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Anonymous 126886[Reply]

if a man in your experience tended to listen to songs that mirrored his emotional state. and it turned out he had been listening to music that was basically either throwbacks, soothing instrumentals you know he listens to for anxiety, and otherwise pretty much entirely songs about being in the wrong and the kind of man who ruins his partners life without trying so they should stay away. like music about realizing too late you were wrong and it’s too late to apologize or redeem yourself. wishing you could go back and undo what you did. that you didn’t mean to hurt that person. that they were evil and dark and beyond redemption. would you believe they were sorry? would knowing someone didn’t intentionally hurt you make you feel better? especially if he was presenting a happy face to everyone and his music taste was alarmingly suicidal when it wasn’t before. he did not send me the playlist and we use different music apps. he’s just been silently listening to this stuff for years. is he sorry? is this a truer indication of his feelings than him trying to contact me and apologize?
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Anonymous 126998

>>126994
Hey nona. The fact you're self aware about this is already a huge step. You don't need to save every animal or person that's in distress, it's another way to create a toxic environment. In fact you should be saving only yourself and people who won't inflict harm upon you. Many bad situations can be avoided this way, so hopefully you can find some solace and agency in this idea.

Anonymous 127001

>>126998
those tik toks of animals with days to live have been upsetting me so bad lately. i keep emailing shelters near me to get in touch with them because i can’t have a dog on my floor and i rent. the amount of suffering in the world drives me insane. i guess that’s why i even care someone who hurt me is depressed. he let me suffer alone when he knew i was hurting. there’s just a part of me that can’t be like that towards someone when i know i’m part of it. i wanted him to say sorry and then for it to be over. not for him to be silently suicidal and think the situation is so far gone i wouldn’t care if he apologized and he doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. cos like the greater implication scares me. what if no one ever forgives each other for anything and we don’t fix climate change and the whole world is just backed into a corner and the whole earth ends.

Anonymous 127003

>>127001
I actually understand you a lot…
Still I hope you remember that unless you take care of yourself nobody else will. Please put yourself first nona, and your loved ones if you have them
also these tiktoks are 100% made by manipulative mfers

Anonymous 127011

>>127003
i’m glad at least for the ones connecting dogs on death row to people who have confirmed they’ve saved them at least. i tried to show my local shelter the shelter needing animals transferred out and i hope that eventually no animals have to be put down and they can just be moved to areas with not a lot of strays like where i live. it like destroys me inside seeing this stuff because there aren’t any kill shelters within driving distance of me at all so it’s hard to do anything when the most urgent need isn’t local. i try to focus on wildlife rehab and conservation stuff here. i feel like i obsessively need to focus on fixing things or the weight of the world starts driving me actually insane.

Anonymous 127040

>>126989
he’s not secretly venmo-ing me and if he wanted me back it would be a temporary psychotic break. i think this might just be your best friends boyfriend.


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Anonymous 126999[Reply]

would you stay with someone who punched a hole in the wall? thread pic is an example not the hole.
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Anonymous 127015

no matter what it is he was upset about, destroying things out of anger is genuinely manchild behavior. what i would do is tell him to grow up.

Anonymous 127024

at best he can't control his emotions and damages your home/belongings. at worst this is a warning sign for future domestic abuse if he can't control his violence when upset

Anonymous 127026

>>127024
he was reacting to something that happened to me to be fair to him. it did scare me though.

Anonymous 127037

>>127026
clear sign he thinks of you as his possession, dump him

Anonymous 127039

>>127037
honestly we already had a huge fight over it and made up but he also called me his woman and it made me cringe so much. i’m “your” WHAT? we barely know each other and i low key want to bail still


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Hate Thread Anonymous 118525[Reply]

What do you hate and why?
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Anonymous 126175

>>118533
you could replace trump with alcohol and this post would fit well in prohibition. But That would hurt the nonas who cant put down the bottle too much to say

Anonymous 126178

>>125949
>Most incels would've been utter normalfags if it weren't for their appearance

And most women would be incels if they hadn't been born women.

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>>118525
Rodents

Anonymous 126984

Men who play games all day and the only way they’ll interact with you is when you play co-op or they need you to relieve a bodily function.

Anonymous 127014

>>118525
is this a carricature of nevada-tan


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Anonymous 126216[Reply]

I Made A List Of Everything Your Doing Wrong and This Argument Seems Like A Great Time To Bring It Up
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Anonymous 126221

>>126219
No I Think You Need To Be Reminded

Anonymous 126230

>>126216
Literally whataboutism…
If it's unrelated, it's unrelated.
Unless whatever happened in the current situation is somehow caused by whatever went wrong in the past. But usually, it's something that's caused by not having fixed something that had already been wrong in the past. But even then, you could focus on solutions instead of just faulting someone to put them down. Some list shouldn't be the end of a discussion, even if the argument likely requires some pauses because people need time to process emotions and if they don't take the time, they might opt for whatever solution is the fastest rather than most effective.

Anonymous 126234

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Ok Kanaya Maryam

Anonymous 126985

>>126230
There are some things that are always going to be relevant. If someone did something like cheat or put their hands on anyone even in the past, every action of theirs should be weighed against it like “Should I bother dealing with someone who leaves the toilet seat up when I know he cheated on me?” and the answer is “No.”

Anonymous 127005

>>126234
kek


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Anonymous 125860[Reply]

Why is everyone telling me to stop making excuses when I'm just trying to explain how hard it is to get up in the morning, how hard it is to talk to people, and how hard it is to remember whether I brushed my teeth?
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Anonymous 125871

>>125870
I'd say it's pretty normal to not want to get up in the morning if it means having to deal with some assholes who berate you all the time and don't even want to listen to you. Some people are just incapable of dealing with a human they have power over. And some of them are parents. Best of luck nona.

Anonymous 125882

>>125860
I've been there. I promise, it can get better, even if it's a slow process…
But yeah, you're not "making excuses", you're struggling and those people could help you instead of pointlessly complaining about what you're actively suffering from.
But some people simply don't get it. It can be so frustrating, I've had breakdowns over this before with different people. It's a special kind of hell when people don't understand you and you try to express it in different ways and rather than just taking you by your word, they pretend like they can relate somehow and totally get it but by what they're saying, you can tell that they really don't…
I hope you have a therapist you can talk to at least… And that you're getting support, even from the people who don't fully understand. I'd hope they're trying to help at least, even if they're apparently quite bad at it.

Anonymous 125884

>>125860
They don't understand because they never had something like that happen to them. Unfortunately depression is something very few people can actually understand or even sympathize with, people always think there are worse things in life etc etc Trying to explain to them is useless because they will always try to rationalize it when it's not something to rationalize.
Give yourself time, try read things online, self help and care can help a lot

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Radahn, stop being a baby and brush your teeth, they smell like your sister´s rot

Anonymous 126988

>>125932
Wish I could say this to my best friends boyfriend. Imagine getting a new relationship when you’re so depressed and have no hobbies and friends and your new gf has to fix his self esteem cuz his “CRAZY EX” made him sad. And your entire first year of dating is you and him against the world baby. Meanwhile his ex is a normal woman who got cheated on and wouldn’t take him back. Who he still pines over publicly. While my best friend picks up after him and he pretends this is his first real relationship and he was the victim in all his other ones or “it just didn’t feel right like it does with you”. And what feels right is living like a depressed loser but she pays for half of it and does all the chores.


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 115657[Reply]

Previous Thread >>2119
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Anonymous 127074

>>127073
Always works on people like this

Anonymous 127082

someone is leaving messages pretending to be you and it’s actually ridiculous.

Anonymous 127083

i saw someone like idk exactly who it is or maybe it is you trying to get me to contact you reacting a certain way i’m not sure. but you really went too far with that last one.

Anonymous 127084

you can still apologize but trying to mess with my relationship is going too far. i wish we never dated. it’s the night we met vibes not what if vibes. you should know this.

Anonymous 127085

and if you think those songs are love songs.. oh my god? you’re not one of THOSE people who don’t understand what they mean and like propose during them right???


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Ugh short guys... Anonymous 126821[Reply]

There's a gorgeous guy at my local library who genuinely looks like a fucking josei character irl. But he's unbelievably short. Like, literally around 5'4 compared to my 5'7. Such a shame…to have such a pretty and well defined face on the body of a little boy. This world is cruel.
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Anonymous 126906

>>126867
It literally is, he really expected women to be like "ohh that's so true sis slay" so he could take a screencap n bitch and moan in /r9k/ lmfao fucking loser

Anonymous 126908

>>126906
there’s like five women here and a bunch of men spamming. why do they care about this place? because it’s not morally evil inherently like lolcow is so they want to punish the women here more for just being nice and chill?

Anonymous 126910

>>126821
i miss u

Anonymous 126944

I'm 5'0" I'll take him

Anonymous 126981

>>126821
Truly embarrassing. You want to be three inches taller than your partner? You want to look down on his balding head and have everyone around you constantly notice you have wider shoulders and other embarrassing things that automatically make them and their relationship superior to you and yours? Being larger than your boyfriend is like having more money or a better job than your boyfriend. It’s like having a bigger body count than your boyfriend.


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Anonymous 126292[Reply]

What does it feel like to be in a happy fulfilling relationship with someone you’re attracted both physically and emotionally?
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Anonymous 126324

It's pretty nice I enjoy it

Anonymous 126349

reading this post just made me want to smash my head against a wall. it's so bad that even the slightest mention of a "happy couple" sends me into a downwards spiral. i hate being lonely.

Anonymous 126350

>>126349
Don't chase the bonding chemical highs lol

Anonymous 126377

>>126350
people really get drunk on brain chemicals and then think when they’re depleted or you’ve developed a tolerance it means the spark faded. there was never a spark. he was just love bombing.

Anonymous 126960

No one has these anymore. Everyone just marries who they’re with when they turn 30 now.


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no friends Anonymous 126841[Reply]

i have no friends at all except for my husband, and it gets so so lonely and im so sad i wish i had girl friends that i could talk makeup and hair and cute stuff with but nobody wants to talk to me ever and nobody wants to be my friend how do i make friend
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Anonymous 126844

I'll be your friend! How ya doing today?

Anonymous 126847

>>126844
omg im doing fine what about you ??

Anonymous 126945

>>126847
3 days late… I'm so sorry.

Not bad tbh. Just got out of work and I'm about to get ready for bed. I got another shift tomorrow, then three more shifts next week.

Whatcha going to do for Thanksgiving?


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Anonymous 125585[Reply]

drunk as fuck alone in my room. how can i ever find friends or love if im just a stupid gay loser shut in femcel freak
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Anonymous 125614

Your post reminded me of myself (in a good way!). If you want a drinking friend or to chat with another person who has experience in this field, feel free to add me on discord: archer054

Anonymous 125615

I relate to this post. High and and ugly shut in femcel

Anonymous 125621

>>125613
in /b/

Anonymous 126869

do heroin

Anonymous 126924

I hate you larping faggots. Go back to tiktok


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