/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>127987

You gotta get your bread up Nona. You should want better for yourself and your progeny

>>127997
Okay well how do you go about doing that? No one is telling me how, that's the problem. How is it my fault that only ugly bastards want to approach me and my darker skin while all my whiter friends are getting Chads while barely lifting a finger? I've tried everything, even tried presenting myself as more white and still worthless low value men are the only ones ever to approach me. So at this point I just stay a NEET and inside of my house away from people

>>128002
Try moving to a slavic country, you'll get plenty of white men. Warning, they're all disgusting faggots

>>128002

Ok you got me there but here's what I think you should do-

Learn to pick up a book and go into a stem field. Preferably IT Work cause you can just get certifications to get into the field but whatever sings to your soul. You seem like a young twenty something Nona so you should have no problem getting scholarships or grants that want poc women into the field. Learn how to do research. You might also have to consider going into college. You said it yourself, no Chad is going to save you. You have to be the one to save yourself… you and that beautiful brain of yours can go places. Places that don't have you relying on men to wash your ass for you. Ya just gotta believe in yourself

>>128002
>>128047

Idk if it counts as a stem field but nursing is also a good job to get into. It does require you to have empathy for others and you gotta be on your feet for long periods of times so if both of those seem off-putting to you, don't even bother with that industry.

That's just my two cents though, any Nonas with high paying jobs online rn? Help me fine tune this shit….

And I stg none of you better say onlyfans

There aren’t many methods of coping posted here which is very depressing. Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty? I find myself being upset about this every waking minute, even when I’m completely alone where it shouldn’t matter.

I hate having a wide face, I can’t even tie my hair back or put it behind my ears because I look like the moon emoji and charlie kirk. picrel

>>127744
> Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty?
Dear nona, I have some insights for you, do with them as you please. I want you to look back to yourself, as a child. Do you have any pictures to look at, or can you picture yourself in your mind? When you look at her, I hope, you probably think she's quite cute, still happy. I hope, you wouldn't say such harsh things about her, as what you may tell yourself now.

You might think how that's way different. You're older now! And you're right. What was the age you started becoming self conscious? For me it was pre-teen, I think this is similar for everyone, perhaps teen years. While we grow up, and our brains develop, we can process our life experiences and become aware of certain expectations. This is my insight: Unfortunately all suffering and misery can be led back to other people, and the pressure of the expectations they hold. I'm not necessarily talking about a certain person in your life, but how all people basically act and think due to how our society is set up. (and remember: women are, still, always at a disadvantage!!)

So When you feel sad/or are picking yourself apart, think about why? It isn't even making you happy! So why are you doing it? try to remember when you learned to see that aspect of yourself as negative, or even 'important' to think about. A nose is made for breathing for example, why do we care if it small or big? You will find out it will always be due to ideas from other people (either direct or indirect), and even though you can't do anything about this, it does redirect the 'fault' from you, to, well, others. This has made me at least feel better, because I, nor you, don't have any inherent faults or uglyness. It is always a result of societal pressures.

And social media doesn't help this at all. unfortunately the majority of people you see online are -in terms of beauty- exceptional. You don't see these people in regular life, but online it's become 'normalized'. It is a bit cliche, but recently I have completely deleted all social media (even messaging apps) , and I cannot begin to describe the benefits it has brought me. Aside from my immensely improved focus, not having something/someone to compare myself to (sub consciously even) has also incredibly helped my sPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>127744
It’s like what people say about grief. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it. Just give it time is what I am saying, live life.

i constantly wear a full face of makeup and always have my hair done while only keeping heavily angle and lighting frauded photos in an attempt to delude myself into thinking i am prettier than i am. ofcourse, it doesnt work and leaves me with intense feelings of guilt due to being a catfish. I also try comfort myself with the idea that in the future ill get all these surgeries to fix what ive got going on, but in this economy i wont. being a 4/10 lanky, socially inept teen was a traumatic experience.

>>127980
nobody lucks out when their partner is into anime. anime is fucking retarded.

>>128009
Beautifully said. I am engraving this on my tombstone

>>128009
insert salieri gif

>>127962
No, he isn't gay, stop acting like a TIF and trying to dictate how much of a man he is. Or are you an undercover TIM posting here? If you are going to be crying about him not being some himbo, a monolith, a cardboard cutout instead of an individual then just leave him. He probably has a hentai addiction anyway.

every tranime-loving male friend ive had was bisexual

>>125583
I'll be honest i said i didn't care a while ago but it's been 2 months so checking in. Can u admit it was all a rouse?

>>125583
>being abused by this man for literal years
>"gee, I hope my husband can be convinced to go to therapy!"

Girl.

Maybe you can go to therapy is his place because your delusions are almost as bad as his.

Only update when you've decided to leave him for good.

>>127275
OPhere, it's not a ruse. I'm staying with my MIL tonight because things got out of control again. I'm probably going to start on seperating oncexthe new year opens.

OP here again, thinking about fucking his mom as a revenge

OP. Husband has completely lost it. I escaped last night and stayed with my MIL. I can't really affor a hotel so I'm going to stay at a manga cafe nights. The problem is my husband sent me shopping but didn't trust me with my own phone, so I have his. I can't access my email or line, or use paypay. Luckily I have cash.

No plan except never going back. Looking forward to freedom in 2026.

>>127946
Noo I wrote this myself😭 i thinks thats quite obvious

>>127947
I thought it was good. Don't accuse, explain how it affects you.

Your boyfriend sounds anxious and you sound a bit avoidant. That's the most agonizing dynamic in a relationship.

>>127955
It's true but I'm getting over it for him. I've been more open bout my feelings and forcing myself to communicate cause I love him and whatnot. It's hard but he's worth it to me

>>127968
That's cool. I'm praying for you Anon 🙏

you’re not having fun
i think that you should ride
call me when you’re ready to be real

did i get lost along the way?
lose my mind for a new identity?
i quite enjoy ruining your day
and i just wanna cause a entropy

you tried so hard
to make a hero out of me
but there are some rules i don’t obey
and i just wanna cause a little chaos and
entropy

you tried so hard
to take the discord out of me
but guess what?
i wasn’t born that way
and i just wanna cause a little entropy

and when you shame me
it makes me want it more

Friday night, time to get drunk
Go, go to the party, time to get drunk
Arrive in the Clio, get driven by a hunk
Straight to the bedroom, driven by a hunk
Plenty of boys in the yard
One look at me and they get hard

H-Hard as stone, ready to bone
Like Medusa on a party throne
DJ, DJ, DJ DJ DJ
Slow it down for an epic BJ
Thanks, man, so glad you came
I think I love you, what's your name?
Don't leave yet, we're having fun
Friday night, number one
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>>127913
>>127914
This

>>127918
Made this thread to gather opinions and maybe shoot the shit on what most would consider an alternative lifestyle since i noticed there was a lack of a poly thread. You don't need to give me validation, just don't be an asshole :|

>>127927
Basically the same as up top, minus the asshole part

>>127919
Realest comment in this thread so far. Half of them do and half of them don't. I'm trying to be logical but the heart is a fickle creature sometimes.

>>127991
I don't get your lifestyle but I do find people who take personal offense to random threads like this amusing

Not inherently bad. People associate poly with lots of different things but to some it means not entertaining additional relationships besides 2 people you're dating or not dating someone who's seeing a different number of partners than you are. However it seems to overlap with a particularly uncomfy kind of "queer" person who has very poor sense of boundaries and often couches it in manipulative therapy language, or faux rad ~sexual liberation~, whatever else. Manipulation occurs in all kinds of relationships of course but there's a specific character about polyamorous manipulators that makes me uniquely uncomfortable.

>>128001

Yanno, I can completely see where you're coming from with that.

I read less then half of The 48 laws of Power a lil before starting my poly relationship(s?) too…. while the book made me feel icky reading it, I think it also helped me navigate my recent relationships in a more machiavellian and domineering way… tho I cannot for the life of me tell you by heart half of the "rules" I read lol

American pancakes are disgusting

Nona my family is like this too. My mother always pushed me to study/work hard regardless of what trauma I was going through and always reminded me that I was a financial burden on the family. I grew up, got a good job, and covered half my uni tuition in scholarships all without any professional mental help for my mental illness. Meanwhile my dumbfuck scrote older brother fails so many courses he has to take multiple additional years of uni, has never worked a non-mininum wage job ever, and is literally handed 1500$ a month on top of having his rent and tuition paid for for "discretionary spending". My mom even borrowed money from ME to pay HIS rent and this is all sustained by my dad working overtime in his manual labour job. Oh and my older brother abused the shit out of me growing up too but if I bring up anything about him being a loser bum my mom scolds me about hurting his fee fees.

Older ladies and failure pickmes can’t stand other woman in the kitchen because they’re afraid someone will be better at cooking than them. And they will not be needed for one if their shallow “purposes.” in their minds, they have to compete/show value and that’s the only thing they got left to prove themselves. even if their cooking is not that good and they’re just being nice… it’s like an insecure narcissistic moid in the gym when another scrote is lifting weights beside them, it makes the insecure moid seethe and try to one-up him. even when it’s their own daughter or a woman several decades younger than them, they still can’t stand it!
if someone witnessed my other attempts at this reply, i am terrible at phoneposting

>>127945
This sounds like a nightmare. I hope you're doing well now.

>>127978
thank you nona <3
i finally saw a therapist and got meds. career is going well too. most days i can just avoid my dumbass mom and brother

I don't have anyone to talk to on my lunch break so I'm on cc. Feels lonely.

I deserve love too

Reading lolcow's "Get it off your chest" thread and enjoying it so much somehow, almost as much as when I'm venting myself.

I wonder what it is about needing to vent in public, even if you don't want to talk about it with anyone. Just writing a letter no ones gonna see simply doesn't hit the same.

I wanna go for some McDonald's fries rn but it's 6 AM

>>127479
i listen to audiobooks on my lunch breaks