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im a pathological liar Anonymous 133502[Reply]

title. basically all of my life ive been making shit up about myself and there hasnt been a single person in my life to whom i havent lied to excessively. i do this because i really hate myself and my life so i dissociate by inventing new lives and personas for myself. nobody knows the real me because ive lied so much. there are countless chunks of my identity that are entirely made up and it doesnt help that i tell everyone a different story. im too deep into these personas to stop or fess up. i compulsively lie about even the smallest things like what i had for dinner for example. its a lifelong pattern and i abandon everyone before they can figure out that i am full of shit

Anonymous 133503

Yeah yeah so the typical lolcow/tumblr poster. What else is new?

Anonymous 133505

>>133502
What are some of the bigger things you have lied about nona? You might as well say it here. I’m curious

Anonymous 133511

Nature or nurture? Why're you like this


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trichotillomania Anonymous 113089[Reply]

not sure if I should post this here or in hb, but does anyone else suffer from trichotillomania? if so,
>when did you start?
>why did you start?
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
>have you ever had bald spots?
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?

Anonymous 113090

>when did you start?
the summer after first grade which has been 18 years that I've been doing this

>why did you start?
I had lice that summer so I started doing it because I thought I would be able to see if I had lice but it became a nervous habit

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
not really honestly

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
yes, my 4th grade teacher made me wear ponytails every day and now I have headaches if I have my hair up for too long, in 5th grade my teacher made me flip my card for touching my head, at one point in middle school, I pulled so much that a pile of hair was on the floor

>have you ever had bald spots?
yes, in middle school it got so bad that my grandma made me wear hats when she took pictures of me

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Anonymous 113093

>>113089
>when did you start?
When I was around 8/9
>why did you start?
Anxiety
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
I took escitalopram for years to help stop with it, and I was able to ween myself off it and not re-start the habit.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
I had bald spots until I was about 20 so yes.
>have you ever had bald spots?
See above
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
I'm about 10 years clean now

Anonymous 113119

> when did you start?
i think in 2017 or 2018?

> why did you start?
an eyebrow accidentally got tightly stuck in my nail and when i pulled it it was painful but kinda good. i pick my skin so picking my eyebrows was a similar fidgeting relief

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
honestly not really. but a few times when i had gotten my nails done i noticed i barely did it bc i was physically unable to

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
i wouldnt say my friends made fun of me but they pointed it out when they noticed. then i told them to keep poiting it out so i could stop bc i do it unconsciously

>have you ever had bald spots?
yeah lol but then i bought a black eye pencil and realized i could just cover the bald spot with it

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Anonymous 116084

>>113089
>when did you start?
when I was 13-14
>why did you start?
combo of OCD and real bad rough patches when I was a kid
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Yes. Almost a year ago my issues culminated into panic attacks, I thought I was having a heart attack on a daily basis. I took zoloft for a few months and picked up a book called Feeling Good (self help CBT) the apathy combined with the new coping mechanism pretty much stopped my pulling within the 2nd month.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Too many to count
>have you ever had bald spots?
My hairline resembled Mao Zedong's for years on end
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
eight months and counting.

Anonymous 133470

when did you start?
Around 11 or 12.

why did you start?
No clear reason. I think it started as a fidget thing and turned into a compulsion. Stress makes it worse but it's not like I only do it when stressed.

have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Not fully. Keeping my hands busy helps somewhat (fidget toys, knitting), and wearing a hat or keeping my hair up makes it harder to do mindlessly. But nothing has made it stop completely.

have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Yeah. Mostly when people notice me pulling and I didn't realize I was doing it. Also comments about my eyebrows or hair looking thin.

have you ever had bald spots?
Yes. Eyebrows and a patch near my part.

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Any German Women here? Anonymous 133119[Reply]

I'm German and would like to connect with other German PinkPill Women on here. Have you found community? Only see English speaking threads everywhere

Anonymous 133120

>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

Anonymous 133390

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

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>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now

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how to date when you're a chud? Anonymous 133372[Reply]

genuinely i feel like i got nothing to offer. i have a job but it's minimum wage and i'm struggling to find work elsewhere. i can't drive even though i'm in grad school. and i'm chopped af (even though whenever i say this people are like "nooo you're so pretty ahaha to make me feel better. like bruh if wasn't ugly i wouldn't be here).
i usually end up third wheeling while my pretty friends get hit on or listening to their woes of people thinking they're hot and it just makes me feel weirdly uncomfortable because thats rarely happened to me. and obviously i don't think they should get attention they don't want! but i guess i feel a terrible sense of jealously over being desired even if i know it's wrong. it's weird and makes me feel guilty.
it's gotten to the point where my online friend made a weirdly nsfw comment to me but i wasn't even bothered by it because it made me feel wanted for once? i know it was bad and i should call him out, but it's been the only think to make my heart skip a beat in so long.
idk mostly a vent but if anyone has any advice on how to not be a total loser i would like to hear it ^^ hoping whoever is reading this is doing better than i am

Anonymous 133432

>>133372
For one, you should draw a line with people making comments like that towards you. That’s a pretty big red flag that they’re only really interested in you because you’re a woman and they want to get their willy wet.

I get wishing people would flirt with you, I really do, I was and still am in a similar boat with you in regards to feeling unwanted, but when I actually reciprocated the few flirts I did get, bad stuff happened that lead to my heart getting broke. As for what you can do, I would say just make the most of what you have, something that’s numbed those feelings a lot for me is trying as much new shit as possible helped a bunch, and constantly leaving my comfort zone to explore has made me feel a lot more grounded.

When it comes to actually finding what you seek, I’m sorry Nona but you’ll have to be patient. Finding someone you can trust and reciprocate the want you show them cannot be done in a day. If you branch out from your comfort zone, you’ll hopefully find what you seek, but you’ll have to show initiative.

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Like the other nona said, get out of your comfort zone, you'll meet many more people and learn about yourself. If something isn't your thing then at least you have the experience and an interesting story. You'll become more interesting and that will attract people to you. More opportunities to meet people and some of them will become friends and potentianly maybe even lovers. The right person is out there, you just have to go meet them


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I cannot be normal around my mother Anonymous 133385[Reply]

Looking for advice and the possible reason for this. A couple years ago, I lost a couple family members including my father through an accident which led me to isolate, losing the ability to socialize properly, but after some therapy I was able to make a lot of new friends, now I can easily make friends and go out. My problem is, I act completely different infront of my friends/relationships compared to my mother. I go into a small shell, she has never been abusive but incredibly supportive of my journey but this really gets to me because she probably things I am genuinely retarded when I am actually a big socialite and I can look into other peoples faces and hold good conversation, good posture, hygiene, etc. It's like I see her as a caregiver.. I don't know why I do this because it really makes me look really weak in front of my family. What can I do to become more normal and functioning around my mother that I can do with my friends?

Anonymous 133386

>>133385
An average day for a friend is:
I am in makeup, nice clothes, smiling, socialising, making the effort, planning, eye contact, good posture, smell good, eat well with friends

an average day with my mom:
hair tangled, hair greasy,eating junk, i dont say hi or talk to mum, my brain goes foggy, i am unable to talk long conversations without messing up words, i wear same top a week straight, i dont leave my room

why does this happen when i love my mom the most?

Anonymous 133389

Autism

Anonymous 133396

>>133385
Why do you think you do that

Anonymous 133397

>>133386
Just try behaving differently at home, whats stopping you

Anonymous 133440

Because you take your mother for granted and so you don't have to try.
You put in the effort for others because you have to earn it, while your mom you already have her unconditional support so you have no reason to improve.


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Cats Anonymous 133411[Reply]

i wish i had a cat so bad theyre literally so cute and adorable. cats reduce stress too!!! im one of those people who believes the cat chooses you, not the other way around lol. i hate when ppl say “you’re gonna be a lonely cat lady with cats and wine” like thats supposed to scare me babe thats literally my dream life. i love cats so much

Anonymous 133412

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>>133411
Listen, sis. You can't spend your whole life chasing a 1% cat chad. Even if you got one, he'd just use you (and every one of your neighbors) for food. You gotta learn to love a 8/10 cat. And don't wait for one to come to you. find one you like and take him for yourself. Trust me, the cat will be happy you're paying attention to it.

Anonymous 133413

>>133412
scrote all cats are 10/10 cats

Anonymous 133423

I have a cat that is a wonderful companion and I love him very much.

Only annoying he ever does is run and jump on/off my bed when I am trying sleep which wakes me up. I have enough trouble sleep as it is so I had to start kicking him out of the room at night. He cries at my door and makes me sad but I need sleep

Anonymous 133438

>>133411
my mom dont like cats she’s actually scared of cats. how tf do i convince her to let me adopt one??


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Be yourself Anonymous 133356[Reply]

just yesterday i discovered im a femcel. Maybe other femcel that sees me thinks im not one of them. Im a socially accepted femcel just because im pretty but honestly ive never had a partner my experience with guys has been so weird that ive never had a boyfriend and ive never even kissed anyone.
i love men and id really like to have my first boyfriend but i dont think we should put men on a pedestal or blame beauty standards for our misery I think we should empower ourselves by using beauty standards to our advantage If you cant beat the enemy you should join it.
Don’t be a ‘Stacy’ or a ‘True Eve’. Be a ‘True Lilith’

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>>133356
Men should be the ones performing beauty for us. Where do they get the gaul to expect us to jump through hoops for them, when they are the ones begging for sex like they're gonna die from loneliness ? How is it we are completely outnumbered by men on dating apps? And they wanna be a 4 or 5 and only accept an 8 or 9 woman? Hahah no they need to make it worth our time

I mean i think everyone has wierd experiences with men… Its just way easier to avoid a ton of the shit that comes with dating. Its too much headache and too easy to be single.

Anonymous 133358

>>133356
Some men are SOOOO stupid I never seen a really handsome man be picky with his taste in women. The only ones who are demanding are old men who like younger girls or stupid guys saying some shit like "goth mommy" and they look like shit

Anonymous 133365

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men do not appreciate all the work that goes into looking beautiful, they just see "pretty girl". look good for yourself, and bring happiness to those who love and care about you. never chase love, but nurture the one that shows genuine care and affection, not just tepid attraction. Good Luck Nona!


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Anonymous 130353[Reply]

What was the hardest part of growing up for you?
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Anonymous 130359

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always feeling different to other children, people constantly misunderstanding me, my emotional needs rarely being met and feeling so out of place and alienated.

Anonymous 130363

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Feeling misunderstood by my family, never outgrowing my middle school awkwardness, not being very good at picking myself up again after big disappointments and rejection, having difficulty imagining a good future for myself that wasn't an impossible fantasy where I was as beautiful as I wanted to be and as loved as I wished I'd been

Anonymous 133297

dealing with neglect and abuse at home only to go to school to get bullied for being "weird" (unkempt because i was neglected) and having teachers either ignore me at best or participate in tormenting me. worst part was seeing how they treated the kids with present and proper parents with kindness and care. believe it or not i didn`t chose to not have the right pencil with me at 7 years old, i`m not doing this to make your teaching harder. but i guess some teachers just like the power and without parents who care about you, who will defend you anyway? we say we care so much about childrens safety as a society but that`s just bullshit.

Anonymous 133341

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finding a reason to keep going

Anonymous 133363

Not killing my children after I got pregnant at 16.


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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132360

>>132323
If she is in love with the facade of a narcisist and is ready to pay the price, let her be in love with what that man pretend to be. The choice belong to her.
I somehow find it beautiful.

Anonymous 132431

you deserve better and you will definitely find better. leave this relationship before it messes you up long term. being alone is hard at first but it's a kind thing to do to yourself over facing abusive bs like this

Anonymous 133233

>>132022
can you give me a tldr version?

Anonymous 133236

>ghosts you for 5 days for talking to a friend
And you think you have BPD? No. You aren't crazy or overreacting. He's manipulated you and doesn't love you. He just wants a woman to walk all over. Never give him another chance.

Anonymous 133361

when you hung up on him to answer your friend he probably saw it as rude but sounds like he internalized it in some way as categorical of your entire personality so he's decided apropos of nothing that you are evil and deserve to be treated horribly as a punishment or form of correction. he probably has a delusional sense of being an instrument of righteousness in an entirely un-self-examined way that leads him to justify treating you badly whenever he decides that your behaviour doesn't match his entirely uncommunicated and likely ill-conceived standards. this cycle of behaviour probably comes as a form of defense mechanism to protect him from his insecurities as the minor discomfort he likely felt at the moment of your slightly rude one-time action was intolerable to him - I presume because he has a massively inflated sense of self worth which causes him to be enraged at the thought of someone 'lesser' than him having the power to cause him pain in any form, no matter how minor. so now he oscillates between his everyday persona and his 'punishment' persona - i.e. between the mask and his truly evil intentions towards you. he means to cause you harm and wants you to suffer so he gaslights you saying his behaviour is the normal way a man should treat a woman (it isn't), and he is intentionally trying to lower your sense of self worth by comparing you openly to other women. I expect he also does this in a thousand myriad other ways which are designed to hurt you and keep you at the low level of self worth so that he can continue to keep you addicted to him. your attention and obsession with him has likely become a source of pleasure to him, fuelling a cycle of misery which will benefit him entirely and destroy you entirely. I am really happy to see you blocked him. don't go back.


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/lg/ - lesbian general Anonymous 108545[Reply]

felt like this should be a thread tbh
what's everyone up to? i'm thinking of downloading tinder again
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Anonymous 133053

>>133052
subtle brag lol

Anonymous 133081

obligatory viewing

Anonymous 133274

do you ever wish you were straight?

just been having some depressing thoughts lately.

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i've recently matched with this cute green haired alt girl on tinder. i thought she'd be a great fit since she wrote she likes submissives and i've been lookin to not be the top for once. turns out she is actually bi and into timid twinks and feels bad about domming women since "they're precious and don't deserve that". I don't think she got over her exbf yet tho, despite being broken up for a year now, she keeps mentioning him and all the shitty ways he treated her. I wish she was more affectionate and called me pretty and asked more about me, i want to connect with her but she also is slightly autistic and sometimes comes off as cold. On our second date we went to an ice cream shop, we get in line and i whisper to her that i'll pay for today, and she says she was gonna, i say "lets rock paper scissor for it" she agrees. we both throw scissors, and says "i shouldve known…". she did paper second round and i went scissors again lmao. Shes so cute , and fashionable, and soft and kisses nicely, but i hate that this probably won't be anything more than FWB type situation.

Anonymous 133343

dated a guy for a while and hated kissing him, got back with a girl and i didn't realize how much i missed not getting scratched while making out


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