/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>110046
I don't know why, but I laughed my ass off at the wording of the post. But, I'm totally with you there, girl.
Lonely, my ass. I swear, some of these chicks just come here just so that they have a way to make themselves ""unique"" and ""different,"" and ""not like all the other girls.""

>>110116
you should be banned for picrel

>>110125
What, why?

That's not a shark. It's a whale!

i cant help but cringe a bit when i see a nona talking about her moid. the way some people on here are so attached to men is strange considering we’re all aware of how theyre all freaks… maybe im just too far gone already but i could never imagine myself being that obsessed with a moid. im already at the point where id rather perish than have a relationship with one. theyre all the same anyway, so itd be a waste of time. le blackpilled

>>110840 Mind over matter nona, if you're stressed rn then find more outlooks that's not selfharm. Maybe go join the gym to release stress or punch a pillow but don't let yourself fall back into self-harming because it'll be hard to breakout again.

>>110840
why don't you unironically try open awareness meditation? or journaling (but I've always found the latter's conducive to rumination while the former's conducive to real well-being)

Mindfulness girl, you’re already on the path by recognizing it. Training your brain to think different is all about repetition. Reward yourself when you recognize a bad pattern and successfully avoid it — the only way to get better is self love.

unironically gaslight yourself into new behaviours. You’ll be okay <3

My urges have returned too after being dormant for so long.
I either channel it into exercise (which also hurts and takes some energy away) or, if I really can't resist in the moment, I hit myself. Ideally there would be no self-harm at all but at least it doesn't scar.

la violencia es la respuesta

How do I stop ruminating about extremely creative scenarios that could possibly happen where I fail at work and embarrass myself?

I'm getting a new job for the first time and I can't stop it.

>>109149
You basically just don’t go to the doctor at all. Most Americans are living in real poverty. So there’s no point to pay for health insurance cause it’s not gonna cover anything. We don’t have a lot of assistance offered to us. Kids do just not adults. I get health insurance through my job it’s not great but because it’s a small town it’s not so bad here. You just go into medical debt which most Americans have. We have special apps that help keep pharmaceutical costs down or certain pharmacies have their own discounts they’ll use.

>>109317
By forcing yourself to think about something else whenever that occurs.
Ex: the positives things that will cone out of it.

I work at a hotel and there’s only like one other girl who works with me besides the mangers and the two women who run night audit. She genuinely kind of fucking doesn’t do half of the shit were suppose to. Like we have this drink cooler and I fill it every night on my shift. When I have my days off and she works my shift. I’ll come back and it’ll be basically empty. It’s just a bunch of crap like that. I haven’t really said anything about it. Welp yesterday I told these guys they could have rollaways in their room. When they showed up they never asked for them so assumed they didn’t need them. Well I guess rollaways aren’t suppose to go in those room types blah blah. So she booked them another room and there was quite literally no issue. This dumb cunt literally left a note for the managers about it.

I left my pretty decent job in November bc depression and now I kinda regret it. Still unemployed and my parents are kicking my ass about it.

I'm thinking of going back (to the old job) but it would be embarrassing, wouldn't it? They made me a farewell party and everything. My HR manager said something like "you can contact me if you need anything/if anything ever happens".

>>110766
I don't even wanna know how piggish, filthy, sloppy, retarded someone would have act for it to be considered "good"… Atp talking about this act or hetero sex to others without their permission should be considered a sexual harassment. And anyone who wants to be good at this act is an obedient whore willing to train themselves.

>>110651
Seek professional help, nut job!

>>110845
Banned on lolcow again?

>>110766
>Women are cocksucking piggish sluts
No.
>Sucking dick is actually empowering
No.

>>111053
bye moid

>>109306
I understand, I hope it wont come to that.
The fact that he thinks that you are not serious about it is hard to understand after such a talk.

Did you set a hard deadline when, he and all is belongings have to be out of your place?

Stay strong nona, it will be fine!

>>109307
thank you! i told him he had one month. its a lot of time for me, I feel like if i he was somewhere else it would be soooo easy. I know its not good but i would just talk to men so i dont get bored and maybe write smut or whatever but sleeping with him is just too much. I am super mad at him right now, sometimes i miss him and want to go back but today i want him out

>>109421
One month is huge, you are not sleeping in the same bed anymore, aren't you?

>>109424
I am, i dont have any other bed nor will I sleep in the sofa. and he wont either, I thought of buying in a sleeping bag or a futon i dont really want to waste my money in this.

>>109428
Did he leave yet?

>>109112
Ayrt and half of the links are about murder too. It was in response to posts like >>109057 .

>>109302
>The idea that you can't choose who you love is one of THE MOST retarded things I've ever heard
Can you fall in love with a given person on command? Is that what you're saying? I'd be interested to hear YOUR definition of love.
>no one with a proper mother and father figure becomes gay
I would describe my father and mother as proper father and mother figures and I'm still bisexual. Pretty much everyone has some kind of trauma.
>>106960
There's nothing wrong with any of what you want. the only thing about you that you should focus on changing is your self loathing. Yeah, kids probably do benefit from having a father and a mother but almost no one grows up in a picture perfect family anyways and most of us turn out pretty okay. I don't see a family with same sex parents as being better or worse than a family with a single parent raising them alone, or a family where grandparents or aunts and uncles have to take on the roles or parents. Lots of hetero parents end up seriously damaging their children so I don't see any reason that two well intentioned women shouldn't be given a chance to raise a child. They can't do worse than some straights have done.

>>109308
There are many women with absolutely terrible childhoods and they remain straight. If this is the result of Stockholm syndrome, then with treatment, sexuality should become healthier and a person should be liberated. Still, it's not just life experience that affects.

"I will also show that excitability has a greater daily effect on men's sexual desire than on men's sexual desire, for reasons related to women's hormonal cycles. related to female hormonal cycles. If we consider these factors together, the factors indicate that women's daily sexual desires should be more flexible and changeable than men's. The second phenomenon associated with female sexual variability is the "disorientation" of romantic love. Although we usually assume. that sexual orientation directs people's romantic feelings along the same path as their sexual desires. sexual desires, this is not the case. On the contrary, what we know about the evolutionary origin and neurobiological mechanisms of romantic love suggests that it (1) functions independently of sexual desire, having other biological bases; (2) can develop even in the absence of sexual desire; and (3) does not have an "orientation" in the same the same as sexuality. As a result Thanks to these features, we can fall in love with someone without feeling affection for them, even if this person does not match our sexual orientation. sexual orientation. The third phenomenon associated with female sexual variability is the connection between romantic love and sexual desire. the connection between romantic love and sexual desire. This connection allows you to start with strong platonic (i.e. non-sexual) feelings of love, non-sexual) feelings of love for another person, and sometimes new and unexpected sexual desires.
The third phenomenon associated with female sexual variability is the connection between romantic love and sexual desire. This connection allows you to start with strong platonic (that is, non-sexual) feelings of love for another person, and as a result experience new and unexpected sexual desires for him, non-sexual) feelings of love for another person, and as a result, sometimes new and unexpected sexual desires for this person arise. This is because love and desire, despite being separate processes, nevertheless have strong cultural, psychological and neurobiological links between them. One experience can contribute to another. We all know that sexual desire can turn into romantic love, but the opposite can also happen: romantic love can lead to sexual desire. Given this two-way connection between love and desire, we can to develop sexual desire for a person of the "wrong sex", just like we do we can fall in love with a person of the wrong sex. Such atypical desires may be lPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Hey where is opinions?

I have been trying out exposures on my own by writing scripts and browsing /d/ and scrolling through um… images that has shit and gas in it for the past days.

I attempted to push and try to convince myself that I do like this shit stuff which only makes me laugh and think about how ridiculous it all is. Looks like I have to truly believe in what I expose and think about for it to work, but I can't. This is too funny and stupid. I felt quite stupid. I couldn't sit with the exposure though I just immediately realized how stupid everything is and closed it. I also can't believe that people are actually into disgusting stuff like soiled diapers and all that.
I tried to read about this, and apparently it's called "flooding" and it's not effective.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flooding_(psychology)
>Flooding is a psychotherapeutic method for overcoming phobias. In order to demonstrate the irrationality of the fear, a psychologist would put a person in a situation where they would face their phobia. Under controlled conditions and using psychologically-proven relaxation techniques, the subject attempts to replace their fear with relaxation. The experience can often be traumatic for a person, but may be necessary if the phobia is causing them significant life disturbances. The advantage to flooding is that it is quick and usually effective. There is, however, a possibility that a fear may spontaneously recur.

I did notice my OCD trying to tell me that I need to keep checking and if one image didn't work, I gotta move to the next image to confirm it, and if that didn't, then the next one. I also kept going back once I stopped experimenting just so I can confirm once more and "put an end". I also noticed that I also wanted to confirm that my "arousal" works only for vanilla stuff. These are actually compulsions, or specifically checking and pure obsession, and its a trap.

>I'm a lesbian
>check out lesbian porn
>it doesn't work
>okay so this means you are straight?
>you should confirm if you are straight
>check out straight porn
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I just learnt that a lot of basic therapy strategies like helping the patient understand that "thoughts are just thoughts" and to help them understand that the scenarios that they fear have extremely low chances of happening won't work if they have OCD because they'd still go "… but what if?". I need these things because I have BPD as well and I think aggressive and hypersexual thoughts all the time, but OCD will surely sabotage it. These thoughts CAN happen even if it's improbable.

Trying to convince someone pizza is bad because of saturated fats won't really stop them from liking pizza. In the same way, trying to convince someone that the thing they fear won't happen is wrong because these fears do and can happen. It is possible to contract AIDS by accident and it is possible that you accidentally ran over someone and forgot to notice it. CBT fails if it's logical. It has to be repurposed and do something else.

Just spent so long repeatedly opening and closing my bathroom door that one neighbor yelled at me to shut up and another knocked on my front door to ask if I was alright.
It makes people think I'm a fucking lunatic when I do that sort of thing so I have to tamp down on it in public and feel uncomfortable the whole time I'm outside I can only interact with each object once, usually not enough.
Fuck's sake, wish I could phase through walls…

this is really stupid kind of coping mechanism but basically among other things i am constantly worried that i smell horrible and especially my vagina smells to bad that everyone around me can smell it, like if i enter a building the entire space smells like my pussy. i always think that people are commenting on the smell, like they use code language to talk with each other about my horrible smell so i wouldn't realize they are talking to me, for example today i heard someone say sarcastically something about a "lovely spring weather" and i was sure that was a code for my pussy smelling bad but in situation like this i just think "well that's some quality schizo posting!" to myself and i'll realize how ridiculous i am being and can relax and laugh at myself

I've accepted that perhaps the intrusive thoughts really were right after all… and that being the case, as long as I'm too afraid to rope, there's no cure for me except refusing to act on it.

>>108725
Apart from all that bonesmashing bs I can't really notice anything wrong with the looksmaxing trend. Young moids are getting more blackpilled and keep encouraging each other to hit the gym and improve themselves. What's wrong with that? In the same communities I've also seen some zoomers encourage quitting porn which I think is a great step in the right direction.

Lookmsaxxing was always a thing (for women) in the mainstream, it just didn't have that specific label.

Looksmaxing is bullshit, just more consumerism

>>110623
Eating disorders ig

>>110796
most of the whole looksmaxing thing is just exercise and diet advice what are you talking about