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scared about possible stalker Anonymous 125618[Reply]

girls, i’m kind of scared about a possible stalker finding where i am. i used to talk to this weird guy online when i was younger. he said something about moving to where i live but i doubt he did. men who look like him are fairly common but i saw a man that looks similar to him. i don’t know if im just overthinking.

Anonymous 125623

please don't take this as me being dismissive of your feelings. but the odds are, you are overthinking it a bit. you don't have to worry about him anymore, don't let him control your feelings or life. legit, the odds of stumbling upon that person are almost zero. just delete whatever socials you used to talk to him and chillax with your life

Anonymous 125625

>>125618
idk if this is the right or wrong thing to say, honestly, but i have had this happen twice somehow…both times they never actually found me irl. there are too many people , too many places to go.. also online stalker type men tend not to go out much anyway

Anonymous 125626

>>125618
it sounds like this was a while ago and tbh he's probably creeping on another girl rn esp if he's a pedo, you've aged out relax sis



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Anonymous 125585[Reply]

drunk as fuck alone in my room. how can i ever find friends or love if im just a stupid gay loser shut in femcel freak
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Anonymous 125610

>>125608
Come post in the alcohol thread!

Anonymous 125613

>>125610
Where is it?

Anonymous 125614

Your post reminded me of myself (in a good way!). If you want a drinking friend or to chat with another person who has experience in this field, feel free to add me on discord: archer054

Anonymous 125615

I relate to this post. High and and ugly shut in femcel

Anonymous 125621

>>125613
in /b/



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is having a crush supposed to feel like a panic attack Anonymous 125563[Reply]

i gotta die i like this guy and i feel like my nervous system is under attack. every time he texts me i feel like im gonna throw up everywhere . dont even know if he likes me back but i kinda hope he doesnt because we should all just die this is the most nerve wracking thing to happen o me
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Anonymous 125589

by "it" I meant to say attachment theory specifically, sorry

Anonymous 125590

>>125589
probably something like that, i think im dismissive avoidant. wanting to talk to someone genuinely makes me feel humiliated and when he does something nice for me or i tell him i enjoy something it makes me angry almost?

Anonymous 125595

>>125590
Damn an irl tsundere

Anonymous 125601

>>125590
I'll make a guess based on limited information I see.

There's probably something in your past that is making you act. Unhealthy attachment styles are an adaptation to shitty relationships, generally. They're fixed by having healthy relationships.

If your reactions to social interactions are this turbulent you're probably around a lot of crazy schizos or something because it's not very normal. I kinda relate to what you're saying and I got better after getting better and more understanding people around me.

Anonymous 125603

>>125601
i was for a loongggg time i was a shut in and a neet. for the last year and a half ive gotten normal and around normal people, surprisingly integrated really well into everyone elses world outside of my computer. but until then i was staring at a screen with social invalids and yeah i think having a crush on a guy i met irl through mutual friends who is normal is driving me batty



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Anonymous 125491[Reply]

I’m so touch starved. I’m genuinely starting to get curious about where to find male prostitutes. Not for sex. Just for cuddles and to tell me I’m pretty. Maybe he’d play with my hair. Im going insane.
Do any nonas have experience with prostitutes? What was it like?
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Anonymous 125498

>>125492
Gross ass animation

Anonymous 125506

>>125492
I have had boyfriends but the fact of it is going on dates implies sex and I don’t want that. It’s pointless and useless. I don’t want some perv who’s just gonna shove his hands down my pants. I’d rather go to a professional where my boundaries will be respected. I know in Japan it’s more common for women to seek this sort of thing. :/Nona if you decide to go down that road pls report back.
>>125493
I haven’t gotten a massage but I have gotten facials and I get my hair cut regularly (I love when the hair dresser scrubs my scalp). It’s just that I wanna genuinely press myself against someone. I don’t have friends or family so it’s not as simple as seeking out physical touch from loved ones.
>>125496
I don’t think you really seek validation from prostitutes

Anonymous 125533

No sex required? I'll do 40% price match.

Anonymous 125547

>>125533
Are you offering to be my prostitute lol

Anonymous 125556

>>125547
Don't call it that you said no sex stuff



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First breakup Anonymous 125541[Reply]

My boyfriend and I were together for two years - when we started dating I was 18 and he was 23. He was my first kiss and he took my virginity. Not that it really matters, I guess the only significance is that this was my first relationship. He really really cared about me. He told me he thought he would never meet someone who he could marry and have kids with, and that he changed his mind when he met me. And I ruined everything. ;_; He sent me an email yesterday telling me to accept that he will never say "I love you" to me again… I don't know what to do. This is awful. I miss him so much, he was my only friend. I made a lot of the time we spent together suck really bad because I’m always sad or anxious about something but I still loved being around him. He is so smart and so warm, he makes friends everywhere he goes. I miss him so much. Do you think if I work on my issues he will give me one last chance? Please let me know if you need more info, any reassurance would bring me so much comfort. I don't want to be with anyone else. Sorry for the annoying post.

Anonymous 125542

>>125541
What are your issues? I’m not liking how he blames you for his negative view of marriage and relationships. Seems unfair to say to tou even if you really have changed it. What do you both think have you done that warrants such a comment? Also your age gap may not seem like like it makes a difference but it really does. And I say this as a woman who has always and still prefers older men myself.

Anonymous 125549

>>125542
Well, he said he changed his mind when he met me, as in he liked me enough that he decided we could have a family together… I caused him to change his mind again by being kind of mental. That’s what said, at least. The other day he told me that I am too fragile and "not wife or mother material." I was often asking him what I could do better, or if he was happy with me, and I don’t really have friends any more so I became clingy. Also I am a high school dropout. ;_; I’ve been working on my GED for a while but I find it so hard to motivate myself to do anything most of the time. I am really terrible. I just started taking ssris again, and I am going to try my very very best to finish school, and then maybe I can go to college… And redeem myself? He was pretty mean to me last week, I don’t think I was ever that mean to him, but I wasn’t a good girlfriend. The thing is, I asked him if he was happy with me many times and he always said I was the best girlfriend he’d ever had… I wish he had told me he didn’t love me anymore, I seriously would have gotten my act together. I really hope he’s just angry and that maybe in a few months he will reach out. This is the weirdest experience ever, I had no idea that breakups feel like this.
>Also your age gap may not seem like like it makes a difference but it really does.
Most of the time he’s super silly, but this week I really felt it. I feel like I am speaking to someone much more mature than me. He never spoke to me that way when we were together… He was always goofing around. I hate it, it feels awful. He was so cold when I saw him in person.
Thank you for your reply, anon. <3 I’m really sorry for bombarding you with all of this. It’s nice to get my thoughts out, and if I don’t put them here I might try to message him again.



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Do MBTIs really affect personality? Anonymous 125268[Reply]

I did the quiz multiple times and ever since I was 16 I got the same answer - INTP (logician). this personality type isn't very common for women and is predominantly men, which makes me feel even more like an outcast.
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Anonymous 125311

>>125290
you sound extremely unemployed.

Anonymous 125522

>INTX
basically male, J instead of P and you would be fully autist piss bottle moid

Anonymous 125526

>>125290
I hope you're kidding lol

Anonymous 125536

They don't necessarily effect personality because it works as a classification system (albeit not a very good one LOL) :p it'll only effect ur personality if u try to make ur personality fit into a certain type

Anonymous 125543

I don’t get the question, It’s the other way: your personality affects your mbti type. Because it’s what it is - a personality type



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Anonymous 125343[Reply]

Most people don't really like me and I don't really enjoy their company either. That's sad but I have come to accept it.

Anonymous 125523

Based. Not sad just real life no one ever mentions ever. Unless this is just an issue for neurodivergent females

Anonymous 125525

>>125524
Debilitatingly genius ragebait. I am killing myself and pissing and crying

Anonymous 125527

>>125343
When you say you’ve accepted it. Does that mean you don’t try to form relationships anymore? Or maintain them? I’m asking cause I still try and I don’t know why because it always ends the same. And it just makes me even sadder.

Anonymous 125531

>>125527
It means I don't hold any false hope or expectations about socialization. I still need relationships as all humans do of course, it's just kind of on a hard mode. The way 99% of people act unnerves me in a way I can't really describe and I'm pretty sure they're unnerved by me as well.
Sounds like you and I may have a similar issue nona.



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Anonymous 119969[Reply]

Anyone else just accept the fact that they'll never have a husband and kids? How do you cope?
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Anonymous 124079

I have the opposite problem! I never wanted a husband or kids, but back at college all the men REALLY wanted me as their girlfriend!!!! They all LOVED my pikachu hoodie.

Anonymous 124081

>>124079
damn, maybe one of them could have saved you out of your predicament, so to speak?

Anonymous 124168

>>123715
I like your mindset. Would you expand on your personal story with your moid?

Anonymous 124171

People are dying nonas. Getting married and giving a moid babies does nothing but benefit him. You all need to get this through your heads.

Anonymous 124269

>>124168
I've tried typing this out a few times now and it's far too long. Is there anything in particular that you're interested in?



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Anonymous 121601[Reply]

Why do people get married only to cheat or divorce? Shouldn't they know if they're happy to be together BEFORE they get married?
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Anonymous 125339

>>125336
>domestic slave labor

What,doing chores? Laundry and dishes? Tasks you'd already also have to do even if you're single?

That's your idea of slavery and torture? You sound like a very spoiled and whiny person.

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>>125339
Hell no I'm not talking about that. That shit is damn near fun to do when you live alone. A moid is basically a full grown demanding entitled child that multipli a every horrible thing x10. Makes your life a guaranteed living hell. And then the added horror of children ??? Virtually all the women I've known endure the same thing living with one. Their life quality took a giant nosedive they became shells of themselves.

You couldn't pay me a million dollars to put up with a sack of shit like that. You only bitch that I'm "spoiled" because I'd have nothing to do with you taking over my existence and pretending everything under the sun belongs to your insufferable parasitic ass. Commandeering every bit of joy and sucking it out of my life. Holy shit I would chase your worthless ass out of my house with a portable wood chipper so fast I'm not even kidding.

Anonymous 125495

>>125336
Essentially a good deal of men are rotten and will come in to use up a woman and make her unredeemable trash. Even amongst more mindful men themselves, they recognise the average single mother is a burnt up husk and want nothing to do with them. Women to men, are single use. The women you know about who can claw out of it are typically of some degree of wealth.

Anonymous 125497

>>125495
A big reason women are single-use for men is because they often see us as a status object first and foremost (among other men), not as a person. Many "straight" men don't actually like women for who they are, just how they can help them one up other scrotes.
The chud obsesses over body count because he's obsessed with the idea of other men cucking him. The chud obsesses with the idea of revoking women's rights because then he can enact reproductive slavery and one up other men by having more kids or whatever.

>Even amongst more mindful men themselves, they recognise the average single mother is a burnt up husk and want nothing to do with them.

It's fair because a single mom is really a relationship with multiple people (ie her kids) and not everyone is comfortable with that, but it doesn't explain the vicious shitting on the single moms themselves AND the men who are ok with dating them. And if you look into why, it's always centered around the man being cucked by another dude.

Anonymous 125500

>>125497
How the fuck is the MOM the unredeemable trash??? After the scrote abandons his children???? After he uses her ?? Are you sick in the head ??



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i am the worst person in the world Anonymous 124716[Reply]

most women are deluded when they think they meet a good man. all my life i've never met a good man. until i met this one. his behavior was akin to Jesus Christ. it seemed as if it was physically impossible for him to do anything which even mildly inconviences anyone, let alone hurting anyone. as for me, it seems like i am physically incapable of doing anything but hurting people. to cut it short, he absolutely did not deserve what i did to him. i met him online and within less than a month of dating i got blackout drunk and cheated on him. like an idiot i talked to my friends about it because i cant keep my mouth shut about anything. i talked to my best friend about it and what we decided was since it was so early on and i genuinely saw a future with him i should just move on from it. forget about it. so i didn't tell him. we kept talking.

we decided we wanted to see eachother in person. he spent $5000 on a plane ticket and an airbnb for 25 days. i started birth control- the Opill, 3 days before he came. the first 2 days were heavenly. then on the 3rd night we shared a bottle of vodka together. i was doing okay until i put on his boxers. i was reminded of what i had done to him. i grabbed a kitchen knife and started to cut myself in front of him. i cut my neck. then we went to sleep. the dream was over. over the course of the next couple weeks i just wanted to stay in bed all day. i kept arguing with him over the tiniest things. it was like i was constantly on edge. he said it felt like i was never actually there, never "lucid enough to have an actual conversation with." we only had sex a few times because he said he could only have sex with someone who he felt loved him and he didnt feel like i loved him. we didn't go out a lot, not a lot of "cute dates…" we went out to fast food joints a few times. then he broke up with me. he said we could still stay friends and he could keep "taking care of me" but we couldn't have a romantic relationship anymore. he said i should leave the airbnb for a few days. my best friend, who lives nearby where we were staying, asked for his discord tag because "he's a foreigner trapped in an airbnb alone and we (her and her roommate, an acquaintance of mine who also knew what i had done to him,) want to be there for him incase anything goes wrong." then i left to go home.

then it gets worse. basically to cut it short they told him i have something to tell him and i threatened suicide over it. i video cPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 125445

>>125444
i quit going to therapy at 16 because i had known her for so long i felt ashamed talking to her and it wasnt going anywhere

Anonymous 125446

>>125260
sorry for crashing out at u ur actually being really nice… and yeah ive been trying to leave him alone. obviously we can never be together because cheating is one of those things that irrepairably and irrevocably destroys a relationship. it just feels like such a waste

Anonymous 125449

>>125444
actually no it must have been earlier than 15. i remember in 7th grade i broke down crying on the floor wrapping my whole body around my friends leg because she didnt want to sit next to me in science class

Anonymous 125484

op is neurodivergent and been taught to unconsciously see themselves as evil and bad. many such cases. the weird answer is to basically double down. I am bad bitch what the fuck are yall gonna do about it. Confidence and spending time with yourself to learn to like yourself is the answer. Therapy would help too im sure also weed.

Anonymous 125490

>>125484
Unironically the worst possible advice, this is like saying the moral of Prozac Nation is to be yourself



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