/feels/ - Advice & Venting

maybe this post is stupid or redundant but I don't see this particular topic covered in much of the "pick me" discourse. I believe there is a subset of pick me girls who present in ways that don't immediately read as pick me, possibly even overtly touting feminist thought or social justice or being a "girl's girl" or the like that you can just subtly tell they're still looking for male validation, attention, possibly even go for taken men (might see this type of pick me in the "female best friend").

it's like sure they may not be tradwife Tate apologists or "im so one of the boys im le gamer gurl teehee" but there are subtle gestures or comments or you notice the content they like online or you see what they post and it just reeks of male gaze or male-centeredness. it's hard when you know they're aware enough of the pickme concept to not be overtly bitchy or competitive, but you just get this gut feeling they'd throw you under the bus anyway or try to steal your man to live out her "she wears high heels I wear sneakers" fantasy. it's the modern "cool girl" who doesn't know it's a death trap yet. the manic pixie who still thinks her magic is for attracting men. the indie/alt chick who only hangs around guys but never admits the real reason why. the artsy coworker who tries really hard to get your bfs attention outside of work. the "mom friend" who tells everyone about it, especially men she's just met. etc., etc.

so fucking pissed rn im shadowbanned from tiktok and completely banned from twitter, its for my own good at this point but apparently pointing out mens hypocrisy is gonna cause a ww3 guys, i didnt post a single thing inciting violence it was the most tamest stuff but its ok to have literal nazis on twitter tho thats completely fine. its so obvious every site is pushing for right leaning ideas now especially twitter i miss 2015 when every site wasnt soft af

We're all here because we're a bit weird in some way and struggle to connect to the outside world. How do you guys cope with it? I have pretty much numbed myself to the fact that other girls don't want to be my friends and even if they did I'd be lonely in my thoughts anyway being a freak and all. I don't want social advice, I just want to know how I can be more comfy going through this world alone mentally. I'm glad this site exists so I at least know there's some girls like me out there somewhere.

Why is my dad like this? I feel like he hates me. Both of my parents are super fat I used to be fat but I lost the weight. When I lost the weight my dad said he used to think I would live all my life as a bear and other snarky comments whereas my mother said nothing but was happy with what I did. I was also once upset with my licensce picture and he looked at it and laughed and when I ask him why he did that he didnt say a word… My mother has never laughed at my face. Oh btw when I was fat he never said anything about it. He also ignores me when I try to talk to him about my struggles with food. I was going away for college and he said to learn how to do make up. Is he gay in spirit? My sister also once caught him looking at a weird group chat where they send porny pictures. He also hates unmarried women for no reason. The weirdest thing he does is those remarks to me like I'm literally your daughter. My mother said that I kinda look like my late paternal grandma. Also the worst thing is my paternal grandpa once bit my cheek lightly while I was in bed with him I was 7 or 8 back then and he did nothing about it. I feel so betrayed it has never been more over

im 19, 20 in november and im really starting to wish i could be 17 forever. Things like making money are so hard, i have no amibtion for study anything or for a career because i spent my teens being emo with the whole "i wont survive long enough to do that" mindset. i genuinely cannot bring myself to care about anything other than stupid shit like being pretty but its so useless to my future. any advice on how to get my shit together?

i don't get it.. i went thru his phone, the secure folder. all pics inside are indecent photos of me, some of them are my nudes (that i sent to him) but most of them are taken while i was sleeping or unaware. and like, i'm not mad or anything. in fact it's kinda hot and it's way better than him watching porn or whatever. but i don't get why he hasn't said something about it. i guess he thinks i would be mad? maybe i should but it's genuinely not a problem for me. am i fucked up for thinking like this?

i truly cannot stand my body any longer, every guy i talk to likes my personality but whenever they actually see me irl they run tf away from me and im just so tired of being fat and not knowing how to properly take care of myself… do u guys have any advice on that? i truly dont know what to do with myself anymore and its killing me lmao

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I remember I taped my mirrors down because I couldn't look at myself how to fix!! its coming back again and i dont speak to anyone in my family or friends!!!

Is pedophilia that common now? I've seen things saying it's being advocated more, and that pro pedophiles are becoming more prominent. Definitely a result of queer grooming imo. But we can discuss that after the fact of on what scale is it happening. I need numbers pls.