/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Was he serious about it or just joking? Cause it's normal to be mildly disgusted when someone farts, you know.

>>118617
I think he likes you but doesn’t love you. The other day I farted repeatedly like a pig in my bf’s room because I had a stomach ache. We ended up laughing like idiots. Yeah the smell is bad but when the gas leak comes from someone you love, it doesn’t affect you like it was some strangers fart you know?

>>118617
It isn't an issue of love. He's a type of "high" maintenance. Suppose you had a friend you took out to have dinner with, and you found out they were really picky about their food, so like they'd absolutely refuse to eat stuff like mushrooms or onions or fish and make a fuss. Would you bring them out to eat at non-basic places again? Would this stop you from being their friend? What if this friend is also the type to not take a sip of a drink when offered? Is it bad that they're not the type of person to want to sip from a vessel that has already been sipped from even though most people don't care? Is it bad if they're "germaphobic" in this way?

Is it bad for somebody to not like farts? Of course not. But not being able to take em? I was in middle school when I scolded a boy to grow up for mentioning out loud when some other boy next to us farted. As an adult, it's not up to us to force non-harm-related preferences onto others (nothing wrong with being vocal against racist/sexists ideas, and ideally you'd want to push good habits onto your children), but we do have a choice on who we hang out with and when. Good habit to not eat out with picky eaters. Good habit to not hang with party poopers when you want to have fun. Your bf not liking farts isn't bad, per se. But would I want to be with someone who is super fussy about farts or picky food or basic sharing or etc.? Nope, couldn't be me.

Also, for your situation, your bf could also be against farts because he has a vision of what is "proper" for a woman, e.g. clean, couth, no farts. Also a preference, but would I want to be with someone with this vision? Nope, couldn't be me.

Talk with him about why he feels this way. Gather info first

>>118656
idk i really don't like it when my mom or any family member does it in front of me. i think if you really can't help it its fine but you should try not to.

op i think obviously you didnt mean to, tell him that you didn't mean to and thats it rude of him to bring it up and then just let it go if he doesn't have any other major issues.

idk. i fart on my bf of 3 yrs on purpose.

i want to be married to another lesbian

I’d recommend trying to better yourself to spite the others that you hate.

picrel is scary for some reason

you can be anonymous and have a public life. imagine if facebook turned out to be harvesting millions of data on information that you never shared, like your crushes, really personal info about your sexual preferences, your mental health struggles, like the stuff you'd put in a diary. that would just be wrong. except instead of facebook, it's sites like 4chan, and oh wait, they do possibly do stuff like that and have possibly done stuff like that, or at the very least have users who definitely do stuff like that. oh, and, some bait is used to politically entangle human beings who might just be having a shit day and someone spammed something that made them feel sick.

wrong. its just wrong. it was a lie.

now imagine if people could just be anonymous and grow out of sites normally, or maybe even make their own. this outsourcing of reality is wrong and sick. but people should be able to be as anonymous as they want.

baby trapping is de-anonymizing people really. i mean, if someone wants to be a public figure, that's their choice.

>like we are the only two who will ever understand each other
I can’t understand for the life of me why a person would WANT something like this. Likely, the person who you end up having this with will be the exact opposite kind of person you’re expecting. But once you have it, it won’t go away and you’ll live with it whether or not the relationship works out.
I have this connection with some I can’t, and never will be able to have for various reasons. You carry that with you, like a big pit in your stomach, every time you think about it.
I seriously don’t suggest it, rather if you can try form meaningful connections and relationships with friends and family before you enter into a relationship. If you only get it from a relationship it will be brutal.

>>117132
I added that because I'm a hikkikomori. I've never felt a single connection to any living thing so I think it'll feel really really really good. I hope that answers it and you can fix whatevers going on in your life

my ideal bf looks like he plays animal crossing and qt pixel games

also he is not so beta he is scared of tumblr men

>>118602
I mean… its a GAME? How can you be shit at pushing buttons and joysticks around? If you play multiplayer games you need to stop they are shit

>>118641
Your problem is playing an multiplayer. They are full of losers who spend 17 hours a day playing leveling up and hoarding items. Then they act like psychopath towards every other user. You need to just play metroid, or zelda or something. Stop playing with other people. Unless you can find women to play with. Then fine.

>>118665
Yeah online games are cancer. Just full of children and man children and they’re all insufferable. If you want to play games with other people then do like some 4 player online game with people you know.

>>118666
True, the most fun multiplayer I've had recently was Lethal Company, without using a mic and Deep Rock Galactic, while occasionally using a mic. Those games have pretty chill audience and don't have people disappointed at you for being slow and new at the game. Not being a competitive game also helps

Moved to >>>/media/35925.

It seems we are in the same boat, Nona. My mother has been equally as horrible to me. I'm sorry to hear you're forced to endure this same torture.

Does your mother have a history of any drug abuse? Is there anything that causes her behavior?

For me, my mother has been abusing drugs since her teen years. Her brain is all fucked up and she's just a degenerate "human" being. Most atrocious, heinous, whoreish, sinful, corrupted, appalling sorry excuse of a woman.

Are you asian?

>>118568
she doesn’t even drink, she’s just an asshole kek

sorry for what you are going through right now, I hope things get better

>>118646
latin american

yay

I don't want to kill my mom but I cannot wait until she is dead. She's had untreated mental illness and narcissistic main character syndrome all her life. It's who she is and will never change. Every bad thing she has ever done, if she can admit she did it, had a reason that absolves her from accountability. Her problems are always bigger than mine, even when objectively not so. She is always the victim unless her mood flavor is pretending to blame herself to milk sympathy.
I could go on but she's sick in the head and didn't give me a very supportive nor good life for it.

>>118662
>just take the hint
you could be doing everything right and this would still happen. dont blame yourself. theres something wrong with those people. dont date through that stuff

I think men on dating apps are really just looking for hookups. like think about it, their seeing pretty girl after pretty girl so they probably get distracted by that and don't wanna do anything serious.

I met my bf on /soc/ so maybe give that a shot.

you're probably 15 or in high school. I think this is how most people, or at least girls, feel then. I recommend reading books or finding a really nice hobby you enjoy. the books will help you see different perspectives and hobbies are good for you.

just try to take it easy and do little things you enjoy. i'm sure you're not fat or ugly but work on your looks if you want to, though everyone becomes old and dies anyway so it shouldn't be a priority.

I also really recommend saying a Rosary everyday. :)

>>118644
yes but i dont think my school-age friends remember