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How do we save female socialization? Anonymous 124400[Reply]

I'm tired of making female friends only to end up being ignored or excluded because I don't share their political opinions. Female friend circles seem to be built on fear, and I'm done with it. I made a decision not to pretend anymore—but now, I don't have any female friends left, just because I don't believe that anyone who identifies as a woman is necessarily a woman.
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Anonymous 124659

>>124489
Tbf Rowling is just as obsessed in the opposite direction. I don't get why they take up so much of people's mental energy. OP and her "friends" sound like they deserve each other.

Anonymous 124682

>>124659
I think the reason she talks about it so much is because other people refuse to drop it, she's basically know as "the terf author"

Anonymous 124756

>>124682
We're all 100% real women. It's the truth.

Anonymous 125210

>>124401
Just let autistic people transition. They are a self-solving problem, they'll castrate and eventually kill themselves and no more trannies will be alive.

Anonymous 125369

>>125210

It costs money, they should intern them in a ward instead, or enslave them to force them to work.


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Help me Anonymous 125213[Reply]

I just turned 27. I’m a high school dropout who has been a NEET since leaving school at 16. I’ve been a shut-in basically this whole time. I don’t have any social or life skills. I can’t even drive. I’ve also never had any sort of relationship or intimacy because I’m ugly as fuck. Not even a friend. Is it over for me? I want to change, but I feel like it’s all just too far gone. Even if I do change, I don’t feel like I’ll ever truly recover from all these lost years. How am I supposed to go out there and relate to people? I feel so stunted
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Anonymous 125261

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Don't disappear nonita. You'll definitely have to finish school. I don't know what country you live in, but in most places, without a high school diploma, you can't do much of anything, not even get a minimum-wage job. Is there an adult education program in your country? You'll have to look for it.

Anonymous 125262

>>125261
obviously I'm going to finish school. Im doing all AP's and honors and plan to go to a prestigious university. My family lineage is full of doctors and lawyers. I just spend my free time on imageboards. And yes, I plan to do premed.

Anonymous 125263

>>125262
sorry I'm retarded I thought you were replying to me kek

Anonymous 125330

You need to finish school before anything

Anonymous 125368

You have it harder.
Some are lucky.

You are lucky with the basics.

First rule.
Do not lose time dating men.

Men are like dogs. Men bite if you approach.

Second rule.
Finish school. You need the diploma.

Third rule.
Find something you like and do it.
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Are men evolving to a sociopathic hivemind? Anonymous 123286[Reply]

This is a genuine question, because I can't fathom any other reasoning. Courting is dead, it's gone. In no particular order the following occurs: love bombing, ghosting, mirroring, hot/cold method. Even my friends who fit the patriarchal male gaze to an absolute T (virgin, quiet, submissive) are getting stepped on. It seems like all or nothing, there is no slow progressional vetting before a clear decision is made. Many other girls around me in my career and academia have given up on the idea of marriage and children. The ones that haven't tend to have a man-child tier boyfriend or they're accepting to be chronically cheated on.

The ideology that women have to be top 1% of females to deserve a male counterpart that doesn't wreck havoc on livelihood and minds is insane. I've talked to many boomers and they agree something is universally wrong; we are no longer just homemakers, but we have the ability to be that and MUCH MUCH more, how are we all fundamentally somehow "never enough" for them?
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Anonymous 125258

>>125253
>>125247
I found your posts thoughtful, if it helps.
There should be a third Hedonist type, too, but maybe alcohol and meth have given way over the last dozen years to weed, rolling this kind of person into the apathetic crowd

Anonymous 125287

I have this theory it's both genders are mentally fucked due to living in economic duress, but since they don't know it, they just waste away flinging shit at eachother

Anonymous 125292

>>125287
This. It’s not men vs women, left vs right, black vs white. Those are distractions. It is and always has been the people up top vs the people down low. And guess where we are.

Anonymous 125302

>>125287
We are living a better life than every generation before us except the two last.
I think what cause so much tension in society is how everything goes down. Even owning a house is a dream now.

>>125292
I do not care what somebody have in his plate, if what is in mine is fine I am happy. And I am not. The problem is not that some people have more, it is that I would be fine with what is in my plate if there wasn't so many people who just took food from it.

Anonymous 125307

The world screeches to a halt if a man dies but millions of women and young girls die and are subjected to sexual violence and physicals violence every day and no one cares. They're sociopathic towards anything without a penis


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Anonymous 121744[Reply]

The whole phenomenon of this dude is proof that standards/body-shaming/fatphobia don’t exist for males. If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time. But because someone had the audacity to try to socially enforce any rock bottom, bare minimum physical standard for the sacred male, everyone threw a fit and he got a whole media festival of events, money and opportunities thrown at him for weeks on end. In real life a female is torn to shreds for not spending most of her mental energy on appearances, but something as febrile as “hey maybe a male shouldn’t be so fat he can barely walk” is completely socially unacceptable and would get you fired while every handmaiden within ten miles performatively throws themselves on his gangrenous fat-entombed micropenis.
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Anonymous 125203

>>125198
>the average moid looks like a complete socially retarded schizophrenic chud on the surface
>find out he has a social life actually
>"oh maybe he's not as retarded as he looks"
it's called subversion of expectations

Anonymous 125205

>>125203
Social proof, not social life. Women are attracted to the socially approved men in their social context. Among normies these are like athletes. Among cc types it often is streamers, someone important on some discord group, etc. Basically the men with the highest social value

Anonymous 125206

>>121744
>proof fat shaming men isn't real
posts man literally famous because he was fat shamed online and publicly.
>"If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time"
if the original post had been a woman she would have received the same reaction bff, it was people trying to stand up to casual bullying.

also, its been ten fucking years nona, get over it. Im not even disagreeing that fat men have it easier, but this is retarded.

Anonymous 125224

>>123292

Based pilled nona

Anonymous 125309

>>123309
fat women literally miscarry. we are NOT supposed to be fat.
higher bodyfat percentage is just a synonym for lower muscle percentage. it's no excuse to overeat and damage your ability to move, breathe, survive turning 60 or even to carry out a pregnancy in your prime.

>even if they weighed the same kg/lbs as men, the woman would have more fat & the man would have the most muscles.
the man would typically be 5-10 cm taller AND carry more muscle so the woman absolutely should not weigh the same as him. not even close. it's a disaster that women weigh as much as men these days.


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Anonymous 113757[Reply]

I feel like I'm so ugly without makeup. Even after being showered in compliments. I get many compliments from unattractive men. I never get any from men that are good looking. Tinder, instagram, real life

How do I cope?
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Anonymous 123214

>>123213
>By any chance do you happen to live in ex-USSR?

no, many thousands of km west. also it was merely symbolic garlic because currently i don't even grow any since all i have is a tiny balcony. next time i move though i hope to have some more space to plant and then i grow garlic again and then i grow the strong pungent varieties that they don't sell in the supermarket and then when i have a completely raw phase again i make sauces with the pungent garlic and insult everyone who doesn't eat raw plants; i shake my fist at them and call their cooked food 'burned' just to express my contempt 😂

Anonymous 123249

>>114014
I never did and I'm doing alright. I just dress nice and honestly at this point whenever I put makeup on it looks wrong to me, even when someone else who's good at it does it. Does save me a lot of money looking at my makeup wearing friends and family, and it hasn't prevented me from being respected by peers or finding a loving partner. If you wanna wear it and it's just for yourself go for it, but you'll be fine without it too.

Anonymous 123310

look at the men around you and determine which ones you find attractive. if the amount of unattractive men highly preceeds the amount of attractive men, it could just be your environment. you could always try approaching them first but if you're in a region where courtesy is still expected, its likely the men you find attractive simply do not reciprocate your interest.

Anonymous 125280

you are just fugly
embrace it

Anonymous 125308

>>123310
> if the amount of unattractive men highly preceeds the amount of attractive men, it could just be your environment.
lmfao
we've all seen the dating app stats at this point. it's way more likely she just thinks the average man is unattractive because she's social media brained. the self-consciousness about her looks comes from the same place. she compares herself to social media women and men to social media men. hence everyone irl is "unattractive" (normal) to her. basically self-imposed suffering because if you look away from the phone for a while you realize most people are just average and suddenly seeing something average in the mirror isn't so alarming any more.


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Anonymous 125305[Reply]

How do I stop pushing away good people that are in my life?

Anonymous 125306

>>125305
What makes you start pushing them away

Anonymous 125406

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unironically picrel. you have to have a baseline kindness for yourself and others. it's easy to push people away if you believe you're 'unworthy' or 'undeserving'. having good people in your life makes you a better person. it can be hard, but these things come with time. good luck nona!


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I'm glad this site exists Anonymous 125264[Reply]

Came across this site when searching for alternative image boards. I've been hating being a woman for years, not because I have gender dysphoria, just the constant exhaustion of dealing with men and the confines of society. thank you crystal.cafe, and hopefully this site will become more active.

Anonymous 125269

you do have gender dysphoria
https://agpchan.org/agp/
https://endchan.org/agp/
https://endchan.org/lgbt/
https://soychan.in/lgbt/
https://leftychan.net/lgbt/
https://leftypol.org/lgbt/
https://libpol.org/lgbt/
https://www.tranchan.net/
https://www.textchan.com/txt/cross-dressing-trapping/

Anonymous 125270

>>125269
absolutely not. I love being a woman and I love girly things, I just hate the prejudice I get. I will never troon out and put poison in my body just to look like a moid with wide hips and a 5'9 stature.

Anonymous 125282

I love you nona and I'm glad you're here but please don't post any more of these ugly memes.

Anonymous 125285

>>125264
Us gurlz needa stick together! I was in your shoes once too. Glad you found us nona


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Vent Thread Anonymous 120288[Reply]

Previous thread >>117577
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Anonymous 125349

the scrote i have a crush one likes a basic girl and it gives me the biggest fucking ick. what the FUCK do you mean you are into bland dime a dozen basic bitches 10+ years younger than you?
kys you creepy short fucking skinnyfat incel i can't believe i ever thought anything different of you

Anonymous 125365

>>125349

do not like men for a relationship.

Men are like dogs.

They smell your hand and let you pet them.

Do not pet them before they approach first. They bite.

Anonymous 125366

I am tired of being autistic.

This nightmare never ends.


My humor is never the same, my lovers always find me apathetic even if I try. The less I try the more they try to fit with me.

It's as if men were born to obey.

At least my maus panzer and my cars do not make me sad.

Anonymous 125380

IM A FAILURE AT EVERYTHING
I TRIED AND TRIED but at the same time I don’t do any effort
I want things
I want to be somenthing
I envy people
Specially the ones who can read more that one minute of a book

Anonymous 125414

New thread >>>/feels/125413


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meeting internet boyfriend Anonymous 125231[Reply]

hi nonas,

have any of you met a moid from the internet before? i have been talking to a guy for a few months now and we are considering meeting. i have never had a relationship before so i'm nervous about what things will be like in person.. i don't know what to expect.

i have a tendency to self-sabotage and i worry that i am going to cut off this one chance i have at a relationship because i'm scared of what's unknown to me.. can anyone share advice?

thank you anyone who leaves a comment, i wish i had some friends i could talk to about this..

Anonymous 125232

>>125231
w the popularity of dating apps i think there's less and less social stigma toward meeting on the internet in general.. that said it depends a lot on how viable this relationship is imo when it comes to whether you're helping or hurting yourself by meeting him.

do you think there's long-term potential? also i'll say i think the odds of establishing a viable relationship via the internet probably go way down if it's your first one, you just don't know what red/green flags to look for going into it

Anonymous 125233

Where are you going to meet him? Just make sure you're going to a place where you're comfortable, don't let yourself be coerced into doing anything you don't want and have fun. Let him know if you're nervous. Make sure you have similar expectations of how your date will go.

If it helps, think of it this way. Meeting someone IRL instead of talking online indefinitely is a much better idea.

Anonymous 125235

> hi nonas,
Kek, the surviving 1/3 of genuine posts ever posted in this site are trannies, aren’t they?

Anonymous 125265

Yes, when I was 13 I met a moid from discord. I got my virginity stolen from me that day.
met another last year, we got high, and again, in my weakened state, had sex.
met one last week and yet again, it was a hookup.

it made my self esteem plummet and reminder that I am a whore. I don't want to be a whore, I just crave physical intimacy, not even sex, just cuddles or kisses. don't meet up with moids from the internet. but if you do, make sure you trust him and its in a public place.

Anonymous 125266

>>125233
I really want to meet up with an anon moid, hes from Norway and is really sweet. I'm pretty against e dating, but my city is shit and I hate all the guys here. I've met up with 3 different guys from the internet and it all lead to us having sex.
I'm fine with sex, I just don't want it to be dominantly that. hopefully a true relationship.


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Alaska sounds nice ig Anonymous 125252[Reply]

>be me
>parents abused/ abandoned me
>grow up
>find a nice lady
>she becomes a mom figure
>call her mom
>discuss adult adoption
>make plans to move to the same city and be a family.
>get text saying she's moving to France to be with her gf.

Are you fucking kidding me? The two people who are supposed to love me no matter what fucking HATE me for being born or don't remember I fucking exist. I find someone who ACTUALLY wants me to be a part of their family and they decide to just fucking ditch me so they can get laid by someone in France?

Fucking really? I'm worth less than a god damn plane ticket.

I will sacrifice literally anything for love. I memorize every tiny detail of a person's likes and dislikes. I memorize their habits and patterns and I cleave parts off of myself to put them ahead of me constantly. I work for peoples love because clearly no one will give it to me without me having to mine for it. And I thought I found one fucking person who wouldn't do that. Who actually understood and saw me. I THOUGHT I had a mother for the first time in my useless fucking life but no. No family for me.
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Anonymous 125257

> I'm going to move to the middle of Alaska and just live by myself

mccandless maxing


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