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Is it bad to be skinny fat? Anonymous 127971[Reply]

Boyfriend keeps calling me fat and disgusting even though I'm only 28 pounds overweight. Picrel accurately describes what my body currently looks like right now. I'm basically skinny fat but because he's a short skinny manlet he thinks he can talk any type of way to me and calls me fat and disgusting and it only makes me feel more depressed and want to eat even more. The truth is, before I started dating my current BF this year, I got broken up with this really hot skinny guy that I was seeing and he was like the guy of my dreams. I only settled for my current BF now because the previous guy broke my heart real bad. If I really gave a fuck I could be a skinny sexy bombshell Stacy if I wanted to. I've always been pretty and I already used to be underweight in my early 20's, but I simply stopped giving a fuck about my appearance because even when I was a skinny healthy Stacy I still attracted the most disgusting human sludge ugly male bastards known to existence. It was truly a black pill and made me realize that no matter how pretty and skinny I was, I still attract ugly bastards meanwhile other Stacies could attract actual Chads here simply because they're whiter than I am. It's because my hometown is shit and only ugly weirdos want to come to me with my darker skin color and appearance. I'm just glad that I'm not as far gone as my other friend who looks almost like me, she ended up becoming morbidly obese and trooning out on top of that. I keep telling my boyfriend (we're long distance) that eating my feelings is not as bad as how my other friends turned out but he still doesn't listen to me and only accuses me of being fat and disgusting and stealing away his chance of getting with actual "Stacy me". Well sucks for him because the more he talks shit to me like this the more I'm just gonna eat my feelings. Oh well.
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Anonymous 128250

>>128048
Nursing definitely sounds like a good option. Not for me, but I volunteered at a hospital at some point and I liked it.
Find something that suits you.

>>128212
Ugh. doesn't sound like a good method for me, I would recommend a healthy diet and regular exercise, otherwise you'd just be bullying your body.

Anonymous 128251

>>128247
u cant water fast out of nowhere
the day before a water fast theres gotta be iron and potassium rich foods like bananas and spinach before u try it. think the first day of a water fast is easy, the second is hard, the third gets easier again but i myself havent gone beyond a fourth (ate on the fourth)
dont think water fasting is THE way but its A way just bit radical. trying alone cant hurt just dont be afraid to quit if its getting too much. but dont overwork urself during it tho!

Anonymous 128272

>>128251
>water fasting
the way you y'all talk about starving yourselves is frying me idk what else to say lol.

Anonymous 128273

>>128251
So what's the point of water fasting if the day before you're just gonna… eat enough for another day ahead?
Sounds silly tbh, like, fasting never madesense to me. I guess for some people, it feels like a sport or a hobby. But i you want to lose weight and not gain it back reducing daily calorie intake seems more viable

Anonymous 128274

>>128251
>>128273
Butalso… spinach as iron source is not very great, spinach has oxalates which hinders iron absorption plus a bunch of other vitamins/minerals, that's not counting in the fact that nonheme iron is poorly absorbed to begin with.
So you're better off eating a steak, with fruits like oranges to help absorption


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Anonymous 128299[Reply]

Why is making friends so hard as an autistic woman? I have ptsd from past female friendships

>Women who used me for emotional labor when she was upset/lonely, then totally disappeared until she needed advice or comfort again. She never asked how I'm doing
>Women being fake
>Women when they make fun of people passing by, whether it’s another girl wearing pants that they don’t like or a disabled person who can’t control their disability, their snide comments, make me instantly uncomfortable
>Women always trying to find validation from 'hot guys'
>Women making comments about your style or how to appear more beautiful
>Women want to vent about their various men, who are pumping and dumping them, constantly
>Dating men who she knew was toxic for her. Ruining her mental health over them (like intentionally hurting herself and sending herself to the hospital to see if they cared enough to show up) and dumping it all on me
>Women want to complain about their day constantly, the conversation is just an exchange of complaints
>Being thin is like blood in the water, especially to female secretaries. they diminish you to your looks, and when you're also smart they get offended
>They only talk to you to share trauma or trauma dump you or try to make you feel responsible for their life choices
>Putting down other women. and then being nice to those women to their face
>Be cautious around woman who become your best friend really fast
>Even childhood friends being jealous towards any accomplishments and goals that I have. It comes from insecurity
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Anonymous 128301

>>128299
It has nothing to do with being autistic. Most of them are desperate for some kind of approval. So you should immediately dismiss any kind of judgement or rejection from them, Especially if youre in a higher place and didnt initially come in looking for that kind of chaos. When i was younger i would try to understand them but its better if you dont. If theyre coming from a place of harrassment of any kind theyre like starved dogs already. I honestly dont think most women are any better than men because theyre brainwashed as hell and begging for scraps because of social conditioning when they dont even have to. Even the prettiest women on earth act like this. (Well honestly i think theyre even more brainwashed to behave desperate, because they have to act the part to please the man that already expects them to behave like this.)

Anonymous 128321

most women are male centered and don’t want to be saved. i don’t think women are as bad as men but i don’t think most women are “good” either. they will stop at nothing to actively uphold patriarchal norms and cater to men.

Anonymous 128327

>>128321
This is true tbh. The amount of women I met that forgive anything shitty their husband does just to not end up divorcing is sad. That being said, it's mostly women in their 40s, the younger generations seems to have better bundaries but are still melow af and 4b is definitely not that popular here except not having children (which is more due to financial issues anyway)


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Anonymous 127725[Reply]

I cannot stand the political climate that exists today. As a leftist, I’m told to hate Republicans. I live in a very Republican area and these people are not bad people. I have a very bad cold and I can’t really breathe and I had to go pick up medication and it was like $100. I didn’t have enough money and I had to call somebody to ask to borrow some money and while I was calling, this old lady overheard and paid $100 for my pills. How can I hate these people when I know that they’re good at heart?
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Anonymous 128257

>>128256
not just a retard, but a child rapist retard. I won't be surprised if a law passes that lowers the age of consent to 14

Anonymous 128285

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>>128159
It's not about left or right. Right wingers have a lot of batshit insane stuff but it doesn't make them bad.
People are imperfect and make mistakes all the time even if they are good willed like >>128208 said, society would be much better if people weren't as tribal whether based on lineage or political persuasion like >>128232 said

>>128167
Please be trolling

Anonymous 128286

Lets get priorities straight. Political systems don't matter, only genetics matter. Genetics determine all human culture.

Anonymous 128287

>>128286
Interesting way to sell national socialism and eugenics

Anonymous 128322

You are right. Hating the other side achieves nothing and makes you easier to manipulate by the bad people on your own side.


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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 128096

>>121894
I am 30 and my autism symptoms got worse I got diagnosed at 30. I always knew but it was never official, and I also have ADHD.
I feel like I did get more sensitive, but I know these conditions don't "get worse". Instead, I think we just get better at understanding our limits. Which you are, too. I don't ever leave my house without ear plugs, and have done so for only 2+ years as I thought I just need to deal with that.

I had a bisalp since I don't ever want to raise kids or spread autism and ADHD; consider if you can raise a disabled kid by yourself. If you have doubts, it's a NO.

Anonymous 128105

You're not turning into a sociopath. In terms of personality disorders the symptom you seem to be experiencing the most is not dissociality but rather detachment.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ICD-11_classification_of_personality_disorders
But there's a less concerning explanation for what you're going through, it's called autistic masking and I also experience it. What helps is to have some autistic friends and have a place /activity where you feel comfortable taking time to yourself. Having these moments with other autistics and having alone time to be yourself are extremely helpful in terms of not feeling like you're losing your mind about it, it also helps with depression and the like.

Anonymous 128198

>>121894
loop engage earplugs help me so much in loud environments

Anonymous 128235

Find socially competent, masking autists if you can to keep you from struggling with normie interaction. They do exist. You'd be better off finding other autistic women who understand your issues. Just find a legit autist and not one of those self diagnosed qwirky TikTok diagnosed ones

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>>128105
OP here, it’s been 8 months since I posted this. I’m doing better and the only thing that’s ever helped me so far is staying away from most people and cutting ties with people who just wore me down all my life.

I’m on antipsychotics and antidepressants. The antipsychotics help tremendously with the “I’m not human, I’m subhuman with no feelings.” kind of thoughts and the anxiety that came with it.

It was, (my psychologist said it was “creating and maintaining boundaries) but i think its more extreme, i just stopped trying to socialise with normal people. In other words I stopped masking. The moment school ends I go home immediately and avoid socialising “like a normal person”

All throughout my life my dad had put on expectations on how I should act, feel and look, and what should I have accomplished at certain points in my life and I’ve realised that shit is fucking toxic like industrial strength acid. Those expectations he put on me corroded my self esteem and self worth.

I dropped that mindset and I still have thoughts that I’m not as good as other people in being “a normal person” and I’m still struggling to come to terms with my autism. But I’m doing better.

(Sorry if the wording seems off, I’m typing this in the middle of class)


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Anonymous 128191[Reply]

How would you describe the feelings and differences of

>Young love
>Love at first sight
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
>Loving a friend
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
>Being "in love"
>Long term love
>Falling out of love
>Settling

Anonymous 128219

>Young love
When you're in high school or college and you date for the first time. Exciting but doesn't last long. Just don't endup with a child at this age.
>Love at first sight
Happens when you have an unhealthy attachment style. Usually avoidant. Avoidant feel intense love at first,which leads to lovebombing, and eventual discard, when those intense feelings subside
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
This is what i would say if i was deeply afraid of commitment
>Loving a friend
This is actually not that bad if the feeliings are reciprocated. you get to be love someone you're actually bonded to
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
See above
>Being "in love"
First 2-3 years, when the relationship is still new and in honeymoon phase. if you're avoidant/commitment issues that can be 1 year or less
>Long term love
Both people have a stable attachment style, and don't stop loving each other after the honeymoon phase ends
>Falling out of love
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Anonymous 128317

>Young love
When you have no idea and you get caught blindsided by strong feelings of desire towards someone. You want to do everything for them to be happy and to be with them always. You have few boundaries and if they let you, you stick to them like glue and people please to hell and back. If they feel the same way towards you, you have a wonderful time for the longest of time possible.
>Love at first sight
You see someone and you get the impression that you know them. They seem so familiar to you. You want to be with them. You are infatuated.
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
Few rules, few regulations, you both have an interest in each other. You try to see if there is secondary attraction and compatibility.
>Loving a friend
You appreciate them a lot. You want to protect them and help them but you don't want to be with them all the time, you don't want to kiss them or know every detail about them and you are not infatuated.
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
That honestly comes across as someone you look up to or idolise.
>Being "in love"
In love means infatuated or bewitched. Your mind is occupied by the person daily. You feel excitement and glee to see them and spent time with them. You look forward to being around them. Butterflies.
>Long term love
Contentment that comes after infatuation/honeymoon phase ends. You are still attracted, want to spend time with and find the person appealing but you feel close to them and content in a way. Not likely to grovel during this phase and you see the person better for who they are and accept them.
>Falling out of love
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Hate Thread Anonymous 118525[Reply]

What do you hate and why?
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Anonymous 128269

AI bros- especially and specifically the ones that use AI to generate fake gfs to abuse, use it to undress pictures of women, use it to generate porn of women without their consent, etc.

Feels like AI is just another tool in the box for men to abuse and degrade women

Anonymous 128302

moid celebrities, especially comedians who oftentimes manage to be inflammatory, woman hating and ugly at the same time in an already lousy industry that objectifies and commodifies women to the extremes. a list ones are also evil incarnate. I'd like to send them all into a giant pot of scalding water and watch the skin boil off their bones

Anonymous 128303

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>>128302
>I'd like to send them all into a giant pot of scalding water and watch the skin boil off their bones

Anonymous 128304

>>128302
Youre hating on ugly women in an industry that commodifies them what

I get the hideous moid part but please name me some celebrity women that are ugly

This looks like more of the same basic primal bimbo shit

Anonymous 128313

>>128304
I never said any celebrity women were ugly what I said the men were ugly


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Things they don’t teach you in school Anonymous 115819[Reply]

The important things. Like, what am I supposed to do when I, as a married woman who loves her husband, am feeling extremely attracted to a male friend? I wanna suppress my feelings and act like everything is normal but it’s so hard, it’s literally physically painful. I‘m feeling physically sick. Maybe I should cut contact with him, but I know that would really hurt him and I really can not do that. What am I supposed to do? I’m despairing. I don’t know who to ask
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Anonymous 121027

>>121009
is this actually true?

Anonymous 121038

>>121027
Partly. Male deathrate in the 30s is conventionally 2x female but the younger age cohort is dying faster at an accelerated pace.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/241572/death-rate-by-age-and-sex-in-the-us/
Age Male Female
15-24 126.9 49.3
25-34 251.2 108.6
35-44 373.3 201.2
45-54 668.4 393.9
You don't really have to worry though, it's typically unmarried and especially never-married men that make those numbers happen.

Anonymous 128255

>>121009
…backup… husband?

Anonymous 128258

>>121038
> it's typically unmarried and especially never-married men that make those numbers happen.
Oh, so incels are genetic trash after all

Anonymous 128284

>>115887
>Or can it work being platonic with each other?
Nope

>>128258
Lol


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Anonymous 128262[Reply]

Can bad days, trauma, mental scars, and nightmares from bad experiences ever be healed?

Everything you experience for the first time, good or bad, always hits a lot harder.
Everything you experience up until 25 hits a lot harder.
Venting doesn't work.
You can't put a broken glass back together.
The cracks will still show, shards will still be missing.

Can all you do is move toward and live with everything that happened and try to find peace?

Anonymous 128263

You can’t put a broken glass together, but mentally, you’re not glass. You’re not born perfect and that fragile. Trauma doesn’t really make you broken irreversibly, but it can until you have the support and the understanding to recover. (Like people who actually get what you went through help a lot)

I had stress so severe it was incomprehensible to others when I tried to explain, never vented so the shit kept building up and my mental functioning began to actually shut down from being unable to carry that weight. That went on until I got to a safe environment with safe people who treated me normally. Then my functioning gradually started restoring because I had only functioning issues and an attitude. I’m “scarred forever” in the sense my developmental path had shifted, but I’m not suffering from past events anymore.

Idk if it made sense nona just wanted to share my experience.

Anonymous 128265

>Can bad days, trauma, mental scars, and nightmares from bad experiences ever be healed?
Dunno :( I'm waiting for mine to go away, but it's been so long and I'm tried. Only good thing is, I forget less traumatic events over the years.
I guess "time heals" is a real thing?

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Taken from an excerpt on this random article I found-

“The story of kintsugi—this style of pottery—may be the most perfect embodiment of all our trauma-shattered lives… Instead of throwing away the broken beloved pottery, we’ll fix it in a way that doesn’t pretend it hasn’t been broken but honors the breaking—and more so, the surviving—by highlighting those repaired seams with gold lacquer. Now the object is functional once again and dignified, not discarded. It’s stronger and even more valuable because of its reinforced, golden scars.”

I highly recommend you read the article here- https://www.vaneetha.com/journal/kintsugi-beauty-in-the-broken

Also, do more research on kintsugi. It might change your mind on our minds merely being "fragile glass"

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>>128263
this 100%

just like flesh, the mind can heal
does it mean everyone will heal ? no
does it mean no one has a chance to heal ? no

Anonymous 128283

>>128282
In fact I’d argue purely psychological trauma is unlikely to cause irreversible damage unlike what can happen to your body. Most damage is functional and just requires a lot of effort to relearn. I’m not an expert on this topic tho so feel free to correct me on that.


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i have a phobia of female role in sex which makes me dysphoric as fuck and sex repulsed Anonymous 126444[Reply]

anyone else??? i just find the role submissive and humuliating, i dont wanna post it on nsfw board bc i dont wanna see anons talk about wanting to do humiliating sex acts i have a phobia of
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Anonymous 128276

>>128158
Incels think sex is an act of evil done to women. They think it is good only because they are the ones inflicting it on women.
You can just not think that sex must be an act of evil done to women. This does not solve the problem of being exposed to people who still think this way, but you can just fantasize about healthy and non-harmful sex with a husbando.
You can identify a psyop without buying into it yourself.
Blackpillers are ideologically identical to incels/misogynists, as in they share the same core beliefs about the sexes. The only difference is whether or not they think their values are “right”, or “wrong” from their position The only way to be a true separatist is to eradicate your male-centered perspective. Your internal world does not have to operate on the same logic as misogynists. You should acknowledge its existence, but you should not agree.

Anonymous 128277

>>128276
They definitely do think it’s an act of evil considering how according to them women are immediately sullied by having sex and need to stay celibate for their own good

Anonymous 128278

>>128100
Only if you dont assert the female gaze.

Anonymous 128279

>>128276
Exactly

Anonymous 128280

>>128277
Yes, but it is an act of evil he is entitled to inflict on women, therefore it is “good” (when he does it).


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Positivity. Anonymous 116556[Reply]

Share any positive feelings or positive things.

Garden your soul garden.
Every focus is infinite multiverses.
Keep watering the ideas/plants that make you feel the loveliest love


Here’s a thing that has made me feel so good and is important to me:
Thousands of Polska girls and Belarus girls are covering my NorthAmerican city with graffiti. They’ve somehow clearly gotten the idea to all become collectively like a splatoon. It has changed the energy immensely and really improved the omnipresent feminism quality~level vibe. These girls have religions about ancient euro queens and it really shows, lots of ethereal stuff.. I see so many soulful girls are more comfortable loitering around and making anywhere a party! That’s SO important! Sovl
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Anonymous 128213

A coworker gave me coconut crackers today!

Anonymous 128214

I have been feeling more confident recently!

Anonymous 128238

I didn't drink last night and I went to bed early.

Anonymous 128249

Ate good food and had sex. Now I'm going to listen to music. Life is good.


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