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bf didn’t follow the three month rule Anonymous 127558[Reply]

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 127740

>>127732
tbh he's already gonna be super mentally fucked if you leave even into nowhere so you're already doing a good job!
while revenge is based I don't think it's worth getting with someone just to get back at your ex. you need to form important relationships with a clear head. making someone a rebound is traumatizing to them too
ultimately it's up to you tho

Anonymous 127768

>>127732
you need to gtfo NOW. i don't want to learn your name from a true crime podcast. nothing you have said about him makes him sound like he is remotely safe to be around, especially not now. you should tell his exes mum to buy a gun, too.

Anonymous 127769

>>127733
>>127740
>>127768
everything in this entire relationship was about her. she called him out and they had a friend group destroying fall out as a break up. he was alone for years. she mocked him when he bugged her. he suddenly gets inspired to get the exact job, move out, get a girlfriend, try and change his facial hair, fix everything she mocked him for and he even told me he had her to thank for his self improvement. i thought lucky me he grew. until i found out what he’s really like and that he’s still stalking and obsessed with her. i found out he has weird private messaging apps he deletes and puts back on his phone. i can’t get past the password. i think he uses it to spoof a number so he can text her even when he’s blocked or something. i found out so many things we did together were about her - she made fun of him for a certain unromantic date he took another girl on and be posted pictures of me on the same date and talked the entire time about how she wouldn’t like it but i’m okay with it. he said something similar about my own proposal. they had a niche motif throughout their entire relationship he’s suddenly made ours about. as she’s getting married with the same theme. only her wedding is a fucking destination wedding. i wouldn’t be surprised if when i walk out he finds someone else and in half a year i’ll see he did this same wedding with someone he views as interchangeable just to try and make people compare it the one woman who was apparently one of a kind to him. i think he’s going to try and get her to stop the wedding. i wish she didn’t have me blocked and i could talk to her. i don’t know how to find her like he does. i’m going to look over his shoulder more and hopefully i’ll catch a glimpse of something on one of his apps that will help me locate her. i have a feeling i don’t even know the half of it and talking to her while reveal how fake this entire thing has been. we also got engaged after barely knowing each other. a year and a half when his ex took 5-6 years of dating her husband is crazy. i had a sinking feeling when it happened when we were on such bad terms and the only thing that saved our relationship was planning the trip he proposed on. on a walkway nPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 127773

>>127769
after a certain point of having so little in my relationship to talk about i started making content about how we eat different foods from each other even though we both have ARFID because there was literally nothing else in our relationship to make content about, including both of us gaming but none of that ending up as usable content because of his personality. maybe i deserve an affair where it feels like there’s blood in my veins again. the sitting around watching a man unable to eat vegetables rotate through the same five junk food meals that make his cum taste like battery acid has me thinking maybe there is more to life than meal prepping for a 30 year old toddler and watching him fart and disassociate staring at a screen.

Anonymous 127942

>>127773
What the fuck do you mean an affair. Run away ASAP nona, nothing will fix him. It will only get worse, get out before it's too late.


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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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Anonymous 127324

Yes, I've actually had suicidal and self-harming behaviors because of it. I was overweight my entire childhood (unlike my mother, who was anorexic and obsessed with appearance). I suffered a lot from her, and she forced me to go on extreme diets from the age of 13. At 16, I gained a lot of weight (when you have nice curves, it looks good, but I was very round, lol).

And I felt disgusting. Everyone at school was disgusted by me, and there was even a very pretty girl who made me feel terrible. Because of those experiences, I suffered from anorexia for two years, and as a result, I looked awful (yes, I'm unattractive at any weight). I still have dark circles under my eyes and a very thin face with a somewhat wide nose because of that illness.

Even my family (moids) have compared me to a super pretty, white cousin. I remember at a dinner they spit in my face telling me she was better, while my face looked like a monkey's. I cried. I locked myself in the bathroom and made cuts in my legs.
I still can't forget all that. How do they expect me to feel loved? How do they expect me to feel hopeful when they all saw something horrible in me, even though I always tried to be a good person?
it might sound weird but i feel jealous of slightly chubby girls,they look healthy and cute with curves while i look flat and my face is masculine because a lack of bucal fat but i cant gain weight no matter how hard i try. I want to kill myself because i cant never be pretty or look at photos of myself with happiness.

Anonymous 127744

There aren’t many methods of coping posted here which is very depressing. Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty? I find myself being upset about this every waking minute, even when I’m completely alone where it shouldn’t matter.

Anonymous 127929

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I hate having a wide face, I can’t even tie my hair back or put it behind my ears because I look like the moon emoji and charlie kirk. picrel

Anonymous 127937

>>127744
> Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty?
Dear nona, I have some insights for you, do with them as you please. I want you to look back to yourself, as a child. Do you have any pictures to look at, or can you picture yourself in your mind? When you look at her, I hope, you probably think she's quite cute, still happy. I hope, you wouldn't say such harsh things about her, as what you may tell yourself now.

You might think how that's way different. You're older now! And you're right. What was the age you started becoming self conscious? For me it was pre-teen, I think this is similar for everyone, perhaps teen years. While we grow up, and our brains develop, we can process our life experiences and become aware of certain expectations. This is my insight: Unfortunately all suffering and misery can be led back to other people, and the pressure of the expectations they hold. I'm not necessarily talking about a certain person in your life, but how all people basically act and think due to how our society is set up. (and remember: women are, still, always at a disadvantage!!)

So When you feel sad/or are picking yourself apart, think about why? It isn't even making you happy! So why are you doing it? try to remember when you learned to see that aspect of yourself as negative, or even 'important' to think about. A nose is made for breathing for example, why do we care if it small or big? You will find out it will always be due to ideas from other people (either direct or indirect), and even though you can't do anything about this, it does redirect the 'fault' from you, to, well, others. This has made me at least feel better, because I, nor you, don't have any inherent faults or uglyness. It is always a result of societal pressures.

And social media doesn't help this at all. unfortunately the majority of people you see online are -in terms of beauty- exceptional. You don't see these people in regular life, but online it's become 'normalized'. It is a bit cliche, but recently I have completely deleted all social media (even messaging apps) , and I cannot begin to describe the benefits it has brought me. Aside from my immensely improved focus, not having something/someone to compare myself to (sub consciously even) has also incredibly helped my sPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 127939

>>127744
It’s like what people say about grief. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it. Just give it time is what I am saying, live life.


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Anonymous 127870[Reply]

What does a healthy and good relationship with genuine love look like to you?
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Anonymous 127876

the woman has to be protective of herself and looking out for her own best interests. all men want is sex. if they expect a child, they prove they are a provider or it’s the next in line. it is that simply. if you can’t court me and show you can care for me without ulterior motives and resentment at the beginning of the relationship, you are not someone who can be trusted when finances are combined and my child and i will die when i am too pregnant and too injured afterwards to care for myself alone. it’s literal survival. if he doesn’t court you, just keep telling the next ones what he was like and that’s not how it works for you. they’ll eventually start stepping up. if they think you will tolerate being treated as low quality that’s how they will view you.

Anonymous 127877

>>127876
>and i will die when i am too pregnant
Everyone knows to get pregnant only a little bit, some take it too far, but it's something we as society must learn to deal with, if we are to keep this traditional pastime.

Anonymous 127896

>>127870
Lately I'm convinced a relationship with a moid is nearly impossible. I say nearly because I don't want to go too extreme but honestly I think pretty much impossible.
So a healthy and good relationship with genuine love firstly starts between two women. Furthermore I can't say anything universal, as it always depends between people, but good communication is a MUST and I think similar views too. And obviously respect for eachother.

Anonymous 127901

>>127870
romantic love isn’t real in general. especially not between a man and a woman. no man is capable of loving anyone but himself

Anonymous 127905

>>127898
First of all, I'm only speaking about women since this is forum is meant for girls/women. And I can't really say much for moids but I'd assume a good relationship for them would start with moid+moid as well.
Again: I said 'starts'. If you weren't such a retard without reading comprehension skills you might've understood that. I'm not saying its an end all be all.


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Anonymous 127849[Reply]

I feel like every feels thread is about boyfriend issues… You all need to grow a backbone and just leave them I don’t understand why that’s so hard. Moids will never be worth all the headache you put yourselves through!

Anonymous 127851

I post a lot in the vent thread and not a single post was about moids I think. at least not about bf issues tbh

Anonymous 127852

well i asked sanic if i should break it off and he said yes so i’m going to

Anonymous 127857

>>127851
Not specifically the vent thread just threads on the feels board in general

Anonymous 127897

PREACH because why are these women letting themselves be dragged down by moids of all creatures


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if you wrote this yesterday Anonymous 127860[Reply]

call me and tell that. send flowers to my moms, my cars in the shop but i’ll be there for christmas eve and christmas. knock on the stupid door. please stop leaving messages that hurt my heart because i can’t confirm they are really you. we are real people in the real world. this is driving me into psychosis. it is making me schizophrenic and crazy. enough with the random websites and throwaway accounts. apologize to me so we can have a good year. i don’t know how or what you have planned to make it right but please just do it because this is like being taunted.

Anonymous 127886

can you make it right now

Anonymous 127895

>>127860
Nona, with love I tell you you sound mentally deranged and delusional. I recognize because i've been there too. Stop wasting your time on a moid who cannot commit to you. You look crazy posting on this femcel website about some note from unsentproject you can't even confirm is sent from this person but you cling on to this hope because it makes you feel worthy. Stop obsessively checking websites and accounts hoping he sent something. Genuinely what do you think this will accomplish. Either reach out to him directly and end the vagueness or move on. Give yourself closure. And sometimes hearing nothing is closure enough. Obviously he's had his chances before and now times up. Stop giving yourself so easy jeez


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Anonymous 127882[Reply]

Anyone else not enjoy "normal things" and try to look for more meaningful and heavy hitting things?

>No alcohol or drinking
>No drugs, no smoking, no vapes
>No masturbating or vibrators
>No night clubs
>No shopping addiction
>No social media and sharing stories that nobody cares about anyway
>No desire for a boyfriend that won't support or be there for you when you need it anyway
>No desire for friends that only want to complain to you

Having independence and peace is good, too.
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Anonymous 127888

what have you won by rejecting these things? what new paths opened for you?

Anonymous 127889

>>127888
inner peace it sounds like

Anonymous 127890

>>127889
well sure mate but how is yous all spending your time

Anonymous 127892

>>127882
There is a term for that: anhedonia
It is often present in patents with depression and schizophrenia, but can also manifest by itself.

Anonymous 127894

>>127882
Lately i've been on a similar journey with a friend of mine. I'm not sure if it's the same, because i do experience a certain contentness with ie smoking a cigarette, but I'm not sure if it categorizes as pleasure. But for me it's because I overanalyze things and recognize how they don't truly give me pleasure/happiness, which is why i've stopped finding reasons to bring up any energy for them.

The only friend I do enjoy is the one that has similar views as me and we talk to each other and it always feels very enlightning. Furthermore I only engage in behaviors that actually stimulate the soul, reading meaningful books for example.

My ultimate goal is also independence and peace. I ideally would like to ghost everyone I know.


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he texted me and i feel bad about it lol Anonymous 127817[Reply]

a couple months ago i posted about the guy i like getting engaged to her long term gf and that i felt bad about it because in my perception he is(was?) a good guy.

but a couple days ago he texted me, we didn’t spoke to each other since he got with his gf btw, we kind of updated each other about our lives until the topic about partners showed up because he asked. i didn’t want to go there but he did.

i told him i’m single and that past certain age is difficult to meet people in an organic way, then he told me he didn’t find difficult to me to find someone because he used to like me lol

he then went about a lot of details about situations that we lived when we were younger, about how he always found me pretty and with a nice personality but he didn’t thought he was my type at all.

he remarked that all those feelings were in the past, but that he felt better letting me know because he had seen me improve in general and was proud about it.

idk why i feel bad about the whole situation, like i had taken part in a conversation that shouldn’t have happened because if i was his gf i would feel horrible if i find out the guy i’m engaged to reached out to his past crush of years ago just to tell her that. idk i just needed to put this somewhere
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Anonymous 127855

he was making his night before the wedding calls. he got cold feet and wants to monkey branch to you.

Anonymous 127856

>>127846
exactly this i don’t know how anyone could think this was innocent or platonic. you should send his gf the screenshots and say you think he’s doing that cold feet right before you walk the aisle thing and for her to run. any man that does this is just going to end up cheating and leaving anyways. save her before she’s legally trapped or pregnant.

Anonymous 127868

>>127825
first post best fpbp

Anonymous 127879

okay so after days of processing the conversation i do see how he’s trying to keep me around in case it doesn’t work with his gf, which sucks, either way, im absolutely not telling his gf about it, im not getting shit in my hands, and ik that’s not very women supporting women on my behalf, but i don’t have the guts. i’m just gonna unfollow him and remove him from my followers

Anonymous 127887

>>127879
Yea if he wants to close the door, close it!


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Anonymous 127778[Reply]

Why am I feeling like I am never good enough?

I feel like I have to be more fun, more entertaining, more spontaneous, more unexpected and having new material or else he might stop talking to me and find someone else.
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Anonymous 127861

>>127854
Not her but I think we are starting to see an inversion of gender roles. I expect to see feelings like hers to become more commonplace.

Anonymous 127862

>>127861
never been exactly gendered or rare to begin with

Anonymous 127863

>>127778
Oh hey, are you me from 2 years ago? Going to therapy really helped me to make a big mindset shift in that regard

Anonymous 127873

>>127861
This is a very real part of the female experience and has been forever. I think it’s really strange you’re pretending it isn’t

Anonymous 127878

>>127873
I was referring more to the part where she is wasting her time trying to entertain for uninterested moid's attention.


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Anonymous 127864[Reply]

Finally understanding 'All men want is sex'

Are men capable of care or love at all?

Anonymous 127865

that nigga is willing to neglect his baby for an orgasm

Anonymous 127874

Towards other moids
Women to them are either cum rags, their moms or free therapists


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Anonymous 127867[Reply]

I recently stood up to a girl in my friend group who has been treating me like shit all year in private and doing petty mean girl stuff like kicking me out of our group chat, making plans with me and then canceling without explanation as to why, and also ignoring my texts when I asked if she'd be willing to be mature and talk things out in person instead of being passive aggressive to me all the time. It was at a party a mutual friend of ours was throwing and I basically texted her an essay there explaining how she's done me wrong all year and how I hope she learns some maturity for next year. Then, instead of addressing me personally, she ran out of the room crying, acting like a victim and everyone at the party basically turned on me saying that somehow I'm the one who was passive aggressive all along and now they're manipulated by her into thinking I'm the one who was an instigator. I fucking hate being Gen Z and I fucking hate being apart of this generation of crybullies.

Anonymous 127869

when did this start and why?


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