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i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man

Do you guys ever just stop mid goon to cry? Like seeing people have sex and wanna have sex with each other just makes me want the same thing so bad.

>girlboss it in the trades nona! rosie the riveter, nona!
>lots of money there nona!
>learn skills nona!
>it's not like the old days anymore nona!
>you definitely won't end up face-down ass-up on a disgusting man's disgusting truck floor like the world's least expensive prostitute nona!
If there are any other nonas in trades here - how do you put up with this world???
i could rant for HOURS but basically while i actually enjoy fixing things and being active and i don't mind getting a bit greasy, i just cannot deal with the people in this business. 95% of guys in trades are literal stone age far-left-of-the-IQ-bell-curve cavemen who salivate at any useless shiny bauble that says "Milwaukee" or "Snap-On" on it and THROW their money at the salesman offering 50% interest financing plans, condemning themselves and the GFs and wives they often somehow have to a life of debt slavery
My sister is like "oh at least there are hot guys" lmao these guys inhale hot dogs and soda and "self-medicate" totally avoidable bad knees with weed and vape. The soundtrack to every day is my colleague's douchecore spotify algo playlist (literally Nickelback, late Eminem i.e. "Ass Like That" and Thong Song and Kid Rock). Not attractive
The couple (literally 2) cute and possibly interesting boys I've met in this business have been taken and too painfully shy/awkward to get to know well respectively
Everything is filthy and disorganized and if you try to be a bit more orderly and organized yourself, apparently that makes you a princess
the vehicles are all disgusting because apparently guys who drive them all have no self-respect
I feel like my friends are slipping away because we can't relate to one another's daily lives and when I get home I just feel exhausted and like time is passing with no way to differentiate one day, week, month from another
Anyway that's all, just getting older with a wrench in my hand and my ass in the air and my face in the dirt

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.

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I think I’m reaching the end of my relationship and I can’t tell if I’m finally becoming honest with myself or just spiraling.

The weirdest part is that my boyfriend has no idea how much manipulation and performance existed at the beginning of our relationship on my side. Not even in a cartoon evil way. More like… I knew how to become what he wanted emotionally and I did it very intentionally. Sometimes when he says romantic things to me now, I get this horrible detached feeling because instead of hearing sincerity, my brain immediately goes: “yeah, but you engineered this.” Like I built the emotional architecture and now I’m uncomfortable living inside it.

But then another part of me wonders if ALL relationships are kind of like this to some extent. Maybe most people just aren’t self-aware enough to interrogate attraction and attachment this hard. Maybe everyone performs a version of themselves in the beginning and then later feels trapped by it. I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m uniquely toxic or just hyper-conscious of dynamics most people leave unexamined.

Lately I’ve been thinking about ending things. I can feel him trying harder to get closer to me, texting more, being more attentive, wanting reassurance. It almost feels like he senses me slipping away. And instead of making me feel loved, it makes me feel trapped and guilty. Sometimes I can’t tell if he actually deeply loves me or if he’s terrified he won’t find someone else who fulfills certain emotional needs for him. Then I wonder if I’m the reason he feels that way now. Like maybe I slowly trained him into emotional dependency and now I resent him for it.

What’s also confusing is that one of the reasons I liked him initially was because he felt normal compared to me. Grounded. Socially functional. Less mentally tangled. But over time he started becoming stranger, more isolated, more emotionally intense, and I genuinely can’t tell whether that was always inside him or if being close to me dragged it out. I hate even typing that because it sounds narcissistic, but it’s honestly something I think about a lot.

And despite all this, he gets under my skin in a way nobody else ever has. It’s almost physical. Certain tones in his voice or certain phrases instantly trigger rage or disgust or panic in me and I become obsessed with analyzing WHY he has that effect on me specifically. Sometimes I think I’m psychologically studying him more than loving him. WhPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I survived COCSA when I was in middleschool. Everyone in my family knows, yet none of them talk about it (I don't really expect them to), and I'm too scared to tell anyone. Since it happened, I have had to deal with this by myself. This of course didn't go well, since time after time, since I was eight, I've somehow ended repeating the same situation where I'm degraded sexually.

I have only learned one thing from all of this, and it's the reason why I feel I should step out of dating for a while (although predators always find a way to slip into your social circle ). But I have also learned that anything that you "seek" in a man, you can already give it to yourself.

Dating feels amazing, but if you're doing this for a specific and selfish reason, you should really question if whatever you're looking for can already be found within yourself (or other relationships like you girlfriends). Be kind, take care of yourself.

I hope things go better for me. I'm tired, terribly tired of going through the same situation agan and again. After all of this, I unfortunately forgot how a normal relationship should feel like. One where I don't feel disposed after they…well.