/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Why am I feeling like I am never good enough?

I feel like I have to be more fun, more entertaining, more spontaneous, more unexpected and having new material or else he might stop talking to me and find someone else.

Finally understanding 'All men want is sex'

Are men capable of care or love at all?

I recently stood up to a girl in my friend group who has been treating me like shit all year in private and doing petty mean girl stuff like kicking me out of our group chat, making plans with me and then canceling without explanation as to why, and also ignoring my texts when I asked if she'd be willing to be mature and talk things out in person instead of being passive aggressive to me all the time. It was at a party a mutual friend of ours was throwing and I basically texted her an essay there explaining how she's done me wrong all year and how I hope she learns some maturity for next year. Then, instead of addressing me personally, she ran out of the room crying, acting like a victim and everyone at the party basically turned on me saying that somehow I'm the one who was passive aggressive all along and now they're manipulated by her into thinking I'm the one who was an instigator. I fucking hate being Gen Z and I fucking hate being apart of this generation of crybullies.

i feel really sad because i have had a lot of gay male friends, and each one has let me down so badly. i have dealt with so much cattiness and rude behavior from them. right now i am fighting with a friend because i have not been putting much effort into my appearance lately. my mom just passed away, and life feels so bleak. i honestly just have no energy. i have lost a lot of weight and cannot be bothered to wear makeup or anything other than jeans and a t shirt. instead of showing any empathy or concern, my friend, who is gay, constantly makes the cattiest and rudest comments about me and keeps telling me i look like skin and bone, like a dead corpse. he even said this in front of a mutual friend, a guy he knows i like. it has been making me really sad, and about a week ago i finally told him to stop. i also made a comment about how gay men often think they can be catty and get away with misogyny. that really offended him, and he basically said i was being homophobic. we have not talked since. i have dealt with so much of this behavior from gay men that i am starting to feel like they can be just as bad as straight men, if not worse sometimes.does anyone else here have any experiences like this?

how do i tell my ex i want to hate fuck him and then never talk to him again?

When I was in high school I used to dream of the so called “college life” from young adult series. Having spent one a half years here, I can confirm it’s nothing like I’d expected and it’s messing with my mind on a different level. I haven’t made any friends here, no hobbies, no love life. Nothing. And despite being so isolated my grades are not looking good either. I feel like I’m missing out on so many things and opportunities but I don’t know how to change that either. I want a big friend group and a lovely significant other and good grades. I’m genuinely so tired of living like a loser. What should I do? How am I supposed to live like this? Where and how do people find others? I didn’t miss a few chapters. I missed the whole thing.

Ive been told everything from Extremely ugly to You should model and Everyday my reflection seems different. I dont know if compliments are lies or truth, ive reaped no benefits of pretty privilege and nobodys ever liked me but like…… No way im really super ugly right? I know that it is harmful for anybody but especially women to place So much of their value onto their looks but Honestly how can i Ever live peacefully when i hate my own Skin?? I never was able to have the "Highschool experience" i dreamed of and i doubt college will be better. Idk if there is any hope for me at all tbh. I truly think this is because of my looks.. im shy but ive Always tried to make friends Yet im Alone, ostracized, bullied // Well anyway idek why im really posting this LOL i hope it is comforting to someone on here that feels Similarly to know that i get u..^_*

A few years ago, I used to be very active on femcel discord servers and made lots of friends through there. For the first time in years I felt seen by equally autistic and celibate women. We even agreed on a lot of TERF stuff which was based. Then I made the dumb decision to try normie maxxing. I left the femcel servers, found a relationship (didn't end up working out) and even tried befriending neurotypical women. Now I am more depressed and even worse off than I was before the femcel servers. My neurotypical friends don't get me and they ostracize me. I lost the relationship. I've even gotten more depressed and am a full NEET not leaving the house because I hate socializing anymore because people always find me disagreeable just because I'm not super liberal and don't coddle trannies. I just wish there was a way for me to rejoin the femcel discord servers I was apart of but I can't find any on discord anymore.

Thread to vent about crazy bpd people you know who have ruined your life or ask for advice on how to deal with them/ understand why they do what they do.

I'll go first. So I stopped talking to the bpd months ago after having had enough of her crazy bullshit, lies and vile skinwalking. I forgot she even existed. All was well. Until all of a sudden, a couple days ago, she contacts my closest and oldest friend out of fucking nowhere, in order to """befriend""" her.

They don't know each other, have nothing in common, live really far away from each other. They have only met each other ONCE.
The only reason they are even aware of each other's existence is because of when I briefly introduced them one day over a year ago (I was on an outing with my friend and bpd happened to be in the area…)

ONE DAY. Not even a whole 24 hours, we were there with bpd for 2 hours max. So bpd has only interacted with my friend for a grand total of 2 hours, over a year ago.

SO WHY THE FUCK IS SHE CONTACTING HER OUT OF NOWHERE? I don't understand? Why? Why now? Why would the bpd, who has an entire life (her own friends, classmates, colleagues, nigel, etc.) contact the closest friend of some chick(me) who hasn't even spoken to her in 3 months? What the fuck does she want?

I don't want this crazy freak to swoop in and steal my one fucking friend… She even seems to be skinwalking me since my friend was gushing about how 'similar' the bpd is to me. That's sickening to think about because last time I spoke to the bpd, I was thinking about how she was just too different from me and insufferable. I didn't even have the heart to tell my friend the truth.

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!