/feels/ - Advice & Venting

isn’t it just one of the first signs of being socially well-adjusted to at least attempt a compliment when seeing someone even if you don’t mean it? men aren’t expected to do it because they’re viewed as blunt and blind to social cues (and they generally are). women can read the room and can actually pick up on when someone needs validation or comforting. don’t fight it nano, the discomfort in being forced to compliment is just a reminder that you can emotionally understand someone.

>>126777
thank you cos how are men gonna blame all their problems on the gender they are mistreating and then ask us to view them as the victim fix everything for them and for some reason we are expected to be attracted to people like that. and then be submissive and be like yas you’re the boss? nah. they can suffer until they find enlightenment and use it to strengthen their character. or they can perish.

yesterday i matched with a guy on hinge who introduced himself as a misandrist but he unmatched with me after i told him i wasn't gonna split a check with him kek.

performative male final boss.

>>126784
that’s crazy but bullet dodged.

>>126784
i actually laughed at this holy shit theyre so retarded kek. very misandrist of him

>>126784
>yesterday i matched with a guy on hinge who introduced himself as a misandrist
That's like an immediate personality disorder red flag, clinical levels or not. Weird ahh manipulation strat.

>>126240
It's always fascinating to me that 4chan is about a million different things, while crystal cafe is almost exclusively about men and dating them. Definitely tells you something about the sexes

>> 126827
4chan is about four things: incels commiserating and affirming each others delusions, incel hobbies, incels desperately attempting to alter their appearance to try to gain female attention, and the rest of it is pictures of naked women and attempts to meet them or get them to contact incels. incel delusions are about lack of female contact. you have exactly three interests: gaming, cosplay and anime. those are all covered here as well as every other female interest. thanks for your time!

>>126243
Ironic how supposedly feminist website says that women have no place in discussing politics.

>>126839
Silly thought but- Maybe the answer is lolcow?

>>126845
I don't get it. You aren't allowed to discuss those subjects on lolcow either.

>tiktok
eww

There's subreddit on reddit called femcelgrippysockjail and average woman in there dates men.

>>126667

/r/femcelgrippysockjail is mostly troons.

>>126353
i havent used instagram in 5 years and there's r9k and looksmaxxing stuff all over my feed wtf

>>126694
It's true. I got kicked out of one of their side groups on fb cause a troon shared a meme about trans girls and guns and I called it a Tim meme. It's what pushed me towards radfem politics ngl. Not sure if I'm completely a terf tho

we're all your friends here nona

>>126807
I'm even willing to share my discord publicly in here and risk moids messaging me just to have someone talk with me

>>126809
There's find a friend thread on /b/ nona, you can share it there.

>>126810
Thanks for telling me, I posted there

loser men won’t even have a honeymoon period it’s just lovebombing to get what they want. decent men never stop showing up. if he’s bored after a honeymoon period, he’s never going to be happy with anyone ever so don’t even worry about it. those men all end up panic marrying at thirty something and divorcing like two years later. especially if it’s the type of guy with no female friends besides girls he’s trying to nice guy their way into a relationship with. they all end up with the women they wouldn’t even be friends with because they were delusional about their standards and don’t see women as people. as long as you aren’t that girl they’re settling for, don’t ever waste your energy caring. men like that are losers who hate themselves. tell yourself that and wait and see which ones still have hair past their mid twenties and choose from one of those instead. women have infinite options. men do not and have to worry. don’t worry about what men do.

>>126758
This has always been the case. Even young moids will date older just to get laid. But once they got money and able to attract girls his age or younger, he’ll try and wife them up.
>>126768
Yes even grandmas on tinder will have more options then moids. It’s always the short term but marriage good luck.
But there’s a lot of cope without self reflection. Maybe it wasn’t love bombing. Maybe it’s emotional labour and caretaker burnout then emotionally they check out. He can date someone half his age or twice his age. But it only takes a couple years for a fallout to happen in most relationships. We’re very comfortable with the dating hook up culture where if it’s too stressful suddenly it’s easier to break up then learning to endure or change to adapt to each others needs. But overall you deserve what you pull. Your partner is a reflection of you in some way or form. Do you see each other as human? Are you inheritly selfish and lazy? Did you feel you gave too much with little in reciprocation. Nothing wrong with transactional relationships as it’s more fair vs seeming to be more of a taker in the relationship.
But overall moids that want to marry. They know they have to work harder to get the young girls attention. If he’s dating casually without marriage he won’t care about age nor will he care about making it work as he’ll move on. The young girl he marries he has a lot to lose.

I know this is obviously not universal but most people into my soul were actually mental, whether as a dependant a narc or a sociopath. Actual love bombing shit. Idk how healthy soul attraction is supposed to look like.
I'm cool with that but I don't think most people would be

>>126761
and not just me too it's like a pervasive pattern with most ppl that I see as well

>>126760
because moids control the world.

>>126702
u can do better nona u dont deserve to stay with a horrible male

It's crazy how I never listened to Lana Del Ray even though I knew about the coquette scene back when it was niche. I just thought all the women were attractive lol
Maria and The Diamonds though… She was the goat. Better than Lana and Melanie hands down.
>>126693
Ethal Cain is irrelevant, that's a fucking moid. God I hate that stupid fuck so much. Men literally can't leave women the fuck alone even when it comes to aesthetics/music that is exclusively about womanhood. TTD.

>>126699
if she just masked more she would be so much more successful but she is authentic in a way that i think frightens a lot of people and they struggle to just take her at face value and believe what she says about herself and try to categorize someone who is intentionally having an authentic experience and therefore isn’t trying to flatten herself into one dimensionality and fitting in one neat little box like people want women to be

>>126670
Made me want to go on an alligator tour. Not to meet a guy like she did, just sounds fun.

>>126755
they honestly are super fun because they recognize the boats and come right up to be fed. they’re like polite dinosaurs. when i went on one the guy would have them wait turns even it was crazy.

>>126615
that made me feel a little better. thank you sweet nona.

I’ve lost weight but I still feel so fucking disgusting.
I know I should be proud of myself, but I can’t bring myself to be because in my mind I’ve made virtually no progress.
I started at 225 lbs and I now weigh 165. I’m not done losing yet, but I’m starting to feel really fucking discouraged.
I still look so fucking awful, if not just a little less wide than I used to be. I still have rolls and I can already feel the fact that I’ll have loose skin on my thighs and arms and stomach. The worst part is my legs, because I carry all my weight in my thighs so they’re still fucking gigantic.
Like even though I’ve lost weight and I’ll eventually get to my goal number, I won’t ever fucking feel pretty because I let myself get that big in the first place. It’s not even going to mean anything.
I struggled with binge eating all through out high school. I couldn’t take the feeling anymore so I decided I would finally try to stop binging and lose the weight, and I’ve been doing pretty consistently well as far as the scale goes, but I just feel like i barely have any visible progress to show for it.
I know I’m still overweight but even as I get closer to my goal I’m worried I’ll still look awful.
I feel so sick to my stomach because even after all I’ve put myself through I still can’t be beautiful and it’s all I’ve ever wanted but I guess it just isn’t attainable for someone like me. I hate living in my body, I hate looking the way I do.

>>126618
>>126618
hi, just know that the closer you are to your goal weight the better you'll look. youve made so much amazing progress already, and ive been in your place before. i also struggled to lose weight on my thighs but what helped the most is incline walking and power pilates. it doesn't matter how much you've used to weigh; what matters now is that you're changing and you're becoming healthier! keep going!

>>126630
thank you for the advice and kind words i really appreciate it nona :)

Even with makeup on I still feel like shit. Because yeah, I can put it on and be objectively prettier, but I just keep thinking about how the makeup industry targets women’s insecurities to get them to spend money and how I’ve fallen into that trap. I wish I could say I do my makeup for myself, as an artistic expression, but I 100% do it for others.