/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>118930

i've been considering going to figure drawing sessions in my area just to get out and meet new people. of course it won't be just women there but it'll put me out there with new people, and it's not a super intense social situation (i'm also an autistic loner).

do you have any hobbies that might offer classes in your area? sports, cooking, art? or anything you would be willing to try?

best of luck nona it's hard to make friends around our age <3

>>119215
>I wholeheartedly believe in homosexuality— but I doubt bisexuality
not to derail your thread but I entertained the idea that the opposite is true

>>119216

Nah, it’s okay.

Do you mean bisexuality exist, but homosexuality doesn’t?

I’m interested to hear why that is, actually. I don’t think that ideas ever crossed my head.

My doubt is usually on bisexuality but there were times when I’ve thought maybe it’s all fake. But never that bisexuality was more plausible than homosexuality.

>>119217
>I’m interested to hear why that is
Because I'm bisexual (I was like that before the mental illness) and since it's something I experience I know for sure it's a thing. The other thing that made me question if homosexuality really exists specifically in females is mostly because like 2/3 lesbians I encountered online ended up coming out as bi later on. I really don't want to upset anyone, it's just an observation but this is one of those topics that are super sensitive to some.

>>119236
NTA, but I think female homosexuality exists. I mean, 1/3 of online lesbians that remained lesbians probably experience only same-sex attraction. Lesbians are just super rare. And I think most "lesbians" online come out as bi, because they have either really specific type of men they're attracted to or they have misandry (common case) and respress feelings of men. And this, it takes some time for them to realize that they are actually bi

>>119237
*feelings for men

Call him cringe and a boomer. I bet he does a bunch of disgraceful stuff too and he's a hypocrite for judging others.

>>119162
Thank you nona,and yeah he was rlly bad just words do get to me easily lol

>>119161
What even is really considered ugly kek

>>119164
If no one looks at you with sexual desire? When children cringe when they see you? When the only person to ever compliment you is your mum.

>you disgrace your family
Oh that’s fucking rich. Could you imagine if that scrote’s parents had to look at his search history? I’m sure they’d be so proud of their baby boy.

>>119131
>He had to take them to cope with his traumatic childhood
Makes sense. How did it work out for him?

>>119144
Such a good person that preferred drugs over important people in his life (you, I assume).
Remember that.

It’s insane how more and more each day this sites posters resemble le classic incels in how terrible they are. Posting about how someone you loved died from a mistake and not a single shred of attempted empathy, just hatred towards a stranger out of a jaded view of love and the opposite sex. You all need help

>>119212
Whoa, you're telling me that a website based around capturing a gendered portion of the audience of an imageboard that's full of incels is also full of incels from that specific gender? Damn, what a shocking turn of events

>>118962
i lol'd at the description of him tping to turret. thanks for sharing

i also grew up gaming, and he didn't have a PC or console until a few years ago. so there's a huge skill gap for us too. i wish i liked some casual games, any recommendations?

honestly i think your advice is pretty good. it makes me disappointed that i can't enjoy those games with him, but yeah, a relationship without resentment is way more important

>>118965
My bf was trying to get good at league and knew more knowledge stuff than me, he’d read the league wiki and watch videos so he was trying but the reflexes and hands weren’t there. So I requested we play something where reading the wiki and knowing the game inside out would be beneficial for us. We started playing baldurs Gate together and since it’s turn based and strategy (a game he excels at) we’ve been having tons of fun.

And I went back to my old casual gaming ways and have started rekindling my love for the sims 2 again. I know it doesn’t seem like a multiplayer game but you can make it by having each other playing and raising different families and then plotting to marry them off. We live together so we share one PC for this but if you are e dating you can send him your neighborhood files and when he’s done a round he can send you the updated files

We also play Cereza and the Lost Demon. It’s single player but he plays cereza who literally just exists to hold enemies down and I play the demon where the fun combat goes in. Mario games are good too, Mario Kart he sometimes gets in first but then he goes into last place because there’s chaos. Smash Bro’s is a game he doesn’t like because he’s still not used to controllers and I just end up killing him in under a minute, not very fun for either of us

There’s so many games out there, you can even have him watch you play single player mode too. My bf likes seeing the cut scenes and since he’s into strategy he offers suggestions on what moves, he’s kinda like Futaba from P5 that way (Personas another good single game, highly recommend)

>>118960
My best friend's bf was like that and it was miserable to play with them / hear her be sad always because he got mad over a video game. Jesus it's not that serious noona, have fun and stop being a prick, you bf just wanna chill with you, not be part of esports team. Be tryhard but with random people lobby, not your friends and family.

>>118960
Maybe there's another geimu to be mutually tryhard together in if he sucks at class shooters as a genre, alternatively you could send him down paths to draw fire or blow up mines for you while you uh support him

There are types of games i specifically avoid playing with my bf cause while he's not amazing i really suck at them and he doesn't like it because he doesn't want to be upset at me.
Just find another kind of thing you can play together you aren't so try hard at.

>>118752
You probably aren't autistic, just got trapped on a circle of destructive behaviour so powerful that it seems like something inevitable like a syndrome instead of something the circumstances have made.

Autism is a genuine and verifiable life defining syndromic developmental disorder anon.
Or at least it used to be. These days the diagnosis has been watered down to be more of a personality quirk or characteristic rather than the disease it actually is.
The person who coined the term, Bleuler actually promoted sterilizing them, same with schizophrenics, another term Bleuler coined that also used to refer to an actual life destroying disease rather than some kind of horoscope star sign bullshit/overpathologization of normal behaviour/legal disclaimer to justify bad behavior

If you had actual autism you would know it, you wouldn't be sitting around pondering it.
Fuck Hans Asperger he ruined autism

>>118445
thank you, sweet anonita.. we are only a couple hours away from each other. i feel incredibly lucky. congrats to you, >>118446 and others!

>>118164
you didn't do anything wrong he's just to much of a coward to communicate

>>118446
>>118423
>Go on soc
>See it's 99% horny dudes
How do you even find a bf there? You must be flooded by nasty moids saying anything for a lay

>>118889
Right time right place. You also gotta do background checks and search for their discord handle in the archives before adding. If you see him posting in sexting threads and shit like that, don’t add him

my gf and i have been long distance for a bit over 3 years now. im getting frustrated because every time i ask what our long term goals will be i get a vague non answer ("well when i graduate…" etc)

thankfully both of us have the income to afford multiple trips a year to see eachother but it's definitely affecting my life since i feel like all the time in between visits is just like… the void. like im standing around in an elevator waiting to get to the next floor. i almost feel like i'm wasting my life on this but that's hard to admit.

i want to make it work and i feel like we can but man this is so taxing. at least its gone better than my last LDR where the first time we met up she immediately dumped me and we had to spend the rest of the trip awkwardly being friends only lmao.

picrel is scary for some reason

you can be anonymous and have a public life. imagine if facebook turned out to be harvesting millions of data on information that you never shared, like your crushes, really personal info about your sexual preferences, your mental health struggles, like the stuff you'd put in a diary. that would just be wrong. except instead of facebook, it's sites like 4chan, and oh wait, they do possibly do stuff like that and have possibly done stuff like that, or at the very least have users who definitely do stuff like that. oh, and, some bait is used to politically entangle human beings who might just be having a shit day and someone spammed something that made them feel sick.

wrong. its just wrong. it was a lie.

now imagine if people could just be anonymous and grow out of sites normally, or maybe even make their own. this outsourcing of reality is wrong and sick. but people should be able to be as anonymous as they want.

baby trapping is de-anonymizing people really. i mean, if someone wants to be a public figure, that's their choice.

>>118692
Why is the sky absinthe green? That is so cool!

And yeah fuck condoms!
or don't fuck with condoms is what I mean

>>118690
I really want to start writing and sharing more but I am not sure if I could handle people knowing what I like more publicly. I am already embarassed to admit it even if it brings me joy.

i've started a bunch of accounts with cute artsy usernames and not posted on them because i have this fear.
women who put themselves out there are so brave.

i'm not able to get out very often due to physical and mental illnesses so the internet is the biggest resource for me to socialize and meet others. but i'm so paranoid about online anonymity that if i make accounts to share my art, interests, thoughts, etc the moment people actually start interacting i either nuke the accounts or change the usernames. its difficult. at a certain point i wonder what is more detrimental… me isolating myself so greatly or losing some anonymity online?

i work dealing with bank fraud so i see all sorts of shit completely mess up peoples lives… so it's hard to convince me that anonymity isn't worth it.

Im also scared to make a girl uncomfortable if I ask her out. When I get nervous my face goes blank and my voice gets monotone and I seem angry when Im actually so nervous I feel like I'm going to shit myself. I asked a girl out once and she said no and that's cool but I'm pretty sure she thought I hated her afterwards cause I always got so nervous that I seemed angry

>>110491
>>110496
Bullet dodged tbh why did he waste your time in the first place? He sounds like a jerk.

>>110496
Nah he's just gaslighting you op.
If he asked you to hang out alone and said the things he did it was just a date with plausible deniability.
It's a sign of low confidence and sneakiness on his part, not worth it. You'll find someone better.

>>110491
>twinks
I swear wtf is up with ‘straight’ men dating/sleeping with twinks and keeping it secret? Two of my exes cheated with twinks.

>>111083
Denial.

>>110521
Nine months later (whoops) you're so right I stopped being his friend a few months ago because it was a repetitive push and pull situation