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i've been a radical feminist my whole life, and i'm also quite unappealing physically. i thought i was a lesbian for a long time before i accepted that i'm bisexual and do want to have a moid to have sex with. i feel so conflicted with my sexual urges towards moids and also the fact that i wish they would all die and disappear off of the face of the earth. they are all disgusting scum, all unable to have a modicum of emotional intelligence, genuine kindness or humanity inside of them.

my ex was my dream guy physically and sexually, but i never got to dominate him and get what i wanted out of him. he haunts my dreams at night, and i hate him so much for being so appealing to me, physically.

i wish i didn't feel physical attraction to males, as it's impossible that a moid could ever fulfill my needs emotionally. i've accepted the fact that the way i could ever get what i wanted (sexually) is through casual sex or a fwb arrangement.

do any of you thnk this way? have you given up on romantic love too? how do you cope?

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't make me happy anymore. He does but he also doesn't. It feels like he's never doing what he says he will, or he's letting me down somehow. I love him. But I'm slowly starting to not enjoy being around him anymore. I think I can fix this but I'm too tired to bring it up. I don't want to hurt him.

can anyone give me some deep questions to ask your partner.

im starting to feel so emotionally disconnected that its driving me insane so maybe some questions could be fun to deepen the relationship. bc now that i think about it im not sure my bf knows that much about me and im going insane. i have ocd so im ruminating rn its fine… i just need some fun deep questions

i hate seeing girls like the same things i like i feel like im always out for male validation even though im not interested in men… i feel like my life as a woman has no worth because im fat and ugly. im relapsing into bulimia and my mouth is rotting away. im out of school, i cant get a job and my friends always exclude me in selfies when we hang out because im so ugly. everyone i talk to is a transgirl i have no cisgirl friends and im scared of them all. when im done reading, playing games or watching anime for the day i realize how sad my life is and i want to kill myself.honestly im afraid of anyone that isnt a tranny. i hate seeing pretty girls i hate seeing cosplayers. i really want them to all die someday. i always forget im autistic until i speak to real people and then i realize theres just no hope for me.

i hate my life. being below average as a girl is torture. im technically fakecel bc i actually found a man who i like who is an older dilf and he lets me live with him so i get to have sleep in his bed and have sex sometimes so that's nice but has anyone else noticed how when youre below average as a girl people aren't as kind or respectful of you? its like stacys who know how to do makeup and have good genetics have a halo effect and everyone is gentle towards them and stuff but the man i live with he's kinda rough during sex and doesnt seem to care about my feelings much sometimes and then i have 1 friend (my only friend) who is considerably cuter than me and everyone always treats her like her feelings matter and will allow her to cut corners and stuff just to avoid hurting her feelings

Until recently, I have always been a very loud pro-trans ally. I've attended protests on behalf of trans rights and ended lifelong friendships over even a whiff of transphobia. But watching so many of my trans friends continue to ignore and even defend the issue regarding porn and its' fetishization of pedophilia and violence against women and has been incredibly eye-opening and shocking to me.

I've gotten into SO many arguments lately with trans people I've known for decades regarding the ethics of "barely legal" and lolicon porn. They'll defend it down to their last breath, swearing up and down that making any move to attempt to regulate pedophilic porn will "lead to a trans genocide." They make these arguments… while knowing firsthand that I was groomed and exploited as a kid by a man using lolicon manga. They were IN MY LIFE when it happened. Some have even explained that I am "using transphobic rhetoric" for being against lolicon at all… because "some trans women realized they were trans because of lolicon."

At first, I thought maybe it was just that my "friends" were just not the people I thought they were. I thought, surely it can't be the entire trans community, right? And while I definitely see some trans people advocating against pedophilic porn, there's the entire "pro-paraphilia" side of the community, as well as a huge portion of the community that is basically like "well, ~I~ don't like it, but we can't have ANY censorship because then trans people will be censored!" The violence against women and children have to be ignored so that you don't have to fight for your own rights a little harder? You'd rather protect the pedophiles and sadists than work harder to separate your community from them?

If I am now magically "transphobic" for having an issue with these things that had a direct impact on my life, and so many other women's lives, then so be it. I won't harass them, I won't cause them trouble, but my advocacy for them stops here. I will always prioritize women first and foremost from here on out… because clearly nobody else but us will.

i've only been with moids my whole life, but last night i had an opportunity to have sex with a woman and it was very lovely at first, but i realised during it i wasn't really enjoying it, so we stopped.

after i had left her house i just cried so hard.
i never particularly liked having sex with moids, but i thought that was a moid thing.

i think i struggle with having sex with anybody, it just makes me really uncomfortable despite the fact i really enjoy intimacy and the company of others.
i really like to flick my bean, so its not like i have no arousal.. i just dont like having sex with people.

have any other nonas experienced anything similar?
i feel like im in a weird situation because i can't expect a long-term relationship with anyone if the thought of having sex with them terrifies me.