/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Why does it feel so draining and unattractive when around negative people?

It's like you can absorb and feel those negative vibes. When they complain about their life to you or try to blame you for their life choices. You could be having the biggest high, but the moment you're around someone like that, you instantly feel worse by just being next to them.

I really don't understand. I'm about to cry actually. I am trying my absolute best all the time, I am dating all the time, trying to talk to guys, I meet so many nice and sweet and interesting ones but they are never taking me out on any dates. I always initiate. Is it really that hard. Like I am actually very cute, 6'0, long hair, I take very good care of my looks, clothes, I have an apartment, job, I own property, my mental is semi ok, except I'm clingy, I have a very nice body. I have lots of hobbies and I am well read sort of, I don't spend time on social media. I have everything going for me and even that's not enough. I can't even get a movie date. All I want is to be taken to the movies and to be given some flowers. That's all I want. I think it happened once but only when I suggested to the guy to do that. Why do none of them want to do that with me? Are they really all that lazy and stupid? I have truly lost all hope in men, especially modern men, they have absolutely no idea how to treat people nice. Or maybe I'm too crazy. I hate men so much. I am literally like this against my own will. Female incel. Unlovable

I don't even know what number we're on

Previous thread >>>/feels/120288

I don’t hate people, maybe hyperbole, but this changed depending on the day. Rather I have no interest in the activities which makes people popular, even amongst weirdos. I have tried to conduct myself alongside these behaviors but have realized how exhausting it is seeing as it would be me going against myself if every which way. But I have tried at least. Why do even weirdos have laws on what gets more attention and not, it’s such a fucked up hierarchy that makes you feel forgotten and alienated, or better yet I’m such attention seeking from all corners.

Anyway all this to say, I just want people to follow my Letterboxd. Is that too hard to ask, read my review like my review and follow me plz? Will anyone just suck my dick and follow me on letterboxd, I have such decent taste in movies. Ugh, I love this website bc I can truly act like a brat for once in my life.

I'm not talking about any surface level looksmaxxing shit here like acne or needing a better haircut, I'm talking about genuine sub-3 ugliness. Facial asymmetries, recessed jaw, stuff that would require frankenstein shit to fix it. It's fine, some people are just ugly. It should be ALLOWED to be ugly with the face you're born with

Aside from the obvious - getting mistreated mostly by moids every step of the way… not being ignored, but outright aggression and insults.
Insults disguised as advice, insults disguised as concern, insults disguised as compliments (The other day I got a "You look amazing today you should wear this more often" from a really catty and mean gay coworker when I wore a sweatshirt with a high collar and hid the lower half of my face in it)

You can't even be yourself online because unless you face reveal, people won't believe how ugly you are. Not unless you prove it, which I obviously don't want to do…

I mostly just move on and try to ignore it but it got to me today, because I realised that in most online spaces I'm basically railroaded into LARPing as someone pretty.

"I bet you're cute/pretty/whatever"
If you say "I'm actually ugly enough that strange men approach me in the street to tell me this regularly" the other person sees this as you seeking compliments
"Nooo you're so hot queen"
"No way you're that bad looking"
"I'm sure you're beautiful"

Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

How can I tell if I’m an impressionable person?

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!

feels like I'm excluded from womanhood because I have a hormonal condition (pcos) and I'm a tomboy
>Be me
>25 year old female ,who powerlifts
>Have a decent amount of muscle and deep voice due to pcos as well as body hair from the age of 12
>Join a women's only art discord server
>Women think my art is made by my boyfriend,I say no
>I join the VC , get told for my face to be stomped and instantly banned
>Had enough because this happens to me everyday,even in the women's bathrooms. Decide to join again and send my pussy and tits to the mod ,and get promptly banned again as expected (that's fair enough)

Damn

Why is making friends so hard as an autistic woman? I have ptsd from past female friendships

>Women who used me for emotional labor when she was upset/lonely, then totally disappeared until she needed advice or comfort again. She never asked how I'm doing
>Women being fake
>Women when they make fun of people passing by, whether it’s another girl wearing pants that they don’t like or a disabled person who can’t control their disability, their snide comments, make me instantly uncomfortable
>Women always trying to find validation from 'hot guys'
>Women making comments about your style or how to appear more beautiful
>Women want to vent about their various men, who are pumping and dumping them, constantly
>Dating men who she knew was toxic for her. Ruining her mental health over them (like intentionally hurting herself and sending herself to the hospital to see if they cared enough to show up) and dumping it all on me
>Women want to complain about their day constantly, the conversation is just an exchange of complaints
>Being thin is like blood in the water, especially to female secretaries. they diminish you to your looks, and when you're also smart they get offended
>They only talk to you to share trauma or trauma dump you or try to make you feel responsible for their life choices
>Putting down other women. and then being nice to those women to their face
>Be cautious around woman who become your best friend really fast
>Even childhood friends being jealous towards any accomplishments and goals that I have. It comes from insecurity
Post too long. Click here to view the full text.