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Anonymous 129166[Reply]

I am so fucking angry that I have to work for the rest of my life. The concept of working is fucking cruel if you think about it long enough. We are slaving our lives away and for what? To not be homeless? The homeless have more freedom than us. I am neet currently but I will be forced into slavery soon since my money is running out. The last job I had, I only lasted a week at. It was genuinely traumatic. Working was 10x more traumatic than when I was molested and soon I'm going to have to fucking do it again for the next 50 years. My life is a nightmare I wish I was aborted. I just want to play vidya all day that's it. That's my only goal
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Anonymous 129398

Part time job as a toilet cleaner in offices and you're good to go, until money runs out of course

Anonymous 129416

Would you rather be a tradwife?

Anonymous 129418

>>129234
So because I dont want to be a slave that means I should just be homeless and die? That's sociopathic
>>129398
I am autistic so I can't stand schedules. That's the problem I have with working. I only want to work when have energy to do so. Autistic people are just not meant for this world. It sucks having a brain that's wired the opposite of surviving in normalfag society basically
>>129416
I mean, im ok with being a tradwife as long as I dont have to cook or clean everyday. That's too much work for me tbh

Anonymous 129420

I knew a guy who worked with homeless people.

according to him, there were many homeless moids who owned cars who literally refused to get jobs because they enjoyed homelessness too much. as long as they had a car and some cash for the occasional hotel room, they were happy. I stress "moid" here because they didn't have to worry about getting raped in the streets lol.

these were regular men with no drug addictions or mental illness. they lived like John Candy in Planes, Trains and Automobiles and loved it.

Anonymous 129424

This is understandable but for me it's less the work that sucks and more the not making enough to make ends meet. My goal is to get a degree and rent a small apartment (I don't need much else) but I always told myself that if I reached a point where I truly hated working I'd just become a hardcore crust punk and spend all my life listening to good music and hanging out with alcoholics. I'd probably save up enough to get a trailer/van and live the van life or something. Then I'd do the kind of work that's enjoyable yet not enough pay. With the rising gas prices that's not very realistic but it's probably less than renting an apartment.


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finally had sex with a girl, but i cried after Anonymous 129205[Reply]

i've only been with moids my whole life, but last night i had an opportunity to have sex with a woman and it was very lovely at first, but i realised during it i wasn't really enjoying it, so we stopped.

after i had left her house i just cried so hard.
i never particularly liked having sex with moids, but i thought that was a moid thing.

i think i struggle with having sex with anybody, it just makes me really uncomfortable despite the fact i really enjoy intimacy and the company of others.
i really like to flick my bean, so its not like i have no arousal.. i just dont like having sex with people.

have any other nonas experienced anything similar?
i feel like im in a weird situation because i can't expect a long-term relationship with anyone if the thought of having sex with them terrifies me.
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Anonymous 129280

>>129237
>do you think porn could be the issue?
It definitely is an issue, especially starting at an early age. And masturbation can re wire the brain to only like masturbation and not enjoy normal sex, masturbating to porn got many people into voyeur/cuckshit

>>129239
This

Anonymous 129287

>>129239
This.

Porn has nothing to do with it; maybe even helped in making you think casual sex is empty and overrated.

Go find real love, OP.

Anonymous 129399

Yesterday I tried Mexican food for the first time. I didn't like it. No big deal.

Anonymous 129406

>>129237
is it just me or is 9 a common age to watch porn for the first time? I probably saw it around 7-8

Anonymous 129415

>>129399
are u comparing trying food for the fist time to having sex for the first time


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Commie moids Anonymous 128878[Reply]

Is it a good idea to date a hardcore commie moid? [Sorry for bad English it's my second language]
>met him at a book fair with other friends
>he was in a booth encouraging people to read commie books and even gave digital copies to some
>I'm 23 he is 21
>he is studying medicine and im studying engineering
>we kinda flirted and I have a date with him on Sunday
Is it a red flag for a moid to be a commie? [Pun intended]
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Anonymous 128948

>>128939
It's ok to talk his ex. A bit weird though but tolerable, I guess. Just don't expect him to accept it if he discovers that. Would you be ok if he were stalking all of your profiles on Insta/FB/Whatsapp and talking to your exes, too?

Anonymous 129150

>>128878
They're notorious for betraying their friends and family to conform to the new rhetoric, I personally experienced that.

Anonymous 129157

>>129150
Can confirm, my sister has no loyalty towards her family that keeps supporting her throughout her life, just blindly defends people she has never met (at expense of those who are closer to her). As if to mechanically compensate for lacking natural human virtue, she clings to crude ideas of morality.

Anonymous 129190

>>129157
Update
>talked to his ex
>she was nice to me (gave me a cupcake)
>Didn't tell her I knew him just poked around her life she surprisingly didn't mind and they basically broke up cause he is always doing something, if he is not studying for college or at college he is either at his job or doing charity work (he also helps out at a church, I found that kinda cute) she told me he was great as a partner when he was with her the main issue being most of the time he wasn't with her. She also told me he wasn't very close to anybody she told me he is surrounded by friends and people who like him but he doesn't have best friends or even close to his family. I mean she told me they are on good terms but not close, she found that odd and I do too
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>>129157
I kinda see what you mean nonas, I don't think he betrays people, he just stays outside of everyone's life's and offers them help when they need it, I guess that's honorable/selfless¿?

We went on a another date today, he is sweet but I noticed what his ex meant, he listened to me and we had a great chat but after being 5 hours together, he never talked about himself, the only thing I learned about him was his favorite ice cream,I need to ask who he is to get to know him
Bottom line is
>I don't like that at all it makes me feel as if he doesn't trust me, plus I do know myself well enough to accept I like attention from my partner, I would be miserable if I felt as if I was just a way to fill his freetime a hobby not a partner… so yeah I'm ghosting him but props to him, at least he is the most selfless person I've ever met… I guess…

Anonymous 129388

no, political moids will always love their ideology moer than you.


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Would you ever hire an Etsy Witch? Anonymous 129364[Reply]

Honestly, their code of ethics is rancid, but I truly wonder if the Etsy witches when in communion, can manipulate the fabric of our reality and make quite the pretty dress for me to wear to cure me from my mind and bad luck with love.

Anonymous 129371

my witch fren made an altar for me this full moon. not sure if it worked (or is working) or not but it's nice.

Anonymous 129387

nona you should hire me


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Who else here has BPD? Anonymous 129339[Reply]

F20 and was diagnosed with BPD recently, even though I knew I had it for a couple of years.

I have gotten so much better with my symptoms but currently I'm dating a guy that I feel cares more about being right that my feelings whenever he does something that affects me. I don't feel like he also ever takes into consideration the fact that I have BPD and this is something he knew from the start.

I'm tired of having BPD and such overwhelming emotions to the point I can't function properly
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Anonymous 129365

>>129351
it really sucks too because borderlines are frequently raised and abused by narcissists. i know i was.

Anonymous 129366

>>129365 My mom wasn't a narcissist, nor was my dad, but they were both traumatized by their childhoods and themselves, with their own issue, but both refused or were clueless to therapy. It's not even just narc's, but people who have children, but refuse to fix themselves first and when their kids also have issues, they blame and torment the kids.

That's another form of untold abuse. People need to wear condoms. If they aren't mature enough for therapy, they aren't mature enough for children.

Anonymous 129372

>>129366

Agree entirely. Not sure how old you are, but one of the things that bother me is when we're called the weaker generation whenever mental health is mentioned, just for being self-aware and not being an asshole to people despite your upbringing.

If anything they are the weak ones for taking the easy path (People were assholes to me so I'll be an asshole to them) And not being neither smart or aware enough to even try and make a difference.

Anonymous 129373

>>129365

I'm pretty sure my dad is narc as well :/

Anonymous 129386

stopped believing in all of these
im just me


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Anonymous 129376[Reply]

I don't take insults from men seriously but whenn it comes from a woman it really stings. Do nonas know this feel?

Anonymous 129378

>>129376
It depends who the man is and who the woman is but if a woman is unhappy with me I do sometimes take it personally

Anonymous 129379

>>129376
Yeah, same for me. When men insult me I dont really care as much unless it's something extremely important to me. But with women are mean it makes me so sensitive for some reason. I'm not sure why this is tho. Maybe I'm just used to men being rude and bitchy but when women are rude to me I do take it more seriously and introspect more when it happens

Anonymous 129380

>>129376
Same for anyone who owns a brain. Women are honest, more emotionally mature, smarter and not brain rotted from porn and red pill.
And most importantly, women are humans, males are subhumans.
Opinion of subhumans doesn't matter to humans.


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Anonymous 129164[Reply]

>tfw school is such a shithole that you romanticize your exhaustion and loneliness by imagining you're a sad anime girl

Anonymous 129207

Same

Anonymous 129357

it gets better after i promise. just hold thru this is how i felt but my life’s changed so much n its only been a year and a half since i graduated . wishing you the best

Anonymous 129377

I graduated a while back but yeah I used to do this


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How to stop feeling like a subhuman because I'm a woman Anonymous 126636[Reply]

No it's not because of men that I feel this way, neither porn, but I've seen porn and women act like subhumans in it.
My problem is that I see submission as subhuman and female submission in sex is human and natural and sex is the fundamental part of the reality. So it's like we are subhumans in life. I don't hate myself but I hate womanhood.
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Anonymous 127266

>>126729
No, it's the other way around. Porn doesn't reflect real sex dynamics, it's real sex dynamics being affected by porn because 99% of moids are porn addicts and expect porn sex from their partners

Anonymous 127743

read the bible

Anonymous 129350

>>126636
this depressed me

Anonymous 129352

>>126636
When I have sex with my partner we usually do it standing up facing each other with our fingers interlocked. We both thrust into each other. This is far more respectful than being put on my back.

Anonymous 129360

stop thinking about sex so much and you will be less miserable. yes, heterosexual reproduction is fucked up when you really think about it, but you have to ignore that and go on with your day


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Jealous of other women Anonymous 129306[Reply]

I’m jealous of other women.
All of them. It feels like every woman in the world has something I don’t. Something I’m missing on a fundamental level. Not just looks. Not just personality. Something deeper. Like they were given a manual on how to exist as a woman and I wasn’t. I don’t measure up. Not in my appearance. Not in how I act. Not in how I talk. I feel like I missed whatever makes someone naturally normal. I feel like a failed version of what I’m supposed to be. Like some kind of glitch. Being around other women makes it worse. I don’t feel like I belong. I feel awkward and wrong, like they can sense that I’m different. I compare myself to every little thing, their confidence, their ease, their femininity, and I always come up short. What makes it worse is that I actually want connection with women. I want female friendships. I want that closeness. But I feel like my jealousy and insecurity just poison it before it can even start. I’m scared I’ll ruin it or that they’ll see through me and confirm what I already believe. That I’m not enough. The only people I really talk to are men, and I’m exhausted by it. Men only end up hurting me. But somehow I feel more comfortable there than with women, even though it’s not healthy for me. I’m just tired of feeling like a failure as a woman. Tired of feeling behind. Tired of feeling like everyone else got something I didn’t.

Anonymous 129313

Femininity is lame, so you're doing something right.
Anyway, connection and closeness is not something so mystical and wonderful. I think if you got what you wanted you'd realise it's just "okay" and you'd be just as fine on your own.

Anonymous 129335

i love you, internet stranger

Anonymous 129356

im really wishing the best for you anon, i have been struggling with deep insecurities for years. all i can say is you have to try getting on the path to healing, it will take time but it will be worth it in the long run. please take care hugs


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Anonymous 128905[Reply]

What is love to you? What does it mean to fall in love?
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Anonymous 129226

Love is cuddling under a heated blanket. It's him respecting my wishes to wait till marriage. It's us cooking for each other. It's us doordashing each other medicine or sweets even though we're too far away to get it ourselves. It's the stuffed animal he sewed by hand. It's the drawings he's made of us. It's the warmth I feel when he holds my hand. It's way we still are kind to each other after we get a little too heated during a discussion. It's the patience we have for each other when one of us messes up.

Anonymous 129230

>>129197
This is a good answer, Love this!

Anonymous 129261

Love is quiet and not flashy. It will still be there after the storm and is often confused for infatuation and temporary feelings that always pass. In the end its a life preserver that will always save you in a stormy sea of unknowns. It will only abandon you if you abandon and betray it first.

Anonymous 129345

love is when you wake up in the middle of the night from a bad dream but everything is okay because your partner is sleeping soundly next to you

Anonymous 129349

Love for me I guess isn’t really anything I can’t define or summarize because nothing is that perfect of idealistic. I grew up with two parents who hated each other enough to love one another can remain married for my whole life. They yelled and argued, and were abusive to each other, utterly toxic and kept running back like those shitty high school love wannabes.

So I suppose love for me silence. Absolute silence. No talking, nothing…and if in that silence it feels like I’ve had a million and one conversations with them over the span of a millennia in which neither of us censored how we felt, an were as weird and strange with one another as possible. That would be love and someone worth carrying a child for.

But I can’t leave for a millennia so love isn’t fucking real and stop giving divinity to chemical hormones that hone you into survival. You fall in love to get someone to protect you and keep you alive for a little bit longer and so you two breed like mutts and keep the human population booming like roaches. That’s love. It’s like food and water, all about keep you alive to goon the next day.


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