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Anonymous 129602[Reply]

i hate seeing girls like the same things i like i feel like im always out for male validation even though im not interested in men… i feel like my life as a woman has no worth because im fat and ugly. im relapsing into bulimia and my mouth is rotting away. im out of school, i cant get a job and my friends always exclude me in selfies when we hang out because im so ugly. everyone i talk to is a transgirl i have no cisgirl friends and im scared of them all. when im done reading, playing games or watching anime for the day i realize how sad my life is and i want to kill myself.honestly im afraid of anyone that isnt a tranny. i hate seeing pretty girls i hate seeing cosplayers. i really want them to all die someday. i always forget im autistic until i speak to real people and then i realize theres just no hope for me.

Anonymous 129603

haah even posting this i feel like im close to a panic attack . im so scared of everything

Anonymous 129606

maybe be happy on ur own before you can be happy with someone else. and then you can find the right person for you to enjoy life with

Anonymous 129607

um for what it's worth i like the picture you posted do you have more cute images like that

Anonymous 129615

sammmee im ruining my already ugly appearance with bulimia wooo! I relate to everything ye said so at least ur not alone. Is there a place in this world fr people like us I wonder

Anonymous 131024

>>129602

List your best memories.
List your worst memories.

Bulimia will make you more ugly.

Men who like kids do not like kids. They just like the idea of abusing someone, being stronger, smarter or older enough to manipulate them.

Being autistic just makes you be avoided because you are not happy, you are not healthy, and autism is socially acceptable only when you meet those two criteria (happy, healthy) because most people (who are not autistic) often are not honest enough because of social reasoning. And end up in consequence, being unhappy and miserable.

Live your best life, nona, there is still hope


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I hate how invasive troons are. Anonymous 129459[Reply]

A few days ago I was contacted by a troon asking to be friends, I thought it was okay since I don't have any female friends.
I talked to him for a while until he asked me to do VC, his voice was that of an effeminate man.
The worst part is that I can't even stop talking to him or ghosting him because he could expose me as "transphobic".
I feel stupid for not noticing it sooner; it was so obvious. He was acting very "feminine" in a forced and performative.
If I don't answer he starts spamming me, also he asked me if he could do "yuri" with my character and his (I'm an artist btw).
I have to live with this torture if I want to live, I hate modern society.
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Anonymous 130624

>>129519
last year my gay dorm RA tried to stay in my bedroom while I changed tops because he's gay and that apparently makes it ok
i got really anxious because i'm socially awkward and it was really hard to get him to leave in a way that sounded like friendly banter and not like i was extremely uncomfortable because literally all my friends and everyone around thinks he's a great guy, and i didn't want to seem homophobic or make things awkward
so, i think i can understand where OP is coming from here, if this person actually can create social consequences for her

Anonymous 130649

>>130624
Is this an NA thing? In my region gay men never stay in the room when you are changing even women leave, what in the lack of privacy you all have going on?? Your nakedness is your own to share with who you choose. It is one thing if you are in an area where nudity is common, we do have such areas but seriously??? In YOUR bedroom??? Know your rights. You have the right to personal space it is in UN rights of a child and an adult. You also have the right to have relationships or the lack thereof. Don't be letting people talk you out of your rights as a human or call you evil for exercising them.

Anonymous 130653

>>130649
same poster as
>>130624
it's a virtue signaling thing, i think anyway, at its root, maybe the influence of social media and tv as well, the idea that girls and gay guys are on the same team or smth and that they're automatically good people because of oppression
for example, the girls' bathroom on my dorm floor was literally declared "girls and gays" in the first week of first semester, they even put up a sign on the door lol
and kept letting the guys use it even after the two gay guys on our floor continually left the toilet seat up, left pubic hair on the seat and even left the toilet unflushed a few times, and left the sinks a mess, and that's not to mention the shower situation
obviously i wasn't comfortable at all and i started showering at like 5 am to be as sure as possible there wouldn't be guys in there. at least there were no trannies, thank god
and i think girls (like me) who are actually made really uncomfortable with gay men overstepping boundaries still cooperate because of social pressure. i'd love to say that i stood up for myself and said something, but if i had that kind of self-confidence i probably wouldn't be posting on crystal cafe

Anonymous 131021

Something that would work is to say the most sad thing. Lie.

Say you have anxiety, that you take pills. Say that you feel so bad sometimes you have to take more pills to sleep.

Say that you are in therapy and that it does not work properly.

Make him feel like a monster, some men will dislike the idea of being a monster because it means they will be outcasted, humilliated and ridiculized.

Victimize yourself and use it for your advantage, calculating uselessness is worth bucks.

Anonymous 131023

op you should stop talking to him asap, he is clearly into you and will try to get you to send nudes or something eventually


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Anonymous 130265[Reply]

What is dating like?

30 and never been asked on a date or had a BF.
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Anonymous 130299

OP are you abstinent by choice or not because you look great and I'm sure lots of guys and even other women would date you

Anonymous 130311

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Terrible and wonderful, depending on who you end up dating. Guys are either total moron apes with no sense of class, or absolute gentlemen but those are rare. I broke up wjth my long term gf of a couple years a few months ago and started dating. I got some matches on tinder and went on a couple dates, one of the guys was a complete fuckboy but i wanted to try out guys. He didnt hold doors, asked to pay half of the bill, drove a beat up old car, and was very insistent on going with him to an underground dj set that night. I left early and unmatched him. On the other side, i found an amazing guy that i wasnt too crazy about looks wise but we had so much in common,like playing same games and have similar hobbies, we clicked very quickly. He's polite, likes my jokes and goofy demeanor, holds doors open for me, and takes me out on cute dates all the time. I return the favor by cooking him delicious home made food he can reheat after he comes home from work over the course of the week.

The key is to not just look for attraction, but find a companion that will be your best friend and who you can rely on. Dating shitty guys feels like a waste of time and is unfulfilling, maybe you might get some action but its kinda hollow and tbh I get off better by myself. Try stuff out, get out of your comfort zone, and trust your gut.

Btw im 31 myself

Anonymous 130312

>>130265
it was the best experience of my life, albeit that's because she was the most amazing, wonderful person ever.
but being single is enjoyable too

Anonymous 130313

>>130299
its not actually op its catfish

Anonymous 131022

>>130313
>>130265
Why are zoomers even obsessed with her? she looks like a bloated taylor swift, she edits her pics like no tomorrow at least taylor shows her real face


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 130864

>>130863
I honestly forgot wtf was I thinking when I wrote that post. I think what I find cringe is the general reasoning for veganism more than anything else. If it were something like "I won't eat meat because I'm not a casual" I'd think that's kinda awesome.

Anonymous 130868

Lolcow’s lonely women thread and murderer documentaries on youtube really make me feel not alone in being really isolated and out of touch from reality. Thank you lolcow autistic experiences thread and weird people youtube documentaries, also the strange people thread here on /x/. This is something really hard for me to come to terms with as it fills me with dread.

Anonymous 130981

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Finally found that one table that tied schizoidness to historical attitudes towards children. Psychogenic modes are a fringe theory I think but it makes an interesting point.

Anonymous 131004

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To be a hermit is to be holy.

Anonymous 131005

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my face when I accidentally see people I don't like having a good day


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This little green bitch Anonymous 130997[Reply]

You see this thing? This is literally you. All of you. In fact I even saw one of you cosplay it in person. Looked just like her. Insane behavior really.
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Anonymous 130999

>>130998
Because you are all hopelessly, ruthlessly addicted to written pornography. As a matter of fact, female porn addiction is the reason we have language period but you all aren’t ready for that one yet

Anonymous 131000

>>130999
>female porn addiction is the reason we have language
I dunno, doesn't sound so bad to me

Anonymous 131001

>>131000
Language is nothing more than psychological warfare.
True meaning is found in music.
We say music puts into words things that cannot be explained, but its rather that music is the explanation and words are the butchery.
https://youtu.be/195XntreoMc?si=DclYeK7CA4ZlKKwc

Anonymous 131002

>>131001
My response to your musical statement is the Danse Macabre arrangement for Dalmatians 102

Anonymous 131003

>>131002
We used to be an actual civilization.


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Anonymous 130970[Reply]

“I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’”

Anonymous 130972

>>130970
Why does this character look familiar

Anonymous 130980

Hadiths are a meme


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Does this make anyone else mad Anonymous 129315[Reply]

This ugly swede made a YouTube video whining and e-begging about how he couldn't get a gf, and ended up marrying a 7/10 woman that saw his videos and fell in love with him. Imagine if it was an ugly woman that made a video like that. She probably wouldn't have gotten as popular as he did and definitely wouldn't have got a cute bf to wanting to marry. I fucking hate moids. They have the easiest lives ever
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Anonymous 129768

>>129753
dating someone as a comparison tool is foul

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Anonymous 130758

I don't mind because I like that he looks like a rodent

Anonymous 130978

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When The Aryan Incel-Chad Lets His Righteous Fury Roar, The Women Of All Races Cower And Beg For His Mercy

Anonymous 130979

>>130978
okay i laughed


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i hate work i hate i hate work i hate work i hate work i Anonymous 130572[Reply]

>girlboss it in the trades nona! rosie the riveter, nona!
>lots of money there nona!
>learn skills nona!
>it's not like the old days anymore nona!
>you definitely won't end up face-down ass-up on a disgusting man's disgusting truck floor like the world's least expensive prostitute nona!
If there are any other nonas in trades here - how do you put up with this world???
i could rant for HOURS but basically while i actually enjoy fixing things and being active and i don't mind getting a bit greasy, i just cannot deal with the people in this business. 95% of guys in trades are literal stone age far-left-of-the-IQ-bell-curve cavemen who salivate at any useless shiny bauble that says "Milwaukee" or "Snap-On" on it and THROW their money at the salesman offering 50% interest financing plans, condemning themselves and the GFs and wives they often somehow have to a life of debt slavery
My sister is like "oh at least there are hot guys" lmao these guys inhale hot dogs and soda and "self-medicate" totally avoidable bad knees with weed and vape. The soundtrack to every day is my colleague's douchecore spotify algo playlist (literally Nickelback, late Eminem i.e. "Ass Like That" and Thong Song and Kid Rock). Not attractive
The couple (literally 2) cute and possibly interesting boys I've met in this business have been taken and too painfully shy/awkward to get to know well respectively
Everything is filthy and disorganized and if you try to be a bit more orderly and organized yourself, apparently that makes you a princess
the vehicles are all disgusting because apparently guys who drive them all have no self-respect
I feel like my friends are slipping away because we can't relate to one another's daily lives and when I get home I just feel exhausted and like time is passing with no way to differentiate one day, week, month from another
Anyway that's all, just getting older with a wrench in my hand and my ass in the air and my face in the dirt

Anonymous 130604

I did a bit of tradie type work for a little while and it inspired me to go back to college. The work itself wasn't bad but I can't stand the type of people who do manual labor. They are all egotists and/or have huge chips on their shoulders. Tons of low iq out of shape people who are always trying to posit themselves as better then someone else and put each other down. That, or they're drug addicts, or maybe both. I knew that if I had to spend 40+ hours a week around these people for the rest of my life I would eventually snap and shoot up my workplace. I feel genuine sympathy for any intelligent decent person who just likes carpentry or whatever and has to deal with this all the time.

Anonymous 130861

>>130604
I live in a nice area and a manual labor guy helped me jumpstart my car I wish I bought him a coffee or something

Anonymous 130862

>>130861
Im gonna think about my mishap here the rest of my life

Anonymous 130955

>>130572
no advice but I just want to say I read your post and I want to say I feel for you. I wish I could give you a hug. <3 maybe you could try talking to that shy guy again? in my experience, they say they really like being talked to but can't express it in the moment.


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smth smth relationships Anonymous 130847[Reply]

why are guys so indifferent and aloof? by that i mean, why do most guys not even try to put up a front that they care about what you’re saying?

im honestly so tired of the dudes who claim to “want an autistic girl” and shit, but then act completely uninterested when you want to ramble about your interests. i know this is a thing for a lot of ppl, not even just moids and you can’t force someone to be interested in what you say, but i just think it’s stupid when you’re actively trying to get into a relationship. personally for me, i’m schizoaffective, not autistic, but i tend to latch onto my interests and they consume most of my time.

im the kind of person who likes talking about random stuff, so the conversation doesn’t have to be centered around what i like, but why claim in the first place that you care when you really don’t? i know why, it’s just frustrating— especially when you have less typically “feminime” or cool interests. as a girl i feel like it’s only cool to guys if you like their shitty taste in music or you pretend to enjoy rlly niche films to put on your letterboxd. ik that sounds hateful, and i dont dislike anyone who genuinely enjoys that stuff, i just wish guys tried to be interested in what their gfs liked as well. it’s really easy for me to talk about it with girls, most of them care beyond having a specific self-serving reason to listen, and some nerdier guys as well. but 90% of men won’t even try, unless they can pivot the conversation to something sexual or about themselves. if anyone has experienced the same or has advice, pls lmk. i enjoy reading replies anyways.
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Anonymous 130849

>i just wish guys tried to be interested in what their gfs liked as well.
I honestly write a lot and even show it to my bf but he doesn't care to read it and then complains that I don't tell him much… but tbh I cannot express myself irl quite the same as I do on paper… but he doesn't want to read…

Anonymous 130850

>>130847
honestly I got bored halfway through this boring ass rambling post so i can't blame other guys for tuning out when you speak

Anonymous 130851

>>130848
awesome!!!! ive been sorta inactive on here for finals but i saw your thread literally today while i was making this, haha. super cool to see another schizo, i dont see many ppl talking about their experiences on the schizo / psychotic spec!

also yea, even though it’s a slop pov video made for engagement, she’s just borderline ageplaying and nobody in the comments is saying anything 💔

my interests r pretty underwhelming; mostly into transformers, modding and emulating, newgrounds and old Internet forums/sites, and im trying to look into linux… one of my friends has been encouraging me to make the switch but i honestly dont know too much about it rn. there’s plenty of other girls in all of these but my point still stands!!

Anonymous 130852

>>130851
Oh that's cool I also made one mod too. What ws your mod like? I want to study this stuff a bit further because I simply enjoy learning and this relaxes me. Anyways nice to meet you nona

Anonymous 130870

They don’t like autistic girls because of their neurodivergence, but because they perceive them as naïve. They can’t maintain relationships with neurotypical women because they miss social expectations that have nothing to do with neurodivergence and everything to do with being poorly raised, emotionally immature, and unwilling to take responsibility for being a decent person. So they prey on you instead, hoping you’ll be gullible enough to take on all the domestic and emotional labor while they ignore you until they want sex. In their ideal setup, you stay occupied with your hobbies, ask for very little, and only exist when it’s convenient for them.


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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 130753

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Ok here’s the last one
Someone offered to compare us to ow character and here’s mine
I wanted to post this
> You're Sigma, or Sybren de Kuiper. A self-absorbed old man with bare feet. Totally insane. One day, your life's work drove you mad, and music became a permanent fixture in your once-clear head. It might sound creepy, but madness actually suits you. A rather aloof character, it seems he can only truly feel at ease when alone, which, I think, resonates with you. You're comfortable in your own world, pieced together bit by bit, often excluding any unnecessary connections. I think you're a thoughtful and engaging conversationalist, but you have issues that prevent you from opening up to people. But the question is, do you really want to?

Anonymous 130786

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Interesting. I remember being an extroverted, lively, and talkative child, good-humored and sociable, but very naive and easily impressed. I remember being constantly reprimanded by the adults around me, especially my mother and teachers; the other children and teenagers around me were also awful. Because of this, I became increasingly withdrawn, preferring solitary activities similar to those I was interested in. Due to this, over the years I simply lost the habit of interacting with the people around me, I just remain silent, I arrive at places without speaking to anyone, and I've reached a point in my life where I simply don't miss it. I only have my fiancé as a friend, and my younger brother, as he's immediate family. I wonder if I might really have some kind of disorder or condition, or if being completely solitary and unsociable was just a habit I acquired throughout my life.

Anonymous 130787

>>130786
A disorder is really about a state where a person is distressed by their condition. The personality disorders don’t exist physically in your brain as a unit, a schizoid or a borderline does not exist, it’s just a loose group of phenotypes, that are usually pretty idiosyncratic.

Um, what’s my point… I think we’re both the same. And whether we’re disordered by the DSM or not, that may be beside the point. My goal in this thread was to share my experience of what it is like to be me and how I came to be. Do I have a disorder? I don’t know. But I had serious issues with functioning. I know my environment caused this in some way. I still don’t know what I am, but I can describe the phenomenon of myself.

Um, thanks for replying. Sorry I just woke up so I may be incoherent

Anonymous 130788

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Oops meant to say egosyntonic not idiosyncratic

Anonymous 131051

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Found something interesting and highly relevant to me while researching. It is the Ego Dissolution Scale
>Ego dissolution scale (EDS) The 10-item EDS is a self-report questionnaire quantifying trait-like propensities towards self-loss experiences (Sleight et al., 2023).
The items include some things like odd body experiences, sense of unity with the universe, etc. I honestly can't find a specific list at this point but it seems to be strongly associated with depersonalization/dissociation.

You see, my villain backstory (one which was deleted here) is that at 8 yrs old I survived a delirium during childhood, one where my body temperature reached 40C (104F) degrees Fahrenheit. I didn't think of it much at the time. But looking back, my mom lamented a lot how she felt like I was stolen and replaced. Even my sister confirmed it, 15 years later. It feels like everyone hid the truth all this time and acted like nothing changed. But I think it may actually finally explain why I was so odd.

There's some research, though scarce, on pediatric delirium/febrile encephalopathy and its effects. I think I only saw this one yet about another 8 yrs old patient: https://www.psychiatrist.com/pcc/assessment-and-management-of-delirium-in-pediatric-patients/

>Two days later, he was extubated. However, his parents noted that he was now anxious and was not acting like he usually did. When he awakened, he needed to be reminded that he was in the hospital.
But I'll need to see more.


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