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Anonymous 133377[Reply]

I feel pathetic.
I broke up with my gf of couple years earlier this year and tried dating guys, and found one who fits me well. We have same hobbies, get each others humor, always a gentleman, treats me well, he has a stable well paying job, is not weird pervert or gambling addict, plays lots of same games as me, and likes the type of music that i do. The only thing is that i don't find him attractive, i am gay and knew this before getting with him, but i wanted to be the one taken care of for once and not have to be the "top". I broke up with him couple months ago when i was sure that i cannot be with him despite him being exactly the partner i like. I still talk with him online and we watch anime often, neither of us have many friends around, he moved to the area couple months ago and hasn't found a local friend group yet. I only really talk and hang out with my best friend but she is crazy busy all the time and we only see each other like once or twice a month, which i appreciate greatly her making time for me. I went on a couple dates recently with a girl but we did not really get along well so we broke it off, she was the only person who held me in a very long time and i miss having physical contact. I told my friend that im gonna see the guy this weekend and she said that its a bad idea, and one of our friends that was with her told me i need to stop fucking around and seriously get myself in order. I know it is, but i am lonely and want to be wanted and i have someone trusted who i can see and spend time with. I know he won't do anything to me, he's harmless, but i feel disgusted at myself doing this. I felt so jaded and callous lately that i think im expressing that by doing problematic things and not caring that its wrong or hurtful to others or myself, i just want to feel something. I need to work on my career and get more out of the house but i need to feel alright before i can take on the world. I'm disgusting for using a good guy like him who truly cares about me but its this or spiraling mentally alone in my room.
I know the answer is simple, get a girl that loves you like he does, but the way i am right now, i do not have anything good to offer to a partner. I guess i could cook a bit, and be supportive and offer advice, but i don't have a stable job or could provide anything substantial. So even if i found a girl like me, i cannot do anything for her.
I don't know why i made this thread, i guess to vent. Please, if you have anPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 133384

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>>133383
I do know it will be hard work, and i know what the correct path is, i think i just wanted to vent my feelings so i came here to just get it out and well, not feel as lonely for the moment. I appreciate your replies

Anonymous 133387

>>133380
It's not just them. I get such bad vibes from you. Girl you sound like a parasite.

Other women aren't going to tolerate this nonsense so you go after the moids only to realize you don't like them and that you can't hide the fact that you're not willing to have sex with them forever. You want someone to do everything for you.

And then you turn around and cry because no one tolerates but you'll never do anything about these behaviors will you?

Anonymous 133388

>>133377
is this the nona that was dating a tif who didn't put out and trying to get them to detransition?

Anonymous 133409

Nona I have a question if you're still here.

Why didn't you just stay with him and have a platonic or open relationship? You said he moved to your area right? It sounds like he'd do a lot for you. You could still have someone that takes care of you while getting to go on dates and sleep with women.

I would look into it if you feel comfortable. There are a lot of relationships that function this way.

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>>133409
This is an interesting idea, i have not really considered this. I broke up with him because i want to be with a woman and fully dedicate myself to her. I respect him and enjoy spending time with him but he deserves someone who can be his everything. I know that if i stayed it would be an uncomfortable love and would nag me on the inside the whole time. I am slowly separating from him while still being amicable. I think we could be platonic friends who are just close without any issues of feelings getting caught up. When i told him i had a couple dates lines up he was genuinely happy for me, i am trying to help him get dates too


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I cannot be normal around my mother Anonymous 133385[Reply]

Looking for advice and the possible reason for this. A couple years ago, I lost a couple family members including my father through an accident which led me to isolate, losing the ability to socialize properly, but after some therapy I was able to make a lot of new friends, now I can easily make friends and go out. My problem is, I act completely different infront of my friends/relationships compared to my mother. I go into a small shell, she has never been abusive but incredibly supportive of my journey but this really gets to me because she probably things I am genuinely retarded when I am actually a big socialite and I can look into other peoples faces and hold good conversation, good posture, hygiene, etc. It's like I see her as a caregiver.. I don't know why I do this because it really makes me look really weak in front of my family. What can I do to become more normal and functioning around my mother that I can do with my friends?

Anonymous 133386

>>133385
An average day for a friend is:
I am in makeup, nice clothes, smiling, socialising, making the effort, planning, eye contact, good posture, smell good, eat well with friends

an average day with my mom:
hair tangled, hair greasy,eating junk, i dont say hi or talk to mum, my brain goes foggy, i am unable to talk long conversations without messing up words, i wear same top a week straight, i dont leave my room

why does this happen when i love my mom the most?

Anonymous 133389

Autism

Anonymous 133396

>>133385
Why do you think you do that

Anonymous 133397

>>133386
Just try behaving differently at home, whats stopping you

Anonymous 133440

Because you take your mother for granted and so you don't have to try.
You put in the effort for others because you have to earn it, while your mom you already have her unconditional support so you have no reason to improve.


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Cats Anonymous 133411[Reply]

i wish i had a cat so bad theyre literally so cute and adorable. cats reduce stress too!!! im one of those people who believes the cat chooses you, not the other way around lol. i hate when ppl say “you’re gonna be a lonely cat lady with cats and wine” like thats supposed to scare me babe thats literally my dream life. i love cats so much

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>>133411
Listen, sis. You can't spend your whole life chasing a 1% cat chad. Even if you got one, he'd just use you (and every one of your neighbors) for food. You gotta learn to love a 8/10 cat. And don't wait for one to come to you. find one you like and take him for yourself. Trust me, the cat will be happy you're paying attention to it.

Anonymous 133413

>>133412
scrote all cats are 10/10 cats

Anonymous 133423

I have a cat that is a wonderful companion and I love him very much.

Only annoying he ever does is run and jump on/off my bed when I am trying sleep which wakes me up. I have enough trouble sleep as it is so I had to start kicking him out of the room at night. He cries at my door and makes me sad but I need sleep

Anonymous 133438

>>133411
my mom dont like cats she’s actually scared of cats. how tf do i convince her to let me adopt one??


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

Previous thread >>>/feels/115657
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Anonymous 133080

I miss you.

I wish other people hadn't broken and ruined me. You had more patience for me than anyone else despite all the years of trauma have have piled up on me mentally.

No one else will ever love me the way you did and I wish I was in better condition to receive that love instead of running away. I'm sorry.

Even if I come out of therapy renewed and whole again I'll still feel like killing myself up because I fucked up so badly.

Anonymous 133219

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R,

I like to think that my life's improved since then. I still get depressed sometimes but I'm doing way better now. I've been diagnosed with autism and I've been going to therapy. I'm doing fine career-wise. I feel like I luckily won't ever reach that low, ever again.
Although everything's changed, I do sometimes still think about you. I wonder what you've been up to. Sometimes I'd just like to have a chat with you, as friends. I hope you're ok.

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Anonymous 133407

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I’m gonna miss you, my handsome bf. Well, I guess you’re not my handsome bf anymore. I’m still in denial about it, I don’t want to delete the folder I have full of photos of you and our messages, nor do I want to scribble off the date on my calendar when you were meant to come down and see me. I understand this is my fault, I was too harsh with you and I hurt you. I hope one day we can be together, even if it’s another lifetime. Thank you for everything Jay, I will love you forever with all my heart, my little plane autist.

Anonymous 133408

>>131887
>>132979
>>133080
>>133219
>>133407
You're all so depressing. It's just a moid. There's so many of them out there and I can promise you that your moid will talk to you again if you message.

Anonymous 133410

I miss you more than I probably should, and I wish we could’ve done all the things we talked about. I regret fucking it up when we were so close to actually having it all. I guess what hurts most is realizing that maybe you never felt as deeply about me as I did about you. I hope someone loves me one day as much as I loved you, and when they do, I hope I never hurt them the way you hurt me. I just wish things had turned out differently.


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Be yourself Anonymous 133356[Reply]

just yesterday i discovered im a femcel. Maybe other femcel that sees me thinks im not one of them. Im a socially accepted femcel just because im pretty but honestly ive never had a partner my experience with guys has been so weird that ive never had a boyfriend and ive never even kissed anyone.
i love men and id really like to have my first boyfriend but i dont think we should put men on a pedestal or blame beauty standards for our misery I think we should empower ourselves by using beauty standards to our advantage If you cant beat the enemy you should join it.
Don’t be a ‘Stacy’ or a ‘True Eve’. Be a ‘True Lilith’

Anonymous 133357

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>>133356
Men should be the ones performing beauty for us. Where do they get the gaul to expect us to jump through hoops for them, when they are the ones begging for sex like they're gonna die from loneliness ? How is it we are completely outnumbered by men on dating apps? And they wanna be a 4 or 5 and only accept an 8 or 9 woman? Hahah no they need to make it worth our time

I mean i think everyone has wierd experiences with men… Its just way easier to avoid a ton of the shit that comes with dating. Its too much headache and too easy to be single.

Anonymous 133358

>>133356
Some men are SOOOO stupid I never seen a really handsome man be picky with his taste in women. The only ones who are demanding are old men who like younger girls or stupid guys saying some shit like "goth mommy" and they look like shit

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men do not appreciate all the work that goes into looking beautiful, they just see "pretty girl". look good for yourself, and bring happiness to those who love and care about you. never chase love, but nurture the one that shows genuine care and affection, not just tepid attraction. Good Luck Nona!


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Anonymous 130353[Reply]

What was the hardest part of growing up for you?
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Anonymous 130359

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always feeling different to other children, people constantly misunderstanding me, my emotional needs rarely being met and feeling so out of place and alienated.

Anonymous 130363

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Feeling misunderstood by my family, never outgrowing my middle school awkwardness, not being very good at picking myself up again after big disappointments and rejection, having difficulty imagining a good future for myself that wasn't an impossible fantasy where I was as beautiful as I wanted to be and as loved as I wished I'd been

Anonymous 133297

dealing with neglect and abuse at home only to go to school to get bullied for being "weird" (unkempt because i was neglected) and having teachers either ignore me at best or participate in tormenting me. worst part was seeing how they treated the kids with present and proper parents with kindness and care. believe it or not i didn`t chose to not have the right pencil with me at 7 years old, i`m not doing this to make your teaching harder. but i guess some teachers just like the power and without parents who care about you, who will defend you anyway? we say we care so much about childrens safety as a society but that`s just bullshit.

Anonymous 133341

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finding a reason to keep going

Anonymous 133363

Not killing my children after I got pregnant at 16.


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Anonymous 132401[Reply]

I need to know if loosing your virginity to a moid is really worth it. I'm afraid to be thrown and dispossed like an used tissue after gifting my virginity to someone…should I consider having my first time with another girl?, ¿Do you regret losing your virginity?
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Anonymous 132608

>>132401
Pretty much just regretted it, mostly because the relationship didn't work out and the guy I lost it to wasn't a virgin either. It leaves me bitter knowing I've shared something private with someone who I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with. They'll likely forget about and associate this as one of his many attempts at finding love. I regret being a sensitive trusting faggot and letting my guard down. They weren't that bad of a person. I miss feeling more naive and optimistic about life. I hate the feeling of deja vu of attempting the same thing with someone else, it feels dirty. If none of this bothers you, go ahead.

Anonymous 132616

>>132608
> It leaves me bitter knowing I've shared something private with someone who I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with

You figured it out, no amount of shallow platitudes about ah it's just sex, have fun,
will ever tell what you know now.
I hope you can find your love soon thou, good luck nona.

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my first time was with a girl and i don't regret it, it was her first time too. its better to have a partner who is a bit more experienced than you because they can guide you in a way, but it has to be someone who truly cares about you and isnt using you as a cheap fuck. imo sex with men is very physical while with women its more sensual and beautiful. p.s. cum smells awful and tastes worse

Anonymous 133346

I'm still a virgin but I wanna try sex with a man and a woman just to know for sure if I'm straight bi or gay. I can get horny thinking about certain individuals but how the actual sex is could impact that. Like I used to be more into women when I was younger and got crushes on other girls but then as a teenager I got into gay guy porn and now I prefer men

Anonymous 133362

wtf some of you are insane? You have a precious and vulnerable part of you that should be protected from people that just want to use you like evil men and lesbians who want to be men, even in this thread. it makes me sick. don't listen to this bullshit! girls in this thread are actually saying to throw away your virginity and get your feelings stomped on and get used and accept you are worthless it's just !!!


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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132360

>>132323
If she is in love with the facade of a narcisist and is ready to pay the price, let her be in love with what that man pretend to be. The choice belong to her.
I somehow find it beautiful.

Anonymous 132431

you deserve better and you will definitely find better. leave this relationship before it messes you up long term. being alone is hard at first but it's a kind thing to do to yourself over facing abusive bs like this

Anonymous 133233

>>132022
can you give me a tldr version?

Anonymous 133236

>ghosts you for 5 days for talking to a friend
And you think you have BPD? No. You aren't crazy or overreacting. He's manipulated you and doesn't love you. He just wants a woman to walk all over. Never give him another chance.

Anonymous 133361

when you hung up on him to answer your friend he probably saw it as rude but sounds like he internalized it in some way as categorical of your entire personality so he's decided apropos of nothing that you are evil and deserve to be treated horribly as a punishment or form of correction. he probably has a delusional sense of being an instrument of righteousness in an entirely un-self-examined way that leads him to justify treating you badly whenever he decides that your behaviour doesn't match his entirely uncommunicated and likely ill-conceived standards. this cycle of behaviour probably comes as a form of defense mechanism to protect him from his insecurities as the minor discomfort he likely felt at the moment of your slightly rude one-time action was intolerable to him - I presume because he has a massively inflated sense of self worth which causes him to be enraged at the thought of someone 'lesser' than him having the power to cause him pain in any form, no matter how minor. so now he oscillates between his everyday persona and his 'punishment' persona - i.e. between the mask and his truly evil intentions towards you. he means to cause you harm and wants you to suffer so he gaslights you saying his behaviour is the normal way a man should treat a woman (it isn't), and he is intentionally trying to lower your sense of self worth by comparing you openly to other women. I expect he also does this in a thousand myriad other ways which are designed to hurt you and keep you at the low level of self worth so that he can continue to keep you addicted to him. your attention and obsession with him has likely become a source of pleasure to him, fuelling a cycle of misery which will benefit him entirely and destroy you entirely. I am really happy to see you blocked him. don't go back.


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/lg/ - lesbian general Anonymous 108545[Reply]

felt like this should be a thread tbh
what's everyone up to? i'm thinking of downloading tinder again
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Anonymous 133053

>>133052
subtle brag lol

Anonymous 133081

obligatory viewing

Anonymous 133274

do you ever wish you were straight?

just been having some depressing thoughts lately.

Anonymous 133342

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i've recently matched with this cute green haired alt girl on tinder. i thought she'd be a great fit since she wrote she likes submissives and i've been lookin to not be the top for once. turns out she is actually bi and into timid twinks and feels bad about domming women since "they're precious and don't deserve that". I don't think she got over her exbf yet tho, despite being broken up for a year now, she keeps mentioning him and all the shitty ways he treated her. I wish she was more affectionate and called me pretty and asked more about me, i want to connect with her but she also is slightly autistic and sometimes comes off as cold. On our second date we went to an ice cream shop, we get in line and i whisper to her that i'll pay for today, and she says she was gonna, i say "lets rock paper scissor for it" she agrees. we both throw scissors, and says "i shouldve known…". she did paper second round and i went scissors again lmao. Shes so cute , and fashionable, and soft and kisses nicely, but i hate that this probably won't be anything more than FWB type situation.

Anonymous 133343

dated a guy for a while and hated kissing him, got back with a girl and i didn't realize how much i missed not getting scratched while making out


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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 132334

>>128474
updates?

Anonymous 133159

hoping op is well

Anonymous 133214

tell us how it's going op

Anonymous 133333

op will stay with this man until he kills her. the end.

Anonymous 133334

Op got tired of making shit up for (you)s


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