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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132027

>>132025
Is it love or merely infatuation? If he treats you so poorly, what is it you love about him?

Anonymous 132028

>>132027
i guess i’m in love with the old him. i’m keep thinking he’ll go back someday. he used to treat me so good

Anonymous 132029

>>132028
Sometimes people change. The ideas they're absorbing, the experiences they live through, etc. It can all change how someone perceives the world and how they behave. If speaking with him doesn't help, it'll be very difficult to see eye to eye

Anonymous 132030

>6 months
This is not worth it
Please block him or something he’s manipulating you

Anonymous 132031

>>132028
>he used to treat me so good
This is exactly how it starts. It is also a pattern with moids from conservative culture that I’ve noticed. They treat women like queens but then also like shit because of how they objectify us or something. So he really doesn’t love you even though he fills some sort of unfulfilled emotional need.



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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 131147

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Also this
>As long as you don't break any of the rules, you're good to go.
Turned out to be a lie, kek

At least these days

Anonymous 131159

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Think making one of those animation channels about my lyfe would be pretty epic like Jaiden

Anonymous 131489

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>>130441
>I started simply getting everything I didn't get before, it's like emotions were a sense no less than smell, taste or vision. I don't know how to describe it, things suddenly started making sense.
Found this pic while purging my downloads folder and it made me think of this
Big if true

Anonymous 131545

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Humans are beasts of narrative. This sentence alone can explain so much. Humans can't be expected to be the consistently rational agent in economics or politics. Nowadays, we try to reject irrationality a lot, like religion or astrology. You can fedora tip all you want but these things aren't pure delusion - they're covering some sort of immaterial need that humans have.

I spoke earlier how lacking emotions made me duller >>130441 , almost as if I couldn't see the full picture of whatever's going on. I also now remember realizing that I had no internal self-narrative. I believe this is why most people failed to read me or found me creepy. I didn't see myself much beyond a body that is capable in some ways and incapable in others.
Most people around me had some idea about themselves they tried reinforcing. Oh, that one is trying to look above it all, that one is always describing herself as narcissistic and a main character, almost as if trying to convince herself. Maybe this is why my true self never really felt seen by those mostly narrative driven individuals.

Apparently from what I found science confirms some of my ideas.
https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/12/1/1/2823712?login=false - The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization by Lisa Feldman Barrett
>In other words, an instance of emotion is constructed the same way that all other perceptions are constructed, using the same well-validated neuroanatomical principles for information flow within the brain

https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn894 and https://arxiv.org/abs/2112.12290 - on Interoception.
>Recent functional anatomical work has detailed an afferent neural system in primates and in humans that represents all aspects of the physiological condition of the physical body. This system constitutes a representation of 'the material me', and might provide a foundation for subjective feelings, emotion and self-awareness.

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Anonymous 132012

>>130077
>A lot of games have unnecessarily expensive graphics because the corporate demands that

a lost art in video games is allowing the audience to fill in the gaps with their own imagination. I think squaresoft perfected this in the late 90s before the PS2 ruined everything.



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Why are moids so fucking retarded Anonymous 131985[Reply]

Is it because of porn addiction?
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Anonymous 131995

>>131994
Spoken like a true moid. Like a filthy moid. Disgusting moid can’t get its mind out of the gutter as expected. Visualizing me masturbating in vivid detail probably. Actual subhuman monkey behavior you don’t even know what I look like all you want to do is fuck without any regard for what you’re even fucking.

Anonymous 131996

>>131995
Just cum already this is silly

Anonymous 131997

>>131993
>nature needs to patch them out already
This is already happening to an extent. Coomers and gooners aren't breeding, so their degenerate genes aren't passed on.

Anonymous 131998

>>131997
This will only fully work if you make the sex as unpleasant for them as humanly possible, otherwise the coomerism will reawaken in their offspring even if your mate is only attracted to you

Anonymous 131999

>>131998
they cant have sex because they cant stay hard during it. self-fixing problem



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Anonymous 130433[Reply]

I broke up with my boyfriend today. It feels like the right decision, he works too much so he isn't available a lot, but i feel upset that all my plans are gone. i wanted to move in with him and get married. get a cat and live comfortably with the love of my life, it all feels quite bittersweet. and now i have to spend a considerable amount of time scrubbing him from my life. deleting all the photos of him, taking off my necklaces with his initial, removing our playlist we made together and all the lovey dovey nicknames i gave to him on various apps, it's a lot of work. and the worst part is it is exam season which is why i was hesitant with breaking up with him, i know it will distract me majorly from it all.

Anonymous 130435

>>130433
its okay nona, it feels bittersweet because it freshly happened. try to focus on your education for now, it will be important for your future.

Anonymous 131977

I guess you can break up with someone for any reason, but breaking up with him for simply being busy is retarded. Focusing on exams and studies sounds right though

Anonymous 131979

>>130433
He should fuck black men

Anonymous 131980

yea, breaking up with someone you love makes sense, especially if they are busy. you meet the love of ur life a thousands of times but you only have one education in ur life so make the most of the latter



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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man
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Anonymous 131596

>>130696

Not really, depressive men who kill themselves do it.

Men who tell women about it want something in exchange.

It's about time that if she does what he wants, unless she actually acts like a sane person and contacts a ward or his parents (if possible) to care for the problem. If she acts like if he deserves her time after being, what she described, then she would end up being manipulated if she does as you say. Obviously.

A handmaiden would take the matters as her responsability to care for the emotional needs of man who hurt her, as to feel a person.

A woman as a proper adult, will just contact the proper adults for this situation as a mentally ill man is not acting properly.

Anonymous 131742

>>130574
hey op i hope you are safe.

Anonymous 131852

Woooo!!!! Let him die! Let him die! Let him die!
Come back to us with an update in a few months. Of course, guys like this are histrionic attention whores, so I won't be expecting much of anything interesting to happen.

Anonymous 131966

>>130574
Its very rare for someone who threatens suicide to actually do it. Its a manipulation tactic like other nonas said already.

You could just push for him to get help and figure out his mental health. Preferably through social media and not DMs or private channels. Let everyone see you're done but still want whats best for him. Something like "Get help. I want you to fix your mental health but Im not dealing with it anymore. All the things that happened between us pushed me away." Then add examples of what hes done and local or national mental health services. IMO an aggressively neutral stance is best in these situations.

Anonymous 131978

>>130712
>>131596

I believe what's in >>130696 is called sarcasm



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i have a phobia of female role in sex which makes me dysphoric as fuck and sex repulsed Anonymous 126444[Reply]

anyone else??? i just find the role submissive and humuliating, i dont wanna post it on nsfw board bc i dont wanna see anons talk about wanting to do humiliating sex acts i have a phobia of
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Anonymous 131948

>>131940
Because he's still a moid. Having sex with any male is humiliating to me.
The random moid posting under this thread proves my point too, why would I wanna engage with creatures that hate me?

Anonymous 131949

>>131948
Are you straight? Sorry for the nosiness

Anonymous 131950

Octopi have interesting mating rituals, there's barely any contact involved

Maybe stop viewing humiliation porn

Anonymous 131952

>>131951
Excuse me. It appears you have used the word “female” as a noun to describe human women. The proper way to refer to human women is the word “women”. Thank you for your time.

Anonymous 131953

>>131951
fat fag



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I haven't had friends for ten years Anonymous 131946[Reply]

I'm a NEET. I live with my mother and she's the only one I talk with. Give me life advice.

Anonymous 131947

Do you want online friends or irl ones?
Do you have any qualifications/education? Are you a neet due to failure or health issues?
Do you actually care about being a friendless neet? Are you worried about what you'll do when your mom is gone?



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every person I meet turns out to be cold while I want closeness Anonymous 126668[Reply]

So my first friend ghosted me without a word saying that she's not made for close bonds with anyone. My other friend said she doesn't feel the need to become close with someone. My yet another friend says the same. And my new friend said she doesn't get attached to friends and never feels deeply for them. Why am I so unlucky? And my closest current friend already had a best friend with whom she probably is close so with me she won't become close. I just want a deep connection and mutual attachment and obsession.
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Anonymous 126684

>>126668
Are these IRL friends or online “friends”?

Anonymous 126725

>>126668
These people are low functioning psychopaths. It might be more that you're subconsciously pulled to psychopaths

Ever asked yourself why? Ever noticed ?

Anonymous 126726

>>126676
This is true too though you might be needy

Anonymous 126742

people are either selfish/individualistic and believe in things like emotional labor. or they are hurt and reluctant to trust new people. or a combo of both.

someone without a history of friendships and relationships is a red flag. sometimes it has nothing to do with you and it’s just where other people are. sometimes you trigger something in someone else’s pattern recognition and it doesn’t even have to be a real thing about you. you just reminded them of someone else.

when you take it personally every time or view normal distance from strangers as an attack, it can change your vibe and people can pick up on that. when you’re going into something expecting pain and disappointment and rejection and maybe feel nervous or defensive, people feel that emotion and wonder what’s going on in the interaction to make you feel that way. sometimes it makes them angry sometimes it makes them nervous. sometimes people even take advantage.

all of this can literally be bypassed by confidence and level eye contact. not i’m above you but everyone is my equal. you don’t have to care what anyone thinks of you. they’re not the judge. and you can also probably name some stuff you don’t like about people if you really think about it. no one is above you. there’s no one to impress. if you can internalize that people will like start begging to be around you.

hopefully this posts i just put it in the wrong thread

Anonymous 131922

I want to be your virtual friend I promise I won't ghost you



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Child free/moid free Anonymous 131052[Reply]

I’m disgusted with a family friend’s son. I can’t stop thinking about how a woman spent years of her life raising this moid and digging herself into poverty only for him to turn into a smoking gamer porn addict who berates women online, calling feminists Nazis and contributing absolutely nothing of value to the world because he’s a “doomer”. He’s in his 30s and this is what his max potential is and for most moids. And it sickens me she parades him on social media calling her son a great man and beautiful boy. Why women bother having kids is beyond me, especially a son. Women really are this stupid it seems so it’s hard to even blame moids when women continuously volunteer to do this shit for free.

Anonymous 131278

>>131052
This was a very nostalgic and common post



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

Previous thread >>>/feels/115657
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Anonymous 131718

>>131717
Wym to gain status. You are assuming that. Status is definitely one of those things I don’t care for. I don’t like people glorifying and justifying the behaviors that had been harmful towards me.

Anonymous 131719

>>131718
1) tf is a vector?

2) what happened?

Anonymous 131720

>>131719
In computer security, an attack vector is a specific path, method, or scenario that can be exploited to break into an IT system, thus compromising its security.
In health and disease transmission, a vector is a living organism that carries and transmits an infectious pathogen to another living organism

Anonymous 131722

>>131720

So nona either broke security protocol or transmitted a disease by bullying someone?

Sounds retarded af

Anonymous 131887

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Why do you have to keep showing up in my dreams? Not only that, my subconscious humanizes in a way that isn't true to you, setting me up for disappointment again and again.
It's like I miss something that has never existed.



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