/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I need some form of advice in this situation because its making me feel like i'm in a forever luteal mental state

I befriended this girl at work early last year and we got along really well. She was a bit shy and hard to talk to at the beginning but I saw a lot in her that I liked so I persevered in forming a friendship. As time went on we became really good friends and I thought she would have been a friend I would have for a long time. She hadn't really had much life experience but that wasn't an issue to me as I was more than happy to introduce her to my friends and guide the way and point her in a good direction as she isn't from my city.

I started to notice her saying weird things, villanising our other co workers, talking about the way her body looks which I would obviously be like oh don't be silly you're so pretty, not thinking much of it at the time.

I started dating my boyfriend a couple months after her and I started being friends and that hadn't changed anything at the time. She was very happy for me and all was well. A few months after that so around 8 months after her and I started becoming friends we decided to move in together.

The first month was great and there were no issues at all, the second month rolls around and at night when my boyfriend would stay over she would start slamming the doors and stomping around the house, I talked to her about it immediately but nothing changed snd she only did and does this when my boyfriend stays over. The first time this happened it marked the down hill spiral of this friendship.

I continued to be nothing but nice to her even though she was displaying really scary behaviours that to me are the most violent you can be without causing physical harm. I would continue to invite her to outings, share music and interests with her, invite her to hang out with my boyfriend and I, Cook her dinner occasionally.

Work changed for me, over time she would tell me all these "nasty things the girls were saying" which I later found out were not true and she had forged a story to stop me from finding out that she was complaining to them about me. saying that " I expected more from moving in with her, I expected to go out more"

She started to express extreme levels of jealousy that made my boyfriend and I feel guilty for being in a healthy relationship, we felt extremely policed, we were too scared to talk over a whisper at night not to upset her.
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ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.

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Hello nonas, im really sorry for annoying you with this post but i need a strong answer.

Every time im not listening to a video or music, my mind cant help but ramble about random bad shit about me, my friends, and my loved ones.
I think i have a pretty good and fulfilling life, but i cant help but to overthink every single step of mine, throwing down my achievements and thinking that people actually hate me.

anyone ever got a similar situation? Got any suggestions on how to deal with it? Postal 1 dude just because he's cool

Hi nonas! I am a 29 yo autistic woman but even though Im awkward and bad at socializing Ive managed to keep some (girl) friends on my social circle, some of them Ive known since HS. Anyway fast forward to today and for over a decade none of them have managed to help me bag a boy/moid (whatever term you prefer). So I decided to try to find out what the moids had to say about it and several of them told me that I have friends who are gatekeeping me out of relationships with men. This honestly shocked me a little because I think it could be true I dunno. How can I tell if my friends are driving away moids (even the good ones)? I have no social skills and this is frankly eating me up on the inside, if this is true I do not know how to react to this or how to confront any of my friends. Please help me I am so confused I don't know what to think. I don't want to be in my 30s with no boyfriend experience, I dont need a super handsome moid just one who will love and respect me to some degree at least. Thanks!

Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?

Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3

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help i don’t know if this is the wrong place to ask this or if this is gross and tmi but like i genuinely dont know if this normal
so everytime i masturbate by penetration i pee… is that fucking normal ive looked everywhere and it said that it’s just squirting but i don’t know if it’s actually that and i’m fucking scared that if i get boyfriend and we have sex i’ll fucking piss on him

My cousin is so “normal” and I envy her sometimes, not really her life but how easily she seems to make decisions and stay kind of oblivious and content.

She has the career in corporate hell (based on her personality she’s the type to believe if you work hard you’ll get promoted even though this is rarely true), the husband (who is literally just a TikTok rage bait video at this point), the kid (who will likely grow up repeating the same cycle or check out of society), the house (poorly made in America, basically cardboard and always needs repairs), the car (expensive, pretty sure it’s like 80k), the vacations (they just go to hotels and say they visited that country).

All these things are good if it’s with the right people don’t get me wrong.

It seems like in the West, people either naturally fit into this kind of life and enjoy it, or they’re pressured into it and eventually learn to be fine. Then there’s everyone else, who they call losers, who are either too unstable health-wise or financially to deal with life, can’t give a shit because it’s all going to crap anyway, or stuck in the “should I or shouldn’t I” limbo.

I think I’m stuck in that limbo. This might sound crazy, but I think about just trying to fit the normal life to pass time because life is too long. Like my cousin will likely wake up one day divorced, doing gig work, fired from her job for daring to be older than 50, etc., but at least she’ll be 50-something and have spent those 20-something years doing something, unlike me who is essentially doing nothing.

I’ve chatted to some people online anonymously who’ve said they regretted doing the normie life. The grass is greener on the other side. I don’t think these people actually picture what they would be doing if they weren’t doing what they’re doing now.

Maybe I’ll marry an “incel”, adopt a kid, and hope my shitty mindset won’t be passed on.

But who am I kidding. I think you really need to be a bit oblivious and used to making “dumb” decisions to live life like this. I don’t think you can fake it, even though people say they are every day. I don’t really believe it, or maybe I’m just so lazy that I can’t even imagine faking it.