Can't remember if I made this thread or not but I've been feeling like wanting to do this for a while.
What I ended up realising is that "you" are not static and that each new person that meets you will mostly base their overall perception and understanding of you on present day "you" and not every version of "you" that has existed and that is still in your head. For example, I did really badly in important high school exams and in college, yet the last few years I took some courses online, worked hard, and did well. My partner vaguely knows I didn't do well before but has only seen the version of me that works hard and so considers me to be that type of person while someone from my past would totally disagree. Neither of them are wrong from what they knew but the person from the past is not correct for present day me.
Basically, you don't need to make up a new "you", you need to become it.
Unfortunately there will always be some times where annoying people will ask straight off the bat where you went to college 10 years ago (so they can tell you about the amazing place they went), or when you're in a job interview and need to list every job you've ever worked, but for the most part it's actually pretty easy to be light on details you don't like about your past.
I also think telling some white lies about yourself to people you don't know well to cover up personal issues is fine, provided you're willing to accept that they might be a time where you have to own up and explain why you lied. Making up a completely new identity is just too easy to make a mistake with and then have everyone turn against you.
Rereading this thread, I see that these two posts already said the same but I guess I had to realise it for myself:>>2622>Dating is for fun, not for bullshit history lessons or something like that.
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