What kind of things are fucking your family over?
Are we talking about 'act of god' events? The type of shit that is absolutely unavoidable? (eg: getting struck by lightning)
Are we talking about things that are totally within your control to prevent? (eg: you can't pay rent because you made a dumb purchase and went overboard with the spending).
Or are we talking about things that are technically mitigatable, but it's easy to take an "it could never happen to me" stance, so you don't really put in the effort to keep yourself safe? (eg: leaving your house unlocked, not having an alarm system, and then calling it 'bad luck' when someone robs you).
Asking because I always considered myself a lucky person.
Then I had a string of really awful, truly unlucky things happen to me.
Then I fell in a rut of blaming everything on bad luck, when something went wrong, and it stopped me from taking accountability for my own actions (eg: staying with a boyfriend who raped me and then acting surprised when he continued to be abusive, because I am an insecure clown).
Not saying you're to blame for your family's shit lol. Not saying your family is 'deserving' of your bad luck at all. I'm really sorry to hear that you guys are dealing with a lot of crap.
The reason I bring up accountability is because in my experience, when things are going bad, it is far more empowering to do what you CAN to mitigate future issues and protect yourself, than to worry about curses and shit. You feel me?
And if you can pinpoint the exact type of bad events in your life to 'acts of god', 'mitigable', and 'within your control', it might help you to gain a sense of power over your situation.Post too long. Click here to view the full text.