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im a loser Anonymous 125453[Reply]

im a disgusting loser. no friends no romantic interests. every girl i talk to ends up having a bf, ends up just being queerbait, or is just an overall evil thing. what do? disgusting femcel life. thats all there is to this post. nothing more in my life than that. xd.

Anonymous 125461

Hi loser

Anonymous 125463

hey C: >>125461



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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 125230

>>125219
I think this is put accurately

Anonymous 125267

never seen a more relatable thread. I've been sperged since I was 5, I just remember intense hyperfixations. I'm sorry

Anonymous 125303

>>125209
People like you want to exclude and outcast people lower than you on the social ladder, but eventually you'll outcast all the people lower than you and you'll be at the bottom.

Anonymous 125400

Literally kill yourself so nobody else inherits your autism. At least have a hysterectomy and burn your uterus.

Anonymous 125426

is that james spader



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Anonymous 125378[Reply]

For a few months I was eating very few calories, and that turned into a whole mess that made me feel and somatize every single emotion to the extreme.
Sure, that was probably one of the triggers, but what really hit me was realizing how much time I was wasting—day after day—just endlessly scrolling for hours with no purpose. Not even the energy to reply to simple messages, let alone hang out with people. All this while I was still trying to keep up with my university classes, hit the gym, learn a language, and cook my “low-calorie” meals.

I ended up feeling completely paralyzed. Everything I once loved was just gone, and I had no interest in anything anymore. My days revolved around chasing dopamine through dumb reels and TikToks. I couldn’t even finish ten seconds of a video before skipping to the next, or saving it to “watch later”—a moment that never came.

I got totally obsessed with how I looked, constantly thinking about how skinny or “good” I looked. Which was stupid, because in the end, all that worrying left me unable to even look at myself in the mirror or on my phone camera.
I felt empty, dumb, my brain completely fried, like life was slipping away inside a virtual world.

And that’s why I’m here—because “normal” social media eats me alive. It feels automatic, something I do out of boredom in dead moments, scrolling endlessly just to avoid making any mental effort. I literally remember saving long texts to read “later” because they demanded too much focus and brain power.

After all this, I finally went to the university’s psychological services. During the interview, they asked me what I thought a “normal person” was. My answer: someone who’s actually present, who can tell what’s happening around them, and doesn’t have thousands of random thoughts or get lost in daydreaming all the time. Their response? ADHD.
I don’t want to take medication—and it’s kind of absurd to think that all of this gets pinned on something like that.

Honestly, I just want to go back to enjoying and learning from the things I used to love. Very few things spark my fried brain now. I don’t push myself to do anything, though I still try to take on longer activities even if I keep falling back into doomscrolling.
You can laugh, but I know a lot of people are going through the same thing right now.
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Anonymous 125389

>>125387
>>125383
I don't scroll slop, but I related to losing productivity in a haze more than a bit.
OP, try programs that lock your devices at time windows like night/morning

Anonymous 125390

>>125378
Im a real noma wtf, I’m just really addicted to doomscrolling and yeah I feel so pathetic cuz I’ve lose half of my life doing this
I guess the situation sounds too stupid so I even sound like 17 years old moid.
Sorry for sounding like a man while venting my phone addiction nona

Anonymous 125392

>>125389
I don't think OP is necessarily pathetic, but the problem is their life has a lot of issues going with it, not something productivity apps will help with. Nona's life is what happens to people who get raised by computers - directionless and too clueless to do anything other than scroooll. Probably lonely too.

Anonymous 125393

>>125392
That’s exactly what I’m trying to say. I know a lot of people have been through the same thing, but this is eating me alive. I feel dead inside, nothing moves my brain or makes me feel anything. I can’t even watch a damn movie or read anymore, I feel completely drained

Anonymous 125394

>>125393
Phone goes into toilet



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How do you all cope? Anonymous 124938[Reply]

I struggle daily with finding meaning in anything, and feel so alone in all things. I recognize that so many people are just doing things to cope with that same dread and loneliness. It seems like no one knows what they are doing or why. It all seems so pointless to me. Why does anyone keep going? What is the point? How does someone even find real purpose? How do you all do it, nonas?
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Anonymous 124955

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>so many people are just doing things to cope with same dread and loneliness
I don't think so. I've experienced failures after failures, and also I'm not normal and my frontal lobes are genetically fucked up. Meanwhile, you can see a glow in normies.
They still believe in god, they still believe in materialistic consumption, they still believe in looking good, they still believe in the lies that is peddled by capitalist consumerist culture on TV and mainstream media, they still believe that earning money and buying products will make them happy, they still believe that they too have a chance to get back at the world that has "failed" them, only if they tried hard enough, and anyone could become like the celebrity they worship, they still believe in a lot of things, and this drives them.

Maybe purposes don't have to be the same thing throughout your life. My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors. It's too narcissistic and navel gazing but this itself is a huge struggle to me.

Try some questionnaires (in picrel it's self-direction, stimulation, and security for me), online or with the help of a therapist. There's something in you that already intuitively tells you what you want to do, but years of inaction, suppression and failures has buried it. I once sat down for 3 or so hours and really thought about it, and came to the conclusion that I want to run a cat shelter and make the world a better place for cats, but unfortunately it's not sustainable.

Anonymous 124963

>>124955
>My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors.
Good luck nona!! It may seem basic but I think these goals are respectable anyway, it takes a lot to get over a nonfunctioning lifestyle for most people.

Anonymous 124966

>>124963
Thanks!

Anonymous 125371

I feel the same nona :(
Right now I tried playing new games after feeling an awful depression. I started exercising, as well as enjoying hobbies and indulging into some of my interests.

Being yourself is being alive, everything you do is yourself. We are our actions.

You cannot just "be yourself" you are yourself already.

Real purpose is to find a goal, something you like, small perhaps.

Plunging something, pumping or doing a flip

you train hard
you fail you do it again
until you do it you process it
you move on
you do something else

Anonymous 125374

>>124938
Art is the only thing worth thinking about for me. It beings me joy that compares to nothing else.



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How do we save female socialization? Anonymous 124400[Reply]

I'm tired of making female friends only to end up being ignored or excluded because I don't share their political opinions. Female friend circles seem to be built on fear, and I'm done with it. I made a decision not to pretend anymore—but now, I don't have any female friends left, just because I don't believe that anyone who identifies as a woman is necessarily a woman.
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Anonymous 124659

>>124489
Tbf Rowling is just as obsessed in the opposite direction. I don't get why they take up so much of people's mental energy. OP and her "friends" sound like they deserve each other.

Anonymous 124682

>>124659
I think the reason she talks about it so much is because other people refuse to drop it, she's basically know as "the terf author"

Anonymous 124756

>>124682
We're all 100% real women. It's the truth.

Anonymous 125210

>>124401
Just let autistic people transition. They are a self-solving problem, they'll castrate and eventually kill themselves and no more trannies will be alive.

Anonymous 125369

>>125210

It costs money, they should intern them in a ward instead, or enslave them to force them to work.



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Help me Anonymous 125213[Reply]

I just turned 27. I’m a high school dropout who has been a NEET since leaving school at 16. I’ve been a shut-in basically this whole time. I don’t have any social or life skills. I can’t even drive. I’ve also never had any sort of relationship or intimacy because I’m ugly as fuck. Not even a friend. Is it over for me? I want to change, but I feel like it’s all just too far gone. Even if I do change, I don’t feel like I’ll ever truly recover from all these lost years. How am I supposed to go out there and relate to people? I feel so stunted
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Anonymous 125261

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Don't disappear nonita. You'll definitely have to finish school. I don't know what country you live in, but in most places, without a high school diploma, you can't do much of anything, not even get a minimum-wage job. Is there an adult education program in your country? You'll have to look for it.

Anonymous 125262

>>125261
obviously I'm going to finish school. Im doing all AP's and honors and plan to go to a prestigious university. My family lineage is full of doctors and lawyers. I just spend my free time on imageboards. And yes, I plan to do premed.

Anonymous 125263

>>125262
sorry I'm retarded I thought you were replying to me kek

Anonymous 125330

You need to finish school before anything

Anonymous 125368

You have it harder.
Some are lucky.

You are lucky with the basics.

First rule.
Do not lose time dating men.

Men are like dogs. Men bite if you approach.

Second rule.
Finish school. You need the diploma.

Third rule.
Find something you like and do it.
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Are men evolving to a sociopathic hivemind? Anonymous 123286[Reply]

This is a genuine question, because I can't fathom any other reasoning. Courting is dead, it's gone. In no particular order the following occurs: love bombing, ghosting, mirroring, hot/cold method. Even my friends who fit the patriarchal male gaze to an absolute T (virgin, quiet, submissive) are getting stepped on. It seems like all or nothing, there is no slow progressional vetting before a clear decision is made. Many other girls around me in my career and academia have given up on the idea of marriage and children. The ones that haven't tend to have a man-child tier boyfriend or they're accepting to be chronically cheated on.

The ideology that women have to be top 1% of females to deserve a male counterpart that doesn't wreck havoc on livelihood and minds is insane. I've talked to many boomers and they agree something is universally wrong; we are no longer just homemakers, but we have the ability to be that and MUCH MUCH more, how are we all fundamentally somehow "never enough" for them?
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Anonymous 125258

>>125253
>>125247
I found your posts thoughtful, if it helps.
There should be a third Hedonist type, too, but maybe alcohol and meth have given way over the last dozen years to weed, rolling this kind of person into the apathetic crowd

Anonymous 125287

I have this theory it's both genders are mentally fucked due to living in economic duress, but since they don't know it, they just waste away flinging shit at eachother

Anonymous 125292

>>125287
This. It’s not men vs women, left vs right, black vs white. Those are distractions. It is and always has been the people up top vs the people down low. And guess where we are.

Anonymous 125302

>>125287
We are living a better life than every generation before us except the two last.
I think what cause so much tension in society is how everything goes down. Even owning a house is a dream now.

>>125292
I do not care what somebody have in his plate, if what is in mine is fine I am happy. And I am not. The problem is not that some people have more, it is that I would be fine with what is in my plate if there wasn't so many people who just took food from it.

Anonymous 125307

The world screeches to a halt if a man dies but millions of women and young girls die and are subjected to sexual violence and physicals violence every day and no one cares. They're sociopathic towards anything without a penis



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Anonymous 121744[Reply]

The whole phenomenon of this dude is proof that standards/body-shaming/fatphobia don’t exist for males. If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time. But because someone had the audacity to try to socially enforce any rock bottom, bare minimum physical standard for the sacred male, everyone threw a fit and he got a whole media festival of events, money and opportunities thrown at him for weeks on end. In real life a female is torn to shreds for not spending most of her mental energy on appearances, but something as febrile as “hey maybe a male shouldn’t be so fat he can barely walk” is completely socially unacceptable and would get you fired while every handmaiden within ten miles performatively throws themselves on his gangrenous fat-entombed micropenis.
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Anonymous 125203

>>125198
>the average moid looks like a complete socially retarded schizophrenic chud on the surface
>find out he has a social life actually
>"oh maybe he's not as retarded as he looks"
it's called subversion of expectations

Anonymous 125205

>>125203
Social proof, not social life. Women are attracted to the socially approved men in their social context. Among normies these are like athletes. Among cc types it often is streamers, someone important on some discord group, etc. Basically the men with the highest social value

Anonymous 125206

>>121744
>proof fat shaming men isn't real
posts man literally famous because he was fat shamed online and publicly.
>"If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time"
if the original post had been a woman she would have received the same reaction bff, it was people trying to stand up to casual bullying.

also, its been ten fucking years nona, get over it. Im not even disagreeing that fat men have it easier, but this is retarded.

Anonymous 125224

>>123292

Based pilled nona

Anonymous 125309

>>123309
fat women literally miscarry. we are NOT supposed to be fat.
higher bodyfat percentage is just a synonym for lower muscle percentage. it's no excuse to overeat and damage your ability to move, breathe, survive turning 60 or even to carry out a pregnancy in your prime.

>even if they weighed the same kg/lbs as men, the woman would have more fat & the man would have the most muscles.

the man would typically be 5-10 cm taller AND carry more muscle so the woman absolutely should not weigh the same as him. not even close. it's a disaster that women weigh as much as men these days.



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Anonymous 113757[Reply]

I feel like I'm so ugly without makeup. Even after being showered in compliments. I get many compliments from unattractive men. I never get any from men that are good looking. Tinder, instagram, real life

How do I cope?
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Anonymous 123214

>>123213
>By any chance do you happen to live in ex-USSR?

no, many thousands of km west. also it was merely symbolic garlic because currently i don't even grow any since all i have is a tiny balcony. next time i move though i hope to have some more space to plant and then i grow garlic again and then i grow the strong pungent varieties that they don't sell in the supermarket and then when i have a completely raw phase again i make sauces with the pungent garlic and insult everyone who doesn't eat raw plants; i shake my fist at them and call their cooked food 'burned' just to express my contempt 😂

Anonymous 123249

>>114014
I never did and I'm doing alright. I just dress nice and honestly at this point whenever I put makeup on it looks wrong to me, even when someone else who's good at it does it. Does save me a lot of money looking at my makeup wearing friends and family, and it hasn't prevented me from being respected by peers or finding a loving partner. If you wanna wear it and it's just for yourself go for it, but you'll be fine without it too.

Anonymous 123310

look at the men around you and determine which ones you find attractive. if the amount of unattractive men highly preceeds the amount of attractive men, it could just be your environment. you could always try approaching them first but if you're in a region where courtesy is still expected, its likely the men you find attractive simply do not reciprocate your interest.

Anonymous 125280

you are just fugly
embrace it

Anonymous 125308

>>123310
> if the amount of unattractive men highly preceeds the amount of attractive men, it could just be your environment.
lmfao
we've all seen the dating app stats at this point. it's way more likely she just thinks the average man is unattractive because she's social media brained. the self-consciousness about her looks comes from the same place. she compares herself to social media women and men to social media men. hence everyone irl is "unattractive" (normal) to her. basically self-imposed suffering because if you look away from the phone for a while you realize most people are just average and suddenly seeing something average in the mirror isn't so alarming any more.



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Anonymous 125305[Reply]

How do I stop pushing away good people that are in my life?

Anonymous 125306

>>125305
What makes you start pushing them away

Anonymous 125406

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unironically picrel. you have to have a baseline kindness for yourself and others. it's easy to push people away if you believe you're 'unworthy' or 'undeserving'. having good people in your life makes you a better person. it can be hard, but these things come with time. good luck nona!



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