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Anonymous 123336[Reply]

This happend a week ago I can't stop thinking about it and im so depressed. So after work I asked this guy if he wanted to do something on our day off he just " no sorry I am busy" no problem right!? The next day the manager called me " sorry I am going to let you go because one our workers doesn't feel comfortable around you" this was probably my worst rejection ever I already got over him, but it was my job man my livelihood. Now I am here worrying about money and still job hunting… the job market is so bad. This is probably the most depressing summer yet and it's my birthday tomorrow don't feel like celebrating it. Just hopefully dying in my sleep. I hate being alone.
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Anonymous 124031

>>123336
You are a tranny aren't you? That's why he reacted that way

Anonymous 124033

people say don’t shit where you eat but where are you supposed to meet people offline anymore

Anonymous 124034

>>124033
you aren't apparently, maybe go to social gatherings? Conventions for your interests or something?

Anonymous 124042

>>123343
It isn't weird just stupid.

Like >>123342 said, don't shit where you eat. If you have problems at home, work gets to be a respite from that. If you have problems at work, home gets to be your respite. Imagine you date a coworker and get cheated on and you end up on the same shift with the girl he cheated on you with. Many such cases.

Anonymous 124045

I fell for the "We are family" meme at my previous workplace and now I'm jobless too.
Coworkers are there to earn money, not to make friends and start a family, and so should you. Friendships happen but they won't hesitate to exploit you, whether knowingly or because "circumstances" forced them to.

Whatever it may be, lesson learnt, nona.



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Prayer Thread Anonymous 122943[Reply]

For yourself, for others, for the world, any way you want to pray.

Anonymous 122944

praying for my friend in the hopes he is struck with some kind of happiness soon

Anonymous 123369

>>122943
Praying to have better health

Anonymous 123374

Praying that children around the world can be safe and keep their innocence, and for those being abused to find a way out and to overcome the trauma.

Anonymous 123775

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Praying that everyone takes up the cross, praying that everyone sees the power humility, praying that pennance is done for degenerate lives we tolerate.



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Anonymous 122774[Reply]

Disillusioned. Spent a large part of my life being inclusive to people who are "different" because of feeling like an outcast in childhood. Shit just blows up in my face. I don't consider myself GC or anything like that but I am noticing a sickening pattern.

Why is it that nearly every trans woman I've befriended or have to work with has caused absolutely fucking chaos in my life and acted like they were the poor little victim when I called them out on it. I can't talk about this shit anywhere or I'm a bigot apparently.

I remember when I came out as bi to my friends over a decade ago, my family somehow found out, and then it was a total fucking nuclear explosion of issues. I was ostracized in my small town for something I didn't even want to be known publicly. But now it's some bizarre purity test to be some flavor of queer and if I don't mention it I don't deserve respect?… Maybe it's because I'm so past that point, but my orientation is such a small part of my life and has little to do with how I view the substance a person has.

I don't want to dictate how other people live, whatever you want to do go for it. But I've been used, stalked, screamed at, and professionally sabotaged by people like this more often than the rest of the population, totally unprovoked. Ten in a row is insane and a pattern. I rarely get treated this way elsewhere. Even the men I work with are decent and kind in comparison.

My boss will be pretty assertive with anyone except the trans women on our team. I was being creeped on by one of our clients and one of the trans women basically sabotaged my safety. The other sabotaged me at a public event. Boss just shrugs her shoulders when I bring this up and is way too nice to them. Says some shit about second puberty and calls it a day. What's worse is I think her processing is skewed because she has a trans daughter that's financially and emotionally abusive to her. She is an elderly disabled woman, and I feel like they're only getting away with this because she's walking on eggshells. It hurts to watch because I'm also disabled and was abused by my family for it. But her daughter just gets away with it because “she's going thru a hard time.” That's not love.

Weren't we still expected to have accountability while we were going thru puberty?? I'm so sick of this bs without being able to talk about it.

What do I even do? Who do I even talk to?…
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Anonymous 122873

>>122837

I get the sentiment. But I've associated with all kinds. I think it's just difficult to pick my way thru to find the type of woman that would be around here but in person. I also live in a city that's well known for catering to this crybully bs. Maybe I need to move to the woods and give up on friendships.

Anonymous 123162

>>122873
I suspect you're looking for the wrong thing. I'd certainly not want to associate with the usual types of people who are "around" CC.
If you want to be a recluse, your best option is to remain in a major city. Rural life basically demands that you participate in society, whereas cities allow you to be a lonely hermit.

Anonymous 123164

>>123162

Its not about the city in general. It's about the city in particular. It's basically the trans capital of the US. It's like an echo chamber bleeding into reality.

Anonymous 123568

You should actively encourage any trannies you know to kill themselves as a sacrifice to Jesus.

Anonymous 124018

>>123164
I don't know your exact situation, but to me it sounds like the problem is you, not the place you live. Pretty much any city in any country will have some terrible people, but being unable to avoid them is genuinely a skill issue. If you move someplace else in hopes that your experience will change, you might find that your problems will only follow you around. Again, you need to learn to associate with better people; part of that might involve bettering yourself so that non-shitty people will want to interact with you.



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Anonymous 121977[Reply]

good morning I hate men
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Anonymous 122352

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now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas), it makes me hate all other men even more!!! i love hating men i love hating men :3 Total female domination!!!!!

Anonymous 122355

>>122352
>now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas)
yup
dats what made me start hateposting on men

Anonymous 122365

>>122352
>i hate men!!1!
>i'll still keep dating and fucking them tho cause this one is different!!
fake misandrists stfu challenge

Anonymous 122371


Anonymous 123579

Me too, I hate men so much. Men are so obsessed with sex, I can't fucking stand it. I have had so many men have crushes on me due to my pikachu hoodie. I actually wear a black coat and a face guard when I am not with my most trusted friends.



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Anonymous 122967[Reply]

how do i tell my boyfriend murdering me is bad for the economy?
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Anonymous 122971

The idea that removing individuals helps the economy by reducing housing demand ignores the immense value each person contributes through labor, consumption, innovation, and community. Economies thrive on human activity—not on reducing populations through violence. Ethical societies solve housing crises through policy, not by eliminating people.

Anonymous 122973

>>122970
but who buy cigarettes

Anonymous 122981

>>122970
this generally only applies to old people and people who own too much housing. zoomers don't have anywhere as much pressure

Anonymous 123000

Although the feminist movement has already come quite far in the past 150 years, some things (sadly) still seem out of reach for us.
Men will be men.

Anonymous 123818

>>123814
He might just think he did something wrong since you didn't reply for hours. Do you usually ignore him when you are mad?



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Online Stalker - Please Help Me Anonymous 123565[Reply]

There's this guy stalking me around gaming websites such as Pokemon Showdown and Pokeclassic Network. He calls himself "Prozzub" and he hates me for literally no reason. I won against him in a tournament three years ago and he accused me of cheating, leading me to get tournament-banned even though it was not true.

Prozzub said he wants to kill me and he posted my address online. I warned him two years ago I was going to call the police but I never ended up doing it.

Can someone PLEASE help me? This has been going on almost four years and I am afraid Prozzub is actually going to come to my house and kill me.
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Anonymous 123645

>>123627
I kinda had that impression but didn't want to be rude.

Anonymous 123653

>>123565
this is probably the silliest stalker story I ever read

Anonymous 123660

>>123565
Were you the one I saw like 3 months ago put up a bounty to beat Prozzub?

Anonymous 123665

Here's what you should do

1. Call the police, even if they can't do anything there is a record of it, and if things escalate keep asking them
2. Tell your parents if things do keep escalating, getting in trouble with them is not the worst thing that can happen if he isn't just trying to intimidate you
3. Save and archive any and all past and future interactions with him, and back it up on a cloud storage/usb drive
4. This one is important: Stop using the same email/username for everything, change them if you can, to randomly generated ones, this is how they find you, because you are leaving a massive digital footprint. Change any and all passwords to all websites, use 2 factor authentication, and use an email alias service like simplelogin/anonaddy, so that every website has a different email that cannot be traced back to you
5. https://myactivity.google.com/results-about-you
Use this to have them take remove any info on you at least from their search page, most people will use this to try and find info. The website will be there still but won't be shown by google search so it'll be a lot harder to find

Those last two will take a while but these are the steps I believe you should take, hope everything works out for you nona

Anonymous 123800

>>123660
Yes, that was me. I tried to hire someone to take prozzub out so I could focus on my rom hack.



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Anonymous 123119[Reply]

how do you come to terms with being too ugly to be loved? how do you accept that you're never going to experience the rush of a passionate relationship? how do you accept that no man will ever be able to look you in the eyes and tell you you're beautiful? how do you live with the fact that even if you found someone its better to leave it at that so you don't have children that will suffer just as you have? i feel so stuck and isolated, ive been isolated my entire life. i dont have the social skills neccessary to be a "personality" "as long as youre happy" girl, so even if i could be seen past that it would amount to nothing. there is nothing i could offer someone past the looks i dont have.

oh and before anyone says some "just improooooove" i starved myself and gymratted to the lowest weight ive ever been, to my peak physique, nothing changed. nothing improved. my bones are completely wrong. this is not a problem i can fix and its getting harder and harder to live with. without love there is no future, our purpose is boiled down to reproducing, continuing our bloodline, finding love. its not something i'll ever be able to do. it's over and done.
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Anonymous 123219

I'm in the same boat as you. It sucks. However, what helped for me is focusing on the love I do have- whether that's platonic or familial. Also, fake it til you make it. I know it sounds cheesy but it legit works. My life was going really well when I pretended to be confident. Tho it's a hard skill to keep up.

Anonymous 123220

idk i always just cope

Anonymous 123222

>>123219
>fake it til you make it
>hey kids wanna hear some good advice? just be fake and nobody will be able to tell that you are fake!

what about those who can tell?

>just pretend they can't tell and become even more fake every time someone detects you being fake! just never admit how fake you are.


but doesn't everybody wish for people to be more honest? what about being authentic and unashamed?

>no just be fake instead and insist everything true and genuine is people being crazy.

Anonymous 123782

>>123119
As ugly as you are, therew will be a guy who finds interest in you, social pressure makes ugly men look like social pariah's so, they're automatically feeling inferior to you. Also, no dude likes anorexic chicks (unless they fetishize it), so the only way you can fix it is to stop caring. There are also many humble dudes who just don't care, so approaching them may lead them to be willing to possibly spend their whole lives with you, think about it, if some dude has never experienced love in 20 or so years of his life and a woman changes it, would he not feel an obligation to possibly love that woman forever?
But sadly, girls are hardwired to avoid ugly, or even lonely men, despite all the opportunities out there, it's not your looks, it's your personality that limits it and you vent out here becuase your standsrds are too high.

Anonymous 123794

>>123119
What exactly is wrong with you that makes you think you're ugly? You're probably somebody's type.



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Anonymous 113757[Reply]

I feel like I'm so ugly without makeup. Even after being showered in compliments. I get many compliments from unattractive men. I never get any from men that are good looking. Tinder, instagram, real life

How do I cope?
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Anonymous 123212

>>123209
no it's an edible plant with a strong taste and odor that has medicinal properties and is said to repell vampires.

Anonymous 123213

>>123212
Well thank you then, I love garlic, though someone has recently suggested that I might be a vampire.
By any chance do you happen to live in ex-USSR? Might take your offer if I happen to live in a driving distance

Anonymous 123214

>>123213
>By any chance do you happen to live in ex-USSR?

no, many thousands of km west. also it was merely symbolic garlic because currently i don't even grow any since all i have is a tiny balcony. next time i move though i hope to have some more space to plant and then i grow garlic again and then i grow the strong pungent varieties that they don't sell in the supermarket and then when i have a completely raw phase again i make sauces with the pungent garlic and insult everyone who doesn't eat raw plants; i shake my fist at them and call their cooked food 'burned' just to express my contempt 😂

Anonymous 123249

>>114014
I never did and I'm doing alright. I just dress nice and honestly at this point whenever I put makeup on it looks wrong to me, even when someone else who's good at it does it. Does save me a lot of money looking at my makeup wearing friends and family, and it hasn't prevented me from being respected by peers or finding a loving partner. If you wanna wear it and it's just for yourself go for it, but you'll be fine without it too.

Anonymous 123310

look at the men around you and determine which ones you find attractive. if the amount of unattractive men highly preceeds the amount of attractive men, it could just be your environment. you could always try approaching them first but if you're in a region where courtesy is still expected, its likely the men you find attractive simply do not reciprocate your interest.



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Am I just being annoying or do I have a reason Anonymous 123725[Reply]

Okay so I basically never had a normal relationship with my family, they are pretty judgy of what I do and who I am and they are kind of haters but I genuinely never liked them.
Every time I get out of room I get so angry seeing them, they totally make me not wanna live the day lmao.
Maybe it’s because of years of never being understood and liked by them but seeing my family genuinely makes me sad and tired, i hate going to the kitchen and they are there, i hate waking up and seeing them. They never really liked me and often make fun of me but the moment i show that it hurts me they think I am being crazy and judgmental.
Should I just let them be bipolar towards me or just get out of this house asap?

Anonymous 123726

murder them

Anonymous 123727

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Get out of here girl, pretend these people don't exist



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should I go back to being a wagie Anonymous 123251[Reply]

I always wanted to be a writer (yeah, I know), but I went into STEM because it seemed the more practical choice. Throughout undergrad, I spent all of my free time writing short stories, random experimental pieces, and fanfiction. Frankly, I took it more seriously than my actual work. Now, due to cognitive dysfunction caused by severe mental illness, I can barely do my real job at all. I'm still able to write, albeit much slower; it's all I've been doing while on medical leave. Now, my leave is about to end. I'm worried that I still won't be able to do my job (I've only just begun to see minor results from treatment), but my main concern is that the extreme stress of my job will keep me from writing (like it did before I went on leave). I hated my job even before I started having health issues, since the work environment is hostile to women and the job itself is at once both stressful and soul-crushingly boring. What should I do? My degree is in mathematics and math is what I'm having the most trouble doing right now, so I don't even know what other job options would be good for me. I was thinking of just going back to being a wagie so I can spend my free time writing. I have no illusions about the likelihood of becoming successful as a writer, but at least I'd be able to do what I enjoy. I am open to other suggestions, though.

Anonymous 123253

for wagies i like the idea of having a van or RV/truck to live in parked right outside the job, that way you don't have horrible traffic to deal with. though might not be for everyone. kind of cool to take slow adventures. if i had known how cool having a van would have been, i would have lived differently, i would have gotten one 10 years earlier.

Anonymous 123259

>>123253
that's a really interesting idea, I'll look into it

Anonymous 123261

I know this isn't what you're asking but I'd love to read something you've written, nona.

Regarding your situation, I wish I could give you directions, but I'm pretty much in the same boat (except my degree is in literature) and my only plan so far is to try to get some disability benefit before I've exhausted what little money I got from my family.

Anonymous 123722

oh no

I am in STEM and I hate my job. Doing university was fun, but doing it as a job with all the asshole bosses, the office politics, the constant deadlines is totally killing me. I thought about going into writing too, I even went to a fun writers workshop last week.

But I know I wouldn't make it. My savings would last for five years but then I would be broke and probably out of a job forever.



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