/feels/ - Advice & Venting

No.

Honestly sounds like it might be a point of view problem. Maybe you are underestimating how much effort the other parties are putting into the relationship. I did the same thing when I was younger.

>>125548
Warren the Eagle?

Nope.

Theyll always gonna talk about themselves or their favorite football team no matter how much you dont give a shit about it. At least youll know what they are easier so thats a positive thing.

>>125644
Nobody said otherwise idiot. I highly doubt you’re a woman and even if you were I have no interest in engaging with one who thinks women who critique degeneracy don’t enjoy sex. Very male centered way of inserting yourself into the conversation. Also just very out of touch. Do better dumbass.

>>125647
Nta but you post like such a caricature of a radfem I wouldn't be surprised if you're a man deliberately trying to sow discord. Chill out nona

>>125648
Zzzzzz

>>125647
>I have no interest in engaging with one who thinks women who critique degeneracy don’t enjoy sex
never said that

sounds like classic male negging. dated a guy just like this once. my favourite is when he denied why he would follow these girls in the first place. glad that’s over with. you can do better girl

Why does he not like mogeko games?

same but we are 3 years in ahahaha

why aren’t you guys compatible? don’t leave us hanging nona

I genuinely think if I have a kid they're going to end up an asocial weirdo and I'm not sure I want to subject anyone to that fate.

Yes, I want to be a mother but I'm scared of pregnancy and childbirth. My sister-in-law had a very dangerous childbirth (she and the baby both turned out ok) which really put the fear of god into me. But I want to raise a child.

>>125730
I have neither the money, nor the confidence nor a partner. Also, pregnancy sounds like body horror and I already have incontinence among other health issues.
Kids are cute, but I'd rather be a cool aunt than a mum.

I would love to be a mom but I just know I'd end up being toxic or abusive like my mother was to me and her mother was to her. I want to be a mom but know I wouldn't make a good mother. Also I do not trust men enough to procreate with one so it would be adopted.

no i’m not suffering through child birth just to have a kid in this economy. no thanks. i like the idea of never experiencing a vaginal tear.

>>125663
You had literally your entire life to lose weight though if I understand this right

I hate thinking about how messed up I am in comparison to my siblings. I downright have a deformity while they look normal, attractive even. It's so unfair

It's a curse! I bet I wouldn't have been this mentally ill if I wasn't so disgusting looking since such a young age. I can't even romanticize my misery with such a repulsive face. Pretty people have no idea how much better they have it even in suffering

>>125656
this isn’t helpful but your life sounds straight out of a coming-of-age film lol. can i ask how old you are…? just really curious

Shut myself in all day. Wear pounds of makeup every time I step outside and avoid eye contact with anyone if possible.

Alternatively take 5 shots and then I stop feeling too ugly to leave the house because I stop caring.

>>125659
I second this.

The sad thing is that many man find platonic, emotionaly mature and empathic relations with other man because lust do not take over them. But here I am gatekeeped by nature, doomed to be seen as meat by those I want love from

>>125671
I feel like platonic friendship is something they should be able to handle, but it is so rare to see it work without the man catching feelings. They need to learn emotional maturity

>>125441

Seconding this. Every time I thought a man was different it was only because I didn't know them enough.

>>125602

The same men talking about how most girls are whores will turn around and relentlessly pressure you for sex or leave you because you said you don't wanna fuck. They simultaneously want an innocent puritan who also instantly becomes as sex-addicted as they are the moment you get together.

>>120663
look a the website youre typing this out at. do u really think YOURE normal? be honest.

>>125750
Nta but people who come on here to gripe about how abnormal and ugly they are are the only abnormal ones. Speak for yourself, you sound like you just capitulate to moid opinions 24/7 constantly regurgitating their opinions in feels. I don't have you're stupid moid mindgutter problems or desperation to suffocate myself to appear normal

Your attitude is what isn't normal. If you had self respect it would show to others and you wouldn't experience what you do. Your obsession with appearing normal and rigid social rules is probably why people hate you in the first place

This has nothing to do with thinking of murder just the stupid twats who come on here with disastrously mismanaged self esteem

This whole sub feels is P-A-T-H-E-T-I-C

>>125753
shut the fuck up

abusive stepdad.
he died naturally and I eventually forgave him. wasn't fun to carry around that much hate and animosity.

>>120653
I've always seen myself as a pacifist, because I can see the humanity in abusive people, I know that they're operating under the same human nature as I, I understand that hurt people hurt people and I've had a hard time reconciling these views with my abusive dad's misogyny and so on, whatever, but I was determined that I'd never want to stoop down to someone's level, to become vindictively murderous when there is a better way…
But then someone raped my mum. She didn't report it. I've never seen a report of sexual abuse work out in the first place. I only found out about it because this man's wife called my mum about why she cheated with her husband. He didn't call it rape, he called it cheating, as if breaking into her home at night and threatening her was merely "cheating on his wife". And I felt such rage. I kept asking myself "Is there really no other way? Is that it? He can just do that and the only repercussion is his wife being upset about him 'cheating'?" and… I've never wanted to kill anyone as much as that man, that shitty cultist and "friendly neighbour" rapist who hurt my mum so much, she was afraid to sleep at night and couldn't even tell me about it because I was also just a minor and just… I found out years after the fact, I don't know where he lives, but when I remember this, I still just want him dead. But truly, I wish the law and police could've been reliable and trustworthy at the time and landed this rapist in prison. But none of the rapists I know ever went to prison. And I don't know what to do about it…
I used to think myself above being swayed by my emotions to commit a murder of vengeance, to even entertain that I could ever be in favour of such a crime. But I had to accept that I'm not above that kind of feeling at all…
I don't think it's likely that I'll ever find myself in a situation where I'd really kill someone… I still would prefer a solution and outcome where no one has to die… Where the law does a great job and no people would be tempted by vigilantism, where these cases are taken seriously and rapists face some repercussions… But in my experience, they just don't. And I do worry that I could feel tempted to really hurt someone under certain circumstances. I'd rather not be in that kind of situation, but… Yeah…
So anyway, that's how I felPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>125726
Maybe this sounds insensitive but like why can’t you just lose weight? Do you have a food addiction?

>>125727
I should have included that I have lost weight and seen very clearly how differently I am treated being skinnier. It's like night and day and it makes me very depressed.

Yes I do. My family bullied me for being “fat” as a child. This caused complex ptsd, bpd, body issues and more. I have health complications so I can’t lose weight naturally and the trauma doesn’t help. I saw your other comment about how different people treat you, this is one of the things that terrify me. I feel as though if I lost all the weight I wanted and naturally became confident over time, having family members treat me differently due to how I look would honestly fuck me up.

>>125729
Can the moids making this AstroTurf slop get it through their heads we know it's their bitter agenda ? Can we talk about it once and for all mods? They're pissed at our pinkpill, etc threads so moids plaster cc with smear content like this.

Nobody actually talks like that in real life

>can you ever heal from growing up unwanted + ostracized by your peers?
This one is really hard desu and requires a lot of support from others to recover. Bottom line is you need to be wanted and accepted by others.
If the extent of the damage done to you by ostracization was limited to your self-esteem, you'll probably have an easier time recovering by simply glowing up and changing your environment to a less racist one. You have an issue but you're pretty independent socially.
But if there was serious damage done to your socialization to a point where you're self-isolating weird etc then you'll need much more actual help.

>>125731
Not OP, but sometimes I think some women in spaces like these sort of take it as a slight against all women when a woman talks about feeling ugly, lonely or pathetic or like a loser or something, and they feel the need to overperform how much of an outlier she is or that she's probably a larping moid, like embarrassedly saying "she's not with us" in case an outsider conflates her situation with yours. I don't think that's very fair. This mindset is why I never feel like I can vent about never having a boyfriend before, as if that's somehow remotely implying that applies to everyone here. It doesn't and you shouldn't care what hatereading scrotes think, even with perfect optics they would still make up bullshit reasons to insult women anyway, as they always have done for centuries including back when female outcasts were less prevalent than today.

If anything, I think it's a bit of a horseshoe to imply all women naturally live fabulous lives free of any insecurity, stress or problems. And maybe I'm being a retarded schizo, but "pinkpill" seems like an Inglourious Basterds wrong fingers moment. I thought feminism is the purplepill, and the pinkpill is moid discord/preddit tranny shit.

I dunno. Just seems a bit strange to argue we need to ban women for feeling miserable or suffering, and assuming an anecdote of a girl being harassed by moidlets is actually unrealistic anti-woman propaganda.

>>125739
There has been some complaining about "embarrassing" posts here on /feels/ but really I don't think this thread falls anywhere under that umbrella