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bf attracted to other girls Anonymous 123128[Reply]

am i supposed to just accept that every guy is going to be attracted to other girls, even while he’s in a relationship with me? people say it’s normal, but honestly, it really hurts. i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does. my boyfriend always follows hot egirls on social media and sometimes even talks about how hot he finds them, celebs or not. it hurts. and yeah, even when it’s a celebrity, it still stings. i don’t really see a difference between him saying that about a famous girl or some everyday girl. it still makes me feel like shit. i’m struggling to come to terms with this ‘norm’, but it feels like i have to. seems like every guy is like this, and there’s no escaping it. it honestly makes me feel sick. what am i supposed to do?
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Anonymous 123206

>>123199
Can you even imagine what the conversation would go like if the genders were reversed
People would call OP a cuck a bit but only because he still hasn't burned the gf at the stake
Not actually trying to burn OP at the stake himself for being insecure or whatever lol

Anonymous 123210

>>123206
Uhh. That's not how it would go at all?

Anonymous 123361

>liking other girls
depends on how he acts about it + it he's hypocritical about you liking other people
>follows hot egirls
nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope

Anonymous 123389

He's allowed to see other women, but needs to recognize he's not their man.

Anonymous 123405

I would keep trying as long as i can. Theres bound to be someone id hope



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Anonymous 122671[Reply]

What do you do when you never feel quite yourself? I know everyone has different personas. Who you are at work, or with friends, or around family. But I think most people have a base. I think most people know who they are at their core. But what do you do when you have no clue? I never feel like myself. Often I feel like there isn't a 'me' at all. Everytime I think I've found myself I realize it's another layer of deceit.
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Anonymous 123350

>>123329
Im sorry but why would i lie on an anonymous website? Yes my opinion on myself might be skewed as most people are, but i have no reason to purposely mislead you. I'm not looking for your validation. I'm only trying to figure out why i feel the way i do and how i can become happier

Anonymous 123399

>>123350
>Im sorry but why would i lie on an anonymous website?

liars don't lie because of reason, they lie out of habit. it is how they relate to other people, it is their way of life and they are used to it. it is the manifestation of their desires of having unfair advantages.

you're questions aren't going anywhere, they are just the opening act of your theater-production, your generic plan of wanting to throw identity at the suspicion of your dishonesty to convince how honest you are and i am not gonna buy a ticket to that show. i can just imagine you saying "oooh no i wouln't do that, i know a lot of people who are like that and this just wouldn't be me. you can ask anyone, trust me sis" just fine without you actually bothering to say it.

Anonymous 123402

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>>123333
>The lil'bubs of double dubs

Anonymous 123403

>>123399
i think ur projecting (your thought pattern or personal experience) at this point sorry.
you're not helping anyone, you're just making up excuses to bully op at this point. not cool.

Anonymous 123404

>>123403
>you're not helping anyone

what about those who wish to be honest, you don't think avoiding this silly inexperienced mistake in communication will help them? you might not value honesty but maybe others do.

imagine you coming to a party where you barely know anyone and introducing yourself to ~15 people and then first thing you do is casually announce about yourself how honest you are. people would awkwardly roll with their eyes, turn away from you and make fun of you.



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sugar daddies and edating Anonymous 123383[Reply]

ive been looking on reddit for some SD for a while and its been dissapointment after dissapointment. I like older guys so its a lifestyle id want to try. Honestly If i cant find a SD shoulld I just go after an older boyfriend online? I just like being gifted things and attention so it works out right? Is edating worth it?

Anonymous 123392

dated an older guy before, just make sure he really IS worth it cuz older doesnt equal mature so be careful lulz

Anonymous 123396

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Anonymous 123401

im a pro at this topic, im the biggest gold digger i know. and i didnt even have to date older men LMAO i dated a guy close to my age bwahahah, he was just insanely wealthy



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the girl that made fun of me became a lolcow Anonymous 123356[Reply]

i'm not gonna get into a lot of details about my personal experience with her because it's years of information that's not actually important and i was not her main victim.

the fact is that i had a negative experience with her, she exposed me on facebook (you can track how long ago it was just because of that) and since she had a lot of simps they all attacked me. it really affected me since i was already insecure and depressed, it made me isolate myself and since we shared social spaces i preferred to simply abandon them just to not face her again. objectively what i supposedly did to her didn't deserve such response on her side since it was ridiculously minimum.

its been years of that, i matured but that event was always stuck on my mind like something that just happened and from time to time I checked her on socials to see what she was up to.

last year she became a famous meme in my country for saying she had a korean relative (false), so that lead to her being exposed for lying, SA, animal abuse, trying to sell content to minors, filming content with a minor and the list goes on.

People make fun of her, she had lots of YouTube videos dedicated to her, also she has a lot of health problems who had lead to develop necrosis on her fingers and lost part of them, she's going through a tough time right now. she's still very delusional but she's doing really bad health wise and had a lot of people making fun of her on the daily.

and im happy about it lol. what she did to me is minimal compared of what she did to others, but i can't find compassion inside of me to empathize with her, seeing her struggling and having a harsh time makes me feel better, so i constantly check her socials since she call herself and influencer and it's chronically online checking on her haters. i also check all the pages dedicated to expose her on IG.

I'm a bad person for that ?
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Anonymous 123377

no that's rly funny, lady luck has your back ♡

Anonymous 123379

how did you get involved with her? i know who she is but u probably dont want her named

Anonymous 123393

>>123379
met her before she became a cosplayer in a very small con where i has cosplaying, she approached me saying that i was pretty, that she wanted to do cosplay too and if she could add me on facebook, i said yeah because she seemed pretty harmless but quickly I noticed she lied about a lot of irrelevant things that she shouldn't be lying about and about important things too like her dad hitting her, her best friend at the time who was a neighbor of hers posted that she was lying about it that one specific time. We where never friends, just mutuals on socials, we said hi to each other in some cons, once i bought a cosplay from her (which was funny because she said she made it herself but previously she had credited the cosmaker lol), but nothing else. About the incident itself im not gonna talk about, it involves other people since it was centered on other people from the start, and because that'll say too much about who i am irl

Anonymous 123397

>>123393
kek, what even causes pathological lying like this? the only pathological liar i really know was super entitled and had doormats for parents, idk

Anonymous 123398

>>123397
Since she has neurolupus i truly believe its been eating her brain for a while now, like, you can really notice the decadence on her speech compared of when she was younger, her parents are also doormat level of parenting, like, two days ago her dads criminal records got leaked and he's a cocaine addict too lol and her mom is like a child tbh



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how to stop being insane and obsessive Anonymous 123394[Reply]

i really want to know how to stop but i might be the most prone to person to have parasocial feelings towards people. sometimes i just get obsessed with people i have never met and that is terrifying. lately ive been obsessed with a certain guy i DO not know nor talked to but i am so inlove and interested in him, i even stalked his friends socials so i can find something.
i am crazy jealous of his girl best friend and it pisses me off cuz i do not know any of them, but i want him so bad even tho in a few months the spark will fade away and i will get tired of him
sigh, how to stop being like this nonas

Anonymous 123395

I used to be like this and sometimes still am. I think a situationship with someone you've idealized helps, cause it breaks your heart and makes you remember every person you feel that way for is a normal human.



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Mo lest ation Anonymous 121546[Reply]

I’m looking for fellow victims of a man named Randall Mosey of Ohio. He should be 32 by now. Blue eyes, white guy, computer nerd who loved starcraft. He molested me when I was 13 and I know there are others, because I tried to reach out to his girlfriend through her tellonym and she got really upset and deleted my messages after responding to one saying she’s “tired” of people trying to ruin his reputation. So that is not the first time someone’s tried to tell her that her boyfriend’s a pedophile. She accused me of lying because I hid behind anonymity. Excuse me that I’m not exactly jumping at the idea of hopping on a skype call with you guys.

I wanna know if y’all have any advice on finding other victims too. I just keep remembering.
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Anonymous 121597

>>121594
I’m so happy for you that Gwynevere River Song of Waxahachie, Texas, a pedophile who groomed a thirteen year old, has met their karma. Let anyone googling that name find this post and let this be their ONLY memory. The only good pedophile is a dead pedophile.

Anonymous 121598

Gwynevere River Song, Randall Mosey, and Jackson Mosher are all pedophiles. Anyone googling their name should be aware!

Anonymous 121712

Sorry about not responding, I thought no one would have responded.

>>121555
I grew up in a really strict environment where if my mother found out she would’ve beaten me and grounded me. Things are different now… Maybe I’ll look into giving the police a tip about someone but there’s not much I can do since all my proof is gone. I was young and wanted to get rid of all my traumatic memories so I threw away the laptop he bought me.

>>121558
I figured since I’m here maybe they are too haha

>>121571
I want to, but he’s deleted himself off the internet ever since I reached out to his girlfriend about it. They used to have MeWe accounts.

>>121593
So fucking sad. Thank you for telling everyone. At the very least if someone is curious about them and googles them they can suffer some shame.

Anonymous 121786

https://steamcommunity.com/id/Okansil-nature

my rapist only ever cared about video games. here is where he plays them.

Anonymous 123391

>>121593
>>121546
Both Jewish names BTW.



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/rock bottom/ - general Anonymous 76609[Reply]

This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.
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Anonymous 122771

new rock bottom, havent been with anyone for nearly 10 yrs and recently slept with someone who pretended tobe cool with a close intimate relationship but was actually creting an environment of confusion and pain. im shattered and weak and relapsing.

Anonymous 122866

>>122688
Well, I have done all I can for her. A lot of it was paperwork, fixing expired ID stuff and getting her finances in the best state they can be to get approved for a new place, found a few options for places though none are certain yet. I got all the documents she needs to do the most recent five years of taxes and secured an appointment with a free tax preparer to get it done - the rest of the taxes will have to be sorted out later but buildings only ask for the past 2 years of tax returns. I helped her fix her resume and cover letter, secure some letters of reference, get approved for unemployment, and taught her how to fill out the work search requirements. I finally convinced her that her non stop coughing was asthma and got her some inhalers with a spacer to use and her cough is so much better now which is a big relief because it was really bad. We went a got a few clothes for her because the things she was wearing were so ragged. I blocked the youtube recommendation algorithm on her computer and she's mad at me about it but can't figure out how to undo it and I'm not about to tell her. And I packed a lot of things in the house and cleaned out all the closets and cupboards. Her sister says she'll come help pack the rest next week and then I guess we'll just hire movers when the new place is locked in.

It was a lot of work but having her available to do stuff like help find papers or recover passwords even when she was spiraling or combative made it possible to get all this stuff done. When things reach a crisis point she usually just disappears into the mental hospital and if she had been hospitalized I would have just been visiting her in the hospital and she would have been medicated out of her mind and totally regressed into a child like state and I would have been dealing with power of attorney stuff just to try and figure out what was going on financially. She's pulled herself together a lot and also has been cooking nice meals for us because cooking calms her down. She says she is feeling a lot better and ready to keep things moving forward after I go and I just hope that's true.

Anonymous 123088

>>122616
me but Im in my 30s and never had friends/hung out. Theres no hope for me is there.

Anonymous 123089

>>122245
Dont know what to say but the mtf spouse thing just makes this tragedy into a horror that no nona deserves. Im so sorry youre going through this. I really do hope things get better for you. There might be shower installments for easier accessibility that are on Amazon or other sites.

Please stay strong and treat yourself to something positive in whatever way you can.

Anonymous 123390

spending the whole day in bed hating myself and getting inebriated yay



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Anonymous 119969[Reply]

Anyone else just accept the fact that they'll never have a husband and kids? How do you cope?
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Anonymous 122675

I've only ever once fallen in love, during my first year in college. I have never met anyone else I've wanted to date. And now it seems impossible, since now everyone my age isn't a virgin, so I'll never find true love.

Anonymous 122786

>>122188
What should he have said - that he has plenty of other options? Would that make you feel better?

Anonymous 122801

>>122786
why are you replying to a month old post?

Anonymous 123387

>>119976
Finance men like cars.

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>>119969
I dehumanized myself and turned to bloodshed to steal my husband from the putrid maw of a woman I have hated since kindergarten. He might be a weakling, but he's my weakling. I wanted him from the moment I laid eyes on him and I won't let anyone else have him. I have seized his essence and have bore unto myself a child comprised of my mind and will and his beauty and physique.

Take what is rightfully yours nona. Become the puppet master of his loins and accept no substitutions. Life is too short to spend your day wishing. Force your way.



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I am pregnant Anonymous 122619[Reply]

I found out a week ago that I am pregnant.
I am married, have been for 2 months to my husband who I have been with for 3.5 years now.
I am scared.
Right now I am the sole breadwinner of the house and I don't even make that much money. Enough for bills but hardly enough for anything else and slowly have been draining my savings.
He doesn't work. He had a good paying job but left it to pursue school 6 months ago. And what he is in school for I honestly don't think he has a future in.
Other than the financial struggles, neither of us are ready to be parents.
I think I could handle being a Mom, but I do not want to be a Mom. I am not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I wanted to enjoy being newleyweds longer.
He is not ready to be a Dad. Emotionally immature.
The reality is slowly dawning on me on how hard this will be for us and I am really distraught. We are broke and I am married to a man who literally cannot handle fatherhood. I am terrified.
At first I thought I would be excited for a baby but I am more scared, mostly because of ny husband being unprepared. I know he couldnt support us but I know one of us will have to stay home with baby all day.
I just dont know what to do.
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Anonymous 122986

Nona you need to realize something. The same way you now have to face consequences because you married a retard who was still trying to "find himself", if you abort behind his back you can (and should) kiss that relationship goodbye.
It's not worth living with the lies, the fear and most importantly the guilt it will drive you mad. Keep them both or be ready to lose them both and reroll again later.

+ nobody ever feels ready to become a parent

>>122641
I second this
he has to take back his job if he has to beg them on his knees to take him back.

Anonymous 122994

either abort now, make him go back to his job, or divorce(and abort)

Anonymous 122997

>>122619
Abort now.
And make him go to jail for forcibly impregnating you.

Anonymous 123002

Please abort. Don't give this thing a shitty life with unstable parents.

Anonymous 123386

Either he will emotionally mature to the extent possible despite stunted development, or he will not. One ought to finally her biological imperative, and conditions will never be 'better,' only more comfortable. Perhaps the pressure will force him to step up.



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