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I will always be the old person I was Anonymous 119890[Reply]

I have had difficulties in my childhood even until now because of my mental human condition. Everyone knows me me as the child who had insane periodic outbursts at periods and no one feels safe around me. I was always paranoid about my digital footprint, but people have archived some of them and people have found it. I used to say hateful or shocking things, and do them to "fit" in because I never had a community and these seemed like the only people willing to accept me. People have found these footprints.

I have nowhere to be. Rather, there is no place that needs me. Even if I change, there is still this person that I used to be that has undoubtedly affected other people negatively. Everything I've done has brought some sort of hardship.

It's not enough to just change and be a better person. I will die

Anonymous 119956

hey anon are you still there

Anonymous 119960

>>119890
i feel like there is 2 sides to this story, on one hand your mental dis-regulation and on the other is the modern internet's sense of self righteousness and purity spiraling where changing for the better is not welcome since they need to pat themselves on the back with the whole at least i am not that, the only way out for you is start using obscure forums and message boards(like this one) and almost dead websites and avoid ''political'' people like the plague other way is to start going to the most outdoor activities you can find since overly online people do not like that



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YOU SAY. NO. Anonymous 119583[Reply]

Everyone has. The right. To privacy.

When you go to an educational institution, it IS expected that your faculty and school administration is being HONEST about how they are interacting with your online data, and who YOU are.

When Apple says they share their user data for "relevant educational services," but FAILS to elaborate on what exactly those relevant educational services ARE, PRECISELY, YOU SAY. NO.

It is not, in fact, fucking normal, to go to school and feel like you are being spied on for experimental purposes, of which you have no clear idea about. It is NOT NORMAL to start receiving emails, from a school administration or company, that entail some broader """"MEANING"""" that you are NOT comfortable with.

IT IS NOT NORMAL TO LIVE IN FEAR.

It's not normal to feel emotionally manipulated into something you don't want to happen. It's not normal to feel like you are being lied to.

When media giants like Disney and Netflix start making shows and movies that seem, EXTREMELY, UNCOMFORTABLY relevant to your experience in real life, YOU SAY. NO. When companies like Amazon and Apple start coincidentally using the phrase, "Stay Connected," in a period in which everyone around you seems paranoid of their online and REAL LIFE privacy - YOU SAY. NO. When Youtube starts recommending shit that seems like THEY ARE LITERALLY WATCHING YOU, block these videos. WATCH SOMETHING ELSE.

YOU SAY. NO. You are not something to be controlled. That's not normal. This is in fact something that happens, and you are not crazy for feeling like this is not how you interact with actual, living humans. You are not wrong for feeling gaslit.
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Anonymous 119619

Sometimes the right to restrict use of your data is a wall-in contract. Meaning that they allow you to seal your record, but only once you are already inside. You're probably already familiar with the computer operating system style where you have options that you can opt into after clicking that you agree to EULA away your identity and sign away your right to lawsuit in an agreement to arbitration, and then Windows Update takes away half of those privacy-enhancing options and puts copilot on your desktop. But normal professional software (e.g. photoshop), televisions, cars and even refrigerators now come with post-agreement manual opt out privacy options that can only be digitally agreed with after you have already agreed to the terms of service allowing the vendor to collect, harvest, analyze and make commercial use of all available data, which in the case of softwares with kernel level antipiracy/anticheating protections mean all of your data period. These initial agreements increasingly require you to opt in to legal updates allowing the vendor to apply post-agreement changes to their terms of use and terms of service.

For all that these companies value the data they collect their reliability in terms of securing said valuables against criminals is questionable.
https://www.csoonline.com/article/3631055/volkswagen-massive-data-leak-caused-by-a-failure-to-secure-aws-credentials.html
But it will surely be generally secured against the users from whom it was harvested.

Anonymous 119728

>>119617
>deleting netflix
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>>119619
they should doxx me then. freedom of speech and the ability to decentralize is more important than some random college thinking they ought to impose their beliefs unto others.
funnily enough their social hazing only made me feel more racist and sexist in a way that's legitimately harmful. people who can't tell memes from real life are cancer. if all else fails scream at them for being authoritarian, not transparent, and extremely invasive of people's privacy and right to decentralize, aka not be indoctrinated into a cult that doesn't really give a shit about you.
this was at a california public university called cal poly and I use mostly Apple devices. funnily enough, Apple just got into a lawsuit doing something similar with their employees. i shouldn't have to crawl through pages upon pages of user privacy rights to figure out whether or not I need to make my own damn Internet devices. it's definitely a form of entrapment.

Anonymous 119748

who cares about any of this we're not living in a cyberpunk dystopia yet, right?

Anonymous 119876

they can see:

your browsing history
chat messages
pics

everything

Anonymous 119879

>>119876
also

they stalk you online. interact with you, online. i literally went fucking insane and they just did nothing and gaslit me about me being stalked.

i had my email doxxed on 4chan and their way of handling it was akin to a group of adult bullies with a high pay grade.

the only reason my shit was obvious is because i use imageboards.

they lull you into a false sense of security and then weaponize whatever bit of vulnerability you gave to them.

so yeah. thats the year 2025. literally just adult bullying abstracted behind ideological vigilantism, woke shit, and identity politics.



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What now? Anonymous 119395[Reply]

A few months ago I was diagnosed with BPD. And more recently PTSD.

It's nice to have answers. For over a decade I thought the brain fog I felt was due to malnutrition or something, but apparently it's because of depersonalization. That's just one example of many things.

I don't know very much about BPD. Every time it comes up in conversation it's either in reference to someone's abusive ex or as an insult.

Of course I crave love and intimacy. I've never been in a relationship before. I've never even had anyone ask me out. I have a lot of very complicated, very mood-swing-ey feelings about that. I feel like I'm almost trying to find shitty things about the human race to make me hate being around people, so that it hurts less to be alone. I think it's working. Right now I'm in a state of mind where I feel fine being alone. I'd rather be alone than risk hurting the people I love.

Anonymous 119733

You can't make everyone happy

Anonymous 119782

I would say the next step would to probably go to a therapist to work on managing overwhelming emotions and thoughts. As well as addressing any issues stemming from your trauma. Just try to be open and honest with yourself and be receptive to change.

Good luck, try not to forget about the good people <3 (but still be mindful of the bad ones)

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Anonymous 118687[Reply]

besides suicide what are my options if I hate myself so much that I am unable to function. What will help. Meds have not helped.
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Anonymous 119805

>>118687
try getting off the meds, I know this is super controversial but medicine keeps us sick, some meds really do help in certain circumstances but it seems they just push a bunch of stuff on you if you feel slightly bothered by anything

Anonymous 119810

>>118687
What do you hate about yourself?

Anonymous 119871

>>118687
You might be feeling trapped in negative self-talk. I would recommend speaking kindly to yourself and celebrating any bit of progress you make, it has helped me a lot to do that. Also, spending time outdoors helps no matter how shitty you feel.

Anonymous 119875

I'm like this too, I have no idea hpw to fix it and I just dwell on the past, future and present. The only thing that stops it is trying to focus on other things and that's temporary. Maybe I should rot my brain with meds, I don't know

Anonymous 120352

Are you unable to function because you hate yourself? Or do you hate yourself because you are unable to function? Having clear goals that can be accomplished one step at a time can help you overcome your self hatred. You're just as human as each one of us, and just as capable. Work with a professional, work on yourself, put in effort. It'll make you feel better



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Anonymous 119865[Reply]

I hate men so much omg 😭 I need a safe space to cleanse myself from all men (except George Michael's discography). I have an event later today that will require me to be around the same white cookie cutter men for the nth time and I want to rip my hair out I'm so tired of this bs
:((((((( I refuse to go to this event sober (but for legal reasons I will be raw dogging this required event)

It's just me and Freedom! 90 - Remastered against the world. Please pray for me and send me the most healing feminine energy so I can survive

Anonymous 119870

My parents took me to see George Michael and it was awful.



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I went to a gym and my god I have a problem Anonymous 119866[Reply]

I normally find the smell of bo gross but when I smell mens bo I get really horny


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Anonymous 106726[Reply]

post yr ideal partner
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Anonymous 119835

>>119832
Wtf lol

Anonymous 119837

>>119831

ideally i'd be the first of seven and he'd forget about doing the other six

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Anonymous 119854

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

Anonymous 119857

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>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.



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How to deal with my hatred towards pickmes as a woman Anonymous 107469[Reply]

How to deal with constantly having to see women act trashy for men, having to be gaslighted as an individual by women as a collective which is very vile and makes me doubt myself as if I'm a crazy person just making up shit, having to be surrounded with the patriarchy they co create with men especially through heterosexuality, having to see women acting desperate for men, being hated for having self preservation, literally getting mad responses from pickmes, having to live in this society with no community I can connect with and having to suppress my mind and "ignore" the issues aka just… suppress myself to fit them, having to be exposed to constant brainwashing and grooming by male lovers, having to deal with female socialization and being held to higher standards than they hold men to.
It's all just evil, women as a collective oppress individual women, and celibate women who don't want to engage in heterosexuality are seen as controversial and male lovers are threatened by us. I know people will just tell me to "ignore" but I want a community or else I'm a fucking slave in this society. Its hard being an autistic, mentally gnc woman cause other women hate you, not in the way hatred is usually displayed by humans but it's still real. I also feel intellectually suppressed/oppressed in the female socialization and female socialization is also very aggressive. I'm very unique(I know that we all go though the same experience and all human feel the same things, I just resort to seeing myself as unique whenever it's a temporary state or not or even trauma, it just helps me understand what I am in relation with others in the context of this issue here)
Please don't nitpick this cause I'm so tired, it's NOT just about being celibate please understand what I mean cause I've seen male lovers accusing volcel women of basing their worth around the "lack if male presence" in their life "just as male lovers base their worth around male presence". Wtf
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Anonymous 119544

>>119542
Screw it, might as well add the other stuff. See if anyone can relate, or if anyone wants a laugh at this bizarre fucked up family dynamic involving a pickme/boymom.

In our recent convo quoted above, mom also said, life would suck without men (HAHA), how she hates dykes (shell probably accuse me or question me if I am one, even though Im straight, if I keep explaining mens true nature and why I want to be separate from men as much as possible). Mom kept calling modern women who-oores, and I said thats what men say they want which influences women to behave sexually that way, that men are way more whorish than women. Mom brought up how women are so fucked up now (meaning, not feminine, shaved heads or blue hair, tattoos, and meeeannn to mens feewings). I said maybe its a result of trauma or abuse from men (not that a woman needs a reason, baby steps..). She said, oh I never knew that, so maybe something clicked?

Another time, mom said how she cant say no to men esp my brother. My brother is in his late 30s, yet he commands mom at all hours to make him a full meal, a snack, tea, clean up dog shit, or do his laundry (he only recently stopped telling mom about laundry past 12am, she usually stays up and even irons his clothing, complaining to me about it). Mom drops everything, incl if we were having a private convo or she was helping me with something, to fulfill my brothers command. As they leave, my brother glares at me before he turns around and walks away, so he can rat me out if he sees that I have a negative facial expression of annoyance. If I do and he sees, they both guilt trip me, accusing me of hating them both, when I just want my mom to stop hating herself and for my brother to leave me alone. When my brother commands mom to do whatever, he thinks hes a nice guy because he says "you dont have to do it right now". Mom then leaves me to wait while they have entire convos, so I just give up and do a hobby alone.

My brother orders mom around daily, to the point it feels like elder abuse. Its a subtle daily exhausting effect, not obvious extreme stuff like hitting. Mom neglects her own health issues, and I worry that my brother will compound them into something serious one day. Mom complains to me in private that shes tired, sometimes has to pretend shes sleeping, hiding in her room with her light off, so that he leaves her alPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 119806

>>119544
Your family dynamic is toxic nona, but you already knew that. It’s easy for me to say to walk away from that shit when it’s not my family, but still, reading all that, my first thought was “run”.

Your mom has an emotionally incestuous relationship with your brother (typical boymom, many such cases) and it will only get worse, and as it gets worse, she’ll demand that YOU pick up the slack when her health fails. You can’t reason her out of this. Her entire identity is serving men. It’s a standard primitive survival tactic, probably enforced into her as a child: she knows that men are stronger, are more violent, command more respect and have more resources, so she hates and betrays other women in the hopes of being spared or protected from other men. It’s fear-based, but if she’s malicious, she’ll also actively enjoy other women’s suffering. Pick-me behaviour.

The best you can do is keep your head down, save your money, and leave. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it happens to way too many girls and women. Your mom doesn’t respect herself, or you.

Anonymous 119817

>>119364
>>119365
Not op but lmao I can't even see women like you as human anymore, you're so mentally enslaved. Also don't call op a radiem, she's blackpilled and supports biological realism. Meanwhile radfems believe in socialization theory bullshit and most of them still want to suck dick

Anonymous 119851

>>119817
Are there any female blackpill & bio realism places left? I miss r/blackpillfeminism

Anonymous 119853

>>119851
Richard Dawkins related spaces used to be great but full of people that are way older than me. He used to talk about trans issues from a biorealism point of view but now he actively avoids the subject in anything he does.



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Anonymous 119824[Reply]

i was looking at my bfs tablet gallery, and in the rubbish bin i saw a screenshot with a half naked woman and a qr code of an onlyfans link. now i know he would never use onlyfans (even if i didn't trust him, we're both broke and our country's currency is shit so subscribing to a platform using dollars would cost a lot) but it's still so disturbing to me. especially considering that the woman in question is a midget (sorry if this is an offensive term). i am also a very petite woman, but she is blond and resembles one of his ex and i do not. am i reading too much into this? why didn't he just jack off and move on instead of taking a screenshot? should i bring this up?
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Anonymous 119827

>>119826
what should i say nona

Anonymous 119828

>>119827
I'm not that nona but I would just tell him when in private "hey I found something strange on your tablet. It was a such a picture of this n that (don't be too descriptive)." I think the way he answers will be telling. But good luck!

Anonymous 119834

Eh I'm not sure. Maybe don't bring it up immediately because if he really is a depraved coomer, he's just gonna learn to hide it better. Instead, continue looking every now and then

Anonymous 119839

Don't let him reverse the argument with that "Why did you invade my privacy" crap if you confront him about this, also make sure to do this confrontation in a safe place, preferably in an open public space with others around, cornered men are quick to use violence despite how well you may think you know him so he won't likely act violently in public which is why you must not do this privately.

Anonymous 119852

>>119839
OP, don't be with a man that would require you to behave like this. Dump him immediately if it's the case.

>>119828
This is good advice.



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Are lesbian relationships more empathetic and loving than het ones? Anonymous 119649[Reply]

Bisexual nona here, since being pinkpilled and observing male behavior ive wondered if lesbian relationships are more kind and understanding than heterosexual ones. It seems like women(myself included) to prioritize bonding and emotional intimacy and a deep bond.
(talked to moids before never gotten to even dating just some interest ig and self inserted into f4f fanfic and have sexual/romantic feelings for other women.so i have no experience just wanted to put that out there.)

Anonymous 119776

no

Anonymous 119777

Yes

Anonymous 119778

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>>119649
lol no

Anonymous 119840

>>119649
Absolutely not.
That's just anecdotal but my only domestic abuse experience so far was with another woman, so I would also point towards >>119778

Anonymous 119948

You're less at risk of getting seriously beaten up or raped if you date a woman, but ultimately it depends on the individual.



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