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hello corporate/office girlies, lets chat :3 Anonymous 124503[Reply]

just chatting and yapping
hii nonas in office jobs,do u girls also love it but hate it.
like, this is so soothing and grown but so boring at the same time.
making this thread rn while at it cuz i am bored!

Anonymous 124504

After working for some years in stocking and customer service i can say it's definitely not that bad

but my back hurts



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I cannot stop eating sugar and sweets Anonymous 124125[Reply]

it is a PROBLEM. I love chocolate and anything with sugar, but its becoming concerning at this post, if i dont eat a sugary sweet at least once a day i will become moody and sad.
Im not overweight or anything, i have a pretty lean body but i need to stop eating sugar all the time, how to stop with the sweet treats,,, nonas help,,,
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Anonymous 124270

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It is due to blood sugar.

• blood sugar goes up
• insulin goes up
• sugar goes down
• sugar goes below normal
• you feel bad and need more sugar

It might be related to mental illness too, as your brain gets more energy during a sugar high it alleviates it, so soon sugar becomes your crutch. You don't necessarily have to eat sugar to cause this either, starchy foods can have the same effect.

The solution is to manage what you eat so your blood sugar is above normal but not too high. In short, eat beans. Beans have a low glycemic index meaning they release sugars into the blood gradually. There are other foods with low glycemic index but none are more convenient and abundant than beans. Beans can be friends.

This also alleviates sugar cravings, because you don't go into panic mode, though it takes a measure of willpower to wean yourself off sugar.

Anonymous 124283

try to eat vegetables instead, like something crunchy. Carrots or green stick things, apples in slices or pears even. Eat fruits BEFORE 4pm and drink a lot of water nona.

Anonymous 124382

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>>124125
>I cannot stop

that's you being a low agency person. for decades the elites have tried to influence the human breeding as to produce dependent order-followers incapable of managing their own life. you are the result of their efforts, the vessel of corruption.

Anonymous 124385

>>124382
That's not quite correct. Admitting to your faults and seeking a solution for them instead of justifying them is actually the high agency behavior. We all wish OP luck with her predicament <3

Anonymous 124393

>>124385
>seeking a solution

yeah right THAT'S what is happening here yaah. seeking a solution yaah. i can tell you are a very solution-oriented person just being your solution-oriented self in this solution-oriented place yaaaah.



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how do i get over mi highschool crush? Anonymous 124307[Reply]

you all can make fun of me and be mean because i think i deserve it tbh.

met this guy when i was 15 TEN years ago. we were in the same class and we sat next to each other. we were really different in the sense that he was pretty cool and chill, he had a lot of friends and stuff and i was more of a reserved otaku.. but he was super kind to me (and anyone really) so i developed a crush on him.

at one point after we graduate he was really persistent on hanging out, go to places i posted i wanted to go and stuff like that but i always said no because i was scared of what he would think about me physically wise (we didn't saw each other for like a year for college reasons) so we grew kind of distant until we stopped talking after he got into whats now his long term relationship.

and i can't stop being kind of obsessed with him. i compare every guy to him because he's kind, good looking, hard working, likes animals, loves his mom and sister, apparently is against the consumption of porn and all that, really a great guy.

when i tried to get over this literal obsession with him he sent me a dm through instagram out of nowhere, APOLOGIZING because he suddenly remembered that i had been a really good friend to him during school and that he was sorry if he ever was too annoying to me during that period (he never was, he was the sweetest. texted me late when i had depressive episodes, hugged me when my cat died, tried to include me in everything, asked about my interest, listened to me and tried to introduce me to his while using mine as a comparative so it wouldn't be boring to me, etc.) and i relapsed. i know he wasn't trying anything with that message because i answered that i never thought about him as the most annoying out of our friend group and that i was thankful too and we didn't talk anymore after that.

i don't know what to do to get over the fact that im stuck in that crush from ten years ago, that i see everything he post and get bitter when is related to his girlfriend. i need to get over this and meeting new males isn't helping because i keep comparing and settling this guy as the standard.

what do i do? and sorry if there's any typos, this is not my first language.

Anonymous 124323

i've lived through something similar.
here is how i would do it now after dealing with it stupidly.

the answer to this is consciousness. you have to be conscious of the behavior that is disabling you.

notice when you think of him. just notice at first. "ah there it is again" because since this is an habit, it will happen without you wanting it to.

then when you think of him, you have to remember that when you think of him that you go down the rabbit hole and think of how awesome he is and that might make you sad or make other men look like losers to you that you don't even give a chance. you have to know in advance that this will happen again when you think of him so be conscious of it, wait for it to happen and interrupt it until it is gone so you can have your life back.

>oh no not today


when you remember all that next time you notice the habit is beginning again, you have the choice not to go down that road. that choice is your way out of the habit.

Anonymous 124392

>>124323
came checking if there was any answer to this. thanks nona ill try that !!



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How do you deal with hopelesness for the female species Anonymous 122690[Reply]

Everyday it's more clear to me that women will never be free, it makes me feel suicidal even. We are nothing but pets and will NEVER stop being pets, even if that were to happen I'll be dead by that time. What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?
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Anonymous 123569

Abort babies if they are male. That's the first step.

Anonymous 124373

>>122690
Women have been free in the past and are free in some places. Women can be free again. Join separatists and work on being separate. It may not work on a global scale but it will for the women who care enough like you.

Anonymous 124374

>>123569
a fellow SCUM sister I see

Anonymous 124378

>>124373
Join a female only commune. There is only two that I know of, all of them full lesbian but you can create your own if you have enough good willed Nonas with you.

Anonymous 124381

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>What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?

there is stuff you can do. one of the most important things that i don't see any of you do is to promote a life in reality. a real life based on reality, not a life based on following narrative.



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I am pregnant Anonymous 122619[Reply]

I found out a week ago that I am pregnant.
I am married, have been for 2 months to my husband who I have been with for 3.5 years now.
I am scared.
Right now I am the sole breadwinner of the house and I don't even make that much money. Enough for bills but hardly enough for anything else and slowly have been draining my savings.
He doesn't work. He had a good paying job but left it to pursue school 6 months ago. And what he is in school for I honestly don't think he has a future in.
Other than the financial struggles, neither of us are ready to be parents.
I think I could handle being a Mom, but I do not want to be a Mom. I am not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I wanted to enjoy being newleyweds longer.
He is not ready to be a Dad. Emotionally immature.
The reality is slowly dawning on me on how hard this will be for us and I am really distraught. We are broke and I am married to a man who literally cannot handle fatherhood. I am terrified.
At first I thought I would be excited for a baby but I am more scared, mostly because of ny husband being unprepared. I know he couldnt support us but I know one of us will have to stay home with baby all day.
I just dont know what to do.
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Anonymous 123777

>>123566
You can get in the mail sex tests for your baby btw, you don't need to wait until the second trimester anymore

Anonymous 124019

>>122619
Nona it's been a month what happened?

Anonymous 124061

>>122619
if u do choose to have the baby, can you possibly move in with his parents or your parents? this way, ur expenses with be less and it wouldn't be too much on you.

at the end of the day, what's done is done so don't beat urself up too much for who you chose to marry. working and going to school at the same time is hard, but it is an option and ur husband will have to look into it. there also other expenses you guys will have to prepare for during pregnancy and after the baby arrives.

good luck <3

Anonymous 124180

i know who this is and i know we don’t get along but i wish you and your baby well

Anonymous 124380

>>122619
Get the kid anyway and don't feel ashamed to milk as many tax cuts and subventions as you can.
And push your deadbeat moid to do something.



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Anonymous 116666[Reply]

What was the most fun/creative date you’ve ever been on?

If you've never dated, what are fun/creative dates that you would like to have?
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Anonymous 116729

>>116666
I usually just go on hikes, long walks, and eat out at restaurants or cafes for my dates.

Don't know what movie fantasies ya;'ll be living, but count me jelly.

Anonymous 118112

>>116666
i want to lure and kill a man after having sex

Anonymous 118958

>>118112
but why nona

Anonymous 124346

I am completely unable to feel attraction to anyone. I cannot date.

Anonymous 124351

Not technically a date, but
>2013
>Boyfriend has travelled 3500 miles to be with you for Christmas
>You both have a glass of eggnog on the coffee table
>It's blizzarding outside
>We're sitting in my parents livingroom at night on the big sectional sofa
>Almost complete silence save for some christmas smooth jazz on super, super low
>Snuggled up together
>Watching the snow fall through the big glass patio doors
>Heater on in the corner
>Cat quietly purring as she naps in her bed next to it
>boyfriend gently rubbing my back as we watch the snowfall
>Other hand holding my free hand
>heads touching

Amazing memory. One of those ones you think about and all of the feelings of warmth and comfort envelop you.



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Lonely life Anonymous 119497[Reply]

Who would have known. Turns out that my paranoid unhealthy bullshit is a detriment to my character. I have lost my only true close friend because of a falling out and it seems that I have lost contact with them so no matter how much I want to try to make amends, it won't happen. It takes a lot of conscious effort for me to truly be close to someone because I am scared of not being in control of my feelings and letting my paranoid delusions get to me, and I thought maybe this would be different despite the issues between us (we both don't have the best mental health.) But it turns out, not really. I've always been isolated from my peers ever since childhood. I don't work; I got an informal job before but my cognition wasn't up to it. My hobbies are mostly isolated like drawing and writing. I've always had a lonely life. Friends come and go, but it seems they always go in the most painful ways possible. I always had looming dread whenever I had this close relationship, even when my friend was as nice and understanding as possible, like I was not enjoying it at all or being conflicted about being happy or scared. But at least despite that, I was a bit more in control of my emotions and my friend made me smile a lot. But now, everything is a mess. It might take a while to be more stable, but this is nothing new to me. Maybe I should just keep to myself more, and I should just be more accepting of an isolated life.
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Anonymous 119971

My ex bf was my best friend before and after we broke up. We stayed really close for like a year after the breakup. He had girlfriends and it never became a problem until now. He got a new girlfriend and he barely talks to me. I get paranoid and freak out on him and he just says he’s busy. That he got in touch with old friends and so he just has less time to yap with me but when he was single he had a lot more free time. But he still wants to be my friend and likes talking to me. How am I actually supposed to take that? He talks to his old friends more so he talks to me a lot less. So I’m less important. I freak out and I know I’m just making things worse but I can’t help it. I’m so lonely now. I just liked being apart of his life still. Moids are never the cure to loneliness they just make it worsen

Anonymous 119972

>>119971
Plus side his girlfriend is short and over 200 pounds. Thinking about how fat and disgusting she is, is the only remedy to my pain.

Anonymous 120024

>>119971
do you think his new gf might be uncomfy with him having close female friends or something?

Anonymous 120044

>>120024
I genuinely couldn’t care less. I’m sure she does. She’s a hog. If she wasn’t uncomfortable. It would be a shock. That’s not my problem. We have been best friends for 7 years. It’s not my fault she’s a void of a human being. She never developed a personality outside of her last bf. So now instead of developing a personality outside of her last relationship she’s just latching on to his personality. Within a month of dating she bought him tickets to Vegas. I can’t imagine being that desperate and I think it’s pathetic. She lives four hours away and she comes down every week and spends like 4 days at his house. Again imagine lacking an identity to the point you can spend that much time in someone else’s space, especially a moids space. She’s a turbo Reddit liberal who fucking does that moon water shit. So basically I hate her as a person and also because I don’t get to talk to him as much. Like if I met her under different circumstances I would still think she’s a pathetic hog. Who’s desperate for male attention.

Anonymous 124347

>>119497
If you care about women, do not use discord. They fund men who traffic women.



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Anonymous 124339[Reply]

my bf is having sex with a surrogate (his friend he thinks is hot) so we can have a baby
how do i know he won't cheat on me during the sex?

Anonymous 124340

by realizing your story is made up

Anonymous 124341

him having sex with anyone else but you is by default cheating, what are you on about?
even if you consent to it, it still doesn't change the fact it's cheating, it would just make you a cuckold



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/rock bottom/ - general Anonymous 76609[Reply]

This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.
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Anonymous 123716

>>123667
update ive unpeeled the gray shit from the floor. it came off in one huge piece and had a reallly weird waxy consitnecy. ive thought abt taking a picture of it and posting it here but this website is like dead and rotting + no one gives a fuck i fear. shoudl i use this thread as a diary? im rlly bored and lonely

Anonymous 123718

>>123716
this is the first step nona! whatever that was probably wasn't too good for you lol
but,,,,,,, i would like to see The Rot

Anonymous 123737

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>>123718
Sorry Ive arleady threw away the big one that was under my table. Theres a simmilar kind of rot in the corner of my room tho. Picrel. I think its a mix of accumulated dirt and mold

Anonymous 124208

I'm totally worthless. Morbidly obese, unemployed, no college degree…nothing. I'm living off the good graces of others but I know this will end soon. I don't have any family that supports me. Once I can't live where I currently am, I'll kill myself. There is no future for me.

Anonymous 124335

I was reading reddit and saw a picture of a gutted bathroom with people saying this is how you fix a black mould problem. Is this really the only way to deal with bad black mould. Christ. I don't want to know.



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bf attracted to other girls Anonymous 123128[Reply]

am i supposed to just accept that every guy is going to be attracted to other girls, even while he’s in a relationship with me? people say it’s normal, but honestly, it really hurts. i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does. my boyfriend always follows hot egirls on social media and sometimes even talks about how hot he finds them, celebs or not. it hurts. and yeah, even when it’s a celebrity, it still stings. i don’t really see a difference between him saying that about a famous girl or some everyday girl. it still makes me feel like shit. i’m struggling to come to terms with this ‘norm’, but it feels like i have to. seems like every guy is like this, and there’s no escaping it. it honestly makes me feel sick. what am i supposed to do?
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Anonymous 124311

>>124247
He's not being faithful if he's looking at other women naked

Anonymous 124314

>>123128
nona..stop worrying about what a man does, he should see if you are interested in other men,…,, but and at the same time… he is just a man, his love means nothing, it will never be like yours unfortunately, I hope you can recover and never suffer for another person, you are a goddess

Anonymous 124319

>>124303
thank you for this post nona. you have articulated my thoughts and feelings about mend and relationships with them so well.

Anonymous 124321

any time i miss being in a relationship, i just scroll through all your guys’ boyfriends following lists. problem solved.

Anonymous 124375

>>123647
>WHEN HE IS DONE HE COMES HOME TO MEEE!!!!
It is always sad and pathetic to see. They don't understand that diverting energy from the relationship is what causes it to fail and the main reason open and poly fails long term. Few people can deal with low amounts of engagement from their partner and few people can supplement that attention with attention from others. That is why ethical non monog people will say you have to have strong bonds with all, so the attention feels the same from each partner so your brain doesn't discern much difference. It is the same way people still believe humans should multitask despite multiple studies showing that dividing attention leads to poorer performance than focusing on one thing.
>>123779
I've seen more guys now who are atheists or agnostic controlling their lust. I think the broadcasting about harms of porn is working.



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