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Positivity. Anonymous 116556[Reply]

Share any positive feelings or positive things.

Garden your soul garden.
Every focus is infinite multiverses.
Keep watering the ideas/plants that make you feel the loveliest love


Here’s a thing that has made me feel so good and is important to me:
Thousands of Polska girls and Belarus girls are covering my NorthAmerican city with graffiti. They’ve somehow clearly gotten the idea to all become collectively like a splatoon. It has changed the energy immensely and really improved the omnipresent feminism quality~level vibe. These girls have religions about ancient euro queens and it really shows, lots of ethereal stuff.. I see so many soulful girls are more comfortable loitering around and making anywhere a party! That’s SO important! Sovl
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Anonymous 125417

I cleaned out my bookmarks!

Anonymous 125996

My hair was getting long so I chopped off about 4 inches. It felt good.

Yesterday I was given oreos. I haven't had them in a long time and I ecpected them to be underwhelming but they were really good.

Today I was complimented on something I've been working hard on.

Anonymous 126062

Fall has the best food. I love sweet potatoes and chestnuts.

Anonymous 126147

I just had a large free lunch. And the food was good. I got a bit of everything offered, unlike everyone else, it seems. And I alone got seconds on pizza.

Finding good luck, and necessary things, as a homeless.

I also received Poplar's Hood from Fallout 3, but in real life.
The real-life one is green and black and woven of yarn.
I actually needed an item like that, too.

Anonymous 126157

I got sick this couple of days which gave me the opportunity to have the longest nourishing sleep I needed. I love to go into the dream world and see what’s there.



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How do you deal with hopelesness for the female species Anonymous 122690[Reply]

Everyday it's more clear to me that women will never be free, it makes me feel suicidal even. We are nothing but pets and will NEVER stop being pets, even if that were to happen I'll be dead by that time. What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?
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Anonymous 124373

>>122690
Women have been free in the past and are free in some places. Women can be free again. Join separatists and work on being separate. It may not work on a global scale but it will for the women who care enough like you.

Anonymous 124374

>>123569
a fellow SCUM sister I see

Anonymous 124378

>>124373
Join a female only commune. There is only two that I know of, all of them full lesbian but you can create your own if you have enough good willed Nonas with you.

Anonymous 124381

makeup die like th…

>What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?

there is stuff you can do. one of the most important things that i don't see any of you do is to promote a life in reality. a real life based on reality, not a life based on following narrative.

Anonymous 126135

i cry for a bit. i have discussions with my female friends who share the same views so its a bit cathartic to know im not the only one aware.



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Men make me feel so lonely Anonymous 125423[Reply]

I can’t handle how lonely men make me feel. No matter how kind, patient, or understanding they seem, they always end up disappointing me. They’re all lustful. They all watch porn. All of them struggle to see women as actual human beings, some just get better at hiding it. They all want you to perform for them in some way shape or form.

I ache for this so called true love. I want romance, tenderness, respect. I want someone who sees me, who values me, who cherishes me. But instead, day by day, I grow more bitter and resentful. It feels like I was sold a lie about what men and relationships are supposed to be. It makes me angry and doubt romantic love is even real at all. It all just feels like a cruel lie. I even feel like the women who claim their men are so great are experiencing some sort of cognitive dissonance.

I keep telling myself I just won’t ever get this from a man, but accepting that is so hard. The loneliness eats at me. Sometimes, it feels like being a straight woman is nothing but a curse. Being alone sucks but being with them makes the loneliness even worse.
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Anonymous 125671

The sad thing is that many man find platonic, emotionaly mature and empathic relations with other man because lust do not take over them. But here I am gatekeeped by nature, doomed to be seen as meat by those I want love from

Anonymous 125761

>>125671
I feel like platonic friendship is something they should be able to handle, but it is so rare to see it work without the man catching feelings. They need to learn emotional maturity

Anonymous 125767

>>125441

Seconding this. Every time I thought a man was different it was only because I didn't know them enough.

Anonymous 125768

>>125602

The same men talking about how most girls are whores will turn around and relentlessly pressure you for sex or leave you because you said you don't wanna fuck. They simultaneously want an innocent puritan who also instantly becomes as sex-addicted as they are the moment you get together.

Anonymous 126134

UR SO RIGHT



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Parents Coddle Loser Older Brother Anonymous 126120[Reply]

Me: worked every summer/scholarships to cover my own tuition, set to graduate with a FT job lined up; grew up super frugal bcs mom used to always complain about how I was a leech on her finances.

Older brother: literally fails so many classes he takes summer school every summer, + was on academic probation. Never had a job before, parents literally send him 1k-1.5k a month on top of covering his tuition and rent.

Usually I wouldn't gaf; not my problem. But recently my parents literally borrowed money from me to cover his rent, again, idrc. But once I had my family over at my place and they were asking how my internship for the summer was going and I was talking about the cool stuff I worked on and the perks I got and my older brother kept saying that it was lame/not that cool so I basically was like "okay this is a lot coming from a chronically unemployed person". Then my mom started glazing him like "one day you're gonna earn big money and retire us"… You bitch you literally borrowed money from me to pay his expenses.

And then she pulled me aside and was like "your brother is really struggling you shouldn't be discouraging him". Like… I wouldn't have said anything until he started coming after me???

The double standard is crazy bcs she never did anything when he used to abuse me as a kid but all of a sudden he can't handle a verbal comeback?? Tf??

Anonymous 126131

mom boy? favorite child syndrome? yeah you probably shouldn't lend them money anymore this is weird. this dude is set to fail if he keeps getting coddled like this anyway



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Mommy/daddy issues Anonymous 125658[Reply]

My parents do not care about me like at all.I had to find a place to live within 15 days. When I told my dad he basically said I should have planned better. My mom treated me like shit about it. My step mom was nice but not in a genuine way. This has set me up for being a complete failure socially.
My managers at my job helped me find a rental. They were the only ones who went out of their way to ask me how it went. To ask when I was moving in. If I needed anything or any help. I feel like I owe them now and like I’ve gotten too close to them and I wanna quit my job and never leave the house again. I know I feel this way because of the way I’ve been treated by my parents.

Anonymous 125660

your parents are neglectful assholes, I'm sorry about that nona. dads getting rid of their old kids ASAP after they find a new woman is a fairly common thing for some reason

Anonymous 125661

>>125660
He doesn’t even have new kids. he’s always been like this. Like he just shouldn’t have been a dad. So I don’t fault him for it. I just wish I wasn’t born.

Anonymous 126053

>>125658
Very sorry to hear that your parents lack empathy for their own daughter. Hope it can turn around for the better for you. Glad to hear that your managers cared. Its understandable that you feel indebted to them, but they were just being decent human beings. Maybe in the future those uncaring parents can be dumped in an old age home that shows that same lack of empathy.

Anonymous 126058

My parents cared too much. My mother would emotionally abuse me for not meeting her ridiculous expectations of me being a genius (had to start school at 5 y.o. as a child with ADHD because of them). She would feel guilty over it which lead to lovebombing spats which fucked up my capabilities for physical affection and made me anxiously doubt any acts of kindness towards me for the rest of my life.
They would bitch and moan about me not being able to support myself while also providing just enough support for me to depend on them, completely unprompted.

I ended up moving to another country and, as difficult as my life was for the first few years, it forced me to learn a lot of important things about life and myself. A part of me even regrets that I wasn't kicked out by my parents the moment I finished college.

Anonymous 126116

>>125658
>I feel like I owe them now and like I’ve gotten too close to them
Helping people who need a hand is actually pretty normal, you're probably overthinking it because your family is fucked up. I hope you find some cool friends, because if this much is enough to make you consider quitting your job, you may be prone to self-isolation. As someone who's dealt with AvPD, I get the social anxiety over that kind of closeness, but self-isolation isn't great for people. Probably gotta work on your confidence and self-worth after all that. You got a job and a rental despite your shitty family, you should be proud of yourself too



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confessions thread 2 Anonymous 63992[Reply]

>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
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Anonymous 126002

I desperately fell in love with an older coworker. We met during an occasional job, i thought it was a friend crush, so i went out of my way to stay in contact and we've become friends but now i can't bear anymore the fact that i fell in love with him
Fucking old bastard

Anonymous 126026

was in love with a normal rly soft spoken guy who likes fishing and wears suits and acts like. the most normal person ever. but he had way too close of a friendship w a woman who dresses like a dominatrix and says stuff like "darling" and it made me want to kms bc why is my older suit wearing fishing guy with glasses a degen who wants it up the ass? he was rly nice to me and its the biggest mindfuck ever to have to look at him and know he probably watches ball busting porn. i hate her. anyway.

ever since i gave up on him ive been spiraling and wanting to kill myself and other people more and more (i wouldnt actually kill other people so dont be a fucking moron and report me) ive been hanging out with a guy who is a total spaz and has like 3 missing teeth from god knows what and at first i thought i was hanging out with him cuz i hate myself and i hate him and it felt good to roll around in the filth together and flush our psych meds down the toilet and argue. but actually i kind of like him and i think i like being around and honest piece of shit more than i like being around a guy who lies to everyone about getting his prostate mauled by another woman. is it ok to keep living like this? does this mean i want to fuck toothless spaz guy?help

Anonymous 126104

>>126026
Battle dominatrix woman in armed combat, to assert yourself as the true dominant alpha female.

Anonymous 126105

>>126026
>Dominant woman gets the cute soft spoken moid
>Submissive woman gets the degenerate druggie with missing teeth who's probably going to do something horrible to her
Such is life

Anonymous 126106

>>126002
>friend crush
What a silly concept.



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Homelessness Anonymous 126004[Reply]

I'm homeless and waiting to end the world.
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Anonymous 126039

>>126037
the browser history at the homeless center PCs probably gets wild

Anonymous 126073

OP you will never be trent reznor ❤️

Anonymous 126075

>>126073
Actually, one day I will be.

Anonymous 126084

is there a women’s shelter near you? if so, you should go there and you won’t have to deal with these moids. also, if you somehow can, open up a venmo/gofundme and some nonas can help you a bit.

Anonymous 126086

>>126084
I'm on the waiting list, still, for one shelter, and tomorrow I'll try to get on the waiting list of another one.
Still on the streets, waiting to get inside a shelter.

Thanks for the heads up on those services you mentioned.



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venting about my exgf Anonymous 126049[Reply]

sooo i dated a friend of mine for literrally a month over the summer and it was fun but we were both mentally ill and terrible at communicating so it ended with her breaking up with me over twitter at 3am while high on cough syrup lol. when we broke up she told me that she didn't actually love me, and that she only dated me because our friends wanted us to. fast forward a few months later and while discussing our breakup, she said that she would've been willing to work things out if things between us hasn't gotten as bad as they did. recently, a friend told me that she had actually confessed to our mutual friend that she liked me, which is likely what made said mutual friend push us to get together in the first place. also, she told that same friend that she regretted breaking up with me???

i tried asking her about all of this and she just didn't respond which was really annoying because i talked to her later that day at an event we both had to go to. i want to try asking her about it again because i'm equally annoyed and confused and sad and want to know how she actually feels about me.

i wish i could say that i want to get back with her, but that's really complicated. i love her and she's a great person, but she's also a drug addict who refuses to get better and i can't have that stress added on top of everything else going on in my life rn.

should i see how she feels about me nonas?

Anonymous 126056

>should i see how she feels about me nonas
>i love her and she's a great person, but she's also a drug addict who refuses to get better and i can't have that stress added on top of everything else going on in my life rn
You don't need anyone else advising you on this, you already know the answer

Anonymous 126083

please don’t. she does love you but drug addicts will choose their substance over their loved ones. key word: refuses to get help. i have addicts in my family and know that their love is very real but their brains are taken over as if by a demon or parasite (depending on how far in the addiction they are) and their love is pushed out of the way by their chemical need of the drug. in a moment of clear thinking she realized what she did wrong. she has chosen the drugs over you and you don’t need the stress in your life. tell her you will keep your arms open for her if she really does decide to recover but until then you will not contact her. i am sure that she does love you but her brain has essentially been taken over by a substance that is literally poisoning her and also messes a lot with her emotions and way of thinking. and the reason she is being “confusing” is probably because of brain damage. she sounds immature and possibly bpd or something. choose your peace because this girl needs to get better and mature.



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Anonymous 125983[Reply]

>be me
>be 21
>former drug addict
>get healthy
>become giga-stacy
>finally go to uni
>tfw socially awkward
>tfw people interpret my inability to talk as standoffishness
>mfw i have close to zero friends and im halfway through my major


i go to a very small private uni as well - everyone knows and talks to each other. its a very isolating experience.

i was gonna talk to some people about my new rice cooker today but i got so scared to do it in front of everyone else in class i just didnt.

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Anonymous 125984

>>125983
im devising 12 step machiavellian strategies just to ask a guy what music he likes listening to

Anonymous 125986

>wtf is this complete inability to talk to people ive been around for a year and a half?
I don't know you nona but I've known people who are like this (including myself). Often it's trauma that's impacted one's development. You're saying you're a former drug addict? That's associated with unsafe environments, which again might not be true for you, but unsafe environments lead to trauma, trauma leads to having a hard time connecting to others who aren't traumatized. (broadly speaking) You being scared to talk about your rice cooker is indicative of it, too.
>should i just go to therapy?
maybe, idk, could be worth trying. You need a safe encouraging environment to overcome this and a therapist may provide that. They're not as good as having an actual free support network, but maybe they can provide some help.

Anonymous 126040

>>125983
update: ive made a pact with a fren to not overthink for all of october and just do things.

i call it "omit overthinking october"

so far i have talked to at least 5 people i have barely spoken to in the past year and it turns out they do not in fact bite

will see how the rest of the month goes

i recommend everyone tries this challenge

Anonymous 126047

>>125984
Share pls



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Anonymous 126041[Reply]

my ex fucked a bitch in my bed and to add insult to injury my IEEE glasses cleaning cloth is slathered in her lipstick

i only found out because my friend from high school started dating said girl 2 weeks (!) after it happened. he found out and texted me.

i live in a really big city so it was one of those coincidences that demonstrated to me the reality of god's existence.

i feel really grossed out and violated, he's moved out but i can't sleep at night

what do i do with myself?

Anonymous 126046

Salt water purification



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