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NEETs what do you do all day? Anonymous 125667[Reply]

NEETS = Not in education employment or training. I’m over 25, any over over 25 NEETs? What do you actually do all day?

I’m awake now, took two puffs of my vape. TikTok scrolled, Reddit scrolled and played a game on my phone and I’m immensely bored. Ideas are welcome , any of active forums I should know about? Any & all welcome

There’s a lot of times where I just bed rot and do nothing due to the depression but I think this isn’t one of those days. But I am lonely as I have no one and bored and I don’t feel like gaming tbh.
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Anonymous 131211

yoga, read, cook, clean, workout, overwatch.

Anonymous 131268

a large chunk of my day is just wasting away, suffering from painkiller resistant chronic pain and fatigue and they still call me lazy

Anonymous 131277

>>131268
Have you tried not being in pain? /s

Anonymous 131558

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I’m living a good life as a NEET right now and I’m pretty productive in my daily life. But seeing other women actually having pretty impressive jobs makes me feel like I need to prove I’m just as good as them. I don’t want to be the less accomplished one in the room, you know? A career isn’t necessary for that but the fact that I sucked at my jobs makes me feel insecure.

Anonymous 131747

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>>130256
After like a month I notice I probably do much better when I dedicate all my time to one project at a time. My mind is just naturally way too dedicated and tunnel vision. I am not sure if that's a good thing or a bad one. But I get some stuff done.



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i hate living Anonymous 131053[Reply]

>wake up
>get dressed
>go to work
>deal with male co workers harassing me for 7 hours
>go home
>shower
>wash clothes
>brush teeth
>sleep
again and again and again and again and again and again
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Anonymous 131074

>>131070
I mean I don’t really know what else you want me to say. I work in an office for a company and spend my day sorting through emails and replying to stuff.

Anonymous 131076

>>131075
Lol the CIA definitely has you on some list somewhere next to the Unabomber

Anonymous 131220

>>131057
Extremely male post but good if true

Anonymous 131346

>>131053
Nona your job sounds like it sucks ass. Have you considered getting a new one?

Anonymous 131746

>>131053
You gotta gross them out by acting like they do.
Lie about how many guys you fucked during the weekend or how you are a homewrecker.
They only get a rise out of taking advantage of perceived innocence and your socially passive/weaker position.



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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Anonymous 131038

Sympawny no.4 - in memory of sweet Chubby Cat
Chubby Cat was sweet and playful and the perfect cuddle buddy. With a sprinkle of playful piccolo, a touch of warm strings, and a sweet harmony progression - hopefully, the music sounds just a little bit like him. Rest in peace sweet Chubby Cat

Anonymous 131043

you can go on home, you got what you need
take my heart and put it up on your sleeve
tear it up so they can all sing along
live out your life
i’ll never tell you you're wrong
baby, don't forget, don't forget it's our song
i’ll be the thing that lives in the dream when it's gone
i’ll be the thing that lives in the dream when it's gone

Anonymous 131687

𝒮𝓊𝓃𝒹𝒶𝓎 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝒶 𝒷𝓇𝒾𝑔𝒽𝓉 𝒹𝒶𝓎 𝓎𝑒𝓈𝓉𝑒𝓇𝒹𝒶𝓎
𝒟𝒶𝓇𝓀 𝒸𝓁𝑜𝓊𝒹 𝒽𝒶𝓈 𝒸𝑜𝓂𝑒 𝒾𝓃𝓉𝑜 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓌𝒶𝓎
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒸𝒶𝓃'𝓉 𝐼 𝒻𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝒾𝓉?
𝒜𝓂 𝐼 𝓉𝑜𝑜 𝒷𝓁𝒾𝓃𝒹 𝓉𝑜 𝓈𝑒𝑒?
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒹𝒾𝒹 𝒽𝑒 𝑔𝑜?
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒹𝒾𝒹 𝒽𝑒 𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓋𝑒 𝓂𝑒?

Anonymous 131688

This Sunday instrumental is goated btw

Anonymous 131745

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Oh, won't you lay down with me?
Let yourself be free

Hold your breath, don't breathe
Just believe in me
Trust you're coming with me
We can finally be free

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcYfWknChuo



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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man
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Anonymous 130688

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely not your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats just a manipulation tactic. he has hurt you before and he will hurt you again when he has the chance. fuck this guy.

Anonymous 130696

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats a genuine cry for help. he has hurt you before but he definitely will not hurt you again when he has the chance. save this guy.

Anonymous 130712

>>130696
What the fuck are you talking about. This faggot moid needs to get over himself and stop manipulating this poor girl. Did you not read the part where he threatened to kill her before? Handmaids like you should stay quiet.

>>130574
Any updates?

Anonymous 131596

>>130696

Not really, depressive men who kill themselves do it.

Men who tell women about it want something in exchange.

It's about time that if she does what he wants, unless she actually acts like a sane person and contacts a ward or his parents (if possible) to care for the problem. If she acts like if he deserves her time after being, what she described, then she would end up being manipulated if she does as you say. Obviously.

A handmaiden would take the matters as her responsability to care for the emotional needs of man who hurt her, as to feel a person.

A woman as a proper adult, will just contact the proper adults for this situation as a mentally ill man is not acting properly.

Anonymous 131742

>>130574
hey op i hope you are safe.



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

Previous thread >>>/feels/115657
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Anonymous 131717

>>131714

>why are you larping as a dark triad personality?


>bullies people to gain status


…. the call is coming from inside the house

Anonymous 131718

>>131717
Wym to gain status. You are assuming that. Status is definitely one of those things I don’t care for. I don’t like people glorifying and justifying the behaviors that had been harmful towards me.

Anonymous 131719

>>131718
1) tf is a vector?

2) what happened?

Anonymous 131720

>>131719
In computer security, an attack vector is a specific path, method, or scenario that can be exploited to break into an IT system, thus compromising its security.
In health and disease transmission, a vector is a living organism that carries and transmits an infectious pathogen to another living organism

Anonymous 131722

>>131720

So nona either broke security protocol or transmitted a disease by bullying someone?

Sounds retarded af



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I am writing a story Anonymous 131669[Reply]

I am writing a dark fantasy story. I was wondering how do I get people to give me feedback and how do I know if people actually like it? I want to actually be a writer. <3

Anonymous 131671

>>131670
>Maybe a discord for writers?
What if they steal her gems? I wouldn't risk it.

Anonymous 131672

>>131671
She should pick one of those people that never finish their works then



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Anonymous 127510[Reply]

Hi nonas
I really need help
I really like this guy and he really likes me, we spend all of our time together to a downright obsessive degree, and ive never really experienced something like this because i was not very appealing to boys growing up. But now, Im having trouble going forward with him

He is still hung up kn a girl he dated a year and a half ago. Usually this would immediately turn one away from pursuing anything, but he is so tied to my hip that i dont doubt his affections for me. But he does say things that worry me, I fear I cant shape up to this girl that he had a really thrilling romance with, everytime he mentions her I feel like he misses her more and more. He mentions how nice she was to him, and how well they understood eachother, and it is so affectionate. I am so sad, these days, I cry a lot, but he also freaks out if he feels like I’m upset with him or just disappointed with him, I dont doubt he loves me, but i dont think he will ever love me as much as he loves this other girl. I am really autistic and i have troublr understanding other people on a degree like that. They havent spoken in a year but its still like this.

I feel so stupid and dumb and immature, i feel like a failure of a woman, im 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, so this is my first time experiencing soemthing like this. Am I desperate? what should I do?
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Anonymous 127561

>>127549
i would never want to be the girl someone loses their virginity to. my fiancé lost his by threatening to break up with his girlfriend. they broke up shortly after. he just wanted to have sex and said she was withholding it from him. thankfully she left him.

Anonymous 127610

>>127561
>Yeah, I love used goods sluts

Anonymous 127611

>>127561
Wait, you're engaged to this asshole? Sounds like you may have some screws loosed.

Anonymous 131583

>>127533
Fuck. I was with a boy just like on the left. Oh my god, i miss him and I fucked up. My heart aches looking at this and it's so stupid.

Anonymous 131646

be egocentric.

Egocentric women always win. When men say women are egocentric they are right, women need to be egocentric to be happy. Else they will never be happy and find happiness.

Being egocentric, in the best amount. Being a narcissy in the way of having basic respect for yourself, and sacrifice a random man if he does not fit your ideal image of a man.

Treat men how they treat you.



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i hate being short Anonymous 129782[Reply]

i hate being short no one takes you seriously and peopl talk about how "cute" you are as if thats somethinf good and not extremely infantilizing. my self confidemce would be significantly improved if i was at least 5`6. short bodies look like shit in general, if youre skinny you just end up making yourself look even smaller and more fragile if youre fat your body starts to look all lumpy and your proportions seem off, if youre muscular you just look retarded any type of volume on short bodies ends up looking retarded. you cant win
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Anonymous 130230

>>130229
If you're smaller you need less food too I guess

Anonymous 131595

Being cute is amazing. You can get away with anything, even staying in the room.

Being small makes people more comfortable around you, if you are sharp tongued they might find you funny and let you live longer in danger situations.

Being cute and short is a good combination if you know how to use it properly in social dynamics, tall people might treat you like a child and you can use it to your advantage.

It might be uncomfortable if you are not used to your body, the faster you learn to move and control your life from your body the happier you will be.

Anonymous 131599

>>130229
Also, less likely to have a heart failure than tall people and wounds heal faster.

Anonymous 131642

True

Anonymous 131643

Women under 5'6 should be castrated sorry



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How to stop feeling like a subhuman because I'm a woman Anonymous 126636[Reply]

No it's not because of men that I feel this way, neither porn, but I've seen porn and women act like subhumans in it.
My problem is that I see submission as subhuman and female submission in sex is human and natural and sex is the fundamental part of the reality. So it's like we are subhumans in life. I don't hate myself but I hate womanhood.
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Anonymous 129360

stop thinking about sex so much and you will be less miserable. yes, heterosexual reproduction is fucked up when you really think about it, but you have to ignore that and go on with your day

Anonymous 131025

Don't have sex, the only position where you can kill a man while having sex is straddling him.

It is as well not recommended for men to do it, because of the consequences it can give to their male clitoris.

Female humans are not sub humans. If anything, the vagina evolved as that because it was coherent with pregnancy. Females are in charge of choosing who to mate with, females have never tried to be like males if anything they have desired to not be abused or used and discarded.

The ban of abortion in some countries will just make women more responsible of celibacy, if women cannot be celibate then you can say we are sub humans.

It is hard anyway, socially women are raised to comply and do as told, despite the bible proposing the complete opposite, that men should be the ones that should obey and work.

Females are not submissive by nature, if anything, they are raised to be compliant.

I am ignorant in history, so I cannot tell you since what period of time women started being raised to be compliant.

Anonymous 131449

No thought or act by any human can be inhuman. Subhuman is a nonsense word.

Men will have a mirrored anxiety to what is expressed in OP. The social imaginary does not make the interpretation expressed in OP as available to men as to women. The anxiety about the aggression in male sexuality defining them as people and manhood is still there.

Whatever this is:
>sex is the fundamental part of the reality
it comes from a pathological place.

Our sexuality is a part of our psyche and we can learn to accept the contradictions between it and the rest of our minds. Like a child turning on the lights over and over again to see whether the monster they imagine in the shadows is truly only in their imagination and eventually coming to trust that if they were to turn on the light nothing would be there. So can people look outside the sexual part of their minds to see whether sexuality's relation to the aggression inherent in male sexuality has removed their sexual partner's ability to regard them as whole people beyond the sexual context.

It is likely, and overwhelmingly so in a serious romantic attachment, that you will find that upon exposing their sexuality to their partner a man will be relieved to find that his woman has not replaced the totality of his being with a monster in her mind and a woman will find that her man has not replaced the totality of her being with a slut in his mind. That is unless some pathology hinders the acceptance of these ambiguities. Like the one which produces this:
>sex is the fundamental part of the reality
It may be relevant to point out that psychic health is hard to maintain when spending a lot of time online.

Anonymous 131536

>>131449

This is so based

Anonymous 131547

>>131449
finally someone wrote something to address the stupid meme OP is perpetrating



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Lifelong depression Anonymous 131513[Reply]

Not even a wish could fix me. I have been depressed since I was a kid, and at first the reasons for the depression were pretty concrete and specific (body and family issues mostly). Yet now I cannot even tell you why I am depressed anymore. Even in the wonderland in my head where all my problems are gone I am still depressed. The apathy has shaped me so profoundly that I cannot imagine a version of me without it. I can only hope that this stay at earth wont be particularly long and that the next try will be better.

Anonymous 131516

I understand you, nona. I have depression too and antidepressants don't really help with it. I only have hope that one day it will disappear for one reason or another. Stay strong. I am with you.

Anonymous 131517

>>131513
I went to a rave and i got better and realized i need friends and sunlight

Anonymous 131542

Depression is a catastrophe in the chemistry of the brain which is connected to the chemistry of the whole body. It is subject to chance. The healthiest person can get unlucky and suddenly ienxplicably lose their brain health. A depressed person can get lucky and inexplicably gain health. You can get lucky with the right medicine. You can get lucky with the right therapy (in the broader sense where both nature walks and talk therapies are therapy). You can get lucky in a way which you cannot articulate or imagine at this point in time. In so far as you can I wish you will believe and act upon the truth that even when things are very bad they can still be slightly better or worse and that despite it feeling small it is significant to try to make things very bad but slightly better rather than very bad and slightly worse. Luck may appear in that difference one day.

I'd like to recommend the book Radical Hope by Jonathan Lear. It's a philosophical book about having hope while having no concept of what a bearable world would look like.

Anonymous 131594

being happy is a state.

How hard was life on you, nona? I am all eyes to read. w

If anything, what worked for my anhedonia was writing down what makes me happy.

Like hugging my loved ones.


It does not have to be the same for you, it can be something that makes you feel the same warmth, like drinking water after thirst.

Or having cute clothes.

After making a list, you can then build a sense of self about what you like.

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