/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>126668
Are these IRL friends or online “friends”?

>>126668
These people are low functioning psychopaths. It might be more that you're subconsciously pulled to psychopaths

Ever asked yourself why? Ever noticed ?

>>126676
This is true too though you might be needy

people are either selfish/individualistic and believe in things like emotional labor. or they are hurt and reluctant to trust new people. or a combo of both.

someone without a history of friendships and relationships is a red flag. sometimes it has nothing to do with you and it’s just where other people are. sometimes you trigger something in someone else’s pattern recognition and it doesn’t even have to be a real thing about you. you just reminded them of someone else.

when you take it personally every time or view normal distance from strangers as an attack, it can change your vibe and people can pick up on that. when you’re going into something expecting pain and disappointment and rejection and maybe feel nervous or defensive, people feel that emotion and wonder what’s going on in the interaction to make you feel that way. sometimes it makes them angry sometimes it makes them nervous. sometimes people even take advantage.

all of this can literally be bypassed by confidence and level eye contact. not i’m above you but everyone is my equal. you don’t have to care what anyone thinks of you. they’re not the judge. and you can also probably name some stuff you don’t like about people if you really think about it. no one is above you. there’s no one to impress. if you can internalize that people will like start begging to be around you.

hopefully this posts i just put it in the wrong thread

I want to be your virtual friend I promise I won't ghost you

>>131052
This was a very nostalgic and common post

>>131717
Wym to gain status. You are assuming that. Status is definitely one of those things I don’t care for. I don’t like people glorifying and justifying the behaviors that had been harmful towards me.

>>131718
1) tf is a vector?

2) what happened?

>>131719
In computer security, an attack vector is a specific path, method, or scenario that can be exploited to break into an IT system, thus compromising its security.
In health and disease transmission, a vector is a living organism that carries and transmits an infectious pathogen to another living organism

>>131720

So nona either broke security protocol or transmitted a disease by bullying someone?

Sounds retarded af

Why do you have to keep showing up in my dreams? Not only that, my subconscious humanizes in a way that isn't true to you, setting me up for disappointment again and again.
It's like I miss something that has never existed.

>>131854
Is that supposed to be you in the picture? If it is I think you look nice but I could certainly understand the frustration with this. Given they're effectively using you as advertising without paying, you could likely sue them if you're in the US. I'd ask them to take it down if they posted it already

compliments are levied to shut down insecure people when a person can't be bothered to deal with them, but still wants to seem like they're giving a thoughtful reply. or wants to just get on with something, like this lady needing your photos for her social media. if you kept rejecting her then she'd be inconvenienced; so of course she defaults to petty babyish soothing. it's so utterly self centred and irritating. people will always opt to save face at the cost of outright neglecting people's dignity. sure, it's uncomfortable to acknowledge self image issues, but why rely on a cheap dismissal like "you're so gorgeous" as if that fixes anything

>>131879
Okay but you're literally gorgeous

>>131881
take me seriously!

>>131885
Sorry sorry I'm a prankster at heart you see. It's in my nature to tease a bit. I do think your complaints are reasonable which is why it's important to stand up for yourself in the moment.

True

>>131595
life is not an anime being treated like a child barely has any benefits

>>131643
i would never willingly reproduce but i agree

>>131643
nope

>>131643
men won't look so tall anymore if every woman is a skyscraper. we need the mix for novelty! use! your! head! / preserve! height! rarity!

>>130912

Make a FODA listing all the reasons of why it would not work.

Emotionality is a reaction. React to the reasons it would not work.
Eventually you will start to feel the other way, disgust perhaps even.

Do not force feelings of disgust.

If possible, try to make the disgust for the idea of dating that man natural.

Men know when women like them and treat them better, if not, they use it to treat them badly to feel better.

Do not feel bad for men, if you do, you just will make yourself miserable. Adam was in charge, not eve. Men are not worth your energy.

Most men.

>>131020
>>131020
You're right, noona. I have been thinking of this for the past three months and you have put into words a feeling I was never able to express. Thank you.

>>131027

I am glad you can finally put your thoughts based on your sentimentalism, it is very hard to do so sometimes.

If you can, see about father-daughter relationships.

Older men, if they can see you as a "girl" or "daughter", if they are mature enough they will treat you more as a father figure and authority rather than "flirty" as most old men treat women.

Good men will treat you like a daughter if you treat them like you would treat your father if he was in their place.

That at least, has always worked for me. Old men always compare me to their own offspring, in some sort of way, if I treat them like that. Not in a flirty way.

I hope you can sort this out, have faith in your capacities nona xoxo

I'm back with some news about this…and nothing has happened. He's just pretty friendly to me, and most of the time when I catch him staring at me from affar, I notice that he's just…tender. He's younger than I thought! (28 yrs old, but stil close to thirty). Now I wish he was my uncle, lol.
If someone ever wondered how he looked like, here it is a cartoon character he reminds me of.

>>131874
I'm glad all's ended well.

>>131865
No I just don’t think you’re really an authority on the subject of friendship.

>>131866
>No I just don’t think you’re really an authority on the subject of friendship.

holy kek get fookin rekt m8 >>131865

>>131863
>What kind of fucking friend group is that
An awful terrible one. I can't even describe the mess that was born out of this stupid shit.
That mentally ill retard was a pretty girly bi-fag, so he also flirted with people from that group to get them on their side or whatever retarded garbage, I got really annoyed that people felt sorry for him and started shit talking my friend group behind their backs. Of course I really didn't mean any of those insults and its clear as day that it was just the ramblings of someone that got really mad, somehow people from that group I spoke to started gossiping about my shit talk and then like a bunch of randos joined in and like started treating the thing like a weird YT drama, commenting about what was happening and what should be done, while also leaking my DMs and making a big deal out of it.
Like me and my boyfriend spoke about it and simply decided he was not allowed to interact with us ever again and yet suddenly I got approached aggresively the other day. "How dare you shit talk us during all of this." And well I had to deal with a bunch of retarded aggresive comments, I just left them and decided to never look back.
This entire situation is nonsense and seems like petty HS drama but all of these people are in their 20s some of them like fully employed even. I'm in my mid 20s and my bf is in his late 20s, we are all literally grown ass men and women.
What kind of stunted development they had that they want to live themselves through petty retarded ''dramas''?
I'm glad I distanced myself but it still sucks that I've lost a friend group despite it objectively being for the better, I still have some dumb sentimentality left over.

>>131869
looks like you were a perfect fit for that friend group, what kind of a woman in her mid 20s starts talking shit behind her friends' backs, trying to justify it with "oh, but i didn't really mean it" and expects no drama after that?
also your bf def shittalks about you behind your back, geg

This OP post sounds like the biggest pile of bullshit ever.

you can go on home, you got what you need
take my heart and put it up on your sleeve
tear it up so they can all sing along
live out your life
i’ll never tell you you're wrong
baby, don't forget, don't forget it's our song
i’ll be the thing that lives in the dream when it's gone
i’ll be the thing that lives in the dream when it's gone

𝒮𝓊𝓃𝒹𝒶𝓎 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝒶 𝒷𝓇𝒾𝑔𝒽𝓉 𝒹𝒶𝓎 𝓎𝑒𝓈𝓉𝑒𝓇𝒹𝒶𝓎
𝒟𝒶𝓇𝓀 𝒸𝓁𝑜𝓊𝒹 𝒽𝒶𝓈 𝒸𝑜𝓂𝑒 𝒾𝓃𝓉𝑜 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓌𝒶𝓎
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒸𝒶𝓃'𝓉 𝐼 𝒻𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝒾𝓉?
𝒜𝓂 𝐼 𝓉𝑜𝑜 𝒷𝓁𝒾𝓃𝒹 𝓉𝑜 𝓈𝑒𝑒?
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒹𝒾𝒹 𝒽𝑒 𝑔𝑜?
𝒲𝒽𝓎 𝒹𝒾𝒹 𝒽𝑒 𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓋𝑒 𝓂𝑒?

This Sunday instrumental is goated btw

Oh, won't you lay down with me?
Let yourself be free

Hold your breath, don't breathe
Just believe in me
Trust you're coming with me
We can finally be free

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcYfWknChuo

>>131687
>>131688
Moby lover <3

Why is all his new music so shit. It started being shit after he quit drugs and alcohol.

>>131845
On the contrary, the last 10 years of my life have been fraught with seemingly insurmountable difficulties and now that I have a second chance at life, I don't intend to waste it and it's filled my soul with boundless energy. Don't take your life for granted. Life is beautiful

>>131845
Please address your health issues especially if you are on your parents insurance. Regardless I feel somewhat similar, except I’ve worked really hard for a bullshit degree and career path that won’t work out. Sort of followed my dreams to a fault. I know I would not be happy doing anything else but I fear I cannot be happy doing this either and should have kept rotting like during Covid.

you have a job so it's not so bad, you can always get a higher education and find your passion, maybe in 5, 10, 15 years, half of the population under 25 is in your exact same place. i'm in the same boat but with no income lol. you should start motivating yourself by doing little things, like skincare, painting, easy stuff, i've found a lot of interests that way that made me a bit less miserable. i'd also love to just bedrot and doomscroll forever but then the guilt hits

>Decide to join again and send my pussy and tits to the mod
Nigga why?

>>128419
God I wish that were me (Revy). I'm weak and skinny

>>130609
same

>>128419
>Women think my art is made by my boyfriend
>I join the VC , get told for my face to be stomped
>send my pussy and tits to the mod
>I posted this photo of this painting I made of my boyfriend who has big honkers
Yeah that happened
anon if any of this is true, I'd look into therapy because none of this is normal behaviour