/feels/ - Advice & Venting

now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas), it makes me hate all other men even more!!! i love hating men i love hating men :3 Total female domination!!!!!

>>122352
>now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas)
yup
dats what made me start hateposting on men

>>122352
>i hate men!!1!
>i'll still keep dating and fucking them tho cause this one is different!!
fake misandrists stfu challenge

>>122365
sybau

>>122352

Men hate each other.

I hate men back, and women deserve to hate men back if are hated.

Forgive me father, for I have sinned. Yup, a big sinner. Did you put money in the box? yes. Then you are pardoned my son.

Let's just treat men like dogs. They deserve it.

My husband was so strange today. He asked me for the weather, I said the weather. Then he asked me something, I said yes and then other thing, and I said no.

He is complicated, he then said "god why are you answering so cold" who understands men? i answered, I bought him clothes, I let him live under the roof, I pay bills and he thanks me like this?

Like that. Men are always happier when being slaves.

can't you just tell your doctor your symptoms? just be like "yeah i hear voices sometimes and also i think i am the lizard queen" or whatever. they'll probably just refer you to a specialist

You don't want antipsychotics, they're not good for the brain

>>122358
>schizophrenia
>defense sector
Honestly, being trans is probably going to be a bigger barrier to working in your preferred field in the coming years.
>symptoms of auditory and visual hallucinations, paranoia, and delusions
The fact that you're capable of recognizing them as such means that you do not have a significant disorder. Just keep quiet about it and let it be someone else's problem if it ever gets bad enough that you can't live with it (unlikely). Many people live happy/normal lives with these minor symptoms.
If you are high-iq enough, you can also try self-medicating if it bothers you.

>>122363
>>122358
Also, I forgot to mention, you can just fly to a different country for healthcare as well.

>>122358
t-minus a few hours

>>122381
why cant you and your ex get back together? and why did you guys break in the first place

what was the age gap between you and your ex

>>122381
why did he dump you? how did he dump you? how old is he now?

Glad our advice helped you nona, hopefully that other moid kills himself so he doesn't leach off another naive nona

You want too much for a world that's crashing very badly. You should be grateful you can pursue any career at all and are not forced to protest on streets about the price of wheat. I am not from USA so 90s and 50s were all equally horrid. My mother and my grandmother all of them worked multiple jobs to feed their kids, and even though grandma's husband was military man he just ate too much so that kids had nothing left after he had his part. Being a caretaker IS being a breadwinner. As a mother, you will be the only one who cares and the only one who will have to actually sacrifice something for them. Whenever that's fulfilling is another question, but you seem to have an idea that having kids is supposed to be easy way out, when it's not. Get a perspective. You were not born to laze around, you were not born aristocrat. You can still have kids if you want it but given how you think about your whole situation, you actually don't. You really aren't ready for the lifelong labor that it entails. Men don't really care about children, they lie when they claim to do; and thus they will betray you one way or the other if you expect them to help you with raising kids. Some will lose their jobs, others cheat, third ones beat and drink, the fourth one will be escaping family relations with work and your children will never see him and have same mentality as single-mothered children. Et cetera, the ways men betray their children is endless. There is no winning here because they really REALLY do not care. In any case being a sahm is privilege, a dream; not a right. Having a job however is a right since that's what your own survival depends on. A lot of people nowadays can't even get that much and are forced to be forever their parents dependants with no way forward. Back in the days in European villages there was a custom to keep youngest daughter tied to her parents to take care of household when they are old; she would never have a right for kids or love and when the parents eventually died she was 45-50 out of commission for marrying, growing old and weak herself, forced to be a beggar and abusestock at her brothers family (if they took her at all). Would you like to be born to be that type of "caretaker"?

>>120115
it's really hard econonically right now. honestly, people like to say if you work hard you'll make money and live well, but the truth is, that the wealthy are making 5-10% a year on their assets while the economy grows at 1%. and with that money they buy more assets, increasing that rate. that means houses and rent will continue to go up, services will continue to get worse and more expensive. ordinary people get poorer when the rich get richer. you and your bf would have done enough to own your own home and live very comfortably in the mid-20th century. so don't feel like a failure in a system that makes it extremely hard to just get by.

>>120406
Retarded literally means being behind in development. Kids aren't retarded if they're well developed for their age. That said, emotional isolation from either of the parents leads to at least partial retardation.

>>120140
>oh ya that is an important job. I’m sure you take good care of your husband
kek
peak seethium

I like moids and babies I just don't have the constitution for a life alongside either one. It does feel hard to survive sometimes so I have decided to read as much as I can to fill out my life

>>121945
what do you read

>>121726
I really relate to this, 28 y/o, bf of 6 years, he's with me only because the other option would be being an incel, he himself has told me that if it wasn't for me he would have spent the rest of his life alone.
I'm too scared to break up and I don't know what will happen to me if I leave him, but I know I have to do it eventually because I really want to be married and experience motherhood, and he doesn't care about having a family or children at all. It doesn't help that I made the stupid decision of moving to his country and leaving everything behind and I have 0 friends and don't know anyone here…

>>122188
do what you need to do, follow your heart. seriously.
you are not entitled to anyone and if someone is settling with you just so they don't be alone and holding you back then it's your decision
don't do it all on a whim if you're going to leave him though, make sure you're financially stable, have a place to stay (or go back to your home country, since you did bring that up) and have a plan

>>121902
trvthke

>>122307
you're making a pretty good case
just randomly spent the weekend learning about domestic animals and owner psychology and I would absolutely appreciate a male who can appreciate and enjoy the process of research

>>122314
It's better if you think he's a cute guy.

>>122315
Ehh. My personal opinion is if you wank to something and feel good afterwards and feel soulful and wholesome it's healthy sexuality, and if you wank to something and you feel sort of shit and disgusted with yourself or like you didn't gain anything then it's a fetish

I sense for op's bf it's more fetish than healthy sexuality

>>122315
It's misogynistic, honestly. Perceiving your partner not as an equal, but as a servant who will do whatever you say. Maybe this is healthy sexuality on the part of a man, idk

Ask him to dress up as a maid for you. If he isn't willing to debase himself why should you?

Lots of ugly people have sex/relationships with other ugly people. Lower your standards?

>>122272
Did you even read what she said? This has nothing to do with her standards.

you can’t get a boyfriend before you improve yourself. even if you are “ugly”, guys can tell that you’re unconfident. is it possible that you want to get a boyfriend just to feel better about yourself? like, you want someone to love you because you can’t love yourself? that’s where the hard work starts. you have to find your self-confidence and the learn to enjoy who you are.

Having a boyfriend isn’t what it’s said to be even the ugliest men below your standards will cheat on you

Same here, I got bullied so much in middle/high school I can't look at myself anymore. I don't even want to be pretty, I just want to feel okay. the problem is that everything I try just feels wrong, wearing makeup, going to the gym, taking care of myself in general. I can't live like this

OP here, this is what I look like

>>122337
i agree ^^ theyre just so cute :3

this is his dad btw

I prefer asian guys

>>122343
kuzzy kuz

If I were you I would delete the post and resend without the guys´ picture. But answering your actual question I feel like just try to see what common friends you have and slowly start trying to arrange hang outs that also include him. If you have none, then you have to "stalk" him a bit and see what common interests you share that you can bring up in a conversation with him randomly and effortlessly (without making it too specific or weird)

ok lee goldson soyfags

>>122025
Nona no

>>122025
for me it took time. lots of time, everyday i woke up mourning him and crying over the fact i'd never see him again, but gradually, you get better at handling these emotions. you slowly lose your attachment towards him, and it’s not that the memories fully disappear- they just stop hurting as much. you’ll remember the giggles, the warmth, even the inside jokes, but they’ll feel distant. like a song you used to love but don’t play anymore.
every time you want to reach out, remind yourself why you left. people don’t change overnight. the softness you miss was real, but so was the harm. and missing someone doesn’t mean they’re meant to return. it just means you’re healing.
let yourself grieve, but protect your peace. you deserve to move forward, even if it’s slow.
i promise you things will get easier with time

>>122202
Not op
i should have never left my bf in the first place, i did check out of the relationship for a long time and i self reflected on it and my reason why due to boredom and missing the spark feeling, i thought relationships were all about the firework and spark but i never met anyone like him anymore he was the only guy who told me that he chooses me everyday even when things get hard. This was a month ago and i told him to leave me alone out of my own anger during our last phonecall, recently he sent me a mail that mentioned that he can't live in area at all since every time he drives it reminds him of our memories so he literally enlisted himself in the navy. I just feel so bad, i made a mistake and i want him so bad but i just have a feeling that if i break the silence and reach out he may not want me anymore

>>122205
sorry for the yapfest
well, first, you'd need to ask yourself if your boredom is going to become a problem again. i don't know you or your bf or the relationship you've had together, so this is something you need to mainly figure out yourself. i cannot stress this enough, figure out your own shit before getting back or into a relationship.
second, it's obvious he still cares IN some way (whatever it may be) and probably still likes you, hell he's even enlisting in the fuckin navy because he's probably broken up over you. don't be afraid to break the silence, believe me haha. i've missed my chance when i could've opened up and talked to my boyfriend after our break up, and genuinely from the bottom of my heart i regret it deeply. i could've mended our relationship, got closure or even said a goodbye.

i can't promise you anything, but please talk to him before he leaves, genuinely. you may not get the outcome you want, but atleast you'll both have closure, and potentially in the future can rekindle that spark.
and, if it helps; open up to him about your feelings if you'd like, tell him what really happened and why you lashed out, just be honest, okay?

talk like the other nona said with that moid

but do not expect anything from a man again

learn a strategy game and try to develop better long term thinking skills.

"what if I say x? he probably will say Y."

Think like an engineer. Think about the worst consequence and prepare for the worst.

If the best happens, it just happens. You prepared yourself for it and conquered, you lost battles but won a war.