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pros/cons of your bf Anonymous 105405[Reply]

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!
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Anonymous 126235

Pros
> has job that would survive AI job takeover apocalypse
> right amount of chubby
> tries his best to do things right by everyone
> decent morals
> is funny
> has interesting things to say

Cons
> does not practice what he preaches
> lies by omission unless you figure out the precise question to get the truth out of him
> completely impotent due to former(?) porn addiction
> brown

Anonymous 126987

>>126126
So untrue it is crazy. If a man was larger than me I would know other women were constantly trying to hide their smirks at how fat I looked. It would trigger my body dysmorphia. Every time I see a woman larger than her man I take a picture of them from behind and draw their outlines and it’s so funny. I once saw a woman who could fit almost three of her boyfriend’s waist in her fat body. I love it when she’s a head taller and her shoulders are wider than his and you know they can’t share clothes. And it makes men insecure and hide in the house and not want to be seen with you. Like play games all weekend when he would have wanted to show you off instead.

Anonymous 127006

> use ctrl f
> type porn
> 45 mentions

0_0

Anonymous 127008

>>126987
are you a new schizo or one of the old ones

Anonymous 127009

>>127006
i feel gross for even thinking of it but it makes me so uncomfortable knowing what men do online and having to wonder about it. i never want to be in a relationship again with someone i know is like porn sick. the absolute stomach lurch from hearing men casually mention all the porn theyve watched. there’s just no way it doesn’t change the way they view women. and it makes me want to cry they want to do those things to me and see me like that rather than like a nice girl who loves their soul.



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Anonymous 126216[Reply]

I Made A List Of Everything Your Doing Wrong and This Argument Seems Like A Great Time To Bring It Up
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Anonymous 126221

>>126219
No I Think You Need To Be Reminded

Anonymous 126230

>>126216
Literally whataboutism…
If it's unrelated, it's unrelated.
Unless whatever happened in the current situation is somehow caused by whatever went wrong in the past. But usually, it's something that's caused by not having fixed something that had already been wrong in the past. But even then, you could focus on solutions instead of just faulting someone to put them down. Some list shouldn't be the end of a discussion, even if the argument likely requires some pauses because people need time to process emotions and if they don't take the time, they might opt for whatever solution is the fastest rather than most effective.

Anonymous 126234

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Ok Kanaya Maryam

Anonymous 126985

>>126230
There are some things that are always going to be relevant. If someone did something like cheat or put their hands on anyone even in the past, every action of theirs should be weighed against it like “Should I bother dealing with someone who leaves the toilet seat up when I know he cheated on me?” and the answer is “No.”

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/rock bottom/ - general Anonymous 76609[Reply]

This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.
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Anonymous 125611

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In the end it really amounted to nothing, not that life was meant to be to my liking. There's something utterly wrong with me. I don't know where to go but am I supposed to go anywhere?

Anonymous 125666

Retarded boiler in my room started leaking so I put a bucket under it and prayed it would go away. 2 days of bedrotting later the bucket has overfilled and the leak has gone down to my living room forming a big bulge on the ceiling. Probably gonna have to call someone to look at it and they’ll have to go into my depression room. Also I have the worst social anxiety ever. Fuck my life.

Anonymous 126933

Not rock bottom yet but I'm getting there, everyone is currently treating me as if I did something horrific just because my performance at work hasn't been the best for the last few months, this is even stretching into my family thinking this

Anonymous 126990

>>125666
You should be evicted for letting water damage happen. I hope you get sued.

Anonymous 126997

>>126990
i think they own wouldn’t it be their neighbors living room if not



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growing up ugly Anonymous 125729[Reply]

can you ever heal from growing up unwanted + ostracized by your peers? I've slowly but surely improved my looks and the feedback I usually get is above average. but I still feel hideous, like an alien or lesser-than. getting asked out as a joke and being made to feel like you're "gross" is rough. i analyze my looks so much i don't even know what I look like any more.

anyone here grow up ugly, glow up, and not feel like that same ugly kid?

it probably has more to do with me having not been white in a predominantly white area. i was kind of a cute kid.

Anonymous 125731

>>125729
Can the moids making this AstroTurf slop get it through their heads we know it's their bitter agenda ? Can we talk about it once and for all mods? They're pissed at our pinkpill, etc threads so moids plaster cc with smear content like this.

Nobody actually talks like that in real life

Anonymous 125735

>can you ever heal from growing up unwanted + ostracized by your peers?
This one is really hard desu and requires a lot of support from others to recover. Bottom line is you need to be wanted and accepted by others.
If the extent of the damage done to you by ostracization was limited to your self-esteem, you'll probably have an easier time recovering by simply glowing up and changing your environment to a less racist one. You have an issue but you're pretty independent socially.
But if there was serious damage done to your socialization to a point where you're self-isolating weird etc then you'll need much more actual help.

Anonymous 125739

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>>125731
Not OP, but sometimes I think some women in spaces like these sort of take it as a slight against all women when a woman talks about feeling ugly, lonely or pathetic or like a loser or something, and they feel the need to overperform how much of an outlier she is or that she's probably a larping moid, like embarrassedly saying "she's not with us" in case an outsider conflates her situation with yours. I don't think that's very fair. This mindset is why I never feel like I can vent about never having a boyfriend before, as if that's somehow remotely implying that applies to everyone here. It doesn't and you shouldn't care what hatereading scrotes think, even with perfect optics they would still make up bullshit reasons to insult women anyway, as they always have done for centuries including back when female outcasts were less prevalent than today.

If anything, I think it's a bit of a horseshoe to imply all women naturally live fabulous lives free of any insecurity, stress or problems. And maybe I'm being a retarded schizo, but "pinkpill" seems like an Inglourious Basterds wrong fingers moment. I thought feminism is the purplepill, and the pinkpill is moid discord/preddit tranny shit.

I dunno. Just seems a bit strange to argue we need to ban women for feeling miserable or suffering, and assuming an anecdote of a girl being harassed by moidlets is actually unrealistic anti-woman propaganda.

Anonymous 125741

>>125739
There has been some complaining about "embarrassing" posts here on /feels/ but really I don't think this thread falls anywhere under that umbrella

Anonymous 126992

>>125731
I’ve only ever seen men have this experience you’re right.



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Anonymous 125860[Reply]

Why is everyone telling me to stop making excuses when I'm just trying to explain how hard it is to get up in the morning, how hard it is to talk to people, and how hard it is to remember whether I brushed my teeth?
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Anonymous 125871

>>125870
I'd say it's pretty normal to not want to get up in the morning if it means having to deal with some assholes who berate you all the time and don't even want to listen to you. Some people are just incapable of dealing with a human they have power over. And some of them are parents. Best of luck nona.

Anonymous 125882

>>125860
I've been there. I promise, it can get better, even if it's a slow process…
But yeah, you're not "making excuses", you're struggling and those people could help you instead of pointlessly complaining about what you're actively suffering from.
But some people simply don't get it. It can be so frustrating, I've had breakdowns over this before with different people. It's a special kind of hell when people don't understand you and you try to express it in different ways and rather than just taking you by your word, they pretend like they can relate somehow and totally get it but by what they're saying, you can tell that they really don't…
I hope you have a therapist you can talk to at least… And that you're getting support, even from the people who don't fully understand. I'd hope they're trying to help at least, even if they're apparently quite bad at it.

Anonymous 125884

>>125860
They don't understand because they never had something like that happen to them. Unfortunately depression is something very few people can actually understand or even sympathize with, people always think there are worse things in life etc etc Trying to explain to them is useless because they will always try to rationalize it when it's not something to rationalize.
Give yourself time, try read things online, self help and care can help a lot

Anonymous 125932

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Radahn, stop being a baby and brush your teeth, they smell like your sister´s rot

Anonymous 126988

>>125932
Wish I could say this to my best friends boyfriend. Imagine getting a new relationship when you’re so depressed and have no hobbies and friends and your new gf has to fix his self esteem cuz his “CRAZY EX” made him sad. And your entire first year of dating is you and him against the world baby. Meanwhile his ex is a normal woman who got cheated on and wouldn’t take him back. Who he still pines over publicly. While my best friend picks up after him and he pretends this is his first real relationship and he was the victim in all his other ones or “it just didn’t feel right like it does with you”. And what feels right is living like a depressed loser but she pays for half of it and does all the chores.



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 115657[Reply]

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Anonymous 126982

The person who is kind to a bad person isn’t a good person. They’re the devil whispering in their ear giving them more advice to continue being bad to everyone besides them. Why get better when you can isolate in hell? It’s just codependency for psychopaths. Come lay down in hell forever.

Anonymous 126983

You’ve even started to smell bad like he does. Everytime I see you two squinting in the sunlight trying to pretend you didn’t just hole up getting wasted and gaming for a week without seeing the sun I have to watch my best friend age ten years in one year and pretend to smile. Slurring your words at your big age pretending it’s the first time both of you felt love, shit talk your normal exes, pretend you don’t find the things this man is saying corny. You make this face when he speaks where you try to look happy and in love, but first you sort of cringe back then try to quickly turn your facial expression to like oh I didn’t understand but now i’m surprised and overjoyed! But the tightness around the eyes and mouth give away how embarrassing you find this. You both have this sweet smell of rot now. Your faces are always puffy and never drained. He looks like he has literally no soul and the way he acts like this is his first rodeo and you’re the first woman to ever show him kindness because you pay for everything for him makes me want to throw up. He is manipulating you. He is pushing forty. He has definitely had people pay for his food before. Why are you so naive? This man had almost no rental history yet all of these belongings. Do you not understand he was living off of someone else and spending all his money on himself just like he does now? Do you not get that he only pays for things when they also benefit him? Do you not get he’s only with you because you do the same things like drinking and video games he already wants to be doing? And now you pay for half? The pictures he posts of you are intentionally humiliating. You don’t even look like that. Tell me why a man would post pictures of you with food on your face or with your stomach bulging or mid sentence standing behind a group looking scared while he is with another girl in the front? You’re half his age and a head taller than him. Your ex used to be able to pick you up with one arm and paid your way. This man doesn’t even brush his teeth. This dude can’t even keep a hard on. This man doesn’t drink water. I want to scream whenever I hear you say he got you sucked into another drama where you never see proof of any of these things happening the way he claims. But oh you’ve got to fix it!! When it’s not your problem!!! He’s killing my best friend.

Anonymous 126995

forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.

Anonymous 127044

the faith i have in the unconfirmed existence of your heart is the thread i’ve been hanging on by. i hope i never find out that i’m wrong you care.

Anonymous 127052

Wish I didn’t spend our last conversation arguing. I miss you my sweet boy. I hope we’ll meet again in another life. And in that life, I would love to grow old with you.



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Ugh short guys... Anonymous 126821[Reply]

There's a gorgeous guy at my local library who genuinely looks like a fucking josei character irl. But he's unbelievably short. Like, literally around 5'4 compared to my 5'7. Such a shame…to have such a pretty and well defined face on the body of a little boy. This world is cruel.
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Anonymous 126906

>>126867
It literally is, he really expected women to be like "ohh that's so true sis slay" so he could take a screencap n bitch and moan in /r9k/ lmfao fucking loser

Anonymous 126908

>>126906
there’s like five women here and a bunch of men spamming. why do they care about this place? because it’s not morally evil inherently like lolcow is so they want to punish the women here more for just being nice and chill?

Anonymous 126910

>>126821
i miss u

Anonymous 126944

I'm 5'0" I'll take him

Anonymous 126981

>>126821
Truly embarrassing. You want to be three inches taller than your partner? You want to look down on his balding head and have everyone around you constantly notice you have wider shoulders and other embarrassing things that automatically make them and their relationship superior to you and yours? Being larger than your boyfriend is like having more money or a better job than your boyfriend. It’s like having a bigger body count than your boyfriend.



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dating ppl you’re not physically attracted to Anonymous 126942[Reply]

dating ppl you don’t find attractive is actually one of the most selfish and cruelest things some ppl do to each other. i can’t stand how some ppl actually think this is a virtuous act and think this makes the love you have for someone more valid. stop doing this. you’re way better off alone than doing this to another person.

Anonymous 126943

>>126942
This happens like extremely rarely anyway

Anonymous 126948

>>126942
You're right, and you also helped double convince me against even thinking about messing with this guy tonight. I was caught between "is he cute or the only guy dressed well tonight" and that's probably enough of a reason to just not.
I've been on the back end of that scenario, it's not fun. he was a porn sick guy who really didn't care about the woman's looks so long as they had a large cup size. I am small chested and eventually he sprung the "gift" of implants on me. And yeah it would be using the guy in a gross way, even if he technically is interested (but with a presumably excited and willing partner which I guess I'm not). My thoughts for getting with him absolutely are not virtuous though, I am lonely and post bad breakup with the aforementioned asshole lmao. I think some girls with uggos are like me, and some probably have low self esteem too like one of my friends who absolutely could do better than her ogrish Redditor bf

Anonymous 126959

icl my boyfriend is hella ugly

Anonymous 126973

>>126959
mine too lol but im so into it he's just so unique i need him. only problem is i cant stop thirsting over randoms bc theyre attractive. its too bad attractive men dont have personalities



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Anonymous 106726[Reply]

post yr ideal partner
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Anonymous 119837

>>119831

ideally i'd be the first of seven and he'd forget about doing the other six

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Anonymous 119854

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

Anonymous 119857

>>113773
>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.

Anonymous 126972

>>119668
I know a guy almost exactly like this, minus the TERF part.



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Anonymous 126292[Reply]

What does it feel like to be in a happy fulfilling relationship with someone you’re attracted both physically and emotionally?
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Anonymous 126324

It's pretty nice I enjoy it

Anonymous 126349

reading this post just made me want to smash my head against a wall. it's so bad that even the slightest mention of a "happy couple" sends me into a downwards spiral. i hate being lonely.

Anonymous 126350

>>126349
Don't chase the bonding chemical highs lol

Anonymous 126377

>>126350
people really get drunk on brain chemicals and then think when they’re depleted or you’ve developed a tolerance it means the spark faded. there was never a spark. he was just love bombing.

Anonymous 126960

No one has these anymore. Everyone just marries who they’re with when they turn 30 now.



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