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Anonymous 129214[Reply]

How have you reacted to men sharing their feelings with you? Do stories like this one seem true?
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Anonymous 129225

Stuff like this makes me wonder the context of her reply. I would never talk to my boyfriend like this. It makes me wonder if he did something fucked up then tried shifting focus to his own feelings, like many emotional manipulators do.

Anonymous 129272

>>129217
I find that most of the time when people complain about issues in their life, they want validation or a "rubber ducky" to bounce off ideas and to get things out of their head, aka venting.

So usually I just say "damn that sucks" or the like and listen to them.

>>129225
It might be the case, but it might just be what I stated before, and not thinking about her view or how she thinks. Kinda shitty to make a post online about this and not talk to her in a mature manner but that isn't really uncommon in most current relationships.

Anonymous 129276

>>129224
Ding ding ding. More women need to figure this one out.

Anonymous 129281

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if they are my chums i will listen to a moid be sad chungus but if the moid whinges about how women won't shag him or he blames women for his problems I simply chortle and go on with my merry day
also it's rather gay how most if not all deep revelations and deep sadnesses expressed by y chromies is shit that i and my female peers have clocked when we were like 8

Anonymous 129291

I've always had good experiences because I don't compartmentalise men and women as different much. I have had male friends my whole life so I know how to interact with them and what is hurtful. I will also say they are times they (men in general) shared other feelings beside sadness and I was like hell no.


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finally had sex with a girl, but i cried after Anonymous 129205[Reply]

i've only been with moids my whole life, but last night i had an opportunity to have sex with a woman and it was very lovely at first, but i realised during it i wasn't really enjoying it, so we stopped.

after i had left her house i just cried so hard.
i never particularly liked having sex with moids, but i thought that was a moid thing.

i think i struggle with having sex with anybody, it just makes me really uncomfortable despite the fact i really enjoy intimacy and the company of others.
i really like to flick my bean, so its not like i have no arousal.. i just dont like having sex with people.

have any other nonas experienced anything similar?
i feel like im in a weird situation because i can't expect a long-term relationship with anyone if the thought of having sex with them terrifies me.
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Anonymous 129242

>>129237
Yes, especially since you were exposed to it so young. Consuming that stuff can alter the way you experience and act on attraction which is probably why you struggle despite wanting it. Imo as you are, don't worry about trying to have sex. You aren't in the right headspace, and your perception of it is probably screwed by watching it from childhood to your twenties.

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>>129239
yeah, but i've only had with men in committed relationships, i still disliked it.

although, the first time i had sex with a girl it was casual. it felt like less of a chore than sex with moids. i disliked how i felt afterwards; i felt used, despite it being consensual. also i was the pillow princess.

i dont dislike intimacy, sex just scares me. i love masturbating, though.



>>129238
how do i get in contact with such a person, through my doctor? all therapy i've had has been rubbish, but i may have some underlaying trauma.




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Anonymous 129263

>>129205
Honestly real. Sex is scary

Anonymous 129280

>>129237
>do you think porn could be the issue?
It definitely is an issue, especially starting at an early age. And masturbation can re wire the brain to only like masturbation and not enjoy normal sex, masturbating to porn got many people into voyeur/cuckshit

>>129239
This

Anonymous 129287

>>129239
This.

Porn has nothing to do with it; maybe even helped in making you think casual sex is empty and overrated.

Go find real love, OP.


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How to get rid of burnout? Anonymous 129269[Reply]

I am so exhausted. Im tired of everything, Im trying to hard but no matter what I do I cannot see myself improve in any sort of way and right now I feel as I have been running a mile. My bones are wary and my mind cannot think, my mouth is dry as well and I wish I could just wake up one day and feel better.

I have been setting time aside for myself to do my hobbies, like reading, watching movies, or playing my guitar and I DO feel better, and then I am back in the position I was in, and all of that good feel disappears and I am lost again.

So, does anyone know how to get out of the slump?

Anonymous 129270

I'd get all kinds of bloodwork done honestly just to see if there really is something you can do about it all and if it doesnt have to do with your health then I'd take a good look at whether your surroundings are not too much for you, like work or living situation

Anonymous 129277

I just crash out and let it burn me until there's nothing left to burn. It happens inevitably, then I heal, I find the light again, and it happens all over again. Just take it slow, pray, wtv. And what nona above said: check your health, both physical and mental as well as ur situation. Not much you can usually do about your situation, but pinpointing issues can help reduce the burden or in ruling out key issues. Feel better nona


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Hate Thread Anonymous 118525[Reply]

What do you hate and why?
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Anonymous 128304

>>128302
Youre hating on ugly women in an industry that commodifies them what

I get the hideous moid part but please name me some celebrity women that are ugly

This looks like more of the same basic primal bimbo shit

Anonymous 128313

>>128304
I never said any celebrity women were ugly what I said the men were ugly

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Anonymous 129219

>>128302
Real as fuck. Male comedians piss me the fuck off

Anonymous 129273

realizing how many of my bad social traits and petty/spiteful impulses stem from being around actual retarded white trash faggots from discord who punished any form of sincerity and transparency in other people. i'm free now, i don't have to play by their rules


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I'm so mad im from da hood.. Anonymous 129188[Reply]

I am a black girl from da hood and I hate it so much. And no this is not self hating shit, I don't hate being black, I just hate that I was raised in a ghetto desolate city with no hope or future. It's just ghetto shit and I don't relate. I never did, when I was a kid I felt so alienated from everything in my real life so I retreated to the internet since it was the only way I could find non-normies. Everyone around me is obsessed with rap and gang culture shit so it's hard to find peoplel that admire classical and deep stuff with fucking meaning. I wish I was born in a small French town so bad. I want to learn French so I can join a nunnery there. I WILL fucking escape this life. I will make it out of here. A part of me dies every time I have to leave the house.
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Anonymous 129192

politicians and billionaires made it this way on purpose and they have names and addresses

Anonymous 129200

Go, escape. Build a beautiful life for yourself.
Don't let anyone tell you no. Your mind alone proves you deserve out of that environment.

Anonymous 129227

This is real but I hope sometimes soon you start realizing that other black people aren't 'wrong' for not liking the stuff you do. This might be a stretch but you seem to idolize European culture like there aren't artistic, spiritual, deep black people. If you want to see the people around you care more, become someone that cares. Quit thinking running away to France will solve everything. That isn't your only option. Go to some slam poetry event. Listen to rap that ISNT just about gang violence so that you can see how much of an art it really is. treat rap that is about gang violence like what it is: people finding a form of art to express their hard life. I'm not trying to be rude but your mindset is pathetic and you aren't the only black person that admires deep thinking and meaning, you just let yourself grow into a eurocentric mindset. I hope you grow out of it soon and start actually exploring the world around you with an open mind.

Anonymous 129231

>>129189
>>129200
>>129192
thx Nonas
>>129227
Ya, what you said is true. I don't believe all black culture is bad or anything. And I agree I came across as close minded. I'm just frustrated that so many people in our community praise gang culture shit. But not all rap or black culture is like that I know. A lot of aspects of it is very beautiful and I admire it a lot. and I don't praise only white culture since that's cringe I just want to get away from my horrible city kek. but I agree with what you said

Anonymous 129251

>>129188
not black, but i relate as a 'chav'.

i was mocked as a child often for not sounding like them (i have autism so my accent is very neutral/considered posh compared to where i live)

i've found a community through a music scene, indie of course. it may be hard finding something like that in your area but punk people are so lovely and accepting, even if youre anxious and feel out of place.

i wish you the best nona


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Anonymous 129236[Reply]

When I was a kid I lied to my boyfriend and I told him I was 18 (with 16 y/o), eventually he discovered it, but also did my parents. Therefore, three adults kept insulting me while I tried to figure out how to fix everything, everyone said I was the worst thing that had ever happened to them, that I had deceived them all and didn't deserve even a shred of affection. Years have passed and I got back together with that guy when I turned 18. My parents see it as "an awkward but funny anecdote." Everyone else has gotten over it except me, my boyfriend is no longer an asshole who decides to blame a girl, but everyone forced me to grow up. And I don't know how to keep up this act of being okay anymore. I had to pretend to be okay because nobody cared what some selfish girl said about how she felt, but they did care that I had to be the one to blame and take care of everything, because to begin with, my parents told me that when I told them I was raped. I feel like there's no place for me. I want to escape my family, but I want to escape my boyfriend, who seems to be the only way to escape them. I just want to escape having to be the adult in a world where the people who were supposed to take care of me blamed me for the things I tried to avoid suicide.

Anonymous 129243

As a child, you weren't to blame and the adults in your life could have handled things better. But as an adult, you need to own up to your actions and stop trying to escape responsibility. Now, your decisions and any negative effects will be your fault. The only one that can care for you is you. Do not depend on a man to save you when you have the capacity to change your life on your own. Thug it out, figure out what you want, and make it happen.


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jealous about my bf being a non virgin Anonymous 129195[Reply]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months now, but because we are long distance we have obviously never had sex. I am a virgin which is something I am very insecure about but he however is not. I am a very jealous person and whenever I remember he has had sex with other women I feel physically ill, even if it was before he met me. How do I stop being so jealous? I fear if I keep being this jealous it will ruin the relationship.
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Anonymous 129209

>>129208
Then he should be dumped for being a liar.

Anonymous 129213

I bet he's never been pegged before.

Anonymous 129218

>>129209
all moids lie for sex. they admit this themselves.

Anonymous 129221

ur discord bf isn't a real bf

Anonymous 129222

>>129221
knew someone would say this


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Anonymous 129167[Reply]

Anyone here autistic with ADHD?

Anonymous 129179

Yeah everyone. Why do you think we're on the internet handwriting AI slop comments instead of do something productive

Anonymous 129182

Probably ADHD, but not autistic
What's with the perched position? I understand that squatting is important for your legs and knees, but why do it on a chair?

Anonymous 129194

>>129182
Something called proprioception actually, needing extra information about where our body is in with respect to space to feel comfortable about, or something like that.

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yep and it's so goddamn awful. i do not function at all and the thought that i have to live like this forever because those disabilities are incurable really hurts.


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i have a phobia of female role in sex which makes me dysphoric as fuck and sex repulsed Anonymous 126444[Reply]

anyone else??? i just find the role submissive and humuliating, i dont wanna post it on nsfw board bc i dont wanna see anons talk about wanting to do humiliating sex acts i have a phobia of
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Anonymous 128277

>>128276
They definitely do think it’s an act of evil considering how according to them women are immediately sullied by having sex and need to stay celibate for their own good

Anonymous 128278

>>128100
Only if you dont assert the female gaze.

Anonymous 128279

>>128276
Exactly

Anonymous 128280

>>128277
Yes, but it is an act of evil he is entitled to inflict on women, therefore it is “good” (when he does it).

Anonymous 129203

>>126444
It is ALL in how you see it. I don't see myself being penetrated; I see myself absorbing and swallowing the man's power within me. I don't see a blowjob as subservient but as using my power over him to make him beg for more. And surely a guy who goes down on you is acknowledging your dominance and practically worshipping you


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I hate being born a fucking stupid dyke Anonymous 128622[Reply]

I have to live with the fact i am not normal and will never have a normal life. I will never form a family the normal way if at all. I hate that people will shit on me for my sexuality and the only group of people that will tolerate it are filled with trannies and their handmaidens. That also means my dating pool is tiny, not only i have to find a woman that will be into women, praying that is not a straight woman in her "lesbian" / "bicurious" phase or a pooner or a handmaiden.
No mater how much i socialize with men, i never feel attracted to them the way i feel for women.

Maybe God has abandoned me, I think he finds my misery entertaining
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Anonymous 128641

>>128622
Not trying to say that lesbians have it easy
but
the dating market for young women is horrible right now. Young girls grow up watching Disney while young men grow up watching porn. Girls get into relationships expecting love and romance only to find that 90% of men want to choke them and stick it up their ass. Dating girls might not be easy, but you're a lot less likely to end up with a gooner misogynist.

Anonymous 128642

>>128622
Some advice? Don't give bi women a chance, most of them are straight. Try getting on dating sites if you're a social retard, as that removes 90% of the bullshit.

Anonymous 128656

>>1286

I understand your point. Honestly i dont think anyone has it worse. In general the world has been a really awful place specially with how much the mainstream media has poisoned society (both for men and women) everybody in any dating pool sucks righg now.

>>128642
Trust me I don't. I even doubt of women who claim to be lesbians at this point, i think ive becomed paranoid that every woman i meet is straight, even if they claim otherwise. If they say they are bi, theyre straight, and if they say theyre lesbians theyre just performative straight women that hate men so much they date other women to own the moids, or if it is online is likely a tranny. I just cant trust anybody anymore

Anonymous 128658

>>128656
That's rough, I'm sorry. Maybe try asking about their dating history? Most political lesbians don't have a history of dating girls. Have her eat your pussy and see if she's put off by it

Anonymous 129202

Ignore the media. Ignore other people. Find just one lesbian woman you can share a lifetime with


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