/feels/ - Advice & Venting

as the title says, one of my friends texted me last friday, and decided that we couldn’t be friends anymore. he said that our friendship was “too intense” and he couldn’t handle it for his mental health. this came out of nowhere, and he hadn’t expressed discomfort any time in the past about our friendship and what we talked about. we’ve only known each other since november but we’ve gotten really close in that time, and tell each other about our mental health, personal, and family struggles. i’m not mad that he did this, if anything im glad he’s prioritizing his mental health. but, it just really fucking sucks that he just,,, decided we can’t be friends anymore. i don’t even know if this is permanent. from the way he spoke, i don’t think it is, but i have no clue when he’ll be stable enough for us to be friends again.

on one hand, he’s kind of right? like, our friendship was a bit mentally draining for the both of us. but on the other hand i really miss him. i miss talking to him from when i woke up to when i went to bed. i miss seeing funny videos and sending them to him. i miss talking to him about literally nothing and everything. i think it’s worse because he still like, looks at my ig stories. he doesn’t hate me, we just can’t be friends for the time being.

Bisexual nona here, since being pinkpilled and observing male behavior ive wondered if lesbian relationships are more kind and understanding than heterosexual ones. It seems like women(myself included) to prioritize bonding and emotional intimacy and a deep bond.
(talked to moids before never gotten to even dating just some interest ig and self inserted into f4f fanfic and have sexual/romantic feelings for other women.so i have no experience just wanted to put that out there.)

Everyone is doing sm better than me and working hard. I need to do better or I will be left behind. Aaaahhhh enough. The way I can only choose hard work or comfort. I don't think I want a family to much work for life and too much worries.

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I am a lizard person, I am a shapeshifter, and there are many lizard persons out there. We aren’t all the cliche’s many people like to believe where we want to rule the world.. A lot of us suffer with narcissism, and Identity theft / Issues because of this. I sometimes feel alone, and I’ve had altercations when I have shifted on camera, and even I feel really anxious to look back on them because I look foul. I feel sad because every other traumatic event rhag happens to me I shift into a new identity, and face. I do this because I am scared to remain the same identity. I am yet to be apart of the hidden community, but I am not a threat. I’m just a girl

The internet is an oppressed virtual wasteland, with few oases that are already dried up, and no ways of escaping to truly greener pastures. Alienation and isolation are inevitabilities. The less you conform, the lonelier the road you walk is. Once you’ve realized the madness of our current reality, how flawed humanity society truly is, you will understand that to be sane is to be miserable.

A lot of therapists are unbearable interpersonally. They learn how to manipulate people by choosing their words carefully when they're in school and completely lose the ability to communicate genuinely with other people.

For most people this isn't a problem, but as someone who knows a lot of therapists, it makes it harder to make friends with them. Out of roughly 20 therapists I regularly communicate with, only 2-3 are capable of communicating without using therapeutic techniques. If I say "I'm going on a date and I'm worried it'll go well and I'll have to make lifestyle changes" these people say "sounds like you're worried about what comes next". No fucking shit, dude. You're supposed to laugh with me about it and say "it'll probably be fine" or something

Most therapists are awful at their job. In this training I was in yesterday, the trainer told the group that asking questions in therapy does not help the client. You're just supposed to manipulate, sorry, motivate them into completing their goals by reflecting stuff they say back to them (but only the stuff you like). Mental health trainings are so funny. Everyone just talks about the most effective ways to manipulate people but if you use the word manipulation everyone will scold you.

Most therapists come from wealthy backgrounds, don't have addiction or trauma experiences, and had the resources growing up to learn coping mechanisms to help them live with their extreme neuroticism. I worked with a lady once, we were doing adolescent substance abuse group treatment, and she would get mad and basically ground the clients for misbehaving. Like she was their mother. She believed her role was to "get them in line". She was afraid of drugs after doing pot once.

Another dude i worked with told me this client was "externalizing" and upset because of his divorce. But the client was actually schizophrenic and actively psychotic, but the clinician believed he was "faking" his delusions "to mess with" him. One clinician stopped seeing a client because the client didn't bathe, even though the client was seeing them for depression for which one of the symptoms was not being able to take care of themselves.

Therapists are deeply self righteous individuals and most of them are crap. People usually see 3-4 therapists before they find one they connect with well and feel cared for by. Therapy can be very helpful to you if you are lucky or if you have the time to shop Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Would anyone miss you if you died tomorrow?

I want to have a family, I have wanted it since forever. I met a moid who I loved but despite his radfem single mother upbringing, he turned out to be an abuser.

All I want is a family. I am straight not stupid. I know that I will never get a moid that acts like a woman, like a human but I will be equally miserable with less and with nothing.
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