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Anonymous 129167[Reply]

Anyone here autistic with ADHD?

Anonymous 129179

Yeah everyone. Why do you think we're on the internet handwriting AI slop comments instead of do something productive

Anonymous 129182

Probably ADHD, but not autistic
What's with the perched position? I understand that squatting is important for your legs and knees, but why do it on a chair?

Anonymous 129194

>>129182
Something called proprioception actually, needing extra information about where our body is in with respect to space to feel comfortable about, or something like that.

Anonymous 129220

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yep and it's so goddamn awful. i do not function at all and the thought that i have to live like this forever because those disabilities are incurable really hurts.


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I hate being born a fucking stupid dyke Anonymous 128622[Reply]

I have to live with the fact i am not normal and will never have a normal life. I will never form a family the normal way if at all. I hate that people will shit on me for my sexuality and the only group of people that will tolerate it are filled with trannies and their handmaidens. That also means my dating pool is tiny, not only i have to find a woman that will be into women, praying that is not a straight woman in her "lesbian" / "bicurious" phase or a pooner or a handmaiden.
No mater how much i socialize with men, i never feel attracted to them the way i feel for women.

Maybe God has abandoned me, I think he finds my misery entertaining
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Anonymous 128641

>>128622
Not trying to say that lesbians have it easy
but
the dating market for young women is horrible right now. Young girls grow up watching Disney while young men grow up watching porn. Girls get into relationships expecting love and romance only to find that 90% of men want to choke them and stick it up their ass. Dating girls might not be easy, but you're a lot less likely to end up with a gooner misogynist.

Anonymous 128642

>>128622
Some advice? Don't give bi women a chance, most of them are straight. Try getting on dating sites if you're a social retard, as that removes 90% of the bullshit.

Anonymous 128656

>>1286

I understand your point. Honestly i dont think anyone has it worse. In general the world has been a really awful place specially with how much the mainstream media has poisoned society (both for men and women) everybody in any dating pool sucks righg now.

>>128642
Trust me I don't. I even doubt of women who claim to be lesbians at this point, i think ive becomed paranoid that every woman i meet is straight, even if they claim otherwise. If they say they are bi, theyre straight, and if they say theyre lesbians theyre just performative straight women that hate men so much they date other women to own the moids, or if it is online is likely a tranny. I just cant trust anybody anymore

Anonymous 128658

>>128656
That's rough, I'm sorry. Maybe try asking about their dating history? Most political lesbians don't have a history of dating girls. Have her eat your pussy and see if she's put off by it

Anonymous 129202

Ignore the media. Ignore other people. Find just one lesbian woman you can share a lifetime with


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i h8 my life Anonymous 128690[Reply]

im a fat 18f girl, ive never had a boyfriend and ive been a fucking loner my whole life, people avoid me girls i know are fake and spread retarded rumours about me for no reason other then they just dont like me. i wanna get so skinny and pretty they regret or i can just die.

who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me, i tried to get better but it never lasts, going to the psych ward twice messed it up i wish theyd just let me die. stupid anti psychotics made me gain weight as soon as i was near my goal weight. atleast im off it now i faked adhd symptoms to get on adderall it suppresses my appetite and i lost 5kg in a week. i dont even take the reccomended dose it does nothing if its under 40mg tbh, its great i never feel hungry. i hope i get skinny enough that these stupid people can see im a person too under all the disgusting fat. if i dont lose the weight this year its over lollll
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Anonymous 128830

I'm with you, I just graduated high school at 18 and I feel so lost and existentially empty. I dealt with some bullying for my weight and thinking I was ugly no matter what, I still get scared if my shirts are too low cut because I'm that self conscious

Anonymous 128845

To be attractive you must first love yourself, then comes looks.

Don't change to please others, change to please yourself.

Build healthy habits that make yourself feel good and lose weight slowly as a bonus, shortcuts like adderall will hurt you long term.

You are 18, Adult life have not even started yet, you have so much time so don't stress about everything.

Focus on the healthy small things that make you feel good and build those habits slowly.
Write down goals that are reasonable and strive to reach them.

Start easy like a little bit of exercise every day to get your body moving, it can literally be just stretching in the beginning to build the routine, a walk outdoors every day and minimum of 3 eggs for breakfast for nutrition and vitamins.

As you read this, improve your body position by just 5%, stretch something that is stiff, just a little. See, feels better.
Continue like that every now and then. Small habits grow with time.

Anonymous 128865

you're just 18, barely an adult yet. maybe it's a function of my social circle but most people i know including myself didn't have our first relationship until college when we were older than 18

i second getting a part time job, it'll help keep you busy and you'll be standing or walking rather than sitting down + you can start saving to buy makeup and clothes so win win

Anonymous 128866

>>128737

this is bad advice lol

OP you should count calories rather than having rules like this. You lose weight as long as you're in a deficit.

Whole foods and fruits are good ofc but you can def still stay in a deficit and have more than 1 fruit a meal lmao. Also it's not that hard to allocate a couple hundred calories in the week for a sweet treat. If you over restrict you'll probably end up binge eating eventually.

You can hit the gym everyday as long as you're hitting a different muscle group every time but you should take a rest day for muscles to repair between training the same area.

Anonymous 129201

>>128690
>adderall
quit that shit
>who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me
people are increasingly valuing honest, kind, genuine souls
not saying it fetches a fair price on the market but people are growing sick of fake shit

>>128737
>the only sugar you get is from fruits
this is the ultimate truth


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Does anyone have a fear of never finding love? Anonymous 128837[Reply]

It's fine if I never find love or die alone. It's not a fear for me because life is life and I have my books, my cats, and my friends. But sometimes, maybe it's hormones or basic human fears, but I worry that never finding love will prove something about myself, like I am unworthy or a repellent of any sort of love. Around my period these feels worsen as is natural, but sometimes there is a hole in my belly from that fear and I can't let it go and I get anxious.

Anonymous 128891

>>128837
Yeah, I also feel this way. The thought of living my whole life without ever experiencing it because it's kind of plastered all over the media, in books, movies, music, even irl people place such importance on it that if you miss out on it you might feel like there's something wrong with you or you're unworthy or something. But honestly I think most people live without ever finding actual love in general. Most relationships seem to be just out of convenience or hierarchies or shallow shit. Or maybe I'm just trying to rationalize it idk. I mean even if you try to be realistic about it it's still a scary feeling. But at the end of the day I feel like most people feel this way deep down. Its a very human feeling I think

Anonymous 128945

this summarizes my feelings perfectly

Anonymous 128954

Same, nona. I think I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll be alone, because I'm afraid of being broken again after several failed attempts, and I believe that genuine love is hard to find these days.

Anonymous 128955

It's pretty much certain at thi point real love isn't possible, only infatuation. Most men and a lot of women can't commit to one person for too long, are afraid of emotional availability and responsibility. People want a lifetime long honeymoon phase where you can also see other people and your partner won't be mad about it.

Anonymous 129196

No, because i love myself and got used to being my own best friend. Find love within yourself, spread kindness, and youll glow with joy that will attract good people. Also i cut off crappy people out of my life since i dont have time or energy for dumb kid drama


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Anonymous 128950[Reply]

I've gotten to the point where I've become such a touch-starved femcel, I've started to envy and hate pretty girls who have been SA'd or stalked by men before. Instead of feeling sympathy for for them, I get to the point where I am annoyed and disgusted hearing their stories where they had that one ex boyfriend that just "couldn't let them go" or having had a man in their life obsess over them. That has been the stark opposite of my life. As a femcel I have been ignored by men my whole entire life, and the exes I have managed to have had all wanted to ghost or abandon me, none of my exes were ever obsessed with me. None of them blew up my phone constantly or begged for me. At this point, I see women talking about obsessive exes as nothing more than humble bragging, especially Stacies, complaining about how "oh so hard" it is that they've had an ex obsess over and stalk them. They don't understand that the life of a femcel is much worse. I would take their life over mine in a heartbeat. Being a Stacy where I have men obsessing over me, stalking me, and wanting to grope me versus being the touch starved ignored femcel I am. It's easy to see their life is easy mode of people doting on them all the time (their life) versus a life that is absolute hell (my life).
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Anonymous 129172

>>129159
moids never like women. all moids unconditionally hate women, they are incapable of love.

Anonymous 129180

>>129169
They are. Andrew Tate's an incel.

Anonymous 129181

>>129172
Totally agree

Anonymous 129184

>>129180
He's a scammer pimp. Is being incel that much worse?

Anonymous 129186

>>129180
You're just proving you don't know or care what words mean which makes your claims of being a femcel all the less credible.


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lonely post graduation Anonymous 128773[Reply]

18 yrs and graduated last year, all my friends got bfs and now dont talk to me anymore. And the one male friend I have who played video games with me sold his body to the army so now im all alone and posting on reddit to find friends. I genuinely do nothing all day besides play video games that I dont even enjoy to pass the time. I wish i could go back to highschool so bad even tho i was bullied lol just so i could have some human interaction outside of my cat and my mom
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Anonymous 128803

>>128782
Many countries mandatory conscription for all moids. They'll die either way if war breaks out

Anonymous 129154

thats so me

Anonymous 129162

Sound advice: invest in yourself
Watch the whole video
As for friends, you can try bars and even contacting some of your old friends who now have boyfriends; who knows, maybe they have a friend group which you can join
Even things like spin class, yoga class, courses

Anonymous 129163

>>128799
Worst case scenario there was an anon who said she was in severe debt after graduating from college then entered a sugar relationship where in the end all of the debt was paid in full but she had to do nasty things in bed and you don't want to have an average of 29,000 $ of debt when you're a student in the USA

Anonymous 129165

I relate to this a lot. Where do I even go from here? I don't have the motivation to go out and get a job but I also don't know what else to do other than rot in bed and play games 24/7. Being a NEET is honestly pretty hard


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all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance. Anonymous 129153[Reply]

all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance and made me compare myself to other girls.

and i hate it, cause i constantly compared myself to the girls they mentioned and created an internal female rivalry with them. like, i didn't hate the girls, i js wanted to be like them and thats impossible. i only hate myself because genetically it would be possible to change my appearance, maybe in another life. and what irritates me the most is that I forgave it, even though sometimes i commented that i didnt like it and they obviously dont care. so because this, in my head, its impossible for someone to genuinely like me because of my appearance and my body, even if i consider myself a nice girl.

i hate moids who dream of an ideal type of woman they never have and say that to the girls they talk to. or guys whose minds are corroded by pornography

Anonymous 129156

they are negging you on purpose to lower your self worth and then erode your boundaries. you must be young and not have lived to see them all start balding at 23.

Anonymous 129161

The same thing happened to me, nona. The difference that they cited aspects of my appearance, mostly related to my genetic traits, which they considered flaws and asked me to change. Im already quite insecure, but they made me even more so. That's why I stopping trusting most moids.


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new relationship not actually being toxic for once Anonymous 128947[Reply]

im 18yo lesbo9000 and ive had terrible relationship issues my entire life, usually being a mixture of both me & the other person being the problem

ive got insane mental issues but i recently got a girlfriend (although we were basically dating for a long time now). shes really nice to me: she doesnt randomly ignore me, and doesnt suck at communication. shes really happy to see me and doesnt mind me texting her a lot (She even likes it WTF?). she also has issues but works hard to be the best she can be

but its crazy feeling so fucking normal for once. no more three-times-a-day mental breakdowns and cutting myself over stupid bullshit. being in a healthy relationship feels so fucking weird in a Nice way. im really not used to it and i feel like a stray cat being randomly picked up on the street and given a domestic home. but its something i want to get used to. is this what relationship issues/attachment recovery feels like? Cool…

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Anonymous 128788[Reply]

i feel like ill never find true love as a woman partially because men are shit and partially because im also an emotionally unavailable woman who wants very specific things out of a man. im just mad every man ill ever be around is a shithead and men make me feel so mad and evil

Anonymous 128789

What are your standards for a man?

Anonymous 128835

alive and maybe has a job

Anonymous 128863

I used to be a big believer in "true love." But I've come to the belief now that most people are constitutionally incapable of it. I know I am. And I know all the men I'd love or who would love me are too. I don't really care to search for it anymore. I am also emotionally unavailable, and I seem to attract emotionally unhealthy men. It is what it is, you know? But its easier to accept that after experiencing it fail first, which I have. I recommend having one or two disastrous relationships and then maybe you too can accept the futility of love.

Anonymous 128962

I gave up on love a time ago.


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My boyfriend has ignored me all valentines day Anonymous 128893[Reply]

I even texted him happy valentines day and he didn't even say it back. He only said he couldn't do anything for me and he felt bad.
He just went out with his friends to drink and I feel lonely and sad.
He told me we couldn't meet today because he had to study, I don't know how to tell him how bad I feel so instead I'm drinking cheap whiskey and watching Gilmore Girls
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Anonymous 128896

>>128895
No I get it. I don’t mean to insult, you’re allowed to vent, vent all the way. I just wished young women would just stop with these moids as soon as possible. You sound hurt, and tired, and I don’t think love or relationships should be like that. Love is supposed to bring you life, even its difficulties should, I just don’t want anyone to torture themselves for a moid. You shouldn’t be drinking Whiskey and watching Gilmore Girls, it’s more him im annoyed at, not you, but I wrote it to sound like you.

Anonymous 128897

FUCKING
DUMP
HIM
NOW

Anonymous 128928

>>128893
Are you guys LDR or do you guys live close to one another? If it's an LDR relationship it may be understandable why he could have been busy that day, but if you guys live close he has no excuse.

Anonymous 128936

free yourself of that moid retard he clearly doesnt love you im so sorry nona but dont keep hurting urself by being with him

Anonymous 128942

>>128896
I know, but he's a really good boyfriend in other ways, I don't know what happened. Tbf I tried to make it seem like I don't think valentines day is a big deal when I do, plus we live 3 hours away from each other. I wish I could be more upfront
>>128928
I guess? Or medium distance more like


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