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Anonymous 113757[Reply]

I feel like I'm so ugly without makeup. Even after being showered in compliments. I get many compliments from unattractive men. I never get any from men that are good looking. Tinder, instagram, real life

How do I cope?
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Anonymous 122805

Genuinely, people always look uglier with makeup.

Anonymous 122838

>>122805
Nonsense, you're simply unobservant. You probably only notice makeup when it's done poorly or the person is already ugly, and most people who don't wear makeup are otherwise attractive.

Anonymous 122839

>>122838
My mother never wore makeup, so maybe that's why I think that. But don't call me stupid and unobservant, like I don't know the difference between a natural human face and that oily greasy bullshit.

Anonymous 122884

>>122805
This but there are exceptions. Though it isn't makeup technically those fake noses asians glue on top of their real ones do indeed make a noticeable positive difference but I find it ridiculous to actually use it. Or when someone has acne so bad it's actually repulsive, we're talking unseen extremities here

Another example are people with a natural blush that looks like they applied blush in a very trashy way so that you cover it up to look more natural

I'm still antimakeup though and don't use it
>>122838
Nta but 99% of women I see wear it so it's hard to not notice

A big part of makeup being ugly is that knowing that it's makeup makes it hard to unsee how fake it looks. If I was to forget that makeup is a thing and perceive everyone as 100% natural then yeah makeup beats nomakeup like half of the time. You also have to consider the playing field, if you're not wearing makeup you're usually the only woman in the room that doesn't which makes you stand out in a positive way

Anonymous 122886

>>113757
My grandma says I'm attractive, and it feels wrong to me to compliment strangers. It's like I'm stealing time from their lives


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asexual/low libido with a girlfriend who isn't? Anonymous 122905[Reply]

i somewhat recently got into a relationship with a girl that i've known for a while. i've had talks with her before we started dating about how i'm not really interested in relationships, but that has (obviously) changed since i met her. i really like her, and i'm in no doubt about my feelings for her. but, now that we're together, she's made somewhat flirty comments about my body, or hinted at sexual things. i don't mind that she does it, and if anything i find it sweet that she views me in that way. the problem lies in that i'm very low libido, arguably asexual. i'm not repulsed by the idea of sex, or having sex with her, but i really have no need for it. it's not really my thing. if she asked me to, i'd do it for her, but i'm pretty indifferent.

how do i break the news to her?

Anonymous 122907

>>122905
I think just telling her the way you wrote it here is good enough, it's very respectful. If this makes her leave, it would have done it sooner or later, so just wait for an appropiate moment and tell her.


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my boyfriend used to be a porn addict and it makes me miserable Anonymous 122881[Reply]

I feel like being a woman who likes men it's so humiliating, why am I madly in love with someone who used to comment weird stuff to onlyfans models? how am I attracted to someone who used to jerk off to anime girls with dicks??
He also likes rough sex, I developed a "fetish" for this too, but it makes me feel so bad that I always end up crying after. The worst part is that he also started slapping me and hitting me outside of sex, I feel so miserable and unlovable
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Anonymous 122898

>>122881
>He also likes rough sex,
Must be circumcised

Anonymous 122900

>>122898
We must CIRCUMvent all CIRCUMsized moids
No but fr death to all mutaloids

Anonymous 122902

>>122898
i was thinking the same
>>122894
at the very least leave him. you can do better and deserve better

Anonymous 122904

>>122881
girl … just break up with him damn

Anonymous ## Cleanup crew 122932

Moved to >>>/nsfw/15114.


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Anonymous 122774[Reply]

Disillusioned. Spent a large part of my life being inclusive to people who are "different" because of feeling like an outcast in childhood. Shit just blows up in my face. I don't consider myself GC or anything like that but I am noticing a sickening pattern.

Why is it that nearly every trans woman I've befriended or have to work with has caused absolutely fucking chaos in my life and acted like they were the poor little victim when I called them out on it. I can't talk about this shit anywhere or I'm a bigot apparently.

I remember when I came out as bi to my friends over a decade ago, my family somehow found out, and then it was a total fucking nuclear explosion of issues. I was ostracized in my small town for something I didn't even want to be known publicly. But now it's some bizarre purity test to be some flavor of queer and if I don't mention it I don't deserve respect?… Maybe it's because I'm so past that point, but my orientation is such a small part of my life and has little to do with how I view the substance a person has.

I don't want to dictate how other people live, whatever you want to do go for it. But I've been used, stalked, screamed at, and professionally sabotaged by people like this more often than the rest of the population, totally unprovoked. Ten in a row is insane and a pattern. I rarely get treated this way elsewhere. Even the men I work with are decent and kind in comparison.

My boss will be pretty assertive with anyone except the trans women on our team. I was being creeped on by one of our clients and one of the trans women basically sabotaged my safety. The other sabotaged me at a public event. Boss just shrugs her shoulders when I bring this up and is way too nice to them. Says some shit about second puberty and calls it a day. What's worse is I think her processing is skewed because she has a trans daughter that's financially and emotionally abusive to her. She is an elderly disabled woman, and I feel like they're only getting away with this because she's walking on eggshells. It hurts to watch because I'm also disabled and was abused by my family for it. But her daughter just gets away with it because “she's going thru a hard time.” That's not love.

Weren't we still expected to have accountability while we were going thru puberty?? I'm so sick of this bs without being able to talk about it.

What do I even do? Who do I even talk to?…
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Anonymous 122811

>>122799
This, troons are just male predators.

Anonymous 122813

>>122774
that's because they're male lol, of course they're going to be abusive, controlling, and extremely unpredictable. stop catering to those degenerates, remove them from your life, interact with only women or normal men if you have to

Anonymous 122814

>>122813

I'm forced to work and perform with them until I can find a better job. I don't really have a choice. I told one of them to stop interacting with me unless it's work related and they pitched a fit with management despite them causing the hostile work environment. All I can do is bitch and moan at home in the meantime.

Anonymous 122837

>>122774
Sounds like you just need to associate with better people, trannies or otherwise. Make better friends and find a better job. Obviously easier said than done, but that's your only way out.
>>122779
You answered your own question.

Anonymous 122873

>>122837

I get the sentiment. But I've associated with all kinds. I think it's just difficult to pick my way thru to find the type of woman that would be around here but in person. I also live in a city that's well known for catering to this crybully bs. Maybe I need to move to the woods and give up on friendships.


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Anonymous 122863[Reply]

>Never have had a friend
>Never had a group of girlfriends to vibe with
>Never had a boyfriend or guy friends to do guy stuff with
>Feel used by people constantly
>People only want to talk about themselves, their life, their problems
>Unless it's about them or related to them, they literally don't care
>You have to care about their life / problems / passions but they don't care about yours
>You want to support, hype them up, be there for them but they're never there for you
>Every friendship / relationship feels one-sided where you care about them but they won't ever care about you
>Share something about your life, and people don't care, unless they can make it about themselves somehow
>Feels like people only like what they can get from you or how you make them feel
>People always say I look sad or upset

Anonymous 122868

do you have discord? would you like to talk with someone?

Anonymous 122869

Why have you never had a friend?

Anonymous 122871

I grew up probably a decade before you, if you're the age group I think you are. We had a very different social atmosphere and different patterns of relatability then. It's a lot harder to build bonds now, especially with complications made post-covid and due to the changing nature of the Internet becoming enmeshed with everyday life. Including social media being engineered the way it is. It's not just you. It's a pervasive issue that's tricky to articulate but as much as it feels like it, you aren't alone. It's just harder to connect with people like you because of the way of the world currently.


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Anonymous 122655[Reply]

What is being in love- real love, not infatuated or forcing to try to find the good in a relationship, actually like for you?

Anonymous 122656

>>122655
First, we have to both be virgins. I don't care what modern times has to say, it's not true love unless it's with your first and only partner.
Second, we have to be comfortable talking to each other without having to put on a show, the same way I talk to my family.
Third, we have to both have some sort of life outside of the relationship, which, on the other hand, won't encroach upon it. The relationship has to be the most important thing in our lives, but not the only thing.

Anonymous 122658

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never been in love. maybe never will. its okay

Anonymous 122678

>>122658
I love you, nona.

Anonymous 122850

we both stim equally hehehe


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how to stop being mentally ill in my relationship? Anonymous 122806[Reply]

it's been some time since i've started officially dating a girl that i've been friends with for a while. we're pretty close, and i love her more than i can really put into words. but, i've been struggling with anxiety in our relationship. if she doesn't text me back within an hour, i start to get anxious and worry that she's mad at me. even if she has a totally reasonable excuse that she's told me beforehand, i still worry. do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.

how do i stop myself from getting anxious and worked up when she doesn't text me back? something i do now is deleting instagram, so i don't have to worry about getting a notification that she's texted me. it helps a bit, but i still can't help but worry.

Anonymous 122809

>>122806
sounds to me that "stopping being mentally ill" over it is just putting a fig leaf over the real problem. do you have low self esteem, nobody else other than her who can tend to your needs etc

>do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.
what is it?

Anonymous 122819

>>122809
i mean, i would probably argue that i have low self esteem lol. but she makes me feel loved, which is why i love her so much. i have other friends that i like, but not in the same way i like her.

>what is it?
i’d rather not say, but she didn’t cheat on me or anything. it’s not really something i hold against her either.

Anonymous 122822

>>122819
idk how to put it but I think this feeling signals a legitimate concern that she doesn't make you feel safe

doesn't mean she's a bad gf but maybe you don't feel you can rely on her to take your side
or not to violate her boundaries
just minute things that are important but you forget about eventually while your subconscious still buzzes about it


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Tempted to contact ex who harassed me Anonymous 122025[Reply]

It’s wrong and I know we’re over but I want to talk to him again I miss his giggles. His softness. His jokes. What can I do to stop this feeling….
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Anonymous 122205

>>122202
Not op
i should have never left my bf in the first place, i did check out of the relationship for a long time and i self reflected on it and my reason why due to boredom and missing the spark feeling, i thought relationships were all about the firework and spark but i never met anyone like him anymore he was the only guy who told me that he chooses me everyday even when things get hard. This was a month ago and i told him to leave me alone out of my own anger during our last phonecall, recently he sent me a mail that mentioned that he can't live in area at all since every time he drives it reminds him of our memories so he literally enlisted himself in the navy. I just feel so bad, i made a mistake and i want him so bad but i just have a feeling that if i break the silence and reach out he may not want me anymore

Anonymous 122208

>>122205
sorry for the yapfest
well, first, you'd need to ask yourself if your boredom is going to become a problem again. i don't know you or your bf or the relationship you've had together, so this is something you need to mainly figure out yourself. i cannot stress this enough, figure out your own shit before getting back or into a relationship.
second, it's obvious he still cares IN some way (whatever it may be) and probably still likes you, hell he's even enlisting in the fuckin navy because he's probably broken up over you. don't be afraid to break the silence, believe me haha. i've missed my chance when i could've opened up and talked to my boyfriend after our break up, and genuinely from the bottom of my heart i regret it deeply. i could've mended our relationship, got closure or even said a goodbye.

i can't promise you anything, but please talk to him before he leaves, genuinely. you may not get the outcome you want, but atleast you'll both have closure, and potentially in the future can rekindle that spark.
and, if it helps; open up to him about your feelings if you'd like, tell him what really happened and why you lashed out, just be honest, okay?

Anonymous 122639

just gigglemaxx

Anonymous 122783

>>122328
Would you like moids to do the same? To treat a relationship with you as bound for failure, having several escape plans and alternative options because this one is bound to fail and if it works out it just does? Sounds grim.

Anonymous 122803

>>122783
Moids don't deserve shit


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Anonymous 119969[Reply]

Anyone else just accept the fact that they'll never have a husband and kids? How do you cope?
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Anonymous 122378

>>121902
trvthke

Anonymous 122484

>>120009
male hands typed this

Anonymous 122675

I've only ever once fallen in love, during my first year in college. I have never met anyone else I've wanted to date. And now it seems impossible, since now everyone my age isn't a virgin, so I'll never find true love.

Anonymous 122786

>>122188
What should he have said - that he has plenty of other options? Would that make you feel better?

Anonymous 122801

>>122786
why are you replying to a month old post?


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Anonymous 122795[Reply]

sometimes it feels less lonely to be alone

Anonymous 122796

>>122795

Gets pretty intoxicating tbh

Anonymous 122797

>>122795
If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.


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