Is shallow attraction worth anything? Anonymous 109020[Reply]
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Let's say someone falls in love with me for only my physical traits. Then is their love worthless? Because even if I were a complete psychopath, they would not know and probably not care. The entirety of my being except for my body would be something they had to deal with to fuck me or parade me around to their friends. Is such a kind of love worthless, or is it worth something?
Isn't this basically what "friends with benefits" relationship is?
Any sense of love that goes beyond physical intimacy is cut down. There are people that are probably good in bed but would end up being bad partners and you're only interested in sex. It's not fair to say that it's worth nothing, but it's eventually lacking in meaning. It would work for some if they're okay with it, but that's not for me.
The question sounds like it is a bit of a curve ball as it relies a lot on the definition of love.
Some say there is no love, only acts of love, or something like that. I interpret that as action that are undertaken by someone in regard to another.
Conversely, one is free to interpret those actions as acts of love or not.
It looks like it is a two way street.
However truthful someone's manifestation of love is, if it does not correspond to the other party's expectations of what is love to be like, then it doesn't work.
Back to op's question: I guess it very much depends on what holds worth in your book.
In a larger sense, I believe entering a relationship should always be with some degree of preparation: what are the expectations, what are we willing to provide, how is it supposed to work out, etc…
I noticed that I have a much better time forming relationships (not only romantic ones) when I already have these things in mind beforehand.
This. You are setting up yourself for failure. You're even wasting your looks on someone who won't stick after they have faded
my bf only likes me cuz im white