/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>127145
that’s because it’s the truth. you are bound permanently to every person you have sex with.

>>127126
Cocksucker.

>>127198
hardly

>>127147
Scary, scary!

>>127237
that’s why you have to be careful. prepare for a blood oath level commitment or don’t do it

>>103992
Sounds like you might want to work through that anxiety of yours. That's an almost AvPD level of social anxiety there. Just fuck up on purpose sometimes, see that it's not that big of a deal.
I know someone whose anxiety training involved putting some cardboard on a leash and treating it like a real dog in public. The horror stories she imagined would come of it never happened, when people asked about it she could manage to explain it and the whole experience made her feel more confident in acting like herself.
I offend people by accident all the time, if someone points it out and it's an honest mistake, you can just apologise and move on.

>>127158
>>127213
Some girls actually act like babies, it can be a traumatic age regression, the kind that pedo moids relentlessly sexualise and encourage in women unlike with traumatised men who just get called retards.
Nothing morally wrong with being retarded like that, but it's nothing to be proud of.
>>127158
Pedo anime definitely romanticises it, entire casts of shows have women of every fictional age acting like dumb 7 year olds who need an adult moid to teach them basic life skills. The moids behind it are frankly disgusting. They have a desperate need to feel superior and if the only way for them to do that is to have their love interests be mental 7 year olds, that's not just pathetic, it's creepy. There's way too much of that low budget slop and nothing disgusts me more than seeing it in the romance genre.

>>127215
that cardboard story sounds like a modern torture method! I can see how it would help though. how did she explain it when asked?

>>127213
(this) feels like someone who's never heard of people having low self esteem or just being dummies

>>127218
>>127220
i just wouldn’t normalize age regression and it’s not normally cis women who act like this. or are into pedo anime.

Why does he not like mogeko games?

same but we are 3 years in ahahaha

why aren’t you guys compatible? don’t leave us hanging nona

men aren’t compatible with anyone. they don’t ever have close bonds. they bond with other men entirely based on interests like video games and anime. not on personality or compatibility or people whose values they align with. they view women as even less important and only care about physical appearance. they’ll only resort to looking for a girl with the same hobbies when their friends get older and have work instead of being free to game all day. then they involve the woman, maybe. men will always choose physical attraction first. if they bond with you about hobbies straight away it’s because they think they’re out of options and you can usually tell they settled when you start out as a friend. men who are really interested will court you but again. the interest is only in appearance. only losers who can’t date their type and no longer have social lives will date the ugly weeb girls they ignored for 15 years. keep in mind the only thing they care about is sexual compatibility and if romance and sex isn’t the starting point, you were the backup plan.

>>127156
>if u entered a relationship 15lbs heavier
heavier than what?

>>127168
the weight i am supposed to be

>>127170
like your max healthy weight?

>>127171
10lbs above my natural weight 20lbs above my ideal weight but he doesn't like if i'm skinny

>>127173
i think probably don’t worry about it

>>127122
Normiemaxxing is often neither healthy nor normal.
If you're a proper normie, you don't have to waste time on explicitly figuring out how to act like one, most of it will come to you naturally the more you spend time around people. You mess up, you learn, you move on.
But if you're extremely deep in the weirdness, scared shitless of being ridiculed or even slightly rejected and very desperate to behave normal in public, you can speed things up by suppressing your personality and pretending you're already a normie.
100% won't work, but it'll give you a ton of anxiety.

>>127139
no one is going to say anything to anyone’s face like ever. trust me. i have gone after people i know in real life and torn their faces off over text and then blocked them and they didn’t say shit to me at the grocery store. so there’s no need to be anxious it turns out. no one is going to do anything to your face people are cowards. there is no normal anymore. everyone is fucking insane now. so also rest assured you will realize the people in public are being weird as hell and it’s not just you. now decide that they aren’t better than you. and just say whatever thing comes to mind and then let the conversation die and they have to pick it back up if they want it. simple.

>>126975
Build confidence and self-esteem so you can get over not being a normie.
You can make friends without being seen as normal.
Most people are weird if you get to know them closely enough, I'm starting to think that true normies don't exist.

>>127142
i honestly think some of these girls are confused at how people are shy and anxious themselves in public and aren’t open with them. and think that’s being a normie and don’t understand not every relationship starts out intense like texting your online friends lmao. the people around you are real human beings with histories and trauma and illnesses affected by society and just trying to hold it together. they also have hobbies. anyone with a hobby now thinks other people don’t have them and having any hobby makes you quirky. i think it’s like backlash to consumerism where the lamest thing you can be now is someone who doesn’t do anything. so there’s a lot of weird projection and performing happening now. no one knows what being alternative is anymore because it stopped existing as a concept ten years ago. people just don’t get it and know how to adjust.

>>127139
I'm sure your experience is insightful but doesn't need to be extrapolated to everyone and isn't so black and white. Maybe some nonas just need a safe environment to do it without having to fake it at first.

>just bee confident and urself :^)
ironically requires some degree of normality because being a tolerated weirdo faggot requires social skills (which normiemaxxing is supposed to provide) or resources. nobody really cares about you otherwise and confidence requires backing anyways

>>125666
You should be evicted for letting water damage happen. I hope you get sued.

>>126990
i think they own wouldn’t it be their neighbors living room if not

>>124208
Nona can you get a job at McDonald's or something? Or do some cardio at home? It's not over for you!

>>124208
At least you have those fat reserves to help you get through the hard times.

>>124208
nona track your cycle. there are points your body needs more calories because you are building up your uterine lining again. there are points you naturally have more energy and you need less food. only eat roasted local vegetables with a side of like boxed rice or cous cous. throw out the leftover rice but you can eat as much of it as you want once a day. i do a side of feta. your hormones will fix themselves after a month of that and your body will remove the excess weight itself and you can even have a full week to be snacky like you’re literally supposed to eventually and not gain the weight back. you literally just have to figure out how your body works. it is designed to balance itself out. your body doesn’t want this excess fat either it’s bad for it and it’s hormones. it’ll take care of it for you if you act right.

>>126931
maybe you're autistic or something because that doesn't sound like very unreasonable to tell about (1 life event that explains visible life debilitating change) especially if op asked him or if they "hit it off" hard enough

>>126935
im an evil hag spirit

>>126830
I'm not sure cute outweights crippled + porn addict this doesn't sound like a good deal
I knew a guy who suffered nerve damage from a failed an hero attempt and the constant chronic pain makes it extremely hard to function and not to abuse painkillers/porn to deal with it

>>126931
I'd like your thoughts on this but I've come to believe inceldom is a cope that only losers use to explain being social rejects without having to face their own inner ugliness - this mix of indulgent laziness and entitlement to muh waifu that results in the bitter inceldom we know, in my experience moids who come to terms with their unattractiveness or take some accountability are less likely to fall into it

>>127081
i know ugly guys absolutely drowning in pussy because they have charisma. incels nerf themselves. also the difference between an ugly guy and a cute one is often just a tan and fifteen pounds of muscle. there’s something to be said for any guy with cow eyes brown curls who is medium ugly honestly. i kind of like their quirked up features sometimes. i find the male celebrities pushed at us as sex symbols too sterile. give me a joe keery type that’s sincere with a head of great hair and developed an actual personality over that for sure. also a lot of traits in men incels like are scary looking and would make me have an ugly daughter.

>>126858
It's ok to be by yourself

>>127046
>the memories are yours forever

That's not what alzheimer's and dementia said

>>127048
Well then you’re just screwed and should find a way to euthanise yourself before you hurt your loved ones

you can’t take loved away.

People stay when they're getting something from you. Doesn't mean you're a bad person if nobody stays with you, just that you need to learn skills ppl need. It's like a job.

>>127064
this is so true it breaks my heart. and men only ever want one thing. i wish i’d never found out how quickly i would be discarded when i couldn’t provide sex temporarily

I don't feel oppressed by men. I feel oppressed by my biology. Especially in sex.

>>126757
>I don't feel oppressed by men. I feel oppressed by my biology. Especially in sex.

Explain?

OP it sounds to me like you're taking what you see in p*rn for reality. I guarantee you it's not.

>>126663
This

>>126666
No they're fucking not. It is a skewed, reductive view of feminity.
You're so wrong that Satan himself blessed you with demonitc digits lmao

>>127072
i agree. you have to watch porn to have these thoughts. stop watching that shit

>>126729
No, it's the other way around. Porn doesn't reflect real sex dynamics, it's real sex dynamics being affected by porn because 99% of moids are porn addicts and expect porn sex from their partners

>can you ever heal from growing up unwanted + ostracized by your peers?
This one is really hard desu and requires a lot of support from others to recover. Bottom line is you need to be wanted and accepted by others.
If the extent of the damage done to you by ostracization was limited to your self-esteem, you'll probably have an easier time recovering by simply glowing up and changing your environment to a less racist one. You have an issue but you're pretty independent socially.
But if there was serious damage done to your socialization to a point where you're self-isolating weird etc then you'll need much more actual help.

>>125731
Not OP, but sometimes I think some women in spaces like these sort of take it as a slight against all women when a woman talks about feeling ugly, lonely or pathetic or like a loser or something, and they feel the need to overperform how much of an outlier she is or that she's probably a larping moid, like embarrassedly saying "she's not with us" in case an outsider conflates her situation with yours. I don't think that's very fair. This mindset is why I never feel like I can vent about never having a boyfriend before, as if that's somehow remotely implying that applies to everyone here. It doesn't and you shouldn't care what hatereading scrotes think, even with perfect optics they would still make up bullshit reasons to insult women anyway, as they always have done for centuries including back when female outcasts were less prevalent than today.

If anything, I think it's a bit of a horseshoe to imply all women naturally live fabulous lives free of any insecurity, stress or problems. And maybe I'm being a retarded schizo, but "pinkpill" seems like an Inglourious Basterds wrong fingers moment. I thought feminism is the purplepill, and the pinkpill is moid discord/preddit tranny shit.

I dunno. Just seems a bit strange to argue we need to ban women for feeling miserable or suffering, and assuming an anecdote of a girl being harassed by moidlets is actually unrealistic anti-woman propaganda.

>>125739
There has been some complaining about "embarrassing" posts here on /feels/ but really I don't think this thread falls anywhere under that umbrella

>>125731
I’ve only ever seen men have this experience you’re right.

Does anyone else have the urge to gain the attention of only the hottest people to compensate for all those years that you felt like you looked like a monster? Because I think that might be the thing that's ruining my life