[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]

/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Talk about relationships of all kinds, ask for advice, or just vent
Name
Email

Email will be public
Subject
Message

*Text* => Text

**Text** => Text

***Text*** => Text

[spoiler]Text[/spoiler] => Text

Image
Direct Link
Options NSFW image
[1] [2] [3] [4] [5] [6] [7] [8] [9] [10]
| Catalog


Check the Catalog before making a new thread.
Do not respond to maleposters. See Rule 7.
Please read the rules! Last update: 04/27/2021

animesher.com_haru…

pros/cons of your bf Anonymous 105405[Reply]

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!
312 posts and 27 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123304

>>123302
>racist
>good
Excuse me?

Anonymous 123338

>>123304
state of the world or at least the US, being racist would be a plus for a some

Anonymous 123340

>>123302
wait is the guy youre referring to polish

Anonymous 123341

>>123304
it's what the kids find quirky nowadays

Anonymous 123378

pros: perfect
cons: likes female characters prettier than me. it's genuinely not gooner admiration but I'm still jealous >_<



th-4063730635.jpg

Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
137 posts and 8 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 122826

>>122638
Thanks, I'm trying to remember this. We'll go out and have a good time and I'll think it's all in my head. Or we'll have a fight and I'll get worked up, and then believe that I'm at fault.

Currently every time I come back to the apartment I have to shower, wipe the walls, shower, wipe the walls, shower, wipe the floor, wash feet, wipe floor, wash feet, and wipe the floor.

He claims I decided on this routine and I can't change it because "it's been decided."

Counting down the days until my next meeting with my welfare manager.

Anonymous 122876

Screenshot_2025062…

>>122826
"He's upset and it's my fault, because I wasn't supportive enough / didn't do what he wanted me to do / didn't anticipate his needs enough."

Those are all 100% lies I used to believe about my partner, too. It was the mindset that kept me chained in that miserable prison of a relationship.

The times that I viewed as "good" weren't really "good"– they were just breaks from terrible ones. I just set the bar so fucking low. Like viewing your captor as "kind and merciful", because they gave you a piece of stale bread.

Once you escape him, you won't have to walk on eggshells in order to manage his unreasonable emotions.
You won't have to sacrifice your well-being for the basic right to not live in fear.
You won't have to live in a fog of doubt, anxiety, and shame, just trying to hopefully obtain that "good day"— because it can all be shattered in an instant.
IT NOT YOUR FAULT.
Nor is it your responsibility to manage your captor.

You're so close.
You can do this.
Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 123109

>>122876
Thank you, Nona This means the world to me. I was thinking maybe everything really was my fault (I'm stupid, I'm dirty, my Japanese sucks, I'm loud and rude) and then last night my husband got mad at me for the crime of relaxing at home. (I didn't put ny chopsticks down straight enough). Told me I should always be scared of him. What tge fuck.

Anonymous 123148

OPhere. Last night I stayed at a manga cafe again. It was so relaxing.

When we go out together my husband doesn't bring a bag with him because keeping it clean is too much eork, so I carry his phone. I didn't realize I still had his phone in my bag until I was already at the manga cafe. This morning I stopped at home to pick up clothes and he was crying thinking that I had had another stroke and died. I felt bad so I went to the store and bought him some food and drinks but I just didn't want to engage with him any more so I left.

Anonymous 123366

Irritated poster here, I can't believe this fucking thread is over 2 years old. I don't know which scenario would make the OP more mentally ill:

1.) All these posts are real
2.) All these posts are fake

Legitimately this thread is disgusting. It is more disgusting than the worst shit you see on the shadiest imageboards. Fake or real, it is here as a totem to human filth. Either a horrifying display of human weakness and vicarious sociopathy, or some deranged bottomed out NEET triggering the genuine sympathy of others by writing deranged fake garbage.

I just want this thread to end. I'm not a mod but I wish some cleansing angel would delete this shitty thread out of existence. It is legitimately like watching someone's ripped off face decaying at the side of the road, maggots festering, slowly degrading week by week. It's gratuitious and sick. Fuck this thread and fuck the OP, whoever it happens to be.



pepe.jpg

HOW DO I STOP CARING Anonymous 122565[Reply]

I’ve come to a brutal but necessary conclusion: kindness is overrated when handed out like free samples at a grocery store. I’ve spent years marinating in people-pleasing, thinking empathy was some kind of moral currency. Plot twist — it’s not. In practice, being an open nerve ending only gets you exploited. People don’t respond to kindness; they respond to boundaries. Harsh truth: excessive agreeableness is not virtue — it’s social self-sabotage.

I simp for validation like a lab rat pressing the dopamine lever, and it’s pathetic. It’s classic intermittent reinforcement — a core concept in behavioral psychology — where unpredictable rewards (a compliment, a message back) condition you to keep chasing. It’s the same mechanism that keeps gamblers at the slot machines, and I’ve basically been gambling my self-worth on other people’s approval.

I’ve also been stuck in a victim identity loop. That’s where you start romanticizing your suffering, treating pity as a currency, and staying small because pain becomes familiar. It’s textbook learned helplessness with a side of digital masochism. No more. Self-pity is a trap disguised as self-awareness. I’m done wearing trauma like a personality badge.
A few days ago, I trusted two people on a new account — max security, minimal exposure — and still got doxxed. That’s not just betrayal, it’s stupidity on my part.
Bottom line: Empathy without discernment is emotional self-harm. Validation-seeking is a rigged slot machine. And kindness? It needs a filter, not a floodgate. I’m done being a walking weakness detector for predators online. New arc: ruthless, aware, emotionally sovereign.
How do I stop compulsively empathizing and people-pleasing when I know it’s just a maladaptive trauma response dressed up as kindness, and how do I unhook my brain from chasing validation like it’s crack? How do i stop caring?
16 posts and 2 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123121

>>123115

the use of unconsentual technology is out of control these days. it is awful, it makes me want to become an amish just to be away from technology. technology is no longer a friend, it is the tool of oppressors to enslave everyone.

the more i see what they do with the technology the more depressed i become.

i eat at a cafeteria sometimes and every so often some spy bitch is walking around just taking pictures of the hundreds of people eating there. constant surveilance against the humans. maybe time to admit that the people like myself who have been warning of this for many years were not crazy conspiracy theorists? my way of dealing with this is to try to stay away from places where there are many people and just avoid people who use smartphones. if you use a normal smartphone, i don't really consider you part of my species at this point, you are the hostile cattle of the technological invasion.

Anonymous 123303


Anonymous 123348

>>123303
LOL another typologyfag on cc

Anonymous 123349

>>122565
so 80% of people don't like people pleasing so you would be more of a people pleaser if you stopped

Anonymous 123360

Disengage



544ad1376268c39645…

how can i make up for all the time ive lost being ugly? Anonymous 123295[Reply]

all my life ive been the social stereotype of ugly. overweight, acne, frizzy hair, hyperpigmentation, etc. never been bullied but received a joke here and there which made me held back from interacting romantically with my peers all my life. ive been fixing that for a couple years now and im quite comfortable with how i look now but ive have missed out everything romantically. don't know how to talk to men, ive never been in a relationship, im a virgin which is embarrassing at my age (26) and i think im hopeless since i already missed out the years were ive should have learned that stuff.

last year i got diagnosed with autism and adhd but im currently on therapy and meds and i don't think that's a big deal since ive seen girls with the same diagnose doing just fine socially.

This makes me feel like shit tbh, sometimes i just think about how bad i want to be loved and wanted and now that my physical appearance isn't in the way is the fact that i don't know shit.
11 posts omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123328

>>123327
i don't approach people like that because i think it might be weird since i don't see other people waving and saying hi randomly, and they are just passing by, usually i don't even make eye contact with people on street but if im in a place with men i do interact with them (work, uni, parties, etc) but i become some sort of listener rather than an active part of the conversation which make the thing awkward, specially if im feeling some sort of attraction towards them. i avoided a lot being perceived because of how i looked, i thought guys might feel offended by my interest on them if that makes sense.. so it doesn't matter if i say hi or whatever, what comes after that is what terrorize me

Anonymous 123330

>>123328
>i don't approach people like that because i think it might be weird

it will most certainly get weird but as with everything you get better with it and as you get better it will get less weird. don't be paralyzed from the weirdness rather notice and question the weirdness and i am sure you will learn from it how to be less weird the next time.

>since i don't see other people waving and saying hi randomly, and they are just passing by, usually i don't even make eye contact with people on street


>but if im in a place with men i do interact with them (work, uni, parties, etc) but i become some sort of listener


sounds boring and self-sacrificial to me

>rather than an active part of the conversation which make the thing awkward, specially if im feeling some sort of attraction towards them.


i think when you feel something you have the duty to express the feeling. that's just you fulfilling your obligation being born a human on planet earth. i wouldn't start with going full force because the expression of feelings can indeed get weird but if you start to look for it, you will find little ways of expressing your feelings. being too ashamed to express the feelings, that is the worst, don't let that be you. look for the subtle, non-smothering ways to casually release your feelings into the universe instead of botteling them up.

Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 123331

messed up the quotation.

just say that. "hot dudes make me nervous, i don't know what to say". if you are stuck and worry it might get awkward, just say that. "i can feel the awkwardness, good bye handsome!" why would you even say anything else then what is going on for you.

Anonymous 123335

>>123328

>since i don't see other people waving and saying hi randomly, and they are just passing by, usually i don't even make eye contact with people on street


you would see that if people lived in more human conditions and not in whatever this is. people would be friendly and considerate with each other if civilization transcended colonization; they would not be suspicious of each other, fear each other and consider each other competition or enemy. i get it that you are that way, i am for the most part like that myself because when you aren't you get a visit of the cultural bad luck. depending on where you live you might see few people meeting each other on the street but what would be the alternative. tinder? yuck. no don't even let the technology get in between you and all the dudes who'd like a piece.

Anonymous 123355

>>123330
>>123331
thanks nona i actually felt encouraged by this advice! tbh I don't think i'll ever say lines like that because they sound kinda cringy lol and because i don't want to flatter men that much, but i get the general point and yes, i feel and i should be less scared of it since im a human and even my therapist said i should put myself in situations that sometimes will came out as uncomfortable and awkward, but is the only way to improve… thanks a lot !!

>>123335

tried dating apps before and they take out all the humanity from people, just a human apparel and no actual substance.. irl connection is the only way



1128c62bd98f602ac6…

Tired of Things not Working out for Me Anonymous 123224[Reply]

Just graduated college and nothing’s really worked out how I hoped. High School especially, but also college to some degree, were rough for me socially. Barely got attention from guys most of my life. Started getting some over the past year, but it's mostly been disasters. One dude was a Letterboxd freak who tried to touch me, stood me up, and publicly wrote weird, angry stuff about me on his account. Tried Hinge—been on multiple dates recently and they’ve all been awful. One guy got mad at me for not thinking Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure is deep art and “representative of the human condition” and then started playing alone on a playground mid-date.
I’ve moved back to my hometown and have been doing a 9 to 5 ever since graduation. I tried auditioning for a band and signing up for an art class to make life feel less mind numbing, but the band rejected me and the class guy never replied. I've tried using bumble bff but I don't have much time to text so most people lose interest quickly. I live with an alcoholic dad who screams at me and puts me down, and the house is literally full of black mold. I kind of had a couple of friends in college (none that really returned my efforts fully), but here, I have pretty much nobody except for one person who I rarely ever see. I had to break up with my ex of a few months before leaving my college town, partially because of the move. He was really the only guy I’ve ever gone out with who I felt was decent and with who there was a mutual effort involved at the very least. I tried messaging him recently and it wasn’t a bad conversation but it felt very sterile—almost like he never actually cared in the first place.
Just feel like I’m rotting in a cubicle for 8 hours a day, living in a horrible house, with no hope of ever having a proper boyfriend or even my own apartment (with the rent prices around where I live). I know this sounds dramatic but I seriously don’t know what I’m doing. I feel completely cooked.
12 posts omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123278

>>123267
>Consider beating him up when he does it

Homelessness and/or jail speedrun LMAO

Anonymous 123279

>>123278
so you think it is better to be a punching bag fidget toy for a drunk retard who throws his life away because you worry he might call the police on his daughter. well that's you throwing your life away. how nice of you to follow the family tradition.

i didn't beat up my parents and i regret it.

Anonymous 123294

>>123224
if we are all alone why are we all pretending to be fine irl
for all we know we could all be in the same bozt out there and not connecting because we have to appear a certain way…
I'd like to join a community to but the "normie book club" is real… I'd like to find like minded too… I know a girl friend on instagram who reads great books, tried to befriend her on that note but it doesn't seem to work oh well…
>>123279
material conditions of existence…

Anonymous 123307

>>123224
Right now you are trying to do everything at once. Make a priority list and work on each topic individually until you get in a spot you feel ok. Then do the next thing on the list and so on. That doesn't mean that you have to stick to the list autistically and ignore low priority items that happen do plob up from time to time like a job prospect because you are still working on high priority stuff

Anonymous 123308

>>123294
>why are we all pretending
>we

all kind of words are banned or considered dangerous but i don't think any are as dangerous as the unspecified, unverified group pronoun. instead of just lazily and unskillfully resorting to this universal peer pressure word, why not say exactly who you believe you are talking for and explain the democratic process that hopefully preceeds your representation of these people?

nobody wants to talk about it. representation simply doesn't work. it has been a mistake. why even have a pronoun in which one person pretends to speak for others? the fucking word should be illegal, there is so little democracy you may as well call it a royal pronoun, the pronoun of those psychopaths who believe they can speak for others.

bitch what you should be worried about is whether YOU are pretending or not and stop sympathizing with this group ideology in which the group makes the decision for you and you are nothing but a dead fish being carried by the swarm agentlessly, not caring in which direction you are moved.

>>123307
>Make a priority list and work on each topic individually until you get in a spot you feel ok

this. try to make progress every day and don't flee into fiction. don't watch stupid videos while your life needs your concentrated effort. stay in this reality, reject the hypnosis of the good looking fake world from the dirty parts of the internet.



GC9fwo9XMAAYHS8.jp…

feeling trapped in my relationship Anonymous 123132[Reply]

I really need advice on what to do and how to proceed. I feel so stuck and like I can't leave this relationship. This is my first relationship ever and she's around 4 years older than me and has had multiple previous relationships that I feel like she's still not over. Initially in our relationship, all we would talk about would be her exes and how bad they were to her and a lot of information about her time with them, mostly bad things. She would still start her diary entries with her first ex's birthday, who she started dating in highschool. And most importantly talk about how leaving those relationships wrecked her emotionally. She has a very strong fear of abandonment that I just feel so trapped by. I had rejected her multiple times in the beginning but she kept pursuing me and I feel like I gave in to a relationship I never wanted.
I don't know if any of that matters now. I just don't know what to do, I feel so miserable in this relationship and whenever she talks about how she wants to be with me forever I just feel this paralyzing wave of anxiety and fear. I've performed complete self-abandonment. She says things like she wouldn't have survived this or that without me, I'm the only thing keeping her going, the only light in her life, and it just keeps me in this relationship. She's implied many times she will be extremely damaged if I leave and try to hurt herself, and that's not just jokes because after her last relationship ended, she tried to take her life and also on multiple occasions put her safety in jeopardy, fell into a drinking and drug problem (which she has since managed to heal from), and when we were first talking, she had also been talking to her ex, and from all she's told me, she's basically never been single since she was 16. I've always been single and I really enjoy my solitude and I want it back. I'm just so scared, this relationship makes me cry everyday. Recently she could tell I'd been extremely out of it emotionally, and we had a talk about being honest to each other and 'forgetting' our mistakes of the past. That include her discussing opening our relationship, said she 'felt something' for some moid, telling me she can't rely on me for jack because I fell asleep late at night instead of checking on her because she was out drinking with friends, among other things.
I don't even care about all that. I do love her and care about her a lot. I just don't know what to do but this relationship is eating at me. I feel likePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
8 posts omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123188

>>123185
yeah, that's my point. if she truly cared she wouldn't need to kill herself to prove it.

Anonymous 123196

>>123171
Even if this was the only thing I knew about her I'd say RUN
RUN
even if she actually kills herself (she won't lol) RUN
It gets worse from now on
And if you stay she'll absolutely take control

This is your first relationship and it shows, if you had been with someone before you would know how fucked up and unacceptable this is. Sorry, but you're with a dangerous and completely undateable crazyperson that anyone who has an idea of what relationships can be like wouldn't tolerate a second

You did a huge mistake by being with this manipulator because when you dump her, preferrably asap, you will not erase her from your life and she'll keep terrorizing you. This id life though and you have to live with the consequences of your actions

And I repeat again, run, you don't even need to think about it, if you look at your "relationship" from a third persons perspective you'll be shocked

Anonymous 123258

Sorry nona, but you pretty clearly got groomed by a bpd predator. No means no, and "pursuing" you after you rejected her the first time is really just her pushing your boundaries.

I would do everything to go cold contact with her. Just say you're over and block her before she can even respond.

Anonymous 123284

>>123196
>>123258
It just feels wrong to do that to her. I know she loves and cares about me and she would feel horrible, so bad, being discarded like that. She's been treated badly before and I don't want to be another person who hurts her. I cannot do that to her, but I can't keep up like this either. She can tell I've kind of checked out and we haven't been talking really, much less seeing each other. Like, I genuinely see her love for me and I do love her too, but this relationship just doesn't feel good. I would leave her and wish her all the best, but leaving her is in her words, the worst thing I could do to her and would hurt her immensely so I just don't know. I'm not out to anyone so I've never talked about our relationship with anyone to get another perspective either. I feel scared to talk to her, so I've been avoiding her like a coward.

Anonymous 123285

>>123284
nona, your life is your responsiblity, her life isn't. unless you groomed her or want to cheat on her or whatever, it's not cruel at all to leave her, but it is cruel to yourself to stay with someone who threatens suicide and manipulates you. she does this not because she cares about you, but because she wants your resources, like attention, time, etc.
so are you wrong to think she still cares about you in some capacity? no. but that's kinda how a lot of abusers are, they care a bit, but ultimately it only serves for them to destroy you for their selfish ends.

if it helps, you can think about it this way: this relationship is hurting her too because she's forcing herself to stay with someone who's suffering with her.



vi-lol-design-was-…

Anonymous 123227[Reply]

I refuse to be friends with vegans anymore. I had a party, made fixings that were pricier than the other food to accommodate the vegan and she didn't even make it or give a heads up. Said before hand she would come, ended up posting photos on social media that same day where she was out on the town. She's also apparently a rich girl that's only ever used me as a sounding board for her shitty boyfriend that she'll do everything to fix except leave. And you know, blow me off. Bring your own food, asshole. I wish she knew she was a spoiled brat before I wasted my time.

Anonymous 123228

"I wont befriend vegans anymore" is a pretty hefty take because one rich kid brat let you down

Anonymous 123229

>>123227
As someone who's not a vegan, I find vegan haters more insufferable than vegans.

Anonymous 123255

if anyone wants to watch something about veganism i can recommend this one:

https://archive.org/details/simply-raw-reversing-diabetes-in-30-days

it is a documentary movie from around 2010 where normal rather unhealthy americans start eat raw vegan for 30 days for the first time and go for walks and you can see how they start to bloom. is a beautiful, life-affirming sight to see normal people clumsily discover that there was good stuff they had no idea about.

just heard a story about raw vegans talking shit about vegans and calling them eaters of 'burnt' food and i laughed so hard at that (they said the 'burnt' with such intense disgust). in essence i agree though. just eat raw fruits and vegetables for a while and you know how good it feels and how positive the reverberations are that come from it.

Anonymous 123260

>>123255
There's literally zero benefit to eating raw. Also the results from your show are heavily biased because if you start from standard eating habits, any diet that makes you pay attention to what you ingest will improve your health (at least on the short run). You see similar results when people switch to paleo, no carb, smoothies etc, but you start seeing problems on the long run, for example because you start developing deficiencies or because the diets are so restrictive they are basically impossible to maintain.



FB_IMG_17512523327…

Anonymous 123234[Reply]

What is the difference between love and mental illness? Because my friends tell me I'm unironically nearing the latter; to keep it short I seemingly can't forget about my high school ex bf for some reason even though I'm nearing 30, we talk on and off very sporadically over text but I'm the one that always starts the conversation and I my friends tell me I'm coming off as almost begging for him to come back with me but he always tells me no, in fact I know very little of him after we turned 20. Yes I have dated other men, yes I know it's pathetic, no he's not manipulative, but every time I keep making this alternate reality in my head about going back in time and having this idealistic life with him; I had this cringe moment with my mom some years ago because he came up in the conversation and I told her I would come back with him if he wanted and she just gave me this look of me being silly lol

Anonymous 123239

i wouldn't view it from the perspective of mental illness but rather from how short life is.

you waste your time trying to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you back and that robs you of precious time that you would be wise to look for someone who likes you back.

being in fantasy about someone becomes a dangerous habit that makes you disregard reality and reality is already under assault culturally anyways so you just accelerate the denial of it with the endless wishing.

if life was endless, sure waste a few years on hoping for someone but in this finite dimension time is so precious.

Anonymous 123247

Go no contact, at least for a while. Life's too short to be stuck on people who don't feel the same way as you. Letting yourself talk to them keeps all those memories fresh; you need a clean break for perspective.

Cautionary tale: I convinced myself I was still in love with my ex for like 5 years. Long story short it ended with him having a meltdown and me feeling like an asshole. Probably would've ended a lot better had we just stopped talking for a while from the start, but it was our first relationship and neither of us knew better.



IMG_2468.jpeg

Anonymous 123004[Reply]

do any other nonas feel like they’re consistently the most enthusiastic and engaged person in a friendship? I feel like if I just stopped messaging and stopped going out of my way to be a good friend everyone would leave me. sometimes I think I may have bpd, or I’m just crazy. maybe both!
3 posts omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123037

IMG_0644.jpeg

coming back to this and I think I need to get evaluated for bpd. I hate my friends but also love them. I wish they just took the time to be my friend. I think the internet has rotted us all because they can just see what I’m up to at all times and choose to not reach out because of it. i feel like I need to scrub all of my social media profiles and just become completely anonymous. it gets to the point sometimes where I want to kill myself just so they feel bad for not reaching out more. I know this is very harmful thinking and not good for anyone but ugh. again, I’m looking into evaluation.

Anonymous 123104

>>123004
You just need to let stuff like this go or you'll end up alone. See the bigger picture.

Anonymous 123106

you're not alone
i had to beg my old best friend of 10 years to have decent conversations with me instead of answering me with a one word reply and she just told me that she's not my boyfriend to talk to me enthusiastically on a daily basis
In my opinion, it's better to not expect too much from people and just treat them the same way they do

Anonymous 123127

>>123037

that's selfish nona
okay so think rationally
let's say HYPOTHETICALLY you off yourself.

What will happen?
FEELINGS ARE REACTIONS
okay let's say they did not care at all. For some reason.

Then why would you do it?

It's stupid. Just live and just move on nona, you surely can be smart.

Do things, move on, like the other nona said.
Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 123137

>>123106
Fuck that woman.
How will women ever be free, if they can't turn to each other for emotional support?



Screenshot 2025-06…

sister being very dumb Anonymous 122857[Reply]

every day i learn more that my younger sister is insane lmao, she constantly exaggerates our home life on reddit and makes it sound like we're being abused by our parents. she almost fell for what was possibly a trafficking scheme related to getting her to run away and STILL hasn't learned her lesson

she's nineteen, by the way. and apparently also thinks she's a trans boy despite being much more feminine than me. i'd fuck up my relationship with her forever if i told our parents but i just want her to not do any stupid shit. it feels like there's nothing i CAN do though, i wouldn't want to be 'unsupportive' since i don't share her delusions
19 posts omitted. Click reply to view.

Anonymous 123091

>>123086
neat post with perspective (esp cults and false imprisonment), even if I disagree with some details

I don't think at this point OP is able to do much convincing towards her sisters trannyism or whatever, but I want to theorize on this a bit anyway.
You can't reason someone out of a problem they did not reason themselves into. Or at least not being aware why that person believes what they want to believe.
In this case, OP's sister believes becoming ftm will give her validation - notice how trannies and allies try to empathize with each other no matter what, something abusive homes never give.
It will also give her a way out from misogyny - same reason girls may become nonbinary. She might not even want to transition for all we know but instead she just likes the fantasy of escaping being looked down upon, forced to live a certain way etc.
Finally her only friends or people she talks to may be trannies or some lgbt thing and that obviously changes how people see the world - in fact if she got chuddy friends she may change her mind.
Basically people become trannies as a solution to emotional problem IMO.

I don't think unnecessarily fear or hate mongering is a good solution because that's just creating another emotional problem, but it may be a good idea towards someone who is already causing her grief like an abusive dad/authority figure or something. That could work well yeah.

Anonymous 123094

wanted to apologize for how i worded the original post, since the more i look at it the more bitchy i realize i sound. i was pissed at the time because i couldn't fathom why someone would voluntarily want to mutilate themselves to be a shitty imitation of a moid, let alone my own sister. i don't hate her, i don't wanna hurt her, i just feel really helpless right now especially since any therapists to go to will probably encourage surgeries.

she says a lot of her friends are he/him's so i'm worried that's part of the problem. like she's already surrounded by cultists so it was only a matter of time before she got sucked in. but it's not like i can tell her 'stop having friends' when she only has online due to our isolation.

i know we should be able to leave, i know that very well but we're so close to having independence anyway. gonna starts on my bachelor's this fall. i don't think it's worth it to try and bail at this stage.

i was born ready to rant about moids and i think i could frame it as woke and stuff so she'll listen. she most likely did not decide she was tif from observing actual men or she'd never make that decisions, it's because she thinks she can be like the anime boys she likes

Anonymous 123095

>>123091
i used to have bad internalized misogyny, and if i were more chronically online at that time i probably would've fallen for the meme too. it's so fucking sad whenever this happens to girls.

need good non-hugbox resources about what ftm 'transitioning' does to your body. not for fearmongering purposes i just need her to know the reality and trannies making twitter threads

Anonymous 123096


Anonymous 123097

>>123094
It's a very difficult situation to handle OP and you deserve lots of support. It's ok if you were pissed.

Has she talked about wanting to go to a therapist?



[1] [2] [3] [4] [5] [6] [7] [8] [9] [10]
| Catalog
[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]