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Anonymous 130287[Reply]

I'm ugly. I'm overweight. I'm extremely socially anxious and autistic, which is why I haven't had a single friend in almost ten years. I lack hygiene, I'm incredibly insecure and feel the need to kill myself when I have to think of my pathetic existence. Nothing is fun to me because I cannot concentrate for the life of me. I have tried to change my life multiple times but I cannot stick with it. Instead, my body keeps being pulled in to bed and my fate is probably to rot here forever.
Only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I'm still young, only 20, so I am hoping for a miracle… Advice would be very appreciated. If there is any at this point.
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Anonymous 130303

>>130288
my doctor wont prescribe stimulants for my adhd because I am fat and my blood pressure is too high T.T

Anonymous 130308

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>>130300
>My next therapist used 'talking therapy' which involved me getting things off my chest, then they would give their professional feedback on thought patterns or behaviours.
That does sound helpful, and even though I didn't go to therapy because of childhood trauma, I wish mine was like that too. I wish she would give her professional insights on my problems but instead, she just invalidates every single one of mine. I tell her I have issues with masking constantly since I was a child, and her response to these kinds of things is "No, you don't seem to have that problem"?? It's like going to the doctor because your knee hurts, and they just tell you "No, your knee doesn't hurt. I think you're just imagining the pain!" She also told me that I cannot be autistic because my of my good ability read and write, and because I can feel emotions (I thought she was kidding me but no). What she probably meant was that I cannot be autistic because I'm a woman lol.
>there are extroverted nice people who like the same things you do and will make the effort to connect - so please don't hide from them :)
Well that sounds encouraging, I have met extroverts before who were very kind to me, I guess they liked that I'm quiet because that gave them more space to talk hah. I think I will try to attend such meeting, and if it sucked, I won't have to see the people ever again.
>Keep posting here with updates:) I believe in you!
Thank you anon, I will update under this thread in a month or two from now, I'll try to do as much of your advice as I can!

Anonymous 130309

>>130301
I'm really sorry about that, but I am positive that we can make it out of it. As you have said, you were able to pull yourself out before a couple of times. Also I think it helps to hear of other nonas who went through the same and got better eventually. I think putting in a bunch of effort is worth a try, no matter how hard it will be.
>>130303
Hmm, I have heard of obese people being prescribed stimulants such as vyvanse for weightloss since it suppresses your hunger a lot… Maybe make him aware of that. You'd solve two problems at once.

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>>130301
How does your body feel physically? Do you have an illness? I know I said to the OP, but please also get a full blood panel (including serum iron + ferritin) if possible.

Anonymous 132071

>>130287
How it going OP?



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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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Anonymous 132006

>>132005
I'm not Indian but okay.

Anonymous 132021

>>132001
are you sure it's your skull making you unlovable

Anonymous 132048

A bimax and nose job would make it possible for me to get loved i think. I can afford them in the future. It would fix my side profile. Then fat transfer for my undereyes and canthoplasty, all of these would at least fix my subhumanity to certain extend. I could wear clothes without worrying about my side profile. Yep

Anonymous 132055

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I saw a handsome guy today and my day is ruined again

Anonymous 132056

>>132055
You can't let them keep getting away with it. Next time you see a handsome guy you walk right up to him and let him know that he owes you sex and attention.



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Cool facts about women! Anonymous 132063[Reply]

1. During pregnancy, cells pass back and forth between a mother and her baby. What is truly amazing is that these baby's cells can stay active in the mother's body for decades after birth—a phenomenon known as fetal microchimerism.
If a mother’s heart, liver, or other organs suffer an injury later in life, these lingering fetal cells will actually migrate straight to the site of the damage. Once there, they can transform into the specific types of cells needed to help repair and heal her body.

2. A surprising number of life-saving and everyday inventions were born purely out of women looking out for others. In 1902, a woman named Mary Anderson was riding a streetcar during a freezing sleet storm in New York City. She noticed that the driver had to keep opening the front window to manually wipe away the ice, leaving him shivering and delaying the passengers.
Feeling bad for the freezing driver, she went home and sketched out a lever-operated rubber blade that could clear the window from inside the cabin. She patented the very first windshield wipers a year later, entirely because she wanted a stranger to stay warm and dry.

3. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a brilliant group of women known as the "Harvard Computers" completely revolutionized astronomy. At a time when women weren't allowed to operate the university's telescopes, they were hired to analyze thousands of photographic glass plates of the night sky by hand.
Despite being barred from the actual observatory equipment, their mathematical precision unlocked the universe. Annie Jump Cannon created the star classification system still used by scientists today, and Henrietta Swan Leavitt discovered how to measure distances in deep space—the exact "cosmic yardstick" Edwin Hubble later used to prove the universe is expanding.

4. Biologically, some women possess an actual superpower when it comes to perceiving the world. While the average person has three types of color-sensing cone cells in their eyes, a genetic variation allows some women to possess four distinct types of cones.
This condition, called tetrachromacy, allows them to see up to 100 million different colors—roughly 100 times more than the rest of us. Where a standard eye sees a basic green leaf or a gray concrete wall, a tetrachromat can perceive an incredibly rich, shifting gradient of entirely distinct shades and tones that most people simply cannot detect.

Women are amazing!

Anonymous 132064

5. You can thank a woman for the secure wireless connections we use every day. In 1942, Hollywood actress and inventor Hedy Lamarr co-developed a "frequency-hopping spread spectrum" technology.
Originally designed to prevent radio-controlled Allied torpedoes from being jammed by the Axis powers during World War II, her concept of constantly switching radio frequencies became the foundational blueprint for modern Wi-Fi, Bluetooth, and GPS.

6. From a purely biological standpoint, women are built with a remarkably resilient immune system. The X chromosome contains a massive concentration of genes responsible for immune function and microRNAs that regulate the body's defenses.
Because women have two X chromosomes, their immune systems have a built-in redundancy system. If a pathogen mutates to bypass one genetic defense mechanism, the second X chromosome frequently provides a secondary line of code to recognize and fight off the infection. This is a primary reason why women generally exhibit higher survival rates during severe global pandemics and respiratory epidemics.

7. In short-to-mid-distance athletic performance, men hold general advantages in raw speed and explosive power due to higher muscle mass and larger lung capacities. However, as race distances extend into extreme ultra-endurance territory (such as 200-plus mile ultramarathons) the gender performance gap closes dramatically, and women frequently win these grueling events outright.
This is driven by an evolutionary metabolic difference regulated by estrogen. During prolonged, sub-maximal physical exertion, the female body is significantly more efficient at lipid oxidation (breaking down stored fat for fuel) while sparing limited glycogen (carbohydrate) reserves.
Because the human body holds tens of thousands of calories in fat stores but only a few thousand in glycogen, women possess a built-in efficiency advantage for multi-day pacing, allowing them to maintain structural stamina long after carbohydrate-dependent pacing strategies break down.

Anonymous 132065

8. When the Electronic Numerical Integrator and Computer, “ENIAC” (the world’s first programmable, digital computer) was unveiled in 1946, the engineers who built the hardware were hailed as pioneers. But the machine itself was just a massive, silent room of vacuum tubes, wires, and switches. To make it do something useful, a team of six mathematicians was hired: Jean Bartik, Frances "Betty" Holberton, Kathleen Antonelli, Marlyn Meltzer, Frances Spence, and Ruth Teitelbaum.
At the time, "software" didn't exist as a concept or a career. These women were handed raw electronic schematics of the machine and told to figure out how to make it calculate complex calculus equations. Without programming languages, manuals, or operating systems, they manually mapped out logical data flows, invented the concepts of subroutines and nested loops, and physically programmed the computer by configuring thousands of switches and cables. They literally drafted the blueprint for modern software engineering.

9. The global lifespan gap, where women systematically outlive men by an average of 5 years, isn't just a result of lifestyle choices. It is tied to basic cellular preservation.
Every time a human cell divides, the protective caps at the ends of its chromosomes, called telomeres, shorten. When telomeres get too short, the cell stops functioning and dies. However, the female hormone estrogen directly stimulates the production of telomerase, an enzyme that repairs and maintains these chromosomal caps. This molecular defense slows down the rate of cellular aging, giving women a systemic biological advantage against the structural degradation of tissues and blood vessels over a lifetime.

10. From a genetic standpoint, women do not possess a uniform genetic expression across their entire body. Because a double dose of X-chromosome genes would cause a toxic overproduction of proteins, female embryos undergo a process called Lyonization (discovered by geneticist Mary Lyon) during early development.
In every single embryonic cell, one of the two X chromosomes is randomly selected, crumpled up into a dense, silent ball called a Barr body, and permanently turned off.
Because this selection happens independently in each cell, a woman's body develops as a literal patchwork quilt of genetic expression. Some patches of tissue exclusively use the X chromosome inherited from her mother, while neighboring patches use the X chromosome from her father.
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Anonymous 132066

Thank you anon. Have a nice day.



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Prayer Thread Anonymous 122943[Reply]

For yourself, for others, for the world, any way you want to pray.
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Anonymous 123775

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Praying that everyone takes up the cross, praying that everyone sees the power humility, praying that pennance is done for degenerate lives we tolerate.

Anonymous 131889

can i get a prayer. can i get a prayer, anyone

Anonymous 131964

>>131889
A prayer for anything specifically?

Regardless may god bless and keep you always friend. God stays with anyone who wants to be kind and better themselves in this world.

Anonymous 131975

>>131964
nothing in particular, all i wanted was to see who'd reply. thank-you

Anonymous 132057

i pray for your light to illuminate my face. Please show me your light.



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need advice Anonymous 132010[Reply]

I'm aware of how retarded I am being but I am deeply in love with a fictional character. From the moment I wake up I am thinking of him to the time I go to sleep. It makes me want to cry since he's not real and would never be able to hold me or speak to me. I am thinking of getting a body pillow or sexo doll modeled after him but I am scared even then that won't be enough. Any Anons struggle with this? I need advice on how to deal with love for fictional husbandos.. Underneath my skin feels itchy when I think of him and my head starts hurting. It hurts physically. I love him so dearly.. I feel so crazy I am literally planning on modeling a sexo doll after him and staging a wedding in the middle of the woods with him.
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Anonymous 132036

Honestly you could do a lot worse than Medic.

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>>132034
It's not too weird considering where we are posting she can be very much genuine. There's also the girl who made an engie doll lol. I support them tbh.

Anonymous 132040

>>132038
At first this picture made me sad because she seems lonely but if that doll brings her any comfort, then I can understand why she'd want it.

Anonymous 132045

I was a scout fan myself.

Anonymous 132052

We all been there nonita, you'll get over him. But if you don't go see a psychiatrist



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meds Anonymous 132037[Reply]

I feel so weird about being on zoloft. I ran out and because of my autism and the depression they're supposed to control I haven't gotten it refilled yet. I'm going to try tomorrow. I feel so much better when I'm on it but I feel weird like I start not to be bothered by actual facts of the world that affect me. Like it's turning me into a stupid idiot who just puts her head in the sand, but it hurts so much less when I'm medicated.

Anonymous 132039

Could it be you’re less apathetic now? Shit is supposed to bother you to a healthy degree
I guess if it’s that distressing you need to tell your doc



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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132027

>>132025
Is it love or merely infatuation? If he treats you so poorly, what is it you love about him?

Anonymous 132028

>>132027
i guess i’m in love with the old him. i’m keep thinking he’ll go back someday. he used to treat me so good

Anonymous 132029

>>132028
Sometimes people change. The ideas they're absorbing, the experiences they live through, etc. It can all change how someone perceives the world and how they behave. If speaking with him doesn't help, it'll be very difficult to see eye to eye

Anonymous 132030

>6 months
This is not worth it
Please block him or something he’s manipulating you

Anonymous 132031

>>132028
>he used to treat me so good
This is exactly how it starts. It is also a pattern with moids from conservative culture that I’ve noticed. They treat women like queens but then also like shit because of how they objectify us or something. So he really doesn’t love you even though he fills some sort of unfulfilled emotional need.



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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 131147

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Also this
>As long as you don't break any of the rules, you're good to go.
Turned out to be a lie, kek

At least these days

Anonymous 131159

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Think making one of those animation channels about my lyfe would be pretty epic like Jaiden

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>>130441
>I started simply getting everything I didn't get before, it's like emotions were a sense no less than smell, taste or vision. I don't know how to describe it, things suddenly started making sense.
Found this pic while purging my downloads folder and it made me think of this
Big if true

Anonymous 131545

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Humans are beasts of narrative. This sentence alone can explain so much. Humans can't be expected to be the consistently rational agent in economics or politics. Nowadays, we try to reject irrationality a lot, like religion or astrology. You can fedora tip all you want but these things aren't pure delusion - they're covering some sort of immaterial need that humans have.

I spoke earlier how lacking emotions made me duller >>130441 , almost as if I couldn't see the full picture of whatever's going on. I also now remember realizing that I had no internal self-narrative. I believe this is why most people failed to read me or found me creepy. I didn't see myself much beyond a body that is capable in some ways and incapable in others.
Most people around me had some idea about themselves they tried reinforcing. Oh, that one is trying to look above it all, that one is always describing herself as narcissistic and a main character, almost as if trying to convince herself. Maybe this is why my true self never really felt seen by those mostly narrative driven individuals.

Apparently from what I found science confirms some of my ideas.
https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/12/1/1/2823712?login=false - The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization by Lisa Feldman Barrett
>In other words, an instance of emotion is constructed the same way that all other perceptions are constructed, using the same well-validated neuroanatomical principles for information flow within the brain

https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn894 and https://arxiv.org/abs/2112.12290 - on Interoception.
>Recent functional anatomical work has detailed an afferent neural system in primates and in humans that represents all aspects of the physiological condition of the physical body. This system constitutes a representation of 'the material me', and might provide a foundation for subjective feelings, emotion and self-awareness.

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Anonymous 132012

>>130077
>A lot of games have unnecessarily expensive graphics because the corporate demands that

a lost art in video games is allowing the audience to fill in the gaps with their own imagination. I think squaresoft perfected this in the late 90s before the PS2 ruined everything.



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Why are moids so fucking retarded Anonymous 131985[Reply]

Is it because of porn addiction?
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Anonymous 131995

>>131994
Spoken like a true moid. Like a filthy moid. Disgusting moid can’t get its mind out of the gutter as expected. Visualizing me masturbating in vivid detail probably. Actual subhuman monkey behavior you don’t even know what I look like all you want to do is fuck without any regard for what you’re even fucking.

Anonymous 131996

>>131995
Just cum already this is silly

Anonymous 131997

>>131993
>nature needs to patch them out already
This is already happening to an extent. Coomers and gooners aren't breeding, so their degenerate genes aren't passed on.

Anonymous 131998

>>131997
This will only fully work if you make the sex as unpleasant for them as humanly possible, otherwise the coomerism will reawaken in their offspring even if your mate is only attracted to you

Anonymous 131999

>>131998
they cant have sex because they cant stay hard during it. self-fixing problem



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Anonymous 130433[Reply]

I broke up with my boyfriend today. It feels like the right decision, he works too much so he isn't available a lot, but i feel upset that all my plans are gone. i wanted to move in with him and get married. get a cat and live comfortably with the love of my life, it all feels quite bittersweet. and now i have to spend a considerable amount of time scrubbing him from my life. deleting all the photos of him, taking off my necklaces with his initial, removing our playlist we made together and all the lovey dovey nicknames i gave to him on various apps, it's a lot of work. and the worst part is it is exam season which is why i was hesitant with breaking up with him, i know it will distract me majorly from it all.

Anonymous 130435

>>130433
its okay nona, it feels bittersweet because it freshly happened. try to focus on your education for now, it will be important for your future.

Anonymous 131977

I guess you can break up with someone for any reason, but breaking up with him for simply being busy is retarded. Focusing on exams and studies sounds right though

Anonymous 131979

>>130433
He should fuck black men

Anonymous 131980

yea, breaking up with someone you love makes sense, especially if they are busy. you meet the love of ur life a thousands of times but you only have one education in ur life so make the most of the latter



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