/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Is my moid gay?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a few years now and he was always into cute, anime, gaming stuff. Which is fine, since i am too and we both connected with our interests.
But lately i’ve been feeling a bit uncomfortable with his obsession with anime girls and cutesy japanese animation.
Hanging posters of anime girls into his room, wearing shirts with cat girls on it, having tattoos of anime characters, keeping anime girl figures by his beside table. And never a male, only girls, especially the cute looking ones.
And it makes me extremely uncomfortable.

He’s a great looking man, he goes to the gym every day, 6’2, pretty jacked and respectful, but his obsession with all those cutesy things makes me feel like he is something he doesn’t want to tell me.
I feel like it strips downs his masculinity but i am afraid of telling him that. I just wish he could be more of a man instead of a sissy-loving-anime fan.
It makes me disgusted, and i don’t say this in a homophobic way, not at all, i just wish he was more in tune with being a man instead of… that…
And that we could be more open and truthful with me. It makes me extremely self conscious his liking of anime cute girls and not his own girlfriend. I feel horrible about myself.

Or maybe I am crazy, help me nonas
Am I The Bad Person?

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So, long story short my boyfriend has trouble with relationships because relationships with some family members/partners were abusive. Sometimes when I try to discuss things with him his brain goes into 'survival mode' and he gets defensive and assumes the worst out of any critical statements I make. Most of the time I can make him see from a rational point of view and he realizes he's being silly. I can accept that it will take time for his perception of love to be normal. I guess it's just new to me.

We both have never been in proper/healthy relationships. I have never truly loved anyone, for the most part it's only just been infatuation, boredom, and love of the chase. I have been treated poorly by a 'situationship' before but I understood how I was being manipulated and how things would end, I just wanted fun I guess?

He on the other hand has only dated one other person that constantly manipulated, used, and cheated on him. So I understand why he sometimes acts the way he does.

He sometimes freaks out when I try discussing stuff, but since I struggle with communication I have a hard time speaking and go quiet. Then he spirals and assumes the worst. I hate how sad it makes him. I'm trying to be better about communicating with him.

Idk this is half a rant half me searching for advice on how to communicate more effectively with someone like this.

Any thoughts and opinions about Poly relationships?

I'm in one myself and it's mostly just connections if that makes sense. I have no interest in being sexual with any of my partners and so far they all respect that. Haven't met anyone opposed to how things are, but I also haven't been looking too hard either. Anyways I'm open to discussing this with the rest of you <3

My brother is always baking and shit and making a mess, yet the hag that pushed me out of her vagina always hovers around and babies him and tries to help. Whenever I go in the kitchen, she glares at me like I'm encroaching upon her territory or something. She nags the fuck out of me and talks out loud to 'herself' but I can hear her from another room. She calls me vile things all because I'm making some fucking pancakes and not even making a mess because I'm not a retarded moid like my worthless fag brother. Boymoms are utter filth. FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING WHORE WHY DON'T YOU GO SUCK THE FAGGOTS COCK AT THIS POINT YOURE CLEARLY IN LOVE WITH HIM YOU BITCHASS MOTHERFDUCKING WHOOOOOORE. I WANT TO KILL HER WITH MY BARE HANDS STUPID FUCKING EVIL VILE CUNT BITCHJ

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

What does a healthy and good relationship with genuine love look like to you?

I feel like every feels thread is about boyfriend issues… You all need to grow a backbone and just leave them I don’t understand why that’s so hard. Moids will never be worth all the headache you put yourselves through!

call me and tell that. send flowers to my moms, my cars in the shop but i’ll be there for christmas eve and christmas. knock on the stupid door. please stop leaving messages that hurt my heart because i can’t confirm they are really you. we are real people in the real world. this is driving me into psychosis. it is making me schizophrenic and crazy. enough with the random websites and throwaway accounts. apologize to me so we can have a good year. i don’t know how or what you have planned to make it right but please just do it because this is like being taunted.

Anyone else not enjoy "normal things" and try to look for more meaningful and heavy hitting things?

>No alcohol or drinking
>No drugs, no smoking, no vapes
>No masturbating or vibrators
>No night clubs
>No shopping addiction
>No social media and sharing stories that nobody cares about anyway
>No desire for a boyfriend that won't support or be there for you when you need it anyway
>No desire for friends that only want to complain to you

Having independence and peace is good, too.