/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>129208
Then he should be dumped for being a liar.

I bet he's never been pegged before.

>>129209
all moids lie for sex. they admit this themselves.

ur discord bf isn't a real bf

>>129221
knew someone would say this

Yeah everyone. Why do you think we're on the internet handwriting AI slop comments instead of do something productive

Probably ADHD, but not autistic
What's with the perched position? I understand that squatting is important for your legs and knees, but why do it on a chair?

>>129182
Something called proprioception actually, needing extra information about where our body is in with respect to space to feel comfortable about, or something like that.

yep and it's so goddamn awful. i do not function at all and the thought that i have to live like this forever because those disabilities are incurable really hurts.

>>128302
Youre hating on ugly women in an industry that commodifies them what

I get the hideous moid part but please name me some celebrity women that are ugly

This looks like more of the same basic primal bimbo shit

>>128304
I never said any celebrity women were ugly what I said the men were ugly

>>128302
Real as fuck. Male comedians piss me the fuck off

Same

>>128276
They definitely do think it’s an act of evil considering how according to them women are immediately sullied by having sex and need to stay celibate for their own good

>>128100
Only if you dont assert the female gaze.

>>128276
Exactly

>>128277
Yes, but it is an act of evil he is entitled to inflict on women, therefore it is “good” (when he does it).

>>126444
It is ALL in how you see it. I don't see myself being penetrated; I see myself absorbing and swallowing the man's power within me. I don't see a blowjob as subservient but as using my power over him to make him beg for more. And surely a guy who goes down on you is acknowledging your dominance and practically worshipping you

>>128622
Not trying to say that lesbians have it easy
but
the dating market for young women is horrible right now. Young girls grow up watching Disney while young men grow up watching porn. Girls get into relationships expecting love and romance only to find that 90% of men want to choke them and stick it up their ass. Dating girls might not be easy, but you're a lot less likely to end up with a gooner misogynist.

>>128622
Some advice? Don't give bi women a chance, most of them are straight. Try getting on dating sites if you're a social retard, as that removes 90% of the bullshit.

>>1286

I understand your point. Honestly i dont think anyone has it worse. In general the world has been a really awful place specially with how much the mainstream media has poisoned society (both for men and women) everybody in any dating pool sucks righg now.

>>128642
Trust me I don't. I even doubt of women who claim to be lesbians at this point, i think ive becomed paranoid that every woman i meet is straight, even if they claim otherwise. If they say they are bi, theyre straight, and if they say theyre lesbians theyre just performative straight women that hate men so much they date other women to own the moids, or if it is online is likely a tranny. I just cant trust anybody anymore

>>128656
That's rough, I'm sorry. Maybe try asking about their dating history? Most political lesbians don't have a history of dating girls. Have her eat your pussy and see if she's put off by it

Ignore the media. Ignore other people. Find just one lesbian woman you can share a lifetime with

I'm with you, I just graduated high school at 18 and I feel so lost and existentially empty. I dealt with some bullying for my weight and thinking I was ugly no matter what, I still get scared if my shirts are too low cut because I'm that self conscious

To be attractive you must first love yourself, then comes looks.

Don't change to please others, change to please yourself.

Build healthy habits that make yourself feel good and lose weight slowly as a bonus, shortcuts like adderall will hurt you long term.

You are 18, Adult life have not even started yet, you have so much time so don't stress about everything.

Focus on the healthy small things that make you feel good and build those habits slowly.
Write down goals that are reasonable and strive to reach them.

Start easy like a little bit of exercise every day to get your body moving, it can literally be just stretching in the beginning to build the routine, a walk outdoors every day and minimum of 3 eggs for breakfast for nutrition and vitamins.

As you read this, improve your body position by just 5%, stretch something that is stiff, just a little. See, feels better.
Continue like that every now and then. Small habits grow with time.

you're just 18, barely an adult yet. maybe it's a function of my social circle but most people i know including myself didn't have our first relationship until college when we were older than 18

i second getting a part time job, it'll help keep you busy and you'll be standing or walking rather than sitting down + you can start saving to buy makeup and clothes so win win

>>128737

this is bad advice lol

OP you should count calories rather than having rules like this. You lose weight as long as you're in a deficit.

Whole foods and fruits are good ofc but you can def still stay in a deficit and have more than 1 fruit a meal lmao. Also it's not that hard to allocate a couple hundred calories in the week for a sweet treat. If you over restrict you'll probably end up binge eating eventually.

You can hit the gym everyday as long as you're hitting a different muscle group every time but you should take a rest day for muscles to repair between training the same area.

>>128690
>adderall
quit that shit
>who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me
people are increasingly valuing honest, kind, genuine souls
not saying it fetches a fair price on the market but people are growing sick of fake shit

>>128737
>the only sugar you get is from fruits
this is the ultimate truth

>>128837
Yeah, I also feel this way. The thought of living my whole life without ever experiencing it because it's kind of plastered all over the media, in books, movies, music, even irl people place such importance on it that if you miss out on it you might feel like there's something wrong with you or you're unworthy or something. But honestly I think most people live without ever finding actual love in general. Most relationships seem to be just out of convenience or hierarchies or shallow shit. Or maybe I'm just trying to rationalize it idk. I mean even if you try to be realistic about it it's still a scary feeling. But at the end of the day I feel like most people feel this way deep down. Its a very human feeling I think

this summarizes my feelings perfectly

Same, nona. I think I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll be alone, because I'm afraid of being broken again after several failed attempts, and I believe that genuine love is hard to find these days.

It's pretty much certain at thi point real love isn't possible, only infatuation. Most men and a lot of women can't commit to one person for too long, are afraid of emotional availability and responsibility. People want a lifetime long honeymoon phase where you can also see other people and your partner won't be mad about it.

No, because i love myself and got used to being my own best friend. Find love within yourself, spread kindness, and youll glow with joy that will attract good people. Also i cut off crappy people out of my life since i dont have time or energy for dumb kid drama

>So im back from the date
had a great time and learned a lot about him
FYI I like asking about his prior gfs just to weed out red flags
>Pros
>He is kind
>He is attentive
>He is really smart
>he isn't condescending (most smart moids are unbearable)
>I really enjoyed our conversation
>Surprisingly he has a part-time job
>he paid for the date
>told me about his exes when I asked he has had 3 (the first he ended on bad terms, the other two ended on good terms but he maintains zero contact) I like that
CONS
>he confessed to me his prior relationships failed because he is always busy and had very few dates with his past gfs
>didn't talk about his family
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>>128939
It's ok to talk his ex. A bit weird though but tolerable, I guess. Just don't expect him to accept it if he discovers that. Would you be ok if he were stalking all of your profiles on Insta/FB/Whatsapp and talking to your exes, too?

>>128878
They're notorious for betraying their friends and family to conform to the new rhetoric, I personally experienced that.

>>129150
Can confirm, my sister has no loyalty towards her family that keeps supporting her throughout her life, just blindly defends people she has never met (at expense of those who are closer to her). As if to mechanically compensate for lacking natural human virtue, she clings to crude ideas of morality.

>>129157
Update
>talked to his ex
>she was nice to me (gave me a cupcake)
>Didn't tell her I knew him just poked around her life she surprisingly didn't mind and they basically broke up cause he is always doing something, if he is not studying for college or at college he is either at his job or doing charity work (he also helps out at a church, I found that kinda cute) she told me he was great as a partner when he was with her the main issue being most of the time he wasn't with her. She also told me he wasn't very close to anybody she told me he is surrounded by friends and people who like him but he doesn't have best friends or even close to his family. I mean she told me they are on good terms but not close, she found that odd and I do too
>>129150
>>129157
I kinda see what you mean nonas, I don't think he betrays people, he just stays outside of everyone's life's and offers them help when they need it, I guess that's honorable/selfless¿?

We went on a another date today, he is sweet but I noticed what his ex meant, he listened to me and we had a great chat but after being 5 hours together, he never talked about himself, the only thing I learned about him was his favorite ice cream,I need to ask who he is to get to know him
Bottom line is
>I don't like that at all it makes me feel as if he doesn't trust me, plus I do know myself well enough to accept I like attention from my partner, I would be miserable if I felt as if I was just a way to fill his freetime a hobby not a partner… so yeah I'm ghosting him but props to him, at least he is the most selfless person I've ever met… I guess…

>>129170
>why have 1 when you could have 10
imagine if a woman said this

>>129170
>leeds
>rooster
>we make 100k+ as 30yr olds in europe btw

you're reading fanfiction

Fake and gay.

>>129171
Not really comparable since women have no biological incentive to want multiple mates the way men are.

A more fair comparison would be a woman saying something like "Why ever setle for the second best man in the world when you could have the first?".