/feels/ - Advice & Venting

just chatting and yapping
hii nonas in office jobs,do u girls also love it but hate it.
like, this is so soothing and grown but so boring at the same time.
making this thread rn while at it cuz i am bored!

it is a PROBLEM. I love chocolate and anything with sugar, but its becoming concerning at this post, if i dont eat a sugary sweet at least once a day i will become moody and sad.
Im not overweight or anything, i have a pretty lean body but i need to stop eating sugar all the time, how to stop with the sweet treats,,, nonas help,,,

you all can make fun of me and be mean because i think i deserve it tbh.

met this guy when i was 15 TEN years ago. we were in the same class and we sat next to each other. we were really different in the sense that he was pretty cool and chill, he had a lot of friends and stuff and i was more of a reserved otaku.. but he was super kind to me (and anyone really) so i developed a crush on him.

at one point after we graduate he was really persistent on hanging out, go to places i posted i wanted to go and stuff like that but i always said no because i was scared of what he would think about me physically wise (we didn't saw each other for like a year for college reasons) so we grew kind of distant until we stopped talking after he got into whats now his long term relationship.

and i can't stop being kind of obsessed with him. i compare every guy to him because he's kind, good looking, hard working, likes animals, loves his mom and sister, apparently is against the consumption of porn and all that, really a great guy.

when i tried to get over this literal obsession with him he sent me a dm through instagram out of nowhere, APOLOGIZING because he suddenly remembered that i had been a really good friend to him during school and that he was sorry if he ever was too annoying to me during that period (he never was, he was the sweetest. texted me late when i had depressive episodes, hugged me when my cat died, tried to include me in everything, asked about my interest, listened to me and tried to introduce me to his while using mine as a comparative so it wouldn't be boring to me, etc.) and i relapsed. i know he wasn't trying anything with that message because i answered that i never thought about him as the most annoying out of our friend group and that i was thankful too and we didn't talk anymore after that.

i don't know what to do to get over the fact that im stuck in that crush from ten years ago, that i see everything he post and get bitter when is related to his girlfriend. i need to get over this and meeting new males isn't helping because i keep comparing and settling this guy as the standard.

what do i do? and sorry if there's any typos, this is not my first language.

Everyday it's more clear to me that women will never be free, it makes me feel suicidal even. We are nothing but pets and will NEVER stop being pets, even if that were to happen I'll be dead by that time. What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?

I found out a week ago that I am pregnant.
I am married, have been for 2 months to my husband who I have been with for 3.5 years now.
I am scared.
Right now I am the sole breadwinner of the house and I don't even make that much money. Enough for bills but hardly enough for anything else and slowly have been draining my savings.
He doesn't work. He had a good paying job but left it to pursue school 6 months ago. And what he is in school for I honestly don't think he has a future in.
Other than the financial struggles, neither of us are ready to be parents.
I think I could handle being a Mom, but I do not want to be a Mom. I am not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I wanted to enjoy being newleyweds longer.
He is not ready to be a Dad. Emotionally immature.
The reality is slowly dawning on me on how hard this will be for us and I am really distraught. We are broke and I am married to a man who literally cannot handle fatherhood. I am terrified.
At first I thought I would be excited for a baby but I am more scared, mostly because of ny husband being unprepared. I know he couldnt support us but I know one of us will have to stay home with baby all day.
I just dont know what to do.

What was the most fun/creative date you’ve ever been on?

If you've never dated, what are fun/creative dates that you would like to have?

Who would have known. Turns out that my paranoid unhealthy bullshit is a detriment to my character. I have lost my only true close friend because of a falling out and it seems that I have lost contact with them so no matter how much I want to try to make amends, it won't happen. It takes a lot of conscious effort for me to truly be close to someone because I am scared of not being in control of my feelings and letting my paranoid delusions get to me, and I thought maybe this would be different despite the issues between us (we both don't have the best mental health.) But it turns out, not really. I've always been isolated from my peers ever since childhood. I don't work; I got an informal job before but my cognition wasn't up to it. My hobbies are mostly isolated like drawing and writing. I've always had a lonely life. Friends come and go, but it seems they always go in the most painful ways possible. I always had looming dread whenever I had this close relationship, even when my friend was as nice and understanding as possible, like I was not enjoying it at all or being conflicted about being happy or scared. But at least despite that, I was a bit more in control of my emotions and my friend made me smile a lot. But now, everything is a mess. It might take a while to be more stable, but this is nothing new to me. Maybe I should just keep to myself more, and I should just be more accepting of an isolated life.

my bf is having sex with a surrogate (his friend he thinks is hot) so we can have a baby
how do i know he won't cheat on me during the sex?

This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.

am i supposed to just accept that every guy is going to be attracted to other girls, even while he’s in a relationship with me? people say it’s normal, but honestly, it really hurts. i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does. my boyfriend always follows hot egirls on social media and sometimes even talks about how hot he finds them, celebs or not. it hurts. and yeah, even when it’s a celebrity, it still stings. i don’t really see a difference between him saying that about a famous girl or some everyday girl. it still makes me feel like shit. i’m struggling to come to terms with this ‘norm’, but it feels like i have to. seems like every guy is like this, and there’s no escaping it. it honestly makes me feel sick. what am i supposed to do?