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How do I overcome? Anonymous 133514[Reply]

I work part time, my boyfriend works full time. He works 8-5:30 everyday, I work anywheres from 7 and 8am - 3pm, 3pm-7pm, or even 12pm-6pm.
I am constantly afraid that I am going to be cheated on or he is going to watch porn. We have conversations about it, it’s never argumentative, and he has been profusely reassuring me.

I am simply just not sure I can shake that feeling in my stomach and chest entirely. It’s truly impacting my ability to function at work and my inability to be away from him while he is home alone.
Do I put something on his phone to monitor his browsing?? What conversation can I have to make this stop happening??

I’m at a loss, caused by my own insecurity.
I do not know what to do
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Anonymous 133516

You're going to push yourself further into your head and believe he's cheating when he isn't, probably. To the point it makes you unbearable to be around. If he's reassured you, why don't you trust him? I'm not doubting you. You need to ask yourself honestly why. Is there anything that's remotely justified in making you feel like this?
>Do I put something on his phone to monitor his browsing??
Look, if he was that bothered he'd probably get a second phone or something for his cheating. You can never truly control or predict other people.
>What conversation can I have to make this stop happening??
Not TOO many of them, that's for sure. The paranoia might set him off tilt and make him believe you'll never have faith in him, causing other problems.
Like >>133515 asked, have you been wronged already before? Are you insecure about your looks or body? What's really going on. If it's a disorder you can be medicated for that.

Anonymous 133518

I once dated someone who was extremely paranoid that I would cheat to the point of making me remove friends from my contacts and the funny part is that they ended up cheating, next time someone acts paranoid about me cheating I'll dump them instantly, after experience that I haven't even felt like dating again

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>>133518
Excessive paranoia about a given topic is often like that, projection. They know they do these things, have these vices, and thus assume everybody else does as well. They project their own guilt onto others.

Anonymous 133583

>>133514
if you are consistently paranoid about being cheated on it means you have low self-esteem. you need to increase your self-esteem either with some mental exercises or physical..

Anonymous 133589

>>133514
All males are porn cucks. They love being emasculated by other men.


tired Looks perfect Anonymous 133575[Reply]

I look beautiful, but for 2026 lately there are a lot of anxieties in my life, like having to choose suitable clothes or beautiful makeup. I am mentally exhausted and stressed, confused about the appearance I want and how my friends always dress beautifully and use good makeup, also on social media, so I have to always look as perfect as possible so that I am not outdone by my friends and look perfect on social media you know times have changed

Anonymous 133584

r u stupid

Anonymous 133587

You're too young to be here.

Anonymous 133588

Also, that song sucks.


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Only Child Anonymous 133251[Reply]

This thread is intended to be a safe and relatable place for only children to share their unique experiences and perspectives.
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Anonymous 133494

>>133276
19 day shift, rip

Anonymous 133501

Seeing people accuse only children of selfishness is certainly something. I feel I'm only so chill about sharing my belongings and accommodating others precisely because I've never had it expected of me or forced onto me inside my own home

Anonymous 133526

>>133501
Give me $400

Anonymous 133527

>>133526
Okay, details?

Anonymous 133528

I'll send you a couple pennies, if you insist. Since you need it. My only child generosity knows no bounds


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im a pathological liar Anonymous 133502[Reply]

title. basically all of my life ive been making shit up about myself and there hasnt been a single person in my life to whom i havent lied to excessively. i do this because i really hate myself and my life so i dissociate by inventing new lives and personas for myself. nobody knows the real me because ive lied so much. there are countless chunks of my identity that are entirely made up and it doesnt help that i tell everyone a different story. im too deep into these personas to stop or fess up. i compulsively lie about even the smallest things like what i had for dinner for example. its a lifelong pattern and i abandon everyone before they can figure out that i am full of shit

Anonymous 133503

Yeah yeah so the typical lolcow/tumblr poster. What else is new?

Anonymous 133505

>>133502
What are some of the bigger things you have lied about nona? You might as well say it here. I’m curious

Anonymous 133511

Nature or nurture? Why're you like this


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trichotillomania Anonymous 113089[Reply]

not sure if I should post this here or in hb, but does anyone else suffer from trichotillomania? if so,
>when did you start?
>why did you start?
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
>have you ever had bald spots?
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?

Anonymous 113090

>when did you start?
the summer after first grade which has been 18 years that I've been doing this

>why did you start?
I had lice that summer so I started doing it because I thought I would be able to see if I had lice but it became a nervous habit

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
not really honestly

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
yes, my 4th grade teacher made me wear ponytails every day and now I have headaches if I have my hair up for too long, in 5th grade my teacher made me flip my card for touching my head, at one point in middle school, I pulled so much that a pile of hair was on the floor

>have you ever had bald spots?
yes, in middle school it got so bad that my grandma made me wear hats when she took pictures of me

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Anonymous 113093

>>113089
>when did you start?
When I was around 8/9
>why did you start?
Anxiety
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
I took escitalopram for years to help stop with it, and I was able to ween myself off it and not re-start the habit.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
I had bald spots until I was about 20 so yes.
>have you ever had bald spots?
See above
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
I'm about 10 years clean now

Anonymous 113119

> when did you start?
i think in 2017 or 2018?

> why did you start?
an eyebrow accidentally got tightly stuck in my nail and when i pulled it it was painful but kinda good. i pick my skin so picking my eyebrows was a similar fidgeting relief

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
honestly not really. but a few times when i had gotten my nails done i noticed i barely did it bc i was physically unable to

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
i wouldnt say my friends made fun of me but they pointed it out when they noticed. then i told them to keep poiting it out so i could stop bc i do it unconsciously

>have you ever had bald spots?
yeah lol but then i bought a black eye pencil and realized i could just cover the bald spot with it

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Anonymous 116084

>>113089
>when did you start?
when I was 13-14
>why did you start?
combo of OCD and real bad rough patches when I was a kid
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Yes. Almost a year ago my issues culminated into panic attacks, I thought I was having a heart attack on a daily basis. I took zoloft for a few months and picked up a book called Feeling Good (self help CBT) the apathy combined with the new coping mechanism pretty much stopped my pulling within the 2nd month.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Too many to count
>have you ever had bald spots?
My hairline resembled Mao Zedong's for years on end
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
eight months and counting.

Anonymous 133470

when did you start?
Around 11 or 12.

why did you start?
No clear reason. I think it started as a fidget thing and turned into a compulsion. Stress makes it worse but it's not like I only do it when stressed.

have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Not fully. Keeping my hands busy helps somewhat (fidget toys, knitting), and wearing a hat or keeping my hair up makes it harder to do mindlessly. But nothing has made it stop completely.

have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Yeah. Mostly when people notice me pulling and I didn't realize I was doing it. Also comments about my eyebrows or hair looking thin.

have you ever had bald spots?
Yes. Eyebrows and a patch near my part.

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Any German Women here? Anonymous 133119[Reply]

I'm German and would like to connect with other German PinkPill Women on here. Have you found community? Only see English speaking threads everywhere

Anonymous 133120

>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

Anonymous 133390

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

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>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now

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how to date when you're a chud? Anonymous 133372[Reply]

genuinely i feel like i got nothing to offer. i have a job but it's minimum wage and i'm struggling to find work elsewhere. i can't drive even though i'm in grad school. and i'm chopped af (even though whenever i say this people are like "nooo you're so pretty ahaha to make me feel better. like bruh if wasn't ugly i wouldn't be here).
i usually end up third wheeling while my pretty friends get hit on or listening to their woes of people thinking they're hot and it just makes me feel weirdly uncomfortable because thats rarely happened to me. and obviously i don't think they should get attention they don't want! but i guess i feel a terrible sense of jealously over being desired even if i know it's wrong. it's weird and makes me feel guilty.
it's gotten to the point where my online friend made a weirdly nsfw comment to me but i wasn't even bothered by it because it made me feel wanted for once? i know it was bad and i should call him out, but it's been the only think to make my heart skip a beat in so long.
idk mostly a vent but if anyone has any advice on how to not be a total loser i would like to hear it ^^ hoping whoever is reading this is doing better than i am

Anonymous 133432

>>133372
For one, you should draw a line with people making comments like that towards you. That’s a pretty big red flag that they’re only really interested in you because you’re a woman and they want to get their willy wet.

I get wishing people would flirt with you, I really do, I was and still am in a similar boat with you in regards to feeling unwanted, but when I actually reciprocated the few flirts I did get, bad stuff happened that lead to my heart getting broke. As for what you can do, I would say just make the most of what you have, something that’s numbed those feelings a lot for me is trying as much new shit as possible helped a bunch, and constantly leaving my comfort zone to explore has made me feel a lot more grounded.

When it comes to actually finding what you seek, I’m sorry Nona but you’ll have to be patient. Finding someone you can trust and reciprocate the want you show them cannot be done in a day. If you branch out from your comfort zone, you’ll hopefully find what you seek, but you’ll have to show initiative.

Anonymous 133448

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Like the other nona said, get out of your comfort zone, you'll meet many more people and learn about yourself. If something isn't your thing then at least you have the experience and an interesting story. You'll become more interesting and that will attract people to you. More opportunities to meet people and some of them will become friends and potentianly maybe even lovers. The right person is out there, you just have to go meet them


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Cats Anonymous 133411[Reply]

i wish i had a cat so bad theyre literally so cute and adorable. cats reduce stress too!!! im one of those people who believes the cat chooses you, not the other way around lol. i hate when ppl say “you’re gonna be a lonely cat lady with cats and wine” like thats supposed to scare me babe thats literally my dream life. i love cats so much

Anonymous 133412

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>>133411
Listen, sis. You can't spend your whole life chasing a 1% cat chad. Even if you got one, he'd just use you (and every one of your neighbors) for food. You gotta learn to love a 8/10 cat. And don't wait for one to come to you. find one you like and take him for yourself. Trust me, the cat will be happy you're paying attention to it.

Anonymous 133413

>>133412
scrote all cats are 10/10 cats

Anonymous 133423

I have a cat that is a wonderful companion and I love him very much.

Only annoying he ever does is run and jump on/off my bed when I am trying sleep which wakes me up. I have enough trouble sleep as it is so I had to start kicking him out of the room at night. He cries at my door and makes me sad but I need sleep

Anonymous 133438

>>133411
my mom dont like cats she’s actually scared of cats. how tf do i convince her to let me adopt one??


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Be yourself Anonymous 133356[Reply]

just yesterday i discovered im a femcel. Maybe other femcel that sees me thinks im not one of them. Im a socially accepted femcel just because im pretty but honestly ive never had a partner my experience with guys has been so weird that ive never had a boyfriend and ive never even kissed anyone.
i love men and id really like to have my first boyfriend but i dont think we should put men on a pedestal or blame beauty standards for our misery I think we should empower ourselves by using beauty standards to our advantage If you cant beat the enemy you should join it.
Don’t be a ‘Stacy’ or a ‘True Eve’. Be a ‘True Lilith’

Anonymous 133357

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>>133356
Men should be the ones performing beauty for us. Where do they get the gaul to expect us to jump through hoops for them, when they are the ones begging for sex like they're gonna die from loneliness ? How is it we are completely outnumbered by men on dating apps? And they wanna be a 4 or 5 and only accept an 8 or 9 woman? Hahah no they need to make it worth our time

I mean i think everyone has wierd experiences with men… Its just way easier to avoid a ton of the shit that comes with dating. Its too much headache and too easy to be single.

Anonymous 133358

>>133356
Some men are SOOOO stupid I never seen a really handsome man be picky with his taste in women. The only ones who are demanding are old men who like younger girls or stupid guys saying some shit like "goth mommy" and they look like shit

Anonymous 133365

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men do not appreciate all the work that goes into looking beautiful, they just see "pretty girl". look good for yourself, and bring happiness to those who love and care about you. never chase love, but nurture the one that shows genuine care and affection, not just tepid attraction. Good Luck Nona!


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Anonymous 130353[Reply]

What was the hardest part of growing up for you?
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Anonymous 130359

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always feeling different to other children, people constantly misunderstanding me, my emotional needs rarely being met and feeling so out of place and alienated.

Anonymous 130363

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Feeling misunderstood by my family, never outgrowing my middle school awkwardness, not being very good at picking myself up again after big disappointments and rejection, having difficulty imagining a good future for myself that wasn't an impossible fantasy where I was as beautiful as I wanted to be and as loved as I wished I'd been

Anonymous 133297

dealing with neglect and abuse at home only to go to school to get bullied for being "weird" (unkempt because i was neglected) and having teachers either ignore me at best or participate in tormenting me. worst part was seeing how they treated the kids with present and proper parents with kindness and care. believe it or not i didn`t chose to not have the right pencil with me at 7 years old, i`m not doing this to make your teaching harder. but i guess some teachers just like the power and without parents who care about you, who will defend you anyway? we say we care so much about childrens safety as a society but that`s just bullshit.

Anonymous 133341

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finding a reason to keep going

Anonymous 133363

Not killing my children after I got pregnant at 16.


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