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Anonymous 126028[Reply]

Anyone else struggling with being caring or selfless with a hard time setting boundaries fated to be endlessly disappointed by people who shaft, lie, cheat, steal and otherwise take advantage of one another?

Not being able to say no. I like everyone to be happy. But I feel like people just use each other constantly.

Anonymous 126030

My best friend is like you. I've significantly helped her with saying no to people, and we celebrate every time she tells someone "no."

The best thing you can do is reflect on times you agreed to do something you didn't want to do.
>Why did you agree to it?
Is it really about 'keeping peace,' or is it that you're scared of an outburst if you say no?
>Why did you regret agreeing to it?
Is it because that person never does anything for you? Is it because you forewent something you wanted to do? Is it just because you were already really tired and stressed, and you just agreed to do more work?

Reflecting deeply is most of the solution, you can make a plan for the future:
>Hey nona, can you drive me to (distant location) tomorrow night?
>"No, sorry, I'm really swamped with housework and need to catch up," or "Sorry, I've been trying to fix my sleep schedule and I need to be ready for bed by 9p.m."
Don't lie, obviously. If you actually are swamped with housework, they might offer to help you beforehand, which may work out better for you. If anyone is genuinely offended by such reasons, and they don't offer a helping hand, then they're genuinely bad people and you should welcome their scorn. I'm perfectly happy to burn such people for good; I have said "No sorry, I'd prefer not to" to people's faces (I got the idea from Bartleby). Some never speak to me again, yet others are still close friends.

Being useful doesn't make you respected, it just makes you get used. I'm only where I am because I'm a bitter, jaded person. It's not better to be like me, you shouldn't burn bridges like I do. It's lonely. Find something in the middle that works.

Anonymous 126031

>>126030
>Is it really about 'keeping peace,' or is it that you're scared of an outburst if you say no?

I'm scared they won't like me or want to be my friend if I don't do it.

The moment I stop making an effort, the friendship and/or relationship usually stops in its tracks.

>Is it because that person never does anything for you? Is it because you forewent something you wanted to do? Is it just because you were already really tired and stressed, and you just agreed to do more work?


I've regretted it if they're abusive, disrespectful or hurtful afterwards. I don't necessarily want them to do "something" for me.



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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 126015

IF THEY FIRE ME TODAY IM GOING TO KMS I SWEAR TO GOD

Anonymous 126016

>>126015
screw these bitches sis

Anonymous 126025

I'm completely lost. I have a dead end job that pays a minimum wage, I'm a college dropout and I have zero friends. I was a neet for about four years of my early 20s completely wasted time. Now I don’t have anything. My mom probably wants to kill me since I still live with her. I don’t even have the will to make a social media account to interact with people. The only person I used to talk to was an older nona, but now she’s pregnant and understandably doesn’t give me any attention anymore since I’m a dead-end person with nothing decent going on. I’m only getting older, fatter, and dumber with time. Sincerely, I'm now 27 years old and I don’t know what to do anymore.

Anonymous 126027

>>126025
I "wasted" my 20s too just consooming media.
How draining is the shit job? Do you have energy to eat well, at least? If you eat well, you can carry that into exercise, which should give you focus to study something.

Anonymous 126029

>>126027
Not much really, it’s an office job, so I only get mentally tired by the end of the day, drinking a lot of coffee doesn’t help either. I always feel sluggish after eating anything, so I’m not eating properly either. The problem is that I don’t have any interest in anything and I can’t seem to force myself to do anything, really the only thing I actively do is organize my Pinterest.



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confessions thread 2 Anonymous 63992[Reply]

>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
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Anonymous 125532

i dont even mean to do this but every single time i tell guys yeah i hate hookup culture ew ugh and then i ghost them because i dont like them enough but i got horny and im bipolar

Anonymous 125538

>>125532
I'm also bipolar. Are you on meds?

Anonymous 125550

>>125538
im on lamictal because lithium and depakote gave me the shakes, lamictal helps with the depression but the mania is when i turn into an ontologically evil whore

Anonymous 126002

I desperately fell in love with an older coworker. We met during an occasional job, i thought it was a friend crush, so i went out of my way to stay in contact and we've become friends but now i can't bear anymore the fact that i fell in love with him
Fucking old bastard

Anonymous 126026

was in love with a normal rly soft spoken guy who likes fishing and wears suits and acts like. the most normal person ever. but he had way too close of a friendship w a woman who dresses like a dominatrix and says stuff like "darling" and it made me want to kms bc why is my older suit wearing fishing guy with glasses a degen who wants it up the ass? he was rly nice to me and its the biggest mindfuck ever to have to look at him and know he probably watches ball busting porn. i hate her. anyway.

ever since i gave up on him ive been spiraling and wanting to kill myself and other people more and more (i wouldnt actually kill other people so dont be a fucking moron and report me) ive been hanging out with a guy who is a total spaz and has like 3 missing teeth from god knows what and at first i thought i was hanging out with him cuz i hate myself and i hate him and it felt good to roll around in the filth together and flush our psych meds down the toilet and argue. but actually i kind of like him and i think i like being around and honest piece of shit more than i like being around a guy who lies to everyone about getting his prostate mauled by another woman. is it ok to keep living like this? does this mean i want to fuck toothless spaz guy?help



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Homelessness Anonymous 126004[Reply]

I'm homeless and waiting to end the world.
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Anonymous 126020

>>126019
They don't understand that victims can love to harm them and kill them in self-defense.
And that victims can authentically be perfectly non-criminal and innocent, both, perfectly, and always.

Some people really think abusive non-logic gets them somewhere. Because they're schizophrenic.

Anonymous 126021

>>126020
Sick of naive morons not leaving me the fuck alone.
Sick of their schizophrenia and their narcissism, and of the fact they exist at all.

Criminals need to fuck off with their crime for sex appeal delusions. And their crime for a false sense of superiority shit, too. They can fuck off with everything, to prison, never to leave, and without all privileges forever and always, never to change.

So sick of being sexually harassed, too.
They're all completely and absolutely unintelligent.

Anonymous 126022

>>126021
>unintelligent
They're actually simply without intelligence. Non-intelligent.

Anonymous 126023

>>126021
>>126022
Death is also fine

Anonymous 126024

Isaiah, Bridge Kid…

For what it's worth i think you would have made a great school shooter.



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Anonymous 125858[Reply]

How do you handle seeing men for who they really are, not the idealized “prince charming” version we grew up imagining in anime?

Everywhere I look, I see cheaters, manipulators, narcissists, deadbeats, porn addicts, and abusers… and it feels like they’re not the exception, but the rule. Men are always more likely to leave then women when their spouse and children get ill or born sick. Men are always more likely to cheat and have side bitches. They don’t listen, they only make repeated attempts to make it sound like they know more than you about everything.

There's no care, no love, no empathy, no compassion, no understanding. They don't care if we feel safe or not. Men only want women for sex and the moment they get it, they move on.
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Anonymous 125917

>>125892
it's a pretty nuanced topic. high IQ mentally well people generally stay virgins for longer on average, but at the same time like the other nona said no premarital sex marriages are usually associated with cultish environments that will coerce you to stay with some pedophile to keep up the appearances.
also these stats generally show lifetime sex and divorce rates, of course people with 0 partners wouldn't have the opportunity to have divorced before. but even sluts have 0 partners at some point, you know.

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>>125858
I just know them to be girls.
They simply aren't men, by definition.
There is nothing adult about them; there is nothing male about them.
I consider them all to be female-gendered and feminine.

Being male-sexed never made them men. Never made them male. Never made them masculine.

God is one of only two men to ever exist.
And those two men are nothing like those male-sexed females, that you posted about, who are evil, and nothing more.

Anonymous 126007

>>125858
To be fair, this is precisely what females are like, too.

Not that I relate to being that way, personally.

Anonymous 126011

>>126006
Masculinity is toxic, remember?

Anonymous 126014

>>126011
I don't agree. Femininity is sooner.
Everyone is feminine, and not at all masculine, except for two people, ever.
Male-sexed claiming masculinity when they only have experience with femininity, is an issue.
Male-sexed never actually know what masculinity is. They are never right about masculinity. They are also never masculine. All of them, ever, across all organisms ever. All male-sexed organisms to ever exist at all have all been only feminine, and never knew a thing about masculinity. They have all only been perfectly non-masculine.

False masculinity is toxic, yes; it's toxic femininity.

Just something I've been studying.



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NEETs what do you do all day? Anonymous 125667[Reply]

NEETS = Not in education employment or training. I’m over 25, any over over 25 NEETs? What do you actually do all day?

I’m awake now, took two puffs of my vape. TikTok scrolled, Reddit scrolled and played a game on my phone and I’m immensely bored. Ideas are welcome , any of active forums I should know about? Any & all welcome

There’s a lot of times where I just bed rot and do nothing due to the depression but I think this isn’t one of those days. But I am lonely as I have no one and bored and I don’t feel like gaming tbh.
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Anonymous 125791

A friend asked me to make a website so thats what Im gonna do now since Im still unemployed

Anonymous 125900

>>125667
I was really depressed when I was a NEET as well.
Watching Osomatsu-san made me feel a little bit better but also worse in a way too.
Do you have hobbies? Any plans on not being a NEET anymore? What's keeping you from pursuing a career and education? Depression? I hope you're seeing a therapist about it… My depression was largely situational, and improving my immediate environment and finding a way to advance my education for the sake of my future career helped me immensely. It's not any special job or anything, but I've found that doing anything is usually better than doing nothing and learning things is actually pretty fun.

Anonymous 125901

>>125900
>Watching Osomatsu-san made me feel a little bit better but also worse in a way too.
for me, it's Juushimatsu.

Anonymous 125958

you have to MOVE
your body produces endorphins when it moves around, especially when exercising

you should have a ritual to kickstart to your day
tell yourself that you can play your games after your morning ritual AND breakfast (which includes washing the dishes)
you'll have to wash them anyway so what difference does it make ? if you get rid of your chores first, your fun won't be spoiled by the worry of having to do them

>tiktok

soulless slop
>r*ddit
no comment
tbh i find trooncord less cancerous, i have a few servers that i only use to scroll the meme channels and mute the rest

Anonymous 126008

I'm not formally recognized as not NEET by the government, but I'm actually employed as a god, and always educating myself on matters pertaining to that.

So, fairly thread relevant.



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Anonymous 124469[Reply]

Every moid I've dated that didn't watch porn was very asexual to some degree. The last guy I talked to was demisexual and hearing him say he cared little about my appearance made me feel undesired and unattractive. He made me feel seen, safe and understood everything about me. It often felt like he read my mind, but I couldn't get over that feeling that he wasn't attracted to me physically. I want to feel desired, pretty and hot. Is that wrong of me?
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Anonymous 124595

>>124559
>Send the demisexual men over to me.
What's your contact? I'll tell him to reach out.

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>>124548

What do Muslims have to do with any of this. Act normal

Anonymous 125732

>>124469
Yeah it sounds like you were heavily brainwashed into self loathing and to prioritizing caring about your looks more than simply enjoying your life. If you are really attractive you don't need to be validated by somebody else that's your ego

The real question is, is HE attractive ? As long as you're physically emotionally attracted to them, that's all that matters.

Anonymous 125733

>>124527
Thank you. I'm over here literally avoiding male attention at all costs. Op has a non porn addicted moid and she feels it's asexual ???? We have a real winner here

Anonymous 126003

>>124469
I knew a boy once that didn't watch porn, but was still very sexual. He was a true romantic, the idea of engaging in anything sexual (including porn) without being in a loving relationship disgusted him. Like he was literally fembrained in this regard, but was otherwise masculine (wasn't a femboy at all)
I would have dated him, but I was a NEET at the time and dependent on my bf
So I guess they do exist. But he's the only guy like that that I've ever met



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 115657[Reply]

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Anonymous 125975

>>125974
go on nona

Anonymous 125977

>>125975
the gist of it
>hang out with a girl 24/7
>suddenly completely drops me for someone else and borderline ghosts me
>ok I guess, I won't talk to her anymore
>she starts texting me how happy she is with her new "e-date" and admits to trying to rage bait me for not interacting with her
I did cuck her by stealing her oneitis after this so it's all right and fair in the end

Anonymous 125978

>>125971
I'm kinda tired of having to prove I'm a woman for no apparent reason, if you think I'm a moid just don't interact with my posts. Besides it's not like I was looking for any advice, I just wanted to write it out to vent.

Anonymous 125992

>>125971
>>125991
How is it manipulating to want to break off with someone for a while ? Is it it that important to you that someone you don't know needed to take time off ? Seriously bizarre behavior

Anonymous 126001

>>125796
this is fucking sending me



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Am i Toxic Anonymous 125995[Reply]

Been dating with my bf for 7 months now, i trust him but i have the urge to stalk. It's a really bad habit but i cant stop it, everytime i try not to do it i feel like there's something eating me inside out. Since we started dating i never told him to unfollow the girls he follows since they don't have an inappropriate profile and them seem from his uni or his friends girlfriends. I stalked him today after he went to sleep and i sent him the 2 girl's account he recently followed asking who they are? But in a mad way. And i want to know if being this jealous is a toxic behavior. I don't think he shouldn't have friends and i didn't say anything about friends that seem close to him but these new girls seem like they're NOT from his uni and 1 is emo uwu type edgy girl and they both follow him back. I don't understand. Its been hours since im trying to sleep but i cant its already 7 am

Anonymous 125997

No, you have reasonable suspicion. Can’t trust moids these days especially the last part about the uwu emo girl part. You need to confront him. Don’t let him think he can slide away with anything. Also, guys probably like it when you’re a bit “jealous” because it shows you really do love and value them.

Anonymous 125998

>>125997
He woke up and kept apologizing and said that the emo girl was someone he followed really long time ago before we even meet but i probably didn't see her he said he's sure that he didn't follow her recently and he has cut the conversation with her after we started talking. The other one turned out to be his really close friend's gf lol



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