/feels/ - Advice & Venting

idk be straight

>>119387
Probably closeted

>>118935
As >>118957 said, he's a bitch. If he's visiting her dad even though he hated going to yours, that means that either he realized he was a dumbass and that any normal man wouldn't complain, or that he realized he was going to keep losing every future gf like he lost you. Kinda like how if after an unhealthy person gets a heart attack, they start exercising. Or if a person was never able to keep a gf because he never showered, so he started showering.

If she's fatter and uglier than you, then odds are is that he's settling, and might even be regretful.

>do I have the right to be hurt and upset
yeah I guess, but like I feel you don't have much reason to. Trash threw himself out. Feel you should be happy af

>>119284
>this doesn’t reflect on your character
Let's be honest here. It more than likely does. Anyone who posts on a website like this and browses the imageboard sphere probably isn't a great or interesting person.

you dont have the right to feel anything at this point, he loved you at some point but that's gone now. reality is (move on) he wasn't the right one to begin with. there's a reason why he treats you differently but 8 years? seriously let go. theres no reason to be upset over somebody who didnt put in the effort for any of your needs.

I wouldnt be hurt that he left me but that I wastd 8 years with a guy that didnt love me

Anon he's a loser, stop talking to him. It is not normal to maintain daily contact with an ex when they have a new gf.

>>118662
>just take the hint
you could be doing everything right and this would still happen. dont blame yourself. theres something wrong with those people. dont date through that stuff

I think men on dating apps are really just looking for hookups. like think about it, their seeing pretty girl after pretty girl so they probably get distracted by that and don't wanna do anything serious.

I met my bf on /soc/ so maybe give that a shot.

>>118676
where on /soc/ did you meet your bf? I thought that board was mostly disgusting coomers and degenerate NEETs.

>>118662
What the previous nona said, dating apps are no longer dating apps but rather hookup apps. I personally don't use them but a few friends of mine have and they've told me as such, so it worked out for them and their short-lived hoe phase.
>>119341
The ghosting and random blocking still happens on /soc/, not everyone there is a disgrace to the human race but looking for those people limits your options a bit and it still doesn't save you from people doing that to you. Honestly I think you might be better off using the friend threads if you just want someone to talk to or game with.

I think its honestly due to technology or smartphones. Nobody seems to ever want to communicate anymore other than with just their inner circle of friends. I am not an awkward person, but even the friendships I do make don't last long not because I am not trying, they just stop making the effort to communicate or even link up.

>>119277
Do you mean real life friends or just discord friends?

>>119279

i think this is probably the case too… it seems like no one really cares to get to know anyone anymore it feels like whenever i meet new people i cant even expect to talk to them anymore past that even if were considered “friends” everything just feels so fake

>>119280
either or i just wanna be able to talk to people about anything really :(

>>119277
I'd say the best way to make good friends is too find an obscure community for, well, anything really and be active on it, even if they tend to be full of weirdos. I used to be really really awkward socially growing up, I then joined the community for a game that no longer exists in principle and found friends that'll last me a lifetime.

>>119273
You're probably both ugly and uninteresting. Ugly people can get action if they show an interesting life in their photos. But since you're posting on this website I assume all your photos are depressing grainy selfies in your drab bedroom.

I think people just have distorted views of what women online look like since they can easily put on any makeup and edit away flaws making it look perfect. I don't have any advice on dating/dating apps but I hope you don't worry about it too much nona, such apps are often rigged anyway

You might just be too picky rather than ugly.

Which apps?
A lot of them aren't particularly good places for lesbians.
Often the dating app interactions that actually exist for lesbians are either men impersonating women for fetish purposes or men impersonating women for financial scamming purposes.
This is not a terrible thing because it means that life outside of dating apps is usually sufficient for most lesbians to find a real partner in normal space.

>>119273
Shadowbanned

>>119267
I’m pretty damn happy with him. Just haven’t had the luxury of living with him to see if we’re actually able to live together. One thing I wish I understood when I was younger was you can love each other and get along well but have fundamental differences in values that make you incompatible as a couple. Stuff like agreeing on wanting children or even just some basic ways that you conduct your daily lives (think cleanliness standards). In those cases it’s better to just split amicably if you can and stay friends. It’s not reasonable to expect someone to change just because you ask them to.

>>116764
> femdom
Gross, stopped reading right there.
Kinks are disgusting

>>117907
>scizo rants about the government, and the supernatural
>His life revolves around magic
>Makes you feel stupid… makes you think the intelligence gap is huge

Um, nothing wrong with anyone practicing witchcraft or whatever - if anything we need more witches out here - but based on how you're describing him, he doesn't seem like the epitome of intelligence in the highest sense. I don't mean to put him down, because literally most people aren't, and everyone has their own best version of intelligence, like EQ or being empathetic or being autistic about the Sino-japanese wars. But I just don't want you to feel like you're a stupid person or something - or at least any more than the average person undoubtedly and uncontrollably is, which includes your bf.

If he treats you right and loves you well, I'm all for this relationship, really. But if he sometimes says things that makes you feel put down in an I'm-stupid way, you really need to talk to him about it. If he truly is smart, he should be able to self reflect, and work with you to better communicate information in the future.

>>119269
>overweight
>goes to the gym
Can't choose both as a con, lol

>>119292
He's a powerlifter, one of his hobbies.

>>119288
Go on Tinder or Hinge or Bumble

>>119288
I feel you, nona. I want physical intimacy really bad and to share a meaningful connection with someone but it will take a lifetime before anyone chooses to pursue anything serious with me.

>>119289
fuck no

>>119285
might sound simple but hav you thought of talking to therapist it could help usually mine helps me out with work problems etc

what type of job is it also?

What's your job and how old are you? What do you do for fun?

>>119243
I feel you, I hate having curly hair. It's not even the cute kind of curls UGH.

>>119244

You know what— I don’t say this as a platitude but I really do think all curly/kinky hair is cute.

But I know what you mean because it’s not the kind that other see as “cute”.

It just sucks that you could find so much beauty in something unconventional yet those who around you will beat that opinion out of you.

Besides, why the helll was straightening my hair the only option she could think of?

Black women hate black (or biracial black in my case) hate each other so much but are flustered and mad when you say as much.

>>119245

Apologies for the typos. I’m high as a kite right now.