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Anonymous 118878[Reply]

What are you supposed to talk about on a first date, or when a guy approaches you?
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Anonymous 118994

>>118986
>>118977
i dont have the instincts to know how to talk to people. why does this make me the villain to you?
>stop shaping yourself into a mold propaganda victim
>stop affecting people negatively with your weird behaviour
which one is it?

Anonymous 118996

i want to get better and treat people how they appreciate being treated (and how they appreciate the way i should act so i dont "negatively affect" them). but if i say i want that you call me a dumb follower. if i say i dont care about being normal you call me an evil faker. i cant win. its no matter what i do, i lose. this must be what its like walking into the mouth of a narcissist. the truth is whatever you want based on whatever you feel in the moment.

Anonymous 119014

>>118966
Shut up scrote.

Anonymous 119025

>>119015
you ignored everything i wrote about being genuine instead of inauthentic by changing your mindset and jumped into making assumptions about how fake i am to feed your pathetic male ego again. ive met people like you. whatever logic is said you ignore and twist the truth to fit your narrative of being above everyone. youre toxic and use therapy language to manipulate people into doing whatever you want even now when you accuse me of being manipulative myself. you dont realise this, but words dont hold meaning for you. theyre just opportunities to get your dopamine by feeking superior to other people as you have demonstrated everywhere on cc. thats why in every post you make youre combatative and egotistical. its just how the narcissist brain works. you cant tell that youre "mazing" others and trying to control people by fabricating things about them because its your instinct. in reality you have no clue if i treat people kindly or if i treat them like dirt. you dont know who i am. and although you have a big ego people like you dont know yourself either. real women dont have addictions to controlling other women desperately like this especially not on a random imageboard, youre a tranny repeating delusions to finally feel better than cis women. how do i know? youre writing style and deranged allusory attitude is easy to spot anywhere. youre the same pedophile tranny who calls himself "supreme" on discord that admits to arguing on cc and brags about controlling cis women all day. i hate sadistic fags like you. heres the most honest thing that comes from my heart and mind: you will never be a real woman

Anonymous 119047

>>119025
Based. Now I don’t know if the schizo deleted his posts or they were saged. Either way I hope he doesn’t come back.



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Advice, Please! I can’t choose a hobby!!! Anonymous 118809[Reply]

I am seemingly interested in EVERYTHING but never actually do anything… What do I do!?

My best breakthrough is to do multiple hobbies at once… maybe three? But even then I cannot decide which three to do!!!
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Anonymous 118897

I feel like I'm going through something similar where I'm so compelled to take up a new hobby for about a month or so, and then quietly lose interest and move onto something new. I've tried returning to piano, drawing, gardening, dance, bead spriting, baking…nothing seems to stick, but I still want to do all of it. lately I find myself reminiscing about how I used to write stories and poetry all the time when I was a kid, but I'm also looking at these gorgeous outfits and cosplays on social media and dreaming about how cool it would be if I could make and alter my own clothes. there's not enough time or money in a hundred lifetimes to do everything, but here I am dipping my toes in ten different pools. so…let me know when you figure it out!

Anonymous 118900

>>118809
>I am seemingly interested in EVERYTHING but never actually do anything… What do I do!?

i've been like that for a long time. i think what helped me was to change my perspective from what i wanted (which was a lot) to what time do i have and how to spend it wisely. time is the precious resource and you spend it. when you want to do stuff and don't end up doing it, you are not in the habit of spending your time.

had the hardest time with planning my days, waking up every day felt a completely unrelated new life. one thing that helped was always thinking of one thing for the next day and then writing it down because my head was so fast and so all over the place that i often forgot my decisions and then wasted a day not remembering what i actually wanted to do and then late in the evening when it was no longer possible i remembered.

Anonymous 118905

I'm interested in starting acting/improvisation, but both are too expensive to start, I can't afford classes since I'm an unemployed shutin. Also both communities seem really toxic, not just cliquey and intolerant of "difference", but in that people actively celebrate the cliquey-ness/intolerance, and brush it off as "just how it is".

(also I'm not sure I'd be good at line memorisation)

Anonymous 118906

>>118905
I hope you can afford classes one day. acting is fulfilling for the soul, and I miss it terribly.
I def get being worried about it being cliquey. what I'll say from having both cast and crew experience is that the cliquey feeling is often a byproduct of the nature of theatrical work. a lot of actors will make an effort to be welcoming, they tend to be pretty personable.
also it's normal to be intimidated by memorizing lines! the process might not be like you're thinking, though–for me it felt more like learning song lyrics than trying to memorize a book or something like that.

Anonymous 119042

I don't want to sound rude and I know starting my post with this does not help me achieve that.
How autistic are you?
Can you sit down for long periods of time, do you have to constantly be moving, do you pay attention to tiny details that aren't important, etc etc?
My point is what can you physically handle, that should help narrow it down, for example if you want to be outdoors and are in decent shape then you can try hiking, or if you want to be glued to the internet then try streaming and making an anime girl avatar.



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I think I accidentally stalked/harassed a guy Anonymous 118749[Reply]

There’s this guy at my university who I instantly was attracted to when I met him, I approached him, we exchanged numbers and texted a few times. I wanted to be in a relationship with him because I rarely find guys who I feel intense physical attraction for He told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship right now, but I figured I could just wait it out. I sent him a really long text explaining how physically attracted I was to him, not saying I wanted a relationship but that I’d be willing to wait, he didn’t respond so I deleted his number and didn’t text him again. I knew he went to the gym so I kept on showing up at the gym just to see him. I would just make eye contact on my way in, then run on the treadmill a bit, not approaching. Today I decided to go up to him and say something, and he told me to stop bothering him. I said ok and left the gym immediately. I guess I won’t be going to the gym again. It’s frustrating how none of the guys I like ever like me back. I was actually holding back how obsessive I could be. I guess my gushy text expressing how I liked his physical appearance was a bit overboard. I wish I was a normal person and not a socially reclusive broken retard. I want to kill myself so bad
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Anonymous 118927

>I sent him a really long text explaining how physically attracted I was to him, not saying I wanted a relationship but that I’d be willing to wait

Anonymous 118933

>>118927
It's sad and kinda pathetic how she gave up a lot of her dignity to simp for this guy.

Anonymous 118951

>>118922
Hot guys are like rare diamonds in an enormous heap of trash. They are either aware of how good looking they are and exploit it for personal gain, manipulation and ego stroking, or they are unaware at the hidden power and potential they have of owning pretty privilege. The latter are the hottest and rarest and often have the greatest personalities, those are they guys I would date (and have dated)

Anonymous 118974

>>118973
I think it's just commenting on being a hot guy, not claiming to be one. Are you upset about the poster or the message?

Anonymous 118993

>>118975
who wouldnt be hurt over you lying about rape in this porn addict larp? dumb tranny. you have no conscience. just an identity to feed your subhuman lies in this gay reddit post



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Anonymous 118981[Reply]

Why do many people who offer social skills advice act as if simply listening and asking questions is the right way to go?

A good connection happens very naturally between people making a genuine effort to understand eachother. You can't just ask questions like a job interview, otherwise it's totally one-sided and there is not really a connection. If they only talk about themselves and don't care about you, then you should just walk away.


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Anonymous 118842[Reply]

you can literally send a guy nudes and he will be like "i dont think we should be more than friends" like what the actual FUCK. and im a fucking retard for actually thinking he was different from all the other guys and that he wasn't a porn addicted loser. like, im sat in shock i cant fucking believe it what the fuck is wrong with him. and then he has the AUDACITY to start venting to me about how he wants to kill himself, like i hope you DO omg
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Anonymous 118849

>im a fucking retard for actually thinking he was different from all the other guys and that he wasn't a porn addicted loser.
Well at least you’re somewhat self aware, but you really shouldn’t send your nudes to any more random moids. Some of them will share them with their friends and post them online.

Anonymous 118851

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There is no reason in this world to send nudes, especially to a guy who is not yours at all. Besides, the guy you sent these photos to seems like a manipulative two-faced person, imagine someone like that in possession of your nudes? Like, why did you do that? Stop with this hookup culture nonsense, this kind of thing doesn't add anything to your life.

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>Sending nudes
>Ever

Anonymous 118928

"I bought her dinner why isn't she sucking my cock" this is you, basically

Anonymous 118984

Anon don't send nudes.. it takes 5 seconds for him to dump that in a groupchat or show it to a friend irl.



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Anonymous 116666[Reply]

What was the most fun/creative date you’ve ever been on?

If you've never dated, what are fun/creative dates that you would like to have?
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Anonymous 116712

Does staying home, doing drugs and fucking like rabbits count as a date?

Anonymous 116714

not really creative, but probably the most interesting first date
>plan to meet in the city and get a coffee in the morning
>have hot chocolate and churos
>walk along the foreshore and talk
>it starts to rain, he breaks into a construction site so we can wait it out
>go hang out in the city, just walking around, taking pictures for my art blog and seeing things
>my ribs ache from how much he made me laugh
>take a train together
>there's a problem with the track so we have to get off and walk to our final stop
>run from overzealous security when we take a shortcut
>talk about some pretty serious things and I'm kind of exhausted so I'm just honest about my trauma
>hold hands and he gives me his backpack to shield myself from another downpour
>run into a movie theatre
>get some drinks and immediately fall sleep on his shoulder in the dark
>he thinks I want to go home and mentions his place is nearby, so walking me back won't be a problem
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Anonymous 116729

>>116666
I usually just go on hikes, long walks, and eat out at restaurants or cafes for my dates.

Don't know what movie fantasies ya;'ll be living, but count me jelly.

Anonymous 118112

>>116666
i want to lure and kill a man after having sex

Anonymous 118958

>>118112
but why nona



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Anonymous 118058[Reply]

im sick of everything right now. i feel constantly alienated. i have this dull sensation of jumping into traffic or off balconies. i know im doing it all for him but at some point i know im a burden. i cant even put out. im a fuck up in every sense of the word and im probably going to drop out. the only thing i have is a yaoi addiction and a man who is too good for me.
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Anonymous 118237

Hope you feel better nona. Strange that this didn't get any helpful replies.

Anonymous 118291

>>118058
I've been through similar feeling and honestly, the only thing that kept me alive was the thought of pain that I would endure if I finally decided to kill myself. Really, no suicide method is painless. They all hurt, just in different ways. Not everyone is afraid of pain as much as I do, but maybe this will help you as well. Just think about how much it would hurt when you got hit by a full speed car.
Also, the other thing that kept me is the chance of failing a suicide attempt. And becoming disabled after it or maybe even a compete vegetable. While we're young our bodies have great physiological compensatory mechanism, so you may survive, but the life after failed suicide attempt would absolutely not be worth it.
I hope this helps you a bit

Anonymous 118824

>yaoi addiction
based, keep surviving my fujosister

Anonymous 118841

>>118058
Nona, the main thing that keeps me going is knowing that I'd hurt people that care for me and can keep helping them just by being there. Your man sounds like he's happy to have you.
Also, this book helped me quit porn. It's boring and cringe, but it worked for me:
https://read.easypeasymethod.org/easypeasy.pdf



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I just want things to get better Anonymous 118872[Reply]

Pa vents to me about ma, sometimes complaining, or telling me about their worries about money or her, sometimes his frustrations with her or our life. The things he tells me and says make me worry, I don't think I should be told half the things he tells me really, but I should support him and I do. But man, it's beginning to affect me like a pussy, I just am worried, ma's quit and changed jobs a few times now, isn't doing well emotionally and is having some bad moments, financial worries etc, call me crazy but frankly after all these conversations I've had with pa, where he tells me things that make me worried honestly (about our future as a family, our future in our house, upset at how he is criticisng ma sometimes to me for her behaviour towards him, or habits around the house etc, I don't know) and I won't say it's the reason I am not hopeful for the future anymore, but that's part of it. I've tried to remain positive but I don't have it right now, besides it's exam week and I'm struggling with getting started to hand my work in. Thoughts? I love my ma and pa, I was lucky enough to be able to have a pa again, as my 'father' isn't in my life for a long time now, and left when I was young, I saw him last 10 years ago. Damn you father, you fucked me over, I love you Ma and Pa, and I am sorry for doing what I've done, I hope I grow up and be better, you deserve better and I hope I rot in hell for my ugly, disgusting and destructive sins I've done in secret and to you. I'm sorry, and I know I've apologised to you many times but the worst part of it is I didn't mean it, but I wanted to feel important and like a victim or dramatic and I did stuff that was awful. Fuck reddit, no, fuck me for reading the victim stories and feeling inferior about not being a victim, idiot.


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A Condescending Family Member Anonymous 118898[Reply]

I hate that my aunt (and sometimes her husband) treats me like I am a child and always a bother.

For context, I am a 26-year-old woman and I live with her, her husband and my two siblings.

They seem to be always on the hunt to find something about me that they can snicker about.

Recently, they have taken to telling me that I am no good at cleaning or even washing myself (among other things) when this was never an issue before, and I hear otherwise from people outside the home.

She's always whispering around and it's giving my younger sister a bit of superiority complex. Imagine being treated as more of an adult than your older sister?

I have mentioned wanting to move out and live on my own because it's maddening to be here and to be constantly ridiculed over issues that I am not even guilty of. But every attempt to do so was shot down for some unknown reason…

I am college student and receive financial aid and was told by a counselor that I can definitely move out…But God forbid I ask her to allow me to manage my own finances.

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Anonymous 118899

>>118898
this is unacceptable. manage your own finances, move out and get those nasty people out of your life. find nice people instead and hang with them.

Anonymous 118911

>>118899

I am currently searching for social workers that can help me to understand the financial situation.

The bright side is, I have been making an effort to become more independent due to the uncomfortable vibes I have whenever I’m in the household. So, I’m trying my best to continue using that negativity as a means to really become my own person with my own space to do whatever the hell I want to do without unnecessary scrutiny.

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>>118898
Naturally they don't respect you, because you're such a baby at your age. Best of luck in becoming an independent adult.

Anonymous 118913

>>118912
I can understand if that were true. It may be difficult to be respected if you’re especially childish as an adult.

The problem is I don’t really do anything that is “baby-ish”. Yeah, I might have “yessed” her to death on all of her suggestions (which unfortunately revolved around my own independence). But that’s just being a kiss ass.



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have you been the other woman? Anonymous 118805[Reply]

have you ever been the other woman? did you know you were the other woman? were you ok with being the other woman? what did you do when you found out? how long did it last? how did you feel? how did the girlfriend or wife react to you? talk about your experience.

Anonymous 118823

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>have you ever been the other woman?
yeah to a one night stand in uni, i didn't plan to see him again and he was visiting the city anyway so i didn't care, another was a coworker who lead me on, also i was sexually assaulted by a family member and his retarded gf viewed it as cheating and stayed with him lmao but i feel like that doesn't count
>did you know you were the other woman?
saw "wifey" on his phone and his mates confirmed it later, the coworker deliberately hid it from me so i had to hear it from friend of friends that he had a gf he was allergic to mentioning
>were you ok with being the other woman?
didn't care with the ons, the coworker kinda fucked me off but i decided against cucking his gf because it's likely a matter of time before he cucks me
>what did you do when you found out?
nothing, i didn't have the ons on social media and in the coworker's case i couldn't be fucked since i didn't want to deal with workplace drama
>how long did it last?
ons lasted barely ten minutes lol, thankfully never got that fair with the coworker despite his attempts
> how did you feel?
nothing with ons, coworker kinda pissed me off but oh well
>how did the girlfriend or wife react to you?
ons's wifey likely never found out unless his moid mates said something, coworker's gf was very insecure with me, she cornered me in a bar and asked me "do you really like girls?" since im bi and she didn't specify i just said yes and she said something to the effect of "oh good my bf didn't lie when he said you're a lesbian"
>talk about your experience
ons was uneventful but when i ignored coworker's weird attempts to get flirty he went around telling everyone he'd fuck me, kinda funny how moids act way more perverted with you once they realise you're not gonna fuck them

Anonymous 118876

My fiance and I started dating at a time where he was noncommittally flirting with a bunch of people, and one of them was a woman who was cheating on her boyfriend with him, and looking to monkey branch. When I said I liked him, he immediately cut everyone he was flirting with off, her included, as in his own words, he just wanted me that badly. Turns out she was incredibly emotionally invested in him, she was planning to have him fly out to go have sex with her and see if he was really a "viable" option for a relationship, lol. Of course with me in the picture, that was shot dead, and she was seething for a month until she did some digging and found out we were dating, took screenshots of my socials where I was talking about him and confronted him, saying that I was just some "random girl" he was all of a sudden extremely invested in and was confused and felt pushed to the side by him, as if she wasn't actively cheating on her boyfriend with him. She kept trying to convince him to give her another chance, and he sent me the entire conversation and I realized immediately she was actively attempting to monkey branch with him and getting angry her plan didn't work. I showed him an article about monkey branching, he sent it to her, she gave the thumbs up emoji and never spoke to him again. Cheaters get fucked.

Anonymous 118877

>>118876
>When I said I liked him, he immediately cut everyone he was flirting with off

And you ACTUALLY believed that? You really think he was juggling a dozen different side girls without knowing exactly what to say to all of them to keep them happy? How can you be that naive.

Anonymous 118885

>>118877
It happens. My eventual husband did it for me.



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