a psychopath because I do feel remorse for things, but they’re usually petty and small things. Like, I cringe and feel awful every time I remember that I didn’t share my cold tea with my grandmother when she asked how it tasted, I almost cry whenever I think about that. But I felt nothing when I broke up with my ex and left him stranded in the middle of another town he didn’t know anything about.

what don’t i understand.

me and my bf aren't compatible

there is nothing in the world moids value more than the women they call “whores”. yes nonas… even your precious nigel’s. they see no issue giving these “whores” their sexual energy daily while in “monogamous ” committed relationships. they will shame these women publicly and go jerk off to them 30 minutes later. and don’t you forget that if you were to engage in these whorish activities yourselves they will suddenly have a problem with it because you’re the madonna in their story. committing to a moid is allowing yourself to be his full time madonna. while he gets to disrespect both you and the “whores” he shames however much he wants. stop allowing them to do this. men do not love you. romantic love is patriarchal propaganda.

i hate the expectation that women are supposed to constantly compliment other women. especially on their looks. i’m a straight woman… i don’t view women through physical attraction at all. so complimenting their body or features feels unnatural to me. but if a woman doesn’t do it, people immediately assume she’s envious, insecure and sometimes even anti woman. men never face this. straight men aren’t expected to compliment other men, and when they don’t, no one questions their character or motives. women, meanwhile, are pressured to provide nonstop emotional validation. not complimenting a woman’s appearance doesn’t mean i dislike them. it just means i don’t feel obligated to perform a role society unfairly forces onto women. i don’t find women physically attractive. sorry not sorry.

how are we going to do it guys

dating ppl you don’t find attractive is actually one of the most selfish and cruelest things some ppl do to each other. i can’t stand how some ppl actually think this is a virtuous act and think this makes the love you have for someone more valid. stop doing this. you’re way better off alone than doing this to another person.

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