/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>129785
>(but fat tall people are even worse tbh, tall fat bitches looks scary asf ngl)
i kind of like being scary thats the problem i guess. i have unconventional tastes in women and i apply them to myself. i think it would be cool to be intimidating but its impossible to have any type of scary presence when youre 5`3 it sucks

6 inch heels for you

>>129791
im gnc + live in a cold area + theyre uncomfortable. i wish i wasnt malnutritioned as a child so id be at least a little taller

I somehow have multiple +180cm friends and family members old and young, they all complain about it and have horrible posture because they're afraid of standing up straight(bent knees, hunched back). They say they're attracting too much attention and younger ones say they get made fun of. They should be glad they're statuesque and you should be glad you're cute.

>>129794
>you should be glad you're cute.
doesnt really match my personality and the traits that i wanna present. wish there was a way to trade

>>129761
i don't know what work you've done to understand how being groomed changed your feelings about the world and your own safety: but remember that it's naturally impacted your beliefs about vulnerable relationships. it's a- if you go through life thinking everything needs to be hammered, you'll only see nails -type of thing. and by that i mean, if you're nervous even subconsciously about being groomed or tricked again, you're putting too much burden on yourself to hyper-worry about it, which only does yourself a disservice (although it's normal to think about.) caution is warranted, just not to the degree that it sabotages your own plans and desires.
be nice to yourself and those thoughts. you can sit with the worry of the "grooming happening again", and eventually they'll start looking just like thoughts. and only thoughts. they don't represent an actual manifested reality; they're fleeting residue from previous trauma, they can't control your real world. you probably know all of this, so i'm not trying to baby you, but a reminder can't hurt.

hopefully that younger guy will be nice! it's a great idea considering recent data, so good luck
>"Research indicates that older women dating younger men often report higher sexual satisfaction and relationship well-being compared to younger women dating older men. A 2025 study published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that women in these reverse age-gap relationships experienced better sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm, while men in these pairings reported high relationship satisfaction that strongly predicted their sexual functioning."

>>129737
>they find women in their early 20s (18-25) to be the most physically attractive. desirability peaks at age 21
This is what they're allowed to say.

girl i'm 25 and i'm going to be honest with you i think coming to this website to vent about this is going to make you feel a lot worse about the whole thing than it is in reality. This is a doomer femcel site. Like >>129737 I'm sorry posting the top google ai slop search like actual research was done here is just really fucking embarressing.


I'm 4'10 and look like a little girl, thats just what I look like. Recently I've been dating people with kids and they're really honest about being disintrested in infantalization or ddlg or any of that shit because it reminds them of their children. Men suck but they're not all pedo brained freaks. Most people do actually wind up married. If it is something you want to persue you'll probably be able to do it just fine. Kids are something you don't even need a man for if you have the finances to persue them.

Do you have an older female figure you can talk to in our real life? You will get better answers than the jaded morons on here and I'm saying that as a frequent poster.

>>129780
alot of them are attracted to sexually developed children, teenagers. we know this. but as to whether or not they put these minors in the "have sex with" or "no, that's a child that needs care" box depends on whether they see the subject as a person. issue is, personhood is increasingly being stripped away by the internet, particularly in porn being most boys' first exposure to the female form. and it's always happened in order to drive men's sexual selection and access to their desires depending on when they get the resources to manipulate things the way they want (grown adults.) they know they're not "allowed" to say that they have a physical response or are visually stimulated by teenage girls/boys (post-puberty), because it'd brand them as exclusively attracted to that when they're not. it's a disgusting and grim reality, yes. but a level of attraction doesn't make them all want to fuck kids- and for most that will try, not even exclusively (which would be needed to qualify them as hebephiles, the actual predators rather than "i find that attractive in my head" types.) many are opportunists that lack reasons to care about women and girls as people, so they'd go lower than what they say. but men in general are not looking for children as partners - the quote about desirability seems to be from dating app data, which shows that what they're actually selecting for is grown women. we can come up with assumptions about what they WANT to date/sleep with, but it's better to deal in reality and assume the best rather than the worst (unless we want to encourage op to just give up.)
op was thinking about whether men would want to date her or not. from what we see, their attraction isn't solely locked onto minors. that's what my point was meant to be. if you want, you can assume they're all evil, lying, near-child-rapist scum - i'm personally doing the same. but it's better to give her a realistic view of dating trends imo
>For men aged 25, the preferred partner is 3 years younger (age 22) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202501/age-gaps-in-relationships-what-do-men-and-women-prefer

Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>129789
That's what they settle for because they can't get what they really want.

>>129715
In that case, I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism. A movement need a general direction.

>>129727
>I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism
That's pretty much what happens

>>129700
Men need to have their sexuality controlled, women don't. Men should not have easy access to women's bodies through porn, prostitutes, social norms, etc. etc. but it's fine if people have easy access to men's body. These things need to be regulated for men, not women. The ONLY time a man should see a woman naked is if she decided to let him.

The amount of fandom spaces I've been in that got infested with child groomers and other sexpests is insane so I feel your pain nona. Seems like almost every online group is full of these types of insane people

>>129736
The crazy thing too is that this has always been the case, it's just got exponentially worse since I was a kid. Like I was super groomed online as a kid, surrounded by pedo lolicons, and I still managed to find fandom spaces that didn't have porn obsessed weirdos despite this. The Vocaloid fandom in particular was pretty chill when I was younger, because most people in it were kids, and kids at that time weren't as porn-obsessed (unless you were like me and groomed like crazy). Nowadays, almost any time I try to find a Vocaloid spot, it's just chock full of porn or fetish references. I've seen more weird fetish content of Miku and Teto than I have new songs in the last year.

>>129376
It depends who the man is and who the woman is but if a woman is unhappy with me I do sometimes take it personally

>>129376
Yeah, same for me. When men insult me I dont really care as much unless it's something extremely important to me. But with women are mean it makes me so sensitive for some reason. I'm not sure why this is tho. Maybe I'm just used to men being rude and bitchy but when women are rude to me I do take it more seriously and introspect more when it happens

>>129376
Same for anyone who owns a brain. Women are honest, more emotionally mature, smarter and not brain rotted from porn and red pill.
And most importantly, women are humans, males are subhumans.
Opinion of subhumans doesn't matter to humans.

When i started dating a guy, my bestie called me a "traitor straightie" and it made me cry

>>129315
I'm not mad because I'm not bitter.

>>129655
>rip her dms
yeah her dms would be full of ugly faggots with horrible personalities with zero redeeming qualities. she would not magically score a cutie like this guy did.

You're not alone. Ugly man psyop is fucking real. Men love seeing women suffer.

>>129745
If you have an ugly man all the others wil look at you and you get all the attention and you are the more attractive of the two in the couple

>>129753
dating someone as a comparison tool is foul

me!! me!!! the past 5-6 months or so.. just crying crying crying. when technically its all fine but a song has a note or i see a tree a certain way

>>129967
I never actually cry, it just last a few seconds. I suddenly feel intense sadness for a few seconds and tears shooting into my eyes, but I never cry because I try to hold back and it's over after a few seconds.

>>129966
I wonder what the cat was watching

>>129537
If you like sex, casual sex isnt for you. You need to get to know each others bodies first, likes and dislikes etc.

I have personal circumstances that prevent me from being able to have a long term relationship but I still want affection. Its not the healthiest but I can squash my feelings easily because I remind myself of the circumstances I’m in and other things that make me unworthy of a relationship. I also don’t have friends and only really interact with people for sex yet I’ve met interesting people this way.

>>128629
I've genuinely never met anyone who enjoys casual sex other than straight men, gay men and some butches who just covet masculinity to hide their own pain. This whole thing that everyone loves casual sex is a LARP.

>>128629
You think I'd be interested in casual sex because I'm a bippie but I've been assaulted, stalked and borderline raped that almost nothing excites me about men anymore and I haven't tried casual sex with women either so… it's not worth it. I have a surprisingly low sex drive I just blame my trauma for it

I'm a 99% straight woman. I sleep peacefully knowing I will never have ONS with moids. Its one of the most demonic shit sold to women.
But I want to try it with a woman so bad.. Just like how it should be anyways.

>>129722
Me too, I've only been with a woman once online and I'm terrified of men at this point. I find it hard to click which women are bi / gay that I'm embarrassed to ask and pursue irl. If anyone who's dated girls has tips please send them

you're not

There’s nothing wrong about your decision and embracing the single life.

You're not being too stubborn at all, I think you are noble, and I'm sorry about your miscarriage nona

>My ex says I'll grow out of it but,

Babe, that's not true. He either has no empathy or doesn't understand. You don't just grow out of something like that. It's your child. Even if it was a miscarriage, it is still your child.

It's always okay to feel how you feel, and your feelings don't suddenly go away or change, it's still you despite everything. You don't magically grow out of yourself.

If you've already broken up once, then he's an ex, and exes are exes for a reason. Clearly not compatible and not on the same wave length. It has nothing to do with age either. The cycle of breaking up and getting back together happens with teenagers, those in their 20s, those in their 30s, those in their 40s, etc. It's just a clear sign that they aren't the right person for you.

Sex isn't love either. Love is genuinely caring, being compassionate, having empathy, supporting, and being able to relate to how you feel without dismissing it as "Bro just grow out of it"

>sex genuinely hasn't brought me much good in my life

Sex isn't for everyone. For many people (both men and women) it's just entertainment. Men use women to entertain themselves. Women use men to entertain themselves.

Some women like to cater to those men and talk dirty ("my pussy is sooooo wet", "And I would really look forward to you fucking my boobs fast and hard with your dick until you explode all over them", "Which position do you want to try anal in first?" or "I’d also really enjoy if you lick both of my holes from behind while I’m on all fours mmm" etc), talk about various sex acts such as blowjobs, different positions, anal sex. It's all about catering to him and validation or they want to feel 'desired' and 'wanted' as if they are only useful for entertaining him sexually. The "PICK ME" women. The women who feel like they're not attractive enough so they have to go far and harder to appeal to men sexually.
Post too long. Click here to view the full text.