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I hate how invasive troons are. Anonymous 129459[Reply]

A few days ago I was contacted by a troon asking to be friends, I thought it was okay since I don't have any female friends.
I talked to him for a while until he asked me to do VC, his voice was that of an effeminate man.
The worst part is that I can't even stop talking to him or ghosting him because he could expose me as "transphobic".
I feel stupid for not noticing it sooner; it was so obvious. He was acting very "feminine" in a forced and performative.
If I don't answer he starts spamming me, also he asked me if he could do "yuri" with my character and his (I'm an artist btw).
I have to live with this torture if I want to live, I hate modern society.
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Anonymous 130624

>>129519
last year my gay dorm RA tried to stay in my bedroom while I changed tops because he's gay and that apparently makes it ok
i got really anxious because i'm socially awkward and it was really hard to get him to leave in a way that sounded like friendly banter and not like i was extremely uncomfortable because literally all my friends and everyone around thinks he's a great guy, and i didn't want to seem homophobic or make things awkward
so, i think i can understand where OP is coming from here, if this person actually can create social consequences for her

Anonymous 130649

>>130624
Is this an NA thing? In my region gay men never stay in the room when you are changing even women leave, what in the lack of privacy you all have going on?? Your nakedness is your own to share with who you choose. It is one thing if you are in an area where nudity is common, we do have such areas but seriously??? In YOUR bedroom??? Know your rights. You have the right to personal space it is in UN rights of a child and an adult. You also have the right to have relationships or the lack thereof. Don't be letting people talk you out of your rights as a human or call you evil for exercising them.

Anonymous 130653

>>130649
same poster as
>>130624
it's a virtue signaling thing, i think anyway, at its root, maybe the influence of social media and tv as well, the idea that girls and gay guys are on the same team or smth and that they're automatically good people because of oppression
for example, the girls' bathroom on my dorm floor was literally declared "girls and gays" in the first week of first semester, they even put up a sign on the door lol
and kept letting the guys use it even after the two gay guys on our floor continually left the toilet seat up, left pubic hair on the seat and even left the toilet unflushed a few times, and left the sinks a mess, and that's not to mention the shower situation
obviously i wasn't comfortable at all and i started showering at like 5 am to be as sure as possible there wouldn't be guys in there. at least there were no trannies, thank god
and i think girls (like me) who are actually made really uncomfortable with gay men overstepping boundaries still cooperate because of social pressure. i'd love to say that i stood up for myself and said something, but if i had that kind of self-confidence i probably wouldn't be posting on crystal cafe

Anonymous 131021

Something that would work is to say the most sad thing. Lie.

Say you have anxiety, that you take pills. Say that you feel so bad sometimes you have to take more pills to sleep.

Say that you are in therapy and that it does not work properly.

Make him feel like a monster, some men will dislike the idea of being a monster because it means they will be outcasted, humilliated and ridiculized.

Victimize yourself and use it for your advantage, calculating uselessness is worth bucks.

Anonymous 131023

op you should stop talking to him asap, he is clearly into you and will try to get you to send nudes or something eventually


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Anonymous 130265[Reply]

What is dating like?

30 and never been asked on a date or had a BF.
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Anonymous 130299

OP are you abstinent by choice or not because you look great and I'm sure lots of guys and even other women would date you

Anonymous 130311

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Terrible and wonderful, depending on who you end up dating. Guys are either total moron apes with no sense of class, or absolute gentlemen but those are rare. I broke up wjth my long term gf of a couple years a few months ago and started dating. I got some matches on tinder and went on a couple dates, one of the guys was a complete fuckboy but i wanted to try out guys. He didnt hold doors, asked to pay half of the bill, drove a beat up old car, and was very insistent on going with him to an underground dj set that night. I left early and unmatched him. On the other side, i found an amazing guy that i wasnt too crazy about looks wise but we had so much in common,like playing same games and have similar hobbies, we clicked very quickly. He's polite, likes my jokes and goofy demeanor, holds doors open for me, and takes me out on cute dates all the time. I return the favor by cooking him delicious home made food he can reheat after he comes home from work over the course of the week.

The key is to not just look for attraction, but find a companion that will be your best friend and who you can rely on. Dating shitty guys feels like a waste of time and is unfulfilling, maybe you might get some action but its kinda hollow and tbh I get off better by myself. Try stuff out, get out of your comfort zone, and trust your gut.

Btw im 31 myself

Anonymous 130312

>>130265
it was the best experience of my life, albeit that's because she was the most amazing, wonderful person ever.
but being single is enjoyable too

Anonymous 130313

>>130299
its not actually op its catfish

Anonymous 131022

>>130313
>>130265
Why are zoomers even obsessed with her? she looks like a bloated taylor swift, she edits her pics like no tomorrow at least taylor shows her real face


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 130864

>>130863
I honestly forgot wtf was I thinking when I wrote that post. I think what I find cringe is the general reasoning for veganism more than anything else. If it were something like "I won't eat meat because I'm not a casual" I'd think that's kinda awesome.

Anonymous 130868

Lolcow’s lonely women thread and murderer documentaries on youtube really make me feel not alone in being really isolated and out of touch from reality. Thank you lolcow autistic experiences thread and weird people youtube documentaries, also the strange people thread here on /x/. This is something really hard for me to come to terms with as it fills me with dread.

Anonymous 130981

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Finally found that one table that tied schizoidness to historical attitudes towards children. Psychogenic modes are a fringe theory I think but it makes an interesting point.

Anonymous 131004

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To be a hermit is to be holy.

Anonymous 131005

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my face when I accidentally see people I don't like having a good day


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Anonymous 130970[Reply]

“I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’”

Anonymous 130972

>>130970
Why does this character look familiar

Anonymous 130980

Hadiths are a meme


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Does this make anyone else mad Anonymous 129315[Reply]

This ugly swede made a YouTube video whining and e-begging about how he couldn't get a gf, and ended up marrying a 7/10 woman that saw his videos and fell in love with him. Imagine if it was an ugly woman that made a video like that. She probably wouldn't have gotten as popular as he did and definitely wouldn't have got a cute bf to wanting to marry. I fucking hate moids. They have the easiest lives ever
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Anonymous 129768

>>129753
dating someone as a comparison tool is foul

Anonymous 130736

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Anonymous 130758

I don't mind because I like that he looks like a rodent

Anonymous 130978

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When The Aryan Incel-Chad Lets His Righteous Fury Roar, The Women Of All Races Cower And Beg For His Mercy

Anonymous 130979

>>130978
okay i laughed


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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man
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Anonymous 130578

>>130576
he is basically your wartime enemy with how much he hurts you, so him dying should be a good thing

I mean he's just exploiting you fuck that guy

Anonymous 130580

Post hands, this whole message is so tranny-coded

Anonymous 130688

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely not your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats just a manipulation tactic. he has hurt you before and he will hurt you again when he has the chance. fuck this guy.

Anonymous 130696

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats a genuine cry for help. he has hurt you before but he definitely will not hurt you again when he has the chance. save this guy.

Anonymous 130712

>>130696
What the fuck are you talking about. This faggot moid needs to get over himself and stop manipulating this poor girl. Did you not read the part where he threatened to kill her before? Handmaids like you should stay quiet.

>>130574
Any updates?


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Long Distance Relationships Anonymous 44204[Reply]

Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.
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Anonymous 121925

I see my post about him from a long time ago was deleted. Much to think about.

Anonymous 127271

I know this thread is pretty dead but has anyone gone through the CR1 process without a lawyer? I'm worried my fiance is about to piss away thousands on something we can file for ourselves.

Anonymous 127299

>>127271
post on reddit maybe?

Anonymous 130271

You didn't have to bring them back. Hashtagfail for me but I know they lurk so I can't say which but don't listen to some of these.

Anonymous 130650

I think I am finally at the age where my brain cannot put up with LDRs anymore. I was reading a dating advice book because I saw an excerpt I found interesting and I saw in the text the exact same reason why my mind cannot stand it anymore. I am kind of annoyed about it because it used to work so well for me. At least this realisation came after the break up and during the time of peace while single. Men in close distance to me are not people I want to date so I guess it is single from here on out. I guess I can try an hour or two out but I cannot be bothered. Plus the odds of finding someone who isn't embarassing in someway lookswise UGH. Well, it is what it is. Had a good time in my dating life.


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bf didn’t follow the three month rule Anonymous 127558[Reply]

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 127768

>>127732
you need to gtfo NOW. i don't want to learn your name from a true crime podcast. nothing you have said about him makes him sound like he is remotely safe to be around, especially not now. you should tell his exes mum to buy a gun, too.

Anonymous 127769

>>127733
>>127740
>>127768
everything in this entire relationship was about her. she called him out and they had a friend group destroying fall out as a break up. he was alone for years. she mocked him when he bugged her. he suddenly gets inspired to get the exact job, move out, get a girlfriend, try and change his facial hair, fix everything she mocked him for and he even told me he had her to thank for his self improvement. i thought lucky me he grew. until i found out what he’s really like and that he’s still stalking and obsessed with her. i found out he has weird private messaging apps he deletes and puts back on his phone. i can’t get past the password. i think he uses it to spoof a number so he can text her even when he’s blocked or something. i found out so many things we did together were about her - she made fun of him for a certain unromantic date he took another girl on and be posted pictures of me on the same date and talked the entire time about how she wouldn’t like it but i’m okay with it. he said something similar about my own proposal. they had a niche motif throughout their entire relationship he’s suddenly made ours about. as she’s getting married with the same theme. only her wedding is a fucking destination wedding. i wouldn’t be surprised if when i walk out he finds someone else and in half a year i’ll see he did this same wedding with someone he views as interchangeable just to try and make people compare it the one woman who was apparently one of a kind to him. i think he’s going to try and get her to stop the wedding. i wish she didn’t have me blocked and i could talk to her. i don’t know how to find her like he does. i’m going to look over his shoulder more and hopefully i’ll catch a glimpse of something on one of his apps that will help me locate her. i have a feeling i don’t even know the half of it and talking to her while reveal how fake this entire thing has been. we also got engaged after barely knowing each other. a year and a half when his ex took 5-6 years of dating her husband is crazy. i had a sinking feeling when it happened when we were on such bad terms and the only thing that saved our relationship was planning the trip he proposed on. on a walkway nPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 127773

>>127769
after a certain point of having so little in my relationship to talk about i started making content about how we eat different foods from each other even though we both have ARFID because there was literally nothing else in our relationship to make content about, including both of us gaming but none of that ending up as usable content because of his personality. maybe i deserve an affair where it feels like there’s blood in my veins again. the sitting around watching a man unable to eat vegetables rotate through the same five junk food meals that make his cum taste like battery acid has me thinking maybe there is more to life than meal prepping for a 30 year old toddler and watching him fart and disassociate staring at a screen.

Anonymous 127942

>>127773
What the fuck do you mean an affair. Run away ASAP nona, nothing will fix him. It will only get worse, get out before it's too late.

Anonymous 130648

HERE LIES NONA
???? - 2026
she died as she lived; in a relationship with an awful man


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Anonymous 130046[Reply]

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.
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Anonymous 130637

>>130636
I mean there’s Iceland that aborts every downie technically I guess

Anonymous 130638

>>130636
>>130633
What will socially outcasted ugly retards will know about muh eugenia. Focus on posting anime you wageslave faggot

Anonymous 130639

>>130638
Shouldn't you be getting mugged by children somewhere.

Anonymous 130640

>>130639
I'm sorry nona he is gone…

Anonymous 130641

I'm actually surprised how bad most of you are at recognizing posters


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Anonymous 130386[Reply]

Do you guys ever just stop mid goon to cry? Like seeing people have sex and wanna have sex with each other just makes me want the same thing so bad.
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Anonymous 130558

Consider that most moids want to abuse and degrade you in bed, what they're watching is far less wholesome than what you're watching

Anonymous 130560

>>130386
Just have sex with another girl.

Anonymous 130562

>>130391
what's the reason behind ur celibacy

Anonymous 130573

It takes active effort not to sit down and cry when I'm out and about and I see cute couples holding hands

Anonymous 130635

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i have a parasocial tendency to only be able to get off on people i have been connected to in my real life which i can't even tell if thats better or worse than just being a porn addict. when i do think of a real person i used to think i could have had a life with and i feel immensely guilty and upset. sometimes i cuck myself by letting my mind wander and think about how they have a partner that loves them and i'm not in the picture at all.


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