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do bad things happen as much as ppl say? Anonymous 120729[Reply]

I have rly low empathy even for friends and I constantly find it very hard to believe that 'bad things' actually happen to people. I've had friends tell me about being assaulted and stuff and even though I don't show it on the outside I am internally thinking 'she is probably lying for attention'. I go through life and people are always really nice to me and they're generally pretty rational, polite, decent, so I find it hard to believe bad things like that actually happen as much as people say they do. Like every person I know seems to say they've been assaulted or something. Is this sort of thing actually normal or am I some kind of sociopath? Or is it just cuz I'm privileged? I can't help but believe people just make this stuff up for attention.

Anonymous 120730

Yes bad things happen. People assault other people mostly in private where they have power over them, not in public where there are social repercussions for not being civil and polite. Just because no one you're close to was a shitty enough person to abuse you when they could get away with it doesn't mean no one would ever do that.

Anonymous 120731

>>120729
Bad things happen to people all the time, this world is a heckin hell; however some are more sensitive to those events and others don't care.

Anonymous 120732

>>120729
Sociopath? Not sure - but you've definitely got something and it's probably tied to your privilege (and the tunnel vision that comes with it), your (lack of) self awareness, and (limited) cognitive abilities.

Additionally, horrifying things happen to everyone - yours will come sooner or later.

Anonymous 120733

>>120729
Most people exaggerate.



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Anonymous 120648[Reply]

I have so many intrusive thoughts and I can't get rid of them. I don't have money for a therapist and I don't have any friends to support me. And my boyfriend is tired of hearing me say I've made a mistake again. I just don't know what to do

Anonymous 120649

What kind of intrusive thoughts do you have Nona?

Anonymous 120660

>>120649
Usually about suicide or something bad happening to me or my mom. My father died and I blame myself because it was really my fault. Sometimes it's sexual thoughts that make me feel like shit, like primitive animal that's incapable of anything. I tried to counteract this by working harder. I thought that being tired and busy with other things would help me forget about it, but it didn't

Anonymous 120664

>>120660
It's generic advice and idk how much it'll help but the best way to deal with intrusive thoughts is to accept that they're there and that they're nothing but some thoughts in your brain, and forgive yourself for having them. The less you fight against them the less of a big deal they will become. It's easier said than done but I used to have bad intrusive thoughts and that's what helped me get past them.

Anonymous 120678

>>120660
Write down your intrusive thoughts and rank them from most likely to happen and least likely to happen. It reduces the amount of thoughts you’ll have and how severe they are. Are there any government programs that can help you get therapy?? Wellbutrin has really helped me. I still get some that will squeeze through. Fuck your bf. I had a bf just like that and it is not worth it. Someone making you feel shitty about having intrusive thoughts makes them worsw



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I LOVE RAGEBAITING PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET Anonymous 120119[Reply]

I LOVE RAGEBAITING IS SO MUCH FUN LOL. its funnier when they actually fall from the bait and insult me back. I get my daily serotonin from dumb people that believe everything on the internet LOL
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>>120119
Unironically more and more people have been calling me out for my ragebaiting. Not sure if I've lost my edge or if zoom zooms are just boring. Like come on atleast insult my mom or something…
>>120120
No

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>>120138
Youtube, FB and 4cuck
Youtube s getting harder since they're autoflag system is super fast and I dont really want to lose my account with all my music playslists….
I had to give up Xitter because I can't compete with actual racists and retards. I've unironically talked to /pol/tards with more tact and nuance than Xitter Nazis.

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>>120147
> I had to give up Xitter because I can't compete with actual racists and retards. I've unironically talked to /pol/tards with more tact and nuance than Xitter Nazis.

Anonymous 120673

>>120119
I LOVE RAGEBAITING PEOPLE IRL ITS 10 TIME FUNNIER YOU SHOUDL DEFINITELY TRY IT



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Anonymous 120597[Reply]

Just fuck my shit up. Are we like this?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyBcSuqLo3k
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Anonymous 120627

The least a man can be is tall, because the most he will ever be is himself.

Anonymous 120631

>>120622
Who gives a fuck

Anonymous 120632

>>120622
Wonder if she lifts him up sometimes and throws him around for the fun of it

Anonymous 120634

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>>120622
This reads like a moid who's only proud of his height.

Anonymous 120665

>>120634
Probably a moid who is insecure about his height and wants to bait women into demeaning him for it.



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Maybe you'll find this letter Anonymous 120659[Reply]

Hi, I haven't lurked here in ages. But I miss you and maybe you'll randomly read this without knowing this was for you. I don't want to directly bother you so I'm doing this on crystal cafe instead. We're all alive and doing as usual. S finished her degree, I'm still stuck doing my crap diploma at 21 and I'm way behind my batch, supposed to do my internship next month but my credits are worth less than 3 semesters. M's mental state, fluctuates like it always does but I heard her dad is gonna enroll her into a practical college nearby her home in the near future.

My parents are still crap people, I ended my 7 year friendship with that girl on November last year. Not sure if you recall her. Eh, her opinions were shit anyway. All talk but no spine, much less bite.

Actually I think I'm doing pretty bad. It wont get better. Not anytime soon. Still seeing the psychiatrists but at a different hospital this time. Too soon to say if it's worse or better than the one I've been going to for the past 5 years.

A recent revelation I had while journaling was that I probably have C-PTSD from how crap the world treated me and the fact that my autism was diagnosed way too late to avoid the abuse from the people I was surrounded by. So at least it's not Borderline Personality or plain Avoidant Personality. Not entirely a deviancy in my part. Just mistreatment from others my entire life.

Hope you're doing fine and you're healthy, where ever you are and whatever you're doing. If you want, my email is open for you, always. Hope you still have it written somewhere you can access.


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Anonymous 120571[Reply]

My boyfriend and I are on a break from our relationship because he tried to manipulate me in the past. He told me I wouldn't find anyone else who would be as patient as him if I were to break up with him and repeatedly sounded patronizing when we were discussing about deep subjects together. I wanted to break up with him immediately, then I noticed he acknowledged his mistakes before apologizing and now he's trying his best to avoid hurting me. I love him because I can see he's really willing to grow up for me, but I can't get over what he said when we were fighting. Recently he's been crying a lot because he wants our relationship to continue, should I forgive him and give him another chance?

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>>120571
With his past it is hard to say if he is being genuine or just trying to guilt trip you into being with him because he will "change". If you are sure that he is really trying then bring up the subject that upsets you and talk with him about it. But in my opinion its not worth staying with him.

Anonymous 120575

>>120571
He's still manipulating you lol

Anonymous 120657

People don't just change. His words are made-up, his actions are telling the truth.

Anonymous 120668

Guhh I hate that. It's always just words. They never actually do anything.



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This is what i look like? Am i pretty girly pops? Am i girl boss? Anonymous 120636[Reply]

finance bros
there either no personality or super interesting adn genuinely smart
usually eye candy but im not that vain. There sexy loro piana coats turn me on.
im trying to dumb myself down to be more happy, i tried being all observant and smart and judigng people and i felt dissociative every night thats why i dont like visiting these websites like kiwi farms etc
i dont think its possible to keep your wittiness and be happy., honestly 1 dont know anyhting

also anyone else pet peeve when your trying to reasd a good 4chan thread and some edgelord posts gore and it stains your memory and you see it at night for months after in intrusive thoughts

Anonymous 120638

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>im trying to dumb myself down
You're doing a good job. This post is borderline incoherent.
It sounds like you need to learn to be mindful of your goals when you interact with people. Are you trying to build a relationship? Then don't be "observant and smart and judigng". Instead, use your wits to ask thoughtful questions. If you are speaking to a "finance bro", maybe ask about his investments, or something else relevant. It will make him feel validated. Don't pretend to be stupid. You'll only set yourself up for exploitation by underselling yourself.

Anonymous 120640

>>120638
This gif annoys me. It would actually loop so well if they removed the walking part.

Anonymous 120643

I hate that type of posts because they make me feel like I'm having a stroke and I freak out for a second.



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Anonymous 105650[Reply]

Anyone else here schizoid?
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Anonymous 107212

>has no close relationships
I'm surrounded by disgusting male identified women; im working on changing this though
>is consistently alone
All the shit I'm into or want to do, nobody else wants to do when I want to do it, so I end up doing it alone. I even traveled out of state for a concert alone because nobody else wanted to go as much as I did
>has no interest in sex
Unless I can handcuff the guy to a chair, scrub his nasty ass down myself and wear gloves, and control everything, I'm not interested. Also I don't want semen anywhere near me, that shit is toxic as fuck
>rarely feels happiness
Yeah but usually I'm in a good mood; I'm happy when I'm enjoying myself
>has nobody they can trust
Again, surrounded by useless male identified women; if it's not about dick, they do not care
>appears indifferent to being praised
I don't do a good job just to get praised; I do a good job because I expect myself to at least try; I hate half-assers
>emotionally flat and aloof attitude
Nah, I'm very emotional; I cry watching a beautiful sunset. I just know I'm too much for people so when I'm around others, I try and stay chill. I'm tired of these bitches telling me to shut up, or shush me, etc. when all I do is speak truth, but cockgobbling ass male identified bitches don't want to hear the truth and they snap at me for it. Women have been getting on my nerves a lot lately with this shit

Better type A personality disorder than the miserable bitches with type B or the pathetic ones with type C…I feel like I dodged a bullet, tbh

Anonymous 107213

>no close relationships
Just with my father and some friends, I only see most people as acquaintances and have no desire to know them better.
>alone
I love it, if I could, would even have meals alone.
>no interest in sex
I masturbate and enjoy reading literotica, but have no desire to have sex. Would enjoy to have a relationship but 99,9% of men aren't asexuals.
>emotionally flat
I have more reactions while interacting with people my age, so I doubt they think I look aloof, but feel that I look aloof around my stepmother and her family.
>rarely feels happiness
I do feel it, but eating something I like results in the same happiness as travelling to a new area/city.
>no one to trust
I have some people, but I'm keeping 70% of things to myself only
>indifferent to praise
I'm indifferent to praise from people I know, but enjoy when it's from acquaintances or strangers.

I don't think I fit the criteria, and also don't relate to many posts by schizoids in the Schizoid subreddit.

Anonymous 107253

I check every single box, unfortunately. I don't want to believe it, so I'm not a schizoid. Not until I get an official diagnosis. Is there really no cure for this? My late brother was an actual schizo/bipolar. Could be genetic :/

Anonymous 107258

>>107253
Youre more likely to be schizoid or schizotypal if you have a relative with full on schizophrenia lol

Anonymous 120639

>>105650
Had no idea there's a term for this. I feel it.



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i hope everyone had a wonderful day and if you didnt i hope tomorrow will be better Anonymous 120601[Reply]

:)

Anonymous 120614

thank you kitty. how sweet.

Anonymous 120619

>>120601
thank you nona i hope you had a wonderful day too~!

Anonymous 120635

Thanks nona, you too.



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Anonymous 120609[Reply]

I have exams in a few days and my parents were fighting like tards today. As soon as that is over one will come and fight with me. Cannot wait for college. Everytime they fight I start doom thinking that I will never be in a good marriage and I should stay alone. Why do they do this. My mother started it today. I think she likes to do it on purpose because she knows how much it hurts me.
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Anonymous 120615

I should edate …kekkeke…whats the worse that can happen

Anonymous 120616

I miss my normal life…I think people can sense that something is wrong with my family matters when they talk to me …my teachers always asked me q.s about my mother

Anonymous 120617

I will never have a bf and I will die alone just like my past life I'm doomed to be alone in every cycle it seems

Anonymous 120620

>>120609
It's hard to be born in hell, but what would complaining breed except more misery. You don't need a boyfriend to fill your hollow heart, nor any outside attention/love, but you need to love yourself, and respect yourself. That doesn't come from nothing, and indulging in instant gratification will only bury you more deeply. You feel that urge because you feel that you're hated, that you're ugly, based on the picture mirrored by your surroundings. Relief from this hell isn't outside your house's door, but outside your current self. Of course–like I said–your surroundings play a role, but if you didn't change from within you'll just be the same person in a different environment.

You can ignore your parents stupidity, and fighting with them will only breed more fights, thus misery. Ignore them like you'd ignore a barking dog, and just let them be. Give them advice when appropriate, but they will never change.

Anonymous 120628

>>120620
Thankyou nona I will reflect on this more



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