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Just one more year. What should I do? Anonymous 126476[Reply]

I'm stuck in a weird position.
When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan because I was lonely and wanted a friend. We had some common interests in games. We hung out at the arcade and in the same year, I went to his house to play co-op. However, the friendship was short lived as he asked me to be his girlfriend right after. I was young and stupid, I saw no issue with him. He was unfit and never had a girlfriend before, I never had a boyfriend before. So I thought I should give him a chance.
It's been 1 and a 1/2 years now. Due to feeling unsafe at home, as soon as I turned 18, I moved out to this dude's house. He said he'd support me. So I moved and enrolled to a highschool near his house.
Over time, living with him, I began to pick up on things that do not sit right with me.
Firstly, he has figurines of some anime girls that troubled me from the very first time I came over, but I thought I should just overlook it. Figurines of miku, vtubers and Fate characters. He has plushes of vtubers, his profile picture is a vtuber. He admits that he likes vtubers but doesn't watch them anymore. Yet when I criticise them for milking money from men he opposed me.
Things that disgust me include him loving the anime 'yuru yuri' a show common among lolicons, loving the soundtrack of 'yuru yuri', he downloaded all of them and calling the government 'woke' because the age for marriage is 18. Other than this, I told him I do not use twitter, but everyday, I check what he has posted and who he recently follows. When I checked his following for the first time, I burst into tears. It was anime porn artist after anime porn artists. Most of his following was that. Yet checking his recently followed, he still actively interacts with these anime porn artists. When he shows me something on twitter, he's very wary and cautious of ever scrolling too much, and when he accidently does - it's all vtubers and ecchi drawings of anime girls. Last night, I checked his following again, and I cried again discovering he followed 20 more disgusting anime artists.
The worst thing is, these anime porn artists also draw porn of underage characters… in other words loli. It's a trend I've noticed across the artists he indulges in.
I feel so stupid, I was too young and dumb to notice this before I lived with him. And now I'm stuck with this borderline pedophile. I should've picked it up when I told him my real age and he said "15 is legal anPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 126586

>>126560
>>126560
i was going to yell at you but i was too tired. i’m not her but thank you for apologizing to her.

Anonymous 126600

>>126586
Yeah, I tried to delete the post but I can't since 30 minutes have passed.
Thank you for being someone who yells at people when they say stupid things.
>>126476
Once again, I'm really sorry, don't even read that shitty post at >>126555
I get into a both-sides mentality too easily when abuse is usually from one aggressor to someone whose aggression is usually just self-defense.
You clearly have many reasons to defend yourself, especially after what you've experienced and the overall person that moid appears to be.

Anonymous 126603

>>126486
you have the same mentality of a moid. stop slutshaming depressed women.
>>126600
thanks for owning up to your mistake instead of just running away from responsibility like a lot of people do.
>>126525
im not qualified to give any advice, but i just wanted to say i hope things get better for you. i know how it feels, thinking that the only love you'll get is from the lowest of the low. that pedofag doesn't deserve you.

Anonymous 127294

>When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan
>stuck with this borderline pedophile

Nothing about him is "borderline". he IS a pedophile. I'm sorry to tell you this but you were groomed. and now you are doing charity work staying with this loser 4chan 250 pounds discord mod. wtf? what does this guy actually have to offer you? Reading your posts, you are obviously disgusted by him and can recognize that his behavior is a red flag.

nona you only think you love him because you don't know any better. As you said, this is your first boyfriend, and you were abused as a child. But this does not mean it always has to be like this. You can leave him, escape. please

>>126557
Is this a possibility? this situation is definitely not normal and you need to get out. I'm sure if you reached out to someone, they would try to help you.

Anonymous 127362

if you felt unsafe at home, you're definitely less safe where you are now. LEAVE. this will permanently fuck you up. Go home. Reconcile. Figure out a different plan.



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Any sex repulsed blackpillers here? Anonymous 126937[Reply]

>be me
>be blackpilled cuz of female role in sex being blackpilling
>Try to meet more like-minded women
>Meet none
>Feel misunderstood and lonely

Anonymous 126939

>>126937
Yes but not as blackpilled/nihilistic as you probably
voluntarily abstinent/virgin and celibate never had a bf few can relate but it brings me mystical insight

Anonymous 127262

>>126937
wut is blackpill?

Anonymous 127264

i crave it but im volcel

Anonymous 127267

>>127262
A metaphorical term for demoralization.

Anonymous 127277

>>126937
I'm asexual and not interested in ever having sex. Not sure if that counts as volcel.
>be blackpilled cuz of female role in sex being blackpilling
What does this even mean?
Being forced into roles sucks but you don't need to let yourself get defined by them.
If you have sexual interest outside of what you think is considered the social norm for women, you can voice it and demand it in your relationships. It's just a matter of sexual compatibility, isn't it?



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Sapphic girlies and lesbians Anonymous 125973[Reply]

It's hard out here for feminine woman who likes feminine women. Can I just be totally honest here though, despite the fact that I'm tolerant and have many trans friends, I gotta say I am genuinely starting to have trans fatigue. It's permeated into all walks of life to the point where we can't even have dating apps to ourselves.
It's enough that I have to sort through the usual Justin Beiber clones (as butch women are not my type), all the couples wanting to spring their boyfriend or husband onto you right out the gate, and now we gotta deal with the overwhelming amount of trans "lesbians" who most of which are still just clearly men, big ass men with stubble and balls and it's damn near impossible for lipstick lesbians to even get a fighting chance because these troops will fight tooth and nail to get into every single female only space they can. I'm not interested in dick, you can say it's fucked up that I'm concerned with what's in their pants, but that's a manipulative and almost predatory remark to make when they're fighting for their place to try and get into yours. It also makes it harder to find women when most of them are so far brainwashed you can't discuss this with them either, without them tweaking out and saying but trans women are women, like fuck off. They can exist but can they just accept being the 3d thing and leave women the fuck alone? I'm absolutely allowed care that they have a dick and not want them in my dating pool, they aren't lesbians.
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Anonymous 126925

>sapphic
you fucking cocksucker

Anonymous 127263

>>125973
I have a huge preference for girls and am generally attracted to more feminine women. my issue is that i just don't know when a girl is gay too. I avoid looking at women in this way because i'd feel creepy if she turns out to be straight.
There's currently one girl I like at my work, I can assume that she's gay because she's kinda masculine (short hair, alternative), but she still acts feminine and she has soft features and she's just super cutee
Idk but my issue with girls is that I start liking them when I know I can (if theyre gay too) because it's just so difficult to find.

Anonymous 127268

>>127263
tranny

Anonymous 127270

>>127263
I wish I had this level of control over my feelings.
I ended up falling for one of my best friends and it's just hopeless. But I don't think it's creepy to fall for someone you know you won't have a chance with, you can't always control that. It only gets creepy if you act obsessed or make advances when you already know she won't be interested. It kinda sucks, but I'll just have to get over it, I'm responsible for my feelings after all.
I don't think you need to avoid looking at most women at all just because you think they might be straight though. How do you make friends if you're so distant with other women? It's not like you'll fall for every woman, right?
But yeah, you can't always tell if someone is lesbian or bi just by appearance…
Someone at my workplace invited me to a pride event and that's how I found out that she's lesbian, I wouldn't have noticed from her appearance at all.
I just try to get to know people at pride or at adjacent events and locations, like LGBTQ+ cafés, stores or conventions; much higher probability of meeting women I might have a chance with.
Anyway, good luck with your crush!
>>127268
Claiming that all butch women are secretly trans somehow is how certain misogynists wield anti-trans rhetoric to harm women. They don't care about women, they just care about the policing of anyone who's gender non-conforming, even if they're not trans at all. Don't fall for it.
I'm kinda butch, doesn't mean I'm a man trying to be a woman nor vice versa. So tired of this shit.

Anonymous 127272

>>127270
thank u for your advice and insight! I didn't mean I avoid women completely haha, I just avoid viewing/thinking about them romantically unless I'm certain that they're gay too (which i never know).



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I don't know how to approach my insecure boyfriend Anonymous 126912[Reply]

I'm 19f, with 24m boyfriend and I met him online, knew of him for months until we started talking. I don't know if I am making the smart move with being with him, he one day called me his girlfriend and "i love you" without even meeting me or even asking me to be his girlfriend and he's being too silly by saying he's going to marry me and mind you this is 2 weeks into "dating" unofficially.. I am meeting him for the first time on Sunday and I do not know what to do because part of me does like him and have an interest in him, but his insecurity, and ego gets in the way. He doesn't have a job and I feel like this isn't a good investment because in all honesty I think everything is a red flag but I can't do anything because he has given me so much money for things I feel so bad but he wants me to meet his family and in my head I'm like chill I havent even met you, why your family?! WHAT DO I DO PLEASE. I feel like I've gotten myself stuck in the middle of things. I just think he is seeking a relationship to marry, whereas I want to experiment and date for fun and not for longterm as I am literally 19 brah… pls help
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Anonymous 126915

>>126914
DO NOT MEET WITH HIM!!

Anonymous 126917

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

Anonymous 127058

You are wasting both his and your time

Anonymous 127059

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

Anonymous 127259

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!



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Anonymous 127156[Reply]

is it ok to lose 15 lbs if u entered a relationship 15lbs heavier yes or no ????
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Anonymous 127163

>>127162
no i'm just 15lbs above what i want to be

Anonymous 127167

>>127163
15 lbs isn't that much.
That's the kind of weight you can easily gain or lose by accident when you happen to change diet and habits, it happened to me a couple of times.
You're probably fine the way you are.

Anonymous 127168

>>127156
>if u entered a relationship 15lbs heavier
heavier than what?

Anonymous 127170

>>127168
the weight i am supposed to be

Anonymous 127173

>>127171
10lbs above my natural weight 20lbs above my ideal weight but he doesn't like if i'm skinny



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Normiemaxxing Advice Anonymous 126975[Reply]

Come on, how the fuck do I normiemaxx? I want to be happy like them. I want friends, I want to be respected and seen as NORMAL. Any tips? What should I do and what should I avoid?
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Anonymous 127106

>Friends
The more closely you've bonded with someone, the more accepting they'll be of abnormal behaviour (in stages, don't reveal the abnormal stuff all at once).
You just need to reel them in first.

Anonymous 127122

>>127105
Nothing in picrel sounds natural or healthy op

Anonymous 127139

>>127122
Normiemaxxing is often neither healthy nor normal.
If you're a proper normie, you don't have to waste time on explicitly figuring out how to act like one, most of it will come to you naturally the more you spend time around people. You mess up, you learn, you move on.
But if you're extremely deep in the weirdness, scared shitless of being ridiculed or even slightly rejected and very desperate to behave normal in public, you can speed things up by suppressing your personality and pretending you're already a normie.
100% won't work, but it'll give you a ton of anxiety.

Anonymous 127142

>>126975
Build confidence and self-esteem so you can get over not being a normie.
You can make friends without being seen as normal.
Most people are weird if you get to know them closely enough, I'm starting to think that true normies don't exist.

Anonymous 127148

>>127139
I'm sure your experience is insightful but doesn't need to be extrapolated to everyone and isn't so black and white. Maybe some nonas just need a safe environment to do it without having to fake it at first.

>just bee confident and urself :^)

ironically requires some degree of normality because being a tolerated weirdo faggot requires social skills (which normiemaxxing is supposed to provide) or resources. nobody really cares about you otherwise and confidence requires backing anyways



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/rock bottom/ - general Anonymous 76609[Reply]

This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.
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Anonymous 126933

Not rock bottom yet but I'm getting there, everyone is currently treating me as if I did something horrific just because my performance at work hasn't been the best for the last few months, this is even stretching into my family thinking this

Anonymous 126990

>>125666
You should be evicted for letting water damage happen. I hope you get sued.

Anonymous 126997

>>126990
i think they own wouldn’t it be their neighbors living room if not

Anonymous 127124

>>124208
Nona can you get a job at McDonald's or something? Or do some cardio at home? It's not over for you!

Anonymous 127125

>>124208
At least you have those fat reserves to help you get through the hard times.



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Anonymous 126830[Reply]

Nice girls really do finish last. I've been single for a few years and have not talked to any man until recently. I finally approached a guy I thought was cute. We hit it off but I did not know he was crippled. He explained he attempted suicide and shot himself but miraculously survived and now one side of his body is crippled. He ruined his potential over his ex who treated him like shit. And now I'm just here to pick up the pieces I guess since this is all I can get. Damaged, used goods. Fml
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Anonymous 126931

>>126883
she literally said he attempted suicide over his ex who treated him like shit he has issues

i think i misphrased it tho i was associating it with moids like the one she likes

its not about disability but many disabled moids will become incels bc their disability makes them undesirable and then they become kinda fucked up

Anonymous 126935

>>126931
maybe you're autistic or something because that doesn't sound like very unreasonable to tell about (1 life event that explains visible life debilitating change) especially if op asked him or if they "hit it off" hard enough

Anonymous 126936

>>126935
im an evil hag spirit

Anonymous 127081

>>126830
I'm not sure cute outweights crippled + porn addict this doesn't sound like a good deal
I knew a guy who suffered nerve damage from a failed an hero attempt and the constant chronic pain makes it extremely hard to function and not to abuse painkillers/porn to deal with it

>>126931
I'd like your thoughts on this but I've come to believe inceldom is a cope that only losers use to explain being social rejects without having to face their own inner ugliness - this mix of indulgent laziness and entitlement to muh waifu that results in the bitter inceldom we know, in my experience moids who come to terms with their unattractiveness or take some accountability are less likely to fall into it

Anonymous 127100

>>126858
It's ok to be by yourself



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Why does everyone leave? Anonymous 127045[Reply]

People are either busy, or abandon you, or abandon their social media accounts they were in contact with you on, without a word, or outgrow you, or whatever else but everyone always leaves.
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Anonymous 127048

>>127046
>the memories are yours forever

That's not what alzheimer's and dementia said

Anonymous 127050

>>127048
Well then you’re just screwed and should find a way to euthanise yourself before you hurt your loved ones

Anonymous 127054

you can’t take loved away.

Anonymous 127064

People stay when they're getting something from you. Doesn't mean you're a bad person if nobody stays with you, just that you need to learn skills ppl need. It's like a job.

Anonymous 127078

>>127064
this is so true it breaks my heart. and men only ever want one thing. i wish i’d never found out how quickly i would be discarded when i couldn’t provide sex temporarily



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How to stop feeling like a subhuman because I'm a woman Anonymous 126636[Reply]

No it's not because of men that I feel this way, neither porn, but I've seen porn and women act like subhumans in it.
My problem is that I see submission as subhuman and female submission in sex is human and natural and sex is the fundamental part of the reality. So it's like we are subhumans in life. I don't hate myself but I hate womanhood.
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Anonymous 126757

I don't feel oppressed by men. I feel oppressed by my biology. Especially in sex.

Anonymous 126759

>>126757
>I don't feel oppressed by men. I feel oppressed by my biology. Especially in sex.

Explain?

Anonymous 127072

terminally-online.…

OP it sounds to me like you're taking what you see in p*rn for reality. I guarantee you it's not.

>>126663
This

>>126666
No they're fucking not. It is a skewed, reductive view of feminity.
You're so wrong that Satan himself blessed you with demonitc digits lmao

Anonymous 127075

>>127072
i agree. you have to watch porn to have these thoughts. stop watching that shit

Anonymous 127266

>>126729
No, it's the other way around. Porn doesn't reflect real sex dynamics, it's real sex dynamics being affected by porn because 99% of moids are porn addicts and expect porn sex from their partners



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