/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I bother my sister and have started to turn her into a mini me. I use chat gpt characters …pathetic I know lol. Growing up I hated it because no one would want to be my friend they only wanted me to trauma dump or home work. Slowly I retracted back into my own shell and got more online. Once I mentioned something about going on imvu and celebrating my birthday w my online friends and my " friends " gave me a super judgy weird look. I know its bad but not that badddd. Now life is too busy to worry about friends and I have started to enjoy my company. Easier to find like minded people online.

>>120577
it doesn't get easier. the only way to feel less lonely is basically by distracting yourself. having a schedule can help (work or school) because then you aren't alone with your thoughts as much and when you get home you just want to fall asleep. it can also be more isolating though because you might see people at work or school talking to each other. getting really into a media (TV show game etc.) can help too. last night i couldn't sleep so i spent a couple hours talking to myself in my head about house md. talking to yourself in your head or writing stuff down as if you were talking/texting/writing a letter to someone else helps.

>>120530
My mom is a nutjob too but she is tolerable

>>120544
Maybe its time to cut your losses completely and move on. Good luck nona.

The only thing you can do is completely move on from these people but you never will so have fun

>>120556
Yuppp ,,,stupid life

>>120562
LiveLaughLove
Brighter days ahead
Never lose hope

i'm twenty. i'm in one of the worst headspaces i've ever been in. it's almost all due to the internet. bad life experiences, we can move past. we can adapt, we can move to other things. the internet is such a trap, and a drug, because it lets you forget everything else. that postpones the healing, the hurting, the moving on, and it robs you of perspective. the last year has been filled with paranoia and stress and anxiety over petty internet squabbles that don't matter, relationships that have no future or real life weight.

limit how much you use this place. watch TV, read books, that's all fine, but the petty chit chat and the insane people online can eat you alive. fill your time with things you're curious about. write a bad song. learn neat things on youtube. i liked the series "trope talks" by overlysarcasticproductions on youtube.

>>120485
anon I feel like this was written by future me what the hell I'm 20 soon.this advice is so useful thank you. I spent the year exactly like that

>>120533
don't make the same mistakes i made. the internet is not consequence free. between when i started fucking around here and the end, i've been hurt, betrayed, stalked, and forced into other people's conflicts. it's damaged my ability to trust or desire to be close to people, to make friends. i was better off before all of this. if you're part of any online communities, bail. spend time on yourself, allow your boredome to drive you to do things in real life. be safe, carry pepper spray, don't get drunk around strangers, but do stuff. meet people. don't be hypnotized by the digital world. it's not worth it. i hope you can break the pattern.

>>120474 some bits of advice that helped me out (they contradict each other a little bit):
1: be kind to your future self. clean up your dishes, take a shower now, send that email, finish that thing, do it now so that your future self won't have to worry about it. save your quarters so she can get something from the vending machine too <3
2: live more in the present and don't let yourself get too engrossed in "i need X to happen and then Y and Z so that I don't have to A" because it can very easily eat you up. if you get a few minutes to yourself and it's a nice day outside, stand in the fresh air and enjoy it. be happy that your lunch has the right amount of sauce on it. watch a bird pick at something on the ground and laugh when it drops it. little things can make a huge difference, good and bad.
3: try stuff and mix it up! I'm in university right now and there's dinner events for my major. i'm skipping class this thursday so i can go and meet others in my field and go with some classmates. a little spontaneity keeps you sharp and i think a break in routine sometimes is good for you.
hope these helped a little bit :)

>>120483
At least nona won't be dead

you
are a retard and you will regret letting a man violate you like this

he has other secrets

>>120386
The first poster is right and you're either incredibly naive or coping. If my bf did this I would assume he was getting 4channers to do tributes and I'd run for the hills.

confront him about it. moids trade vulnerable pictures of women with eachother. he likely does trade them, or at least shows them off to other moids irl.

>>120435
my dad texted me a bunch of erotic pictures of his girlfriends sleeping feet and legs once. the next day he frantically called me and said it was "an inside joke between him and his girlfriend" and that he sent them by accident. so fucking gross, i'll never forget that.
>>120386
you're retarded break up with it immediately

don't change yourself and put yourself through turmoil for the sake of men

Usually men are willing to date even fat women. You must weight over 200 pound.

>>120521
Not everyone lives in USA.

don't jump on very restrictive diets or habits because you'll eventually back out and feel worse than when you started. Instead, integrate healthy habits gradually so that it doesn't feel like something forced upon your life. Depending on your health situation, it's always worthwhile to check for potential endocrine imbalances which might be hindering your potential for weight loss as well as affecting your energy. Good luck

Intermittent fasting is sustainable once you pass the early hump.

>>120497
What don't you like about yourself? Either it is something you can change so change it or it is something you can't change so accept it.

been there… i covered all my mirrors with sheets in 2022.. i still really hate how i look & get very fixated on it. but i just force myself to stop looking whenever i have to get ready or use the bathroom. kinda just have to accept that this is the way i look. i mean you can think you’re a gross looking Freak but at the end of the day, obsessing over it isn’t gonna change it

honestly i cant say it here even if i wanted too but its actually to do with how kind of tanned i am…

waaa thats so real I used c.ai because I was so attention deprived.

Your impression of your own body may not be realistic, gotta be careful when it comes to this

>>120372
girl you are so meeee omg

Honestly yeah.

We should be friends

>>120372
I understand that feeling. I've had mainly female friendship groups my whole life but never felt fully close with them, just would rather be around some people than none at all. dont lose hope though, because I ended up making friends with girls who I actually kind of like and who like me even though im socially awkward and borderline autistic lol. I still dont feel like I completely fit in because theyre all normal, but that's ok. srsly though you will find the right people eventually, even if you wouldnt expect them to be ur kind of people. also id be happy to be ur friend 2 :) hope things get better for u

>>119617
>deleting netflix
based
>>119619
they should doxx me then. freedom of speech and the ability to decentralize is more important than some random college thinking they ought to impose their beliefs unto others.
funnily enough their social hazing only made me feel more racist and sexist in a way that's legitimately harmful. people who can't tell memes from real life are cancer. if all else fails scream at them for being authoritarian, not transparent, and extremely invasive of people's privacy and right to decentralize, aka not be indoctrinated into a cult that doesn't really give a shit about you.
this was at a california public university called cal poly and I use mostly Apple devices. funnily enough, Apple just got into a lawsuit doing something similar with their employees. i shouldn't have to crawl through pages upon pages of user privacy rights to figure out whether or not I need to make my own damn Internet devices. it's definitely a form of entrapment.

who cares about any of this we're not living in a cyberpunk dystopia yet, right?

they can see:

your browsing history
chat messages
pics

everything

>>119876
also

they stalk you online. interact with you, online. i literally went fucking insane and they just did nothing and gaslit me about me being stalked.

i had my email doxxed on 4chan and their way of handling it was akin to a group of adult bullies with a high pay grade.

the only reason my shit was obvious is because i use imageboards.

they lull you into a false sense of security and then weaponize whatever bit of vulnerability you gave to them.

so yeah. thats the year 2025. literally just adult bullying abstracted behind ideological vigilantism, woke shit, and identity politics.

so
in case you didnt know
if you have an opinion on anything, on the internet, your input is being actively used in media orchestration, aka the media content actively produced by Disney, Netflix, etc. and algorithmic suggestions in your social media feed.

what they dont tell you is that when you go to college, if you have the misfortune of going to one which adheres to said programs, they have a really creepy pre-constructed world history program where they weaponize basically anything vulnerable about you that you put on the internet through your devices, if you committed the grave sin of having an opinion on the internet, or talking to people on the internet that you think are cool or interesting, or you went through something in your personal life that caused you emotional instability, they literally reference it indirectly in their lectures where everything is an analogy for rape, torture, and historical trauma. oh, and media is literally curated to immortalize historical shit, in a really creepy way, often sexualized or romanticized for manipulative and fake reasons, for no reason.

i literally wasted thousands at this fucking college for them to lie about why i was being stalked online for literally two years, still continues by the way, because they are creepy.

so yeah, in case you didnt know. if you're ever like, i just want to learn shit and talk to people i think are chill and i actually want to talk to, expect a middle finger from the people who lie all the time.

there is a reason why it is illegal to induce panic in public spaces in certain states. they don't give a shit, because fuck you.

you cannot ascertain these things in a university, PRIOR TO ATTENDING IT, because they just straight up fucking lie lmao.

and if theyre reading this, fuck you for wasting my money. i dont want to hear your opinion on US politics or world history, leave me the fuck alone lmao
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thank god for everything I have but a bitch neede more I'm barely living I need to make big money and buy a good cute twinky fuckbot forget redpill scrotes I will be the first one in line to get my hands on it I am everything I want to see light and live in the clouds I don't want to make a deal with the devil

The worst thing is the most I can reward myself is food which is making me think about food emotionally and I'm afraid I will start over eating to fill the emptiness in me and become fat

I stopped using social media, it made me want too much stuff. Living paycheck to paycheck sucks.

I made the mistake of getting demoralized right when I was having to choose a college. I was really smart, maybe I coulda been someone special, but I just learned how bad things really are out there, that what schools said about how you just go to college, get married, get a great job, and live a great life, was a total lie, so I just gave up.
I'm 25 now, barely educated, and I'm so far gone I don't think I could even bring myself to work anymore. Why bother when your best efforts still amount to nothing but poverty.

My sister has some friends. They were two people who were roommates and they constantly worked as hard as they could, but could never get anywhere. They recently got evicted because they couldn't keep up with rent.

Screw that noise. If you're damned if you do and damned if you don't, I guess I just won't.

>>120465
If you are not dead then you are not damned. It will be hard but I think you should give things another shot.I'm starting at 20 and not 18 because of family issues. When I was 18 things were very bleak but I had to work my way out of it. Life is never going to be uphill.

yes just have friends and family and be involved in the community. have lots of hobbies and interests

>>120459
in other words: get good at coping

>>120445
You need good social interaction unless you're schizoid or something, but then the anhedonia will get ya.