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i h8 my life Anonymous 128690[Reply]

im a fat 18f girl, ive never had a boyfriend and ive been a fucking loner my whole life, people avoid me girls i know are fake and spread retarded rumours about me for no reason other then they just dont like me. i wanna get so skinny and pretty they regret or i can just die.

who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me, i tried to get better but it never lasts, going to the psych ward twice messed it up i wish theyd just let me die. stupid anti psychotics made me gain weight as soon as i was near my goal weight. atleast im off it now i faked adhd symptoms to get on adderall it suppresses my appetite and i lost 5kg in a week. i dont even take the reccomended dose it does nothing if its under 40mg tbh, its great i never feel hungry. i hope i get skinny enough that these stupid people can see im a person too under all the disgusting fat. if i dont lose the weight this year its over lollll
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Anonymous 128830

I'm with you, I just graduated high school at 18 and I feel so lost and existentially empty. I dealt with some bullying for my weight and thinking I was ugly no matter what, I still get scared if my shirts are too low cut because I'm that self conscious

Anonymous 128845

To be attractive you must first love yourself, then comes looks.

Don't change to please others, change to please yourself.

Build healthy habits that make yourself feel good and lose weight slowly as a bonus, shortcuts like adderall will hurt you long term.

You are 18, Adult life have not even started yet, you have so much time so don't stress about everything.

Focus on the healthy small things that make you feel good and build those habits slowly.
Write down goals that are reasonable and strive to reach them.

Start easy like a little bit of exercise every day to get your body moving, it can literally be just stretching in the beginning to build the routine, a walk outdoors every day and minimum of 3 eggs for breakfast for nutrition and vitamins.

As you read this, improve your body position by just 5%, stretch something that is stiff, just a little. See, feels better.
Continue like that every now and then. Small habits grow with time.

Anonymous 128865

you're just 18, barely an adult yet. maybe it's a function of my social circle but most people i know including myself didn't have our first relationship until college when we were older than 18

i second getting a part time job, it'll help keep you busy and you'll be standing or walking rather than sitting down + you can start saving to buy makeup and clothes so win win

Anonymous 128866

>>128737

this is bad advice lol

OP you should count calories rather than having rules like this. You lose weight as long as you're in a deficit.

Whole foods and fruits are good ofc but you can def still stay in a deficit and have more than 1 fruit a meal lmao. Also it's not that hard to allocate a couple hundred calories in the week for a sweet treat. If you over restrict you'll probably end up binge eating eventually.

You can hit the gym everyday as long as you're hitting a different muscle group every time but you should take a rest day for muscles to repair between training the same area.

Anonymous 129201

>>128690
>adderall
quit that shit
>who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me
people are increasingly valuing honest, kind, genuine souls
not saying it fetches a fair price on the market but people are growing sick of fake shit

>>128737
>the only sugar you get is from fruits
this is the ultimate truth


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I'm so mad im from da hood.. Anonymous 129188[Reply]

I am a black girl from da hood and I hate it so much. And no this is not self hating shit, I don't hate being black, I just hate that I was raised in a ghetto desolate city with no hope or future. It's just ghetto shit and I don't relate. I never did, when I was a kid I felt so alienated from everything in my real life so I retreated to the internet since it was the only way I could find non-normies. Everyone around me is obsessed with rap and gang culture shit so it's hard to find peoplel that admire classical and deep stuff with fucking meaning. I wish I was born in a small French town so bad. I want to learn French so I can join a nunnery there. I WILL fucking escape this life. I will make it out of here. A part of me dies every time I have to leave the house.

Anonymous 129189

>>129188
good for you nona you have a dream and it seems you're willing to fight for it,. you can definitely get out. much love

Anonymous 129192

politicians and billionaires made it this way on purpose and they have names and addresses

Anonymous 129200

Go, escape. Build a beautiful life for yourself.
Don't let anyone tell you no. Your mind alone proves you deserve out of that environment.


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Does anyone have a fear of never finding love? Anonymous 128837[Reply]

It's fine if I never find love or die alone. It's not a fear for me because life is life and I have my books, my cats, and my friends. But sometimes, maybe it's hormones or basic human fears, but I worry that never finding love will prove something about myself, like I am unworthy or a repellent of any sort of love. Around my period these feels worsen as is natural, but sometimes there is a hole in my belly from that fear and I can't let it go and I get anxious.

Anonymous 128891

>>128837
Yeah, I also feel this way. The thought of living my whole life without ever experiencing it because it's kind of plastered all over the media, in books, movies, music, even irl people place such importance on it that if you miss out on it you might feel like there's something wrong with you or you're unworthy or something. But honestly I think most people live without ever finding actual love in general. Most relationships seem to be just out of convenience or hierarchies or shallow shit. Or maybe I'm just trying to rationalize it idk. I mean even if you try to be realistic about it it's still a scary feeling. But at the end of the day I feel like most people feel this way deep down. Its a very human feeling I think

Anonymous 128945

this summarizes my feelings perfectly

Anonymous 128954

Same, nona. I think I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll be alone, because I'm afraid of being broken again after several failed attempts, and I believe that genuine love is hard to find these days.

Anonymous 128955

It's pretty much certain at thi point real love isn't possible, only infatuation. Most men and a lot of women can't commit to one person for too long, are afraid of emotional availability and responsibility. People want a lifetime long honeymoon phase where you can also see other people and your partner won't be mad about it.

Anonymous 129196

No, because i love myself and got used to being my own best friend. Find love within yourself, spread kindness, and youll glow with joy that will attract good people. Also i cut off crappy people out of my life since i dont have time or energy for dumb kid drama


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Anonymous 129167[Reply]

Anyone here autistic with ADHD?

Anonymous 129179

Yeah everyone. Why do you think we're on the internet handwriting AI slop comments instead of do something productive

Anonymous 129182

Probably ADHD, but not autistic
What's with the perched position? I understand that squatting is important for your legs and knees, but why do it on a chair?

Anonymous 129194

>>129182
Something called proprioception actually, needing extra information about where our body is in with respect to space to feel comfortable about, or something like that.


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Anonymous 129166[Reply]

I am so fucking angry that I have to work for the rest of my life. The concept of working is fucking cruel if you think about it long enough. We are slaving our lives away and for what? To not be homeless? The homeless have more freedom than us. I am neet currently but I will be forced into slavery soon since my money is running out. The last job I had, I only lasted a week at. It was genuinely traumatic. Working was 10x more traumatic than when I was molested and soon I'm going to have to fucking do it again for the next 50 years. My life is a nightmare I wish I was aborted. I just want to play vidya all day that's it. That's my only goal
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Anonymous 129176

>>129175
TBH it's kind of BECAUSE we want things like internet and other luxuries that we work so long.
There is no great movement to join the Amish or Nunneries or Communes. All those things still exist and people don't go to them. Their lifestyles are even better than peasants too.

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>>129176
Sweet summer child, you are underestimating the wast difference between productivity levels then and now. Thing is, when productivity rises so do taxes, so that plebs can never rise up, no matter how advanced technology gets. On the contrary, technology enables a tighter grip on the masses.

Anonymous 129178

It's not taxes, you fool, taxes are a percent. It's rent. The rent always goes up until people can't afford it and the landlord laugh all the way to the bank. Luigi had the right idea.

Anonymous 129191

Your pedophile overlords need your tax money

Anonymous 129193

Luigi your landlord today.


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Commie moids Anonymous 128878[Reply]

Is it a good idea to date a hardcore commie moid? [Sorry for bad English it's my second language]
>met him at a book fair with other friends
>he was in a booth encouraging people to read commie books and even gave digital copies to some
>I'm 23 he is 21
>he is studying medicine and im studying engineering
>we kinda flirted and I have a date with him on Sunday
Is it a red flag for a moid to be a commie? [Pun intended]
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Anonymous 128939

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>So im back from the date
had a great time and learned a lot about him
FYI I like asking about his prior gfs just to weed out red flags
>Pros
>He is kind
>He is attentive
>He is really smart
>he isn't condescending (most smart moids are unbearable)
>I really enjoyed our conversation
>Surprisingly he has a part-time job
>he paid for the date
>told me about his exes when I asked he has had 3 (the first he ended on bad terms, the other two ended on good terms but he maintains zero contact) I like that
CONS
>he confessed to me his prior relationships failed because he is always busy and had very few dates with his past gfs
>didn't talk about his family
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Anonymous 128948

>>128939
It's ok to talk his ex. A bit weird though but tolerable, I guess. Just don't expect him to accept it if he discovers that. Would you be ok if he were stalking all of your profiles on Insta/FB/Whatsapp and talking to your exes, too?

Anonymous 129150

>>128878
They're notorious for betraying their friends and family to conform to the new rhetoric, I personally experienced that.

Anonymous 129157

>>129150
Can confirm, my sister has no loyalty towards her family that keeps supporting her throughout her life, just blindly defends people she has never met (at expense of those who are closer to her). As if to mechanically compensate for lacking natural human virtue, she clings to crude ideas of morality.

Anonymous 129190

>>129157
Update
>talked to his ex
>she was nice to me (gave me a cupcake)
>Didn't tell her I knew him just poked around her life she surprisingly didn't mind and they basically broke up cause he is always doing something, if he is not studying for college or at college he is either at his job or doing charity work (he also helps out at a church, I found that kinda cute) she told me he was great as a partner when he was with her the main issue being most of the time he wasn't with her. She also told me he wasn't very close to anybody she told me he is surrounded by friends and people who like him but he doesn't have best friends or even close to his family. I mean she told me they are on good terms but not close, she found that odd and I do too
>>129150
>>129157
I kinda see what you mean nonas, I don't think he betrays people, he just stays outside of everyone's life's and offers them help when they need it, I guess that's honorable/selfless¿?

We went on a another date today, he is sweet but I noticed what his ex meant, he listened to me and we had a great chat but after being 5 hours together, he never talked about himself, the only thing I learned about him was his favorite ice cream,I need to ask who he is to get to know him
Bottom line is
>I don't like that at all it makes me feel as if he doesn't trust me, plus I do know myself well enough to accept I like attention from my partner, I would be miserable if I felt as if I was just a way to fill his freetime a hobby not a partner… so yeah I'm ghosting him but props to him, at least he is the most selfless person I've ever met… I guess…


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Anonymous 129170[Reply]

Everytime I read something about a moid, I get more disgusted by them.

Anonymous 129171

>>129170
>why have 1 when you could have 10
imagine if a woman said this

Anonymous 129183

>>129170
>leeds
>rooster
>we make 100k+ as 30yr olds in europe btw

you're reading fanfiction

Anonymous 129185

Fake and gay.

Anonymous 129187

>>129171
Not really comparable since women have no biological incentive to want multiple mates the way men are.

A more fair comparison would be a woman saying something like "Why ever setle for the second best man in the world when you could have the first?".


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Anonymous 128950[Reply]

I've gotten to the point where I've become such a touch-starved femcel, I've started to envy and hate pretty girls who have been SA'd or stalked by men before. Instead of feeling sympathy for for them, I get to the point where I am annoyed and disgusted hearing their stories where they had that one ex boyfriend that just "couldn't let them go" or having had a man in their life obsess over them. That has been the stark opposite of my life. As a femcel I have been ignored by men my whole entire life, and the exes I have managed to have had all wanted to ghost or abandon me, none of my exes were ever obsessed with me. None of them blew up my phone constantly or begged for me. At this point, I see women talking about obsessive exes as nothing more than humble bragging, especially Stacies, complaining about how "oh so hard" it is that they've had an ex obsess over and stalk them. They don't understand that the life of a femcel is much worse. I would take their life over mine in a heartbeat. Being a Stacy where I have men obsessing over me, stalking me, and wanting to grope me versus being the touch starved ignored femcel I am. It's easy to see their life is easy mode of people doting on them all the time (their life) versus a life that is absolute hell (my life).
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Anonymous 129172

>>129159
moids never like women. all moids unconditionally hate women, they are incapable of love.

Anonymous 129180

>>129169
They are. Andrew Tate's an incel.

Anonymous 129181

>>129172
Totally agree

Anonymous 129184

>>129180
He's a scammer pimp. Is being incel that much worse?

Anonymous 129186

>>129180
You're just proving you don't know or care what words mean which makes your claims of being a femcel all the less credible.


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lonely post graduation Anonymous 128773[Reply]

18 yrs and graduated last year, all my friends got bfs and now dont talk to me anymore. And the one male friend I have who played video games with me sold his body to the army so now im all alone and posting on reddit to find friends. I genuinely do nothing all day besides play video games that I dont even enjoy to pass the time. I wish i could go back to highschool so bad even tho i was bullied lol just so i could have some human interaction outside of my cat and my mom
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Anonymous 128803

>>128782
Many countries mandatory conscription for all moids. They'll die either way if war breaks out

Anonymous 129154

thats so me

Anonymous 129162

Sound advice: invest in yourself
Watch the whole video
As for friends, you can try bars and even contacting some of your old friends who now have boyfriends; who knows, maybe they have a friend group which you can join
Even things like spin class, yoga class, courses

Anonymous 129163

>>128799
Worst case scenario there was an anon who said she was in severe debt after graduating from college then entered a sugar relationship where in the end all of the debt was paid in full but she had to do nasty things in bed and you don't want to have an average of 29,000 $ of debt when you're a student in the USA

Anonymous 129165

I relate to this a lot. Where do I even go from here? I don't have the motivation to go out and get a job but I also don't know what else to do other than rot in bed and play games 24/7. Being a NEET is honestly pretty hard


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all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance. Anonymous 129153[Reply]

all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance and made me compare myself to other girls.

and i hate it, cause i constantly compared myself to the girls they mentioned and created an internal female rivalry with them. like, i didn't hate the girls, i js wanted to be like them and thats impossible. i only hate myself because genetically it would be possible to change my appearance, maybe in another life. and what irritates me the most is that I forgave it, even though sometimes i commented that i didnt like it and they obviously dont care. so because this, in my head, its impossible for someone to genuinely like me because of my appearance and my body, even if i consider myself a nice girl.

i hate moids who dream of an ideal type of woman they never have and say that to the girls they talk to. or guys whose minds are corroded by pornography

Anonymous 129156

they are negging you on purpose to lower your self worth and then erode your boundaries. you must be young and not have lived to see them all start balding at 23.

Anonymous 129161

The same thing happened to me, nona. The difference that they cited aspects of my appearance, mostly related to my genetic traits, which they considered flaws and asked me to change. Im already quite insecure, but they made me even more so. That's why I stopping trusting most moids.


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