Theres this annoying middle aged cart guy who works at this one store that has everything I and my relatives need for the week (some are health related items). I went out of my way to like 3 different stores for like a month to avoid him, but now hes even more clingy.
This time, I realized he could watch me browse a section, as he was talking with another employee within view of where he was. Then he stood in the middle of one isle, he made small talk as I was trying to shop. So I grey rocked him with "yeah, mhhmm" type of responses with a smile to get him to STFU. I rushed out of the isle as I couldnt think straight the rest of the time I was there, dreading seeing him pop up again, esp outside where the carts are.
Then he appeared again in the next isle, and he did this big grin. I felt so exhausted from moid harassment (also get this at home, long story) I didnt smile back at him. He usually only does the cart section, not the in store isles, so it was odd seeing him there. Then he stood there watching with a different moid coworker, both talking, as I rung up my items, and he laughed and said something to the coworker (I couldnt make out what it was) as I walked out the door. It felt like he was talking about me to that coworker, but Idk.
Another time I put an empty box in the cart, as Ive seen others do, as a present for my dying cat. The cart guy saw this, called attention to it and took it (he didnt know the reason why, I didnt get a word in).
He hasnt done anything really bad, its just a gut feeling. One time when he smiled at me I could see almost the backs of his eyes, it was terrifying. He helps put away groceries into my truck without being asked. I didnt want him invading my personal space, so I moved to the other end of the cart. He comes out with comments like "for some reason, my work hours changed", almost like he thinks I complained about him or something?
I have agoraphobia so I go out with an older female relative, and she thinks hes annoying too, but then she says hes "just being friendly" and "I hope he doesnt think we dont like him". She thinks the cart guy is good to have around us, because if another moid was ever violent toward us, the cart guy might see and step in to defend us (hah yeah right). She also said the cart guy is probably jaded from "these modern feminist bitches" rejecting his niceness, so if I try to establish boundaries with the cart guy, my own mom wont have my back.
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