/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>127547
I don't know what to do, should I confront the bpd and ask her why the fuck she's doing all this? But then I'd be breaking the months long 'break' I took from speaking to her. I wonder, if that's what she wanted, to get my attention somehow so I open up her messages and reply…

>>127548
I mean if you'd ask me, I don't think their answer really matters. They won't stop unless you're willing to be their new supply anyways. (or manage to intimidate them) I think influencing your friend or other ppl makes more sense. It's a difficult situation but yeah.

The socially acceptable approach would be to explain this person hurt you horribly and to give a warning, if they decide to get fooled still then it's on them to learn their lesson. If they fall for their love bombing then they're getting something they want from them, that's it really.

>>127542
>>127542
tell her the gods honest truth - that you have a friend who you cut contact with who is now trying to get revenge by attempting to contact everyone she knows you know. ask her to please let you know if she starts making up lies - and that she has a history of slandering people. tell her everything this girl has done. don’t talk shit. tell her how scared this is making you. tell her you thought it was a coincidence at first but during the end of the friendship she started imitating you. tell her it was flattering at first but the intensity has increased and you also want to be your own person and no one likes someone trying to become a copy of them and imitate their every move. especially after they were initially the complete opposite of you and jarringly changed when the friendship ended and she started trying to contact people she didn’t know but you did so it made no sense. tell her it doesn’t come across as missing you when she has consistently been malicious and you’re weirded out by this. even just say she was accused of doing this before or has a history of doing this to other people. i’m sure she told you some story where she was the victim and other people were just terrible. she was probably lying about them too. because the thing with bpd is she’s going to get close to your friend acting nice and then she’s going to lie about you. this one might be smart enough to befriend and not go straight to lying. i would emphasize needing to take a break. i would tell the friend you didn’t want to say anything at first in case she was just being nice but it’s escalating. i would honestly talk the least about how weird it is she’s doing this with this specific person. maybe say you were surprised she reached out to her and didn’t know what to say at first and then talk about her weird behavior towards you and skin walking and why you took a break. talk about the drama she’s been in with other people and say specifically “i am/was worried she’s going to try and cause drama for me for being weirded out like she punished them for leaving.” don’t act like a victim. tell them like i tried to trust they had good intentions but they kept harming me and i had to step away even though it hurt too and now they’re scaring me.

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>>127542
what character is this

>>127542
You're probably the crazy one

I got approved for a credit card and a loan. Not in that order i might add.

Hooray for capitalism!

I bought Christmas cookies on sale today! I'm excited to eat them this week.

>>127581
I ate some of the cookies with tea. They were really good.

d>>116708

no, people are pretty much born without empathy that isn't just projective (so cognitive) and have to develop it. you just probably never learned why these things are bad.

I do think ppl overreact sometimes but I understand why. I just don't like it cause shitting on men is better when you're coming from a position of strength and not a position of a little bitch

also you might've felt nothing about your ex cause he was annoying to you but your grandma wasn't. maybe a defense mechanism like emotional detachment, but I can't know for sure from what you said. maybe you just didn't value him like your grandma? either way it's probably way more normal than you think, not necessarily good though

I might have isolated myself out of a group chat
And ngl I don't gaf at the moment.

Long story short there's a manchild who refuses to be held accountable and now his friends are creating excuses for him. And ngl I was mean. But also, I don't think he's the kind of dude I'd wanna hang around with for long periods of time. And he probably feels the same way???? Regardless his friends are enablers

I'm going to lean on my own spirituality more. Maybe I am wrong. But maybe this is the higher power cutting off people who aren't for my highest good in the first place

I don't have anyone to talk to on my lunch break so I'm on cc. Feels lonely.

I deserve love too

Reading lolcow's "Get it off your chest" thread and enjoying it so much somehow, almost as much as when I'm venting myself.

I wonder what it is about needing to vent in public, even if you don't want to talk about it with anyone. Just writing a letter no ones gonna see simply doesn't hit the same.

I wanna go for some McDonald's fries rn but it's 6 AM

No one has ever loved you for the way you are. He’s a criminal who was all over the “have you dated this man?” apps. You are the exact opposite of his physical type. You do however car pool to events he wants to go in and your friend helps with his cosplays.

>>127315
Am I missing something or are you planning an overly complicated revenge plot to get back together with a guy who abandoned you after getting you knocked up and flirted with someone else in front of you? It'd probably be easier to find some other guy to date who won't do all this shit.

>>127315
I get that feeling of absolute hate.
I sometimes wish I had the skill and nerve to pull a Uramiya tier revenge scheme on someone, but the person I hate the most moved to who knows where before I found out what he did. He raped my best friend multiple times and I wish there was something I could do to ensure he won't do it to anyone else. My friend wants to leave it in the past but I'm still so mad on her behalf…
I'll respect her wishes but damn, this sucks.

>>127320
If it won't work while you're alive, it'll work even less when you're dead.
Unless your plan involves framing him for murder, suicide just isn't a good way to get back at anyone. There are better ways to take revenge.
You want to get back at him, right? You despise that piece of shit? Then don't hurt yourself like that, live your best life and if you must, at least find a way to get back at him that elevates you above him. You can't do that if you're 6 feet under…
You deserve a good life without obsessing over some human waste of a moid and you can regain your pride without having to tear him down first.
But if you reaally want to tear him down (he 100% deserves it), don't do it in the heat of the moment and work out something that won't bite you in the ass later.
If you plan on exposing him, you could try to get some legal advice if you think it might help.
>>127316
Fpbp but yeah, it'll depend on the country.

he is just going to say you took out the trash for him and they’ll look through your stuff and see you just wanted him back. you need to become more successful and then come back and cancel him for what he actually did to you. not lies.

>>127315
My revised version of your plan:
>take time collecting evidence of him asking you to translate or discussing the details (emails, texts, dates, screenshots)
>do NOT kys
>expose his ass to the publishers, colleagues and everyone
>do NOT kys
>enjoy watching his life crumble
>report back here for lolz
>do NOT kys
>go on with your life

If you're dead there will be nobody to challenge his claim that you did it because of your mental health.

why aren’t you guys compatible? don’t leave us hanging nona

same

>>125487
>me and my bf aren't compatible
buy an adapter then

>>127504
kek

>>127504
this is what i make my bald little dicked ex look like every time i send him his monthly review on how he’s fallen short of mediocrity this time

Which is why we gotta turn the tables and start doing irl reverse harems. Get impressionable 22+ year Olds to bend to our iron will and become subservient to us. Once I make a 6 figure income and get my own place that's what I plan on doing.

>>127469
except men cant get hard if they are not interested so reverse harem doesnt work

>>127495
girl what he just has to stroke his dick twice and think of his ex all they want is sex

>>127469
or you could just remove the "valuable" male element from your life entirely and focus on things that actually put you in a position of intellectual leverage over a male (the only way you as a woman could even fight back against male dominance anyway)

>>127496
and you are okay with your harem boy thinking of his sex while fucking you?

the healthcare system and tragedies beyond your own control

i hate being ugly, lol.

I hate close-mindedness, people who refuse to reevaluate their own assumptions to protect their egos are bound to be ignorant.
I hate herd mentality, people who align their worldview to match that of their peers, in order to be part of some in-group, become a blind, mechanical force.
I hate cowardice in face of injustice, my own self-righteousness, getting old and not being able to take upon myself infinite amount of suffering.

people who are negative all the time and make others miserable just because they're miserable lol

men who rape virgins

pros:
>quite romantic, actually
>very, VERY..! good sex
>marxist (me too)
>philosophy student (me too)
>i'm his first love
>has very good taste in fashion
>good taste in film
>actually a genius
>always pays for our dates
>has a really sexy car
>has read The Second Sex
>extremely hot
>sexy biceps
>doesn't watch porn. if he's jerking off, he's looking at sfw pictures of me
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>>127480
>has a really sexy car
Is it a Renault Twingo?

>>127480
Forgot these pros:
- Drinks Matcha
- Wears funky plushies

>>127480
>anger issues as a child that were never resolved
>very bad reputation on campus
>our college had to move us into seperate houses
Clearly they are seeing something you are blinding yourself to. Please be safe nona.

>>127492
hell no never