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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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Anonymous 126615

>>126614
I think that may be a cope on his part he's telling himself to distance from you. Like he's lying to himself to justify actions or feelings. I don't know your relationship ofc but this happens often enough for it to be likely nona! You were probably desirable enough for him to date you, he cared enough to uplift you etc. He's more likely ambivalent about it and thinks you didn't deserve it at least a bit.

Anonymous 126616

>>126615
that made me feel a little better. thank you sweet nona.

Anonymous 126618

I’ve lost weight but I still feel so fucking disgusting.
I know I should be proud of myself, but I can’t bring myself to be because in my mind I’ve made virtually no progress.
I started at 225 lbs and I now weigh 165. I’m not done losing yet, but I’m starting to feel really fucking discouraged.
I still look so fucking awful, if not just a little less wide than I used to be. I still have rolls and I can already feel the fact that I’ll have loose skin on my thighs and arms and stomach. The worst part is my legs, because I carry all my weight in my thighs so they’re still fucking gigantic.
Like even though I’ve lost weight and I’ll eventually get to my goal number, I won’t ever fucking feel pretty because I let myself get that big in the first place. It’s not even going to mean anything.
I struggled with binge eating all through out high school. I couldn’t take the feeling anymore so I decided I would finally try to stop binging and lose the weight, and I’ve been doing pretty consistently well as far as the scale goes, but I just feel like i barely have any visible progress to show for it.
I know I’m still overweight but even as I get closer to my goal I’m worried I’ll still look awful.
I feel so sick to my stomach because even after all I’ve put myself through I still can’t be beautiful and it’s all I’ve ever wanted but I guess it just isn’t attainable for someone like me. I hate living in my body, I hate looking the way I do.

Anonymous 126630

>>126618
>>126618
hi, just know that the closer you are to your goal weight the better you'll look. youve made so much amazing progress already, and ive been in your place before. i also struggled to lose weight on my thighs but what helped the most is incline walking and power pilates. it doesn't matter how much you've used to weigh; what matters now is that you're changing and you're becoming healthier! keep going!

Anonymous 126658

>>126630
thank you for the advice and kind words i really appreciate it nona :)


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Men make me feel so lonely Anonymous 125423[Reply]

I can’t handle how lonely men make me feel. No matter how kind, patient, or understanding they seem, they always end up disappointing me. They’re all lustful. They all watch porn. All of them struggle to see women as actual human beings, some just get better at hiding it. They all want you to perform for them in some way shape or form.

I ache for this so called true love. I want romance, tenderness, respect. I want someone who sees me, who values me, who cherishes me. But instead, day by day, I grow more bitter and resentful. It feels like I was sold a lie about what men and relationships are supposed to be. It makes me angry and doubt romantic love is even real at all. It all just feels like a cruel lie. I even feel like the women who claim their men are so great are experiencing some sort of cognitive dissonance.

I keep telling myself I just won’t ever get this from a man, but accepting that is so hard. The loneliness eats at me. Sometimes, it feels like being a straight woman is nothing but a curse. Being alone sucks but being with them makes the loneliness even worse.
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Anonymous 126583

>>125768
they want a virgin because being the one who degrades her makes them excited. it’s not romantic. they want to be the one to defile you. they want someone who said no to everyone else. they don’t actually care if you say yes to THEM. they will rape you and just lie and say you said yes.

Anonymous 126584

>>125602
had a man tell me he literally saw me in his dream for half a decade before he met me, rape me the second we were alone, bragged about me to this incel friends who were jealous he “stole me” from a friend i didn’t have feelings for and had told no i didn’t want to date you 500 times. there was no stealing. and then he timed the rape so he could escape out of the country, left me because he couldn’t rape me anymore and i was showing signs of trauma and crying in public at six flags with his friends there about what did to me. then spent all his time abroad having sex with prostitutes around his base until he was dishonorably discharged and ended up dating the minor he had been online grooming for months before and after me.

Anonymous 126629

>>126564
Nah, at least women don't bond over abusing men.

Anonymous 126653

>>126629
women will bond to men over abusing other women though. come forward about rape. it won’t be the male friends that bother you publicly. it will be some woman who is either dating him or wants to and thinks because you are both women, somehow she’s allowed to scream at you follow you around drive by your house and send you threats. the day i spoke up i got told there were people in my yard standing under my window that were going to jump me for being disrespectful. it was all one woman who wasn’t even dating my abuser at first. your abuser will also go on to forge bonds with new women with this almost “us against the worldl” level shit against his “crazy ex.” there is honestly nothing borderlines like better than being told by their favorite person (who is always a man) that they are better/different from some other woman. they’ll get the same treatment being called the crazy ex but that brief window where they are on a pedestal is like crack to them. the man will then go on to use all of this behavior against them in the discard phase mind you. but that’s the real narcissistic high cluster b’s are after. the “i’m better than her” feeling.

Anonymous 126654

>>126629
the male abuser is obviously still the worst but there’s a type of almost covert abuser woman that attaches itself to men and assists them. it’s why you never see women do this stuff alone. it’s his fault. but there are some women out there who hate and seek to harm other women too.


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The 5 Love Languages Anonymous 126647[Reply]

What are your thoughts on it?

Anonymous 126652

>goodbye
>windows startup


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Jealousy thread Anonymous 126198[Reply]

I'm a very jealous person, so much that seeing prettier women than me can affect my mood. I wondered if this was a common thing here, what and who makes you jealous?
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Anonymous 126296

I'm jealous of girls with clear skin, especially really fat girls who eat like shit. I cut out so much of my diet (white carbs, dairy, I eat minimal sugar and fats), bought so many skincare products but my face is still acne riddled.

I'm jealous specifically of fat girls with a ton of potential because even though I've basically done all I could to improve my appearance esp. with diet and fitness my highest potential is ugly while all they have to do is literally put in like half the work I do to be a 10/10.

Anonymous 126384

i’ve never felt jealous of another woman.

Anonymous 126388

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Damn imagine wasting your time thinking about how pretty you are in relation to other women.

You know what's so much more interesting than that, look at this awesome bowl of oyster dipping noodles.

Anonymous 126477

>>126198
My philosophy prevents me from caring about people's husk and start critically analysing the way they speak and think instead.

Anonymous 126628

I'm jealous of girls who look similar to my type but prettier. So a rounder jaw, more upturned nose, puffier lips, clear skin, or curvier body, all make me jealous. And thick, long hair too.

The only thing making me feel better is knowing i pass as slightly above average\cute which is good enough to not be treated like a troglodyte I guess. Besides, even the most beautiful women in the world get treated like trash and cheated on, so what is even the point of looking beautiful then.


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frustrated Anonymous 126270[Reply]

maybe i'm in the wrong here but my female friends who have boyfriends just make me so incredibly angry.
they just make me so frustrated because they'll say things like 'oh i hate men' and then turn around and tolerate their useless male partners because somehow they are the exception. (???) i dont understand it.
every heterosexual relationship i've ever witnessed in my life is a genuine fucking horror story!!!!
i dont know. i just hate that my friends willingly give their lives to retarded insecure men who genuinely dont care about them at all. like wake up!
sorry i just had to get that off my chest hahaha
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Anonymous 126456

>>126445
You aren't supposed to drink your own kool-aid.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drinking_the_Kool-Aid
See this post >>126453 she could be having a bf right now.

Anonymous 126462

>>126456
> she could be having a bf right now.
Idk what u think u know about me but I do not have one and would never wish to have one lol

Anonymous 126463

>>126462
Cool, now stop making everything about yourself, i was only using you as example.

Anonymous 126464

>>126463
> i was only using you as example.
Which is exactly why I said something abt it dumbass lmfao so sorry I'm apparently making everything about myself

Besides there was literally nothing wrong w/ what the other anon said so idk what ur issue is

Anonymous 126624

>>126623
imagine being this new


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Anonymous 126610[Reply]

I've never had a single friend in my entire life and I fully intend to keep it that way for the rest of my life. There are no friends in this world. All relationships form the way that they do based on power dynamics. All relationships are purely transactional. Anyone who you think is your friend will turn on you in a heartbeat once you are no longer of use to them. Love doesn't exist and never has.

There is no such thing as good people. All human beings are profoundly rotten to the core.

The sooner you learn this, the better.
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Anonymous 126613

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The more you have, the more that people want from you. The more you burn away, the more that people earn from you. The more you pull away, the more that they depend on you.

Anonymous 126617

You are what you eat or sometihng

Anonymous 126619

>>126610
>Anyone who you think is your friend will turn on you in a heartbeat once you are no longer of use to them. Love doesn't exist
Who hurt you?

Anonymous 126620

Love is real. That's why it hurts so much when you're not loved.
One of my parents loves me, but I found that the other doesn't. Hurts.

Anonymous 126621

>>126620
Real.
I've been loved by complete strangers, little acts of kindness and gentle compassion none of my family has ever given me. Love is gentle, it is soft but it is disciplined, and I think the worst part about love aside for not being loved is when you have to purposely part ways with something you love for both your sake and theirs, knowing they will never understand why you did so until they get better, something that may never happen.


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meeting internet boyfriend Anonymous 125231[Reply]

hi nonas,

have any of you met a moid from the internet before? i have been talking to a guy for a few months now and we are considering meeting. i have never had a relationship before so i'm nervous about what things will be like in person.. i don't know what to expect.

i have a tendency to self-sabotage and i worry that i am going to cut off this one chance i have at a relationship because i'm scared of what's unknown to me.. can anyone share advice?

thank you anyone who leaves a comment, i wish i had some friends i could talk to about this..
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Anonymous 125235

> hi nonas,
Kek, the surviving 1/3 of genuine posts ever posted in this site are trannies, aren’t they?

Anonymous 125265

Yes, when I was 13 I met a moid from discord. I got my virginity stolen from me that day.
met another last year, we got high, and again, in my weakened state, had sex.
met one last week and yet again, it was a hookup.

it made my self esteem plummet and reminder that I am a whore. I don't want to be a whore, I just crave physical intimacy, not even sex, just cuddles or kisses. don't meet up with moids from the internet. but if you do, make sure you trust him and its in a public place.

Anonymous 125266

>>125233
I really want to meet up with an anon moid, hes from Norway and is really sweet. I'm pretty against e dating, but my city is shit and I hate all the guys here. I've met up with 3 different guys from the internet and it all lead to us having sex.
I'm fine with sex, I just don't want it to be dominantly that. hopefully a true relationship.

Anonymous 126423

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>>125231

i met my bf when we were 15 on a Discord server. i was very socially inept and depressed and i hated talking to most moids but he was always very kind to me and never made me uncomfortable, always comforted me, never expected anything. one time i got fucked up and really drunk and confessed that i liked him in call, and eventually we started dating.

we were kind of on and off dating when we were younger because we were dumb and stupid. now i'm 22 and graduating nursing school and we're getting married next year and i'm moving in with him. i'm still bad with social stuff and i don't have any friends but he has always been there for me and i'm thankful.

keep looking nona God has a plan for you and he will bring you a wonderful man soon. he will make your life easier and shelter you from all the evilness in the world.

Anonymous 126604

>>126423
im genuinely tearing up reading this. that sounds so sweet i hope your life gets better with him :)


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Just one more year. What should I do? Anonymous 126476[Reply]

I'm stuck in a weird position.
When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan because I was lonely and wanted a friend. We had some common interests in games. We hung out at the arcade and in the same year, I went to his house to play co-op. However, the friendship was short lived as he asked me to be his girlfriend right after. I was young and stupid, I saw no issue with him. He was unfit and never had a girlfriend before, I never had a boyfriend before. So I thought I should give him a chance.
It's been 1 and a 1/2 years now. Due to feeling unsafe at home, as soon as I turned 18, I moved out to this dude's house. He said he'd support me. So I moved and enrolled to a highschool near his house.
Over time, living with him, I began to pick up on things that do not sit right with me.
Firstly, he has figurines of some anime girls that troubled me from the very first time I came over, but I thought I should just overlook it. Figurines of miku, vtubers and Fate characters. He has plushes of vtubers, his profile picture is a vtuber. He admits that he likes vtubers but doesn't watch them anymore. Yet when I criticise them for milking money from men he opposed me.
Things that disgust me include him loving the anime 'yuru yuri' a show common among lolicons, loving the soundtrack of 'yuru yuri', he downloaded all of them and calling the government 'woke' because the age for marriage is 18. Other than this, I told him I do not use twitter, but everyday, I check what he has posted and who he recently follows. When I checked his following for the first time, I burst into tears. It was anime porn artist after anime porn artists. Most of his following was that. Yet checking his recently followed, he still actively interacts with these anime porn artists. When he shows me something on twitter, he's very wary and cautious of ever scrolling too much, and when he accidently does - it's all vtubers and ecchi drawings of anime girls. Last night, I checked his following again, and I cried again discovering he followed 20 more disgusting anime artists.
The worst thing is, these anime porn artists also draw porn of underage characters… in other words loli. It's a trend I've noticed across the artists he indulges in.
I feel so stupid, I was too young and dumb to notice this before I lived with him. And now I'm stuck with this borderline pedophile. I should've picked it up when I told him my real age and he said "15 is legal anPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 126560

>>126555
Honestly, I'm inclined to take that back.
Like the part about making weird implications, I'm sure you'll make a great doctor, using a moment of weakness against you was really mean of me, I'm sorry about that. I still think you shouldn't kill him ofc, you're right to think about your future.
But you're basically still a child with your whole life ahead of you and being with a pedo is definitely dangerous for you, get out of there

Anonymous 126563

leave him, listen to your intuition. he’s a pedo gooner. take photos and screenshots of all of his degeneracy and send it to his family. does him mom know about this or does she just enable it? also, see if there are any women’s shelters near you. can you get him to give you money, like lie and say it’s for like cosplay lingerie or something?

Anonymous 126586

>>126560
>>126560
i was going to yell at you but i was too tired. i’m not her but thank you for apologizing to her.

Anonymous 126600

>>126586
Yeah, I tried to delete the post but I can't since 30 minutes have passed.
Thank you for being someone who yells at people when they say stupid things.
>>126476
Once again, I'm really sorry, don't even read that shitty post at >>126555
I get into a both-sides mentality too easily when abuse is usually from one aggressor to someone whose aggression is usually just self-defense.
You clearly have many reasons to defend yourself, especially after what you've experienced and the overall person that moid appears to be.

Anonymous 126603

>>126486
you have the same mentality of a moid. stop slutshaming depressed women.
>>126600
thanks for owning up to your mistake instead of just running away from responsibility like a lot of people do.
>>126525
im not qualified to give any advice, but i just wanted to say i hope things get better for you. i know how it feels, thinking that the only love you'll get is from the lowest of the low. that pedofag doesn't deserve you.


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Anonymous 126416[Reply]

I found the best man ever and I started dating him and we get along so well together and my life has improved in so many ways since meeting him, but for some reason I'm not falling in love with him.

He can tell that I don't have strong feelings for him, and it's important to him that a girlfriend does. He talked about how betrayed he felt by a past girlfriend that was with him just to not be alone. I don't feel like I'm settling for him, my brain just doesn't produce the correct feelings that I need to have.

Why does life have to be this way? Am I broken? Asexual? I'm just going to be single for the rest of my life the way this is going and it's making me feel very anxious and sad.
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Anonymous 126474

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>>126417
I'm not latina

>>126450
>>126455
I feel like I can be myself around him, though we haven't known each other that long.

We haven't had sex but I can imagine myself hating that if it doesn't work out. Every other worry I've had has melted away the more I've gotten to known him, though.

Thanks for sharing your experiences, noonas. I still desperately wish I could try this anyway, but whatever happens I think I'm at least going to tell him what I feel, that way it's not just me deciding what to do but us together. If I'm lucky maybe he will offer his friendship instead and that will make me less lonely somehow.

Anonymous 126475

For me, sometimes observing my own feelings is like observing something with a microscope that is too small, that gets damaged by beams of light. If you are this way, and you haven't known each other for that long, then maybe you can just wait. Time and silence is sometimes all it takes for your inner thoughts to speak up. This is especially true if you've never been attracted to somebody in a long-term way before, you very well could just be slow to discern what you want. But if this is the case, then maybe try not to move forward (esp physically) until you can discern, as that would only increase mental noise and make it harder to figure out.

Also, are you like this in all other areas in life? Ex: if you adopt an animal, move, make new friends, change jobs/career ambitions/school concentrations, do you start worrying about your choices the same way you are with your boyfriend?

Anonymous 126480

>>126431
I think it's at least partly due to the fact many women are so used to men being complete garbage that when they meet one that's decent, who respects them and whom they respect, they'll interpret it as love. And from there, it's mostly just the usual cognitive bias and sunk cost fallacy that will trap them in a loveless relationship.

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>>126475
I also experience feelings that way. I have to observe them indirectly a lot of the time. I'll notice that I've talked more than usual or that my thoughts are optimistic, and then conclude that I must be in a good mood.

I'm not really worrying about choices like that. I'm not worried about if he's the right one or not.

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Update on OP:

I talked to him yesterday and described what I feel and what I don't feel. He way okay with it so maybe he thinks it's still too early to be able to expect me to have strong feelings yet. I don't know what the usual timeline for these things are. I still have a feeling that it's not going to go my way in the end, though.

Anonymous 126579

>>126573
Progress, I guess. Did it alleviate the guilt any?


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on tinder to lose my virginity Anonymous 126509[Reply]

im 27 and a virgin, idk, it never happened to me and its getting kinda weird. i just wanna know what is like, and im too tired to form a real bond with some guy until it happens, i dont have any male friends or anything like that so i made a tinder acc

what do you think nonas? i do think is a questionable idea, but tbh every passing year i put less value into giving it to someone "worthy".

Anonymous 126513

it's more fun when it's with someone you enjoy
or is paid to give an actual good experience

Anonymous 126515

>>126509
Nona, don't do it.
Find someone you love and respects you.
Moids on tinder only want to have sex and then ghost you.

Anonymous 126518

Agree with >>126515 over here. Please don't waste your first time on a hookup up. The men on there won't care about pleasing you or meeting your needs. You gotta invest time to finding the right man who knows how to find the clit

Anonymous 126559

>>126509
I'm older than you and also a virgin.
Went to a small orgy, to "try things out", and no, didn't find anyone attractive, didn't want to have sex with anyone. I tried a few things out of curiosity, and like, it was kinda fun to just touch people and see how things work, but that was it, I've seen more interesting things that I think more about at my local aquarium.
You can really just stay a virgin forever, it doesn't matter noona. Are you an aquarium virgin because you never went to an aquarium? Ooh, so weird, it's an essential human experience to look at fish if you live in my city. (It kinda is to some people here, but that doesn't mean you actually need to go).
It's normal to masturbate and have fun with it, you really don't need to do more than that.
If you want an actual relationship or raise a child, that's different ofc, you can try getting into dating. But losing your virginity just for the sake of what, having a dick in your vagina just so you can tick a little box? Like, what's the point? There are other fun sex things you can try out, like buying sex toys or reading up on female masturbation advice. At least that stuff is fun.
>I really want to know how sex feels, people say it's fun
If you're forcing yourself, it definitely won't be though. I know a woman who is married and told me that she only had like one orgasm in her relationship, it's fucking bleak. I orgasm all the time by myself. If you have sex with someone, you also have that deep bonding aspect and communication thing and if you don't do that with someone you love, what are you doing it for, getting off? You probably won't, at least not with a random tinder hook-up.
And if you're really that desperate (why??), at least do this >>126513
If you don't like the title of "virgin" just don't call yourself a virgin. It's mostly weirdos who care about that shit anyway, nobody who matters cares.


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