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Anonymous 127725[Reply]

I cannot stand the political climate that exists today. As a leftist, I’m told to hate Republicans. I live in a very Republican area and these people are not bad people. I have a very bad cold and I can’t really breathe and I had to go pick up medication and it was like $100. I didn’t have enough money and I had to call somebody to ask to borrow some money and while I was calling, this old lady overheard and paid $100 for my pills. How can I hate these people when I know that they’re good at heart?

Anonymous 127726

Random normie's vote/environmentally absorbed opinion doesn't account for much either way

Anonymous 128159

Easy. Stop being a leftist. Problem solved.



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i have a phobia of female role in sex which makes me dysphoric as fuck and sex repulsed Anonymous 126444[Reply]

anyone else??? i just find the role submissive and humuliating, i dont wanna post it on nsfw board bc i dont wanna see anons talk about wanting to do humiliating sex acts i have a phobia of
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Anonymous 128153

>>128152
You are also an underage retard as the op pic shows

Anonymous 128154

>>128152
Feminist separatism is a branch of radical feminism though
But by the sound of it you have more in common with saudi arabia sex segragation than radical feminism separation from men

Anonymous 128155

>>128153
I'm not op but I agree with her
>>128154
arabs still want women to have sex with men, only when men want it though, but the effect is the same - more slaves for the system produced. In the west you have additional effects like stds and females being generally fucked up from shitty relationships and relying on other women for emotional labour for it. I'm simply blackpilled about female nature

Anonymous 128156

>>128155
>I'm simply blackpilled about female nature
That's just incel rhetoric. Same coin different side.

Anonymous 128158

>>128156
Incels still want to have sex with women and think sex is good. I think sex is evil.



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Anonymous 127666[Reply]

Do you plan to remain childless your entire life?
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Anonymous 127672

>>127671
He thinks women who don't have children in their 20s go insane from regret and since women hit the wall and become infertile as soon as they turn 30 all that's left is to buy dolls and petend they're your children

Anonymous 127674

TikTok really does encourage you to film all kinds of retarded shit for money and attention

Anonymous 128092

>>127666
It's called childfree. Children are not something we are lacking. And of course, I hate kids, loud adults, and doing anything that's not fun.

Anonymous 128103

Probably yeah, but if I did decide to want a child I’d adopt a girl because I can’t deal with the chance that my baby could be a moid. And because pregnancy and giving birth is scary

Anonymous 128157

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>>128092
Babies are cute tho



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Anonymous 128106[Reply]

Я устал от того, что мужчины И женщины смотрят на меня (русскую женщину) и думают, что мы не правы, в то время как украинские мужчины часто говорят об изнасиловании нас, как только они попадут на территорию на юге. Меня чертовски тошнит от того, что у украинцев хватает наглости называть наших мужчин орками, когда эти чертовы нацисты планируют разводить нас, как запас
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Anonymous 128142

Fart porn Nigerian style

Anonymous 128146

Кул байт трэд бро

Anonymous 128147

>>128108
you are russian or russia is ukrainian in other words. it's essentially the same

Anonymous 128148

Посмотри комментарии в вк под любым постом об изнасиловании женщины или школьницы,ничем они не отличаются)
Просто русским хуемразям есть что терять, а украинцам уже нет

Anonymous 128150

>>128148
Мне кажется это неироничный ботокомментарий из какого-нибудь центра пропаганды, я его уже читала и думала че за тупая хуйня
При том через Гугл переведенный



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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 125303

>>125209
People like you want to exclude and outcast people lower than you on the social ladder, but eventually you'll outcast all the people lower than you and you'll be at the bottom.

Anonymous 125400

Literally kill yourself so nobody else inherits your autism. At least have a hysterectomy and burn your uterus.

Anonymous 125426

is that james spader

Anonymous 128096

>>121894
I am 30 and my autism symptoms got worse I got diagnosed at 30. I always knew but it was never official, and I also have ADHD.
I feel like I did get more sensitive, but I know these conditions don't "get worse". Instead, I think we just get better at understanding our limits. Which you are, too. I don't ever leave my house without ear plugs, and have done so for only 2+ years as I thought I just need to deal with that.

I had a bisalp since I don't ever want to raise kids or spread autism and ADHD; consider if you can raise a disabled kid by yourself. If you have doubts, it's a NO.

Anonymous 128105

You're not turning into a sociopath. In terms of personality disorders the symptom you seem to be experiencing the most is not dissociality but rather detachment.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ICD-11_classification_of_personality_disorders
But there's a less concerning explanation for what you're going through, it's called autistic masking and I also experience it. What helps is to have some autistic friends and have a place /activity where you feel comfortable taking time to yourself. Having these moments with other autistics and having alone time to be yourself are extremely helpful in terms of not feeling like you're losing your mind about it, it also helps with depression and the like.



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Mental and physical health stuff Anonymous 128083[Reply]

I was able to go anywhere by myself. Then I started to have panic attacks. For a month I had panic attacks almost everyday, I was so anxious. I still get them but not that often. And now, I cant go out by myself due to how anxious I feel. It sucks. Cant even go out to grab some stuff from supermarket. Maybe having a support group or someone in the same condition would be good, atleast I could share small things that I did by myself to grow confidence.

I have a cyst in one of my ovaries and it hurts. It is pressuring the organs around I guess. My parents dont care. They tell me that I shouldnt worry and its all in my head. But its hard to not to care about a cyst, especially when it is hurting. Its hurts so bad when I am on my period too. I always had hard periods, the cyst is making it harder. I am scared that the cyst might pop, because when it does it releases toxic stuff in your body (as i know).

I am scared and anxious. I used to have severe depression and now that I just started recovering, I have to deal with those, like a fucking joke

Anonymous 128085

Sorry about what you're going through, Nona. It doesn't seem easy at all. It's hard with anxiety. It can feel so intense and so horrifying, like every part is screaming at you, all at once. It's totally normal and you are definitely not alone with it.

Does your local supermarket have delivery by chance?

I won't pretend like I know how it feels to have a cyst, but it seems absolutely dreadful and incredibly painful. I can only say to take it day by day, you are still here, you are still doing okay, we're here for you

Anonymous 128102

I have crippling anxiety and am terrified of going out alone. Do you think your health anxiety is related? Are you scared of it popping in public? I think the best option for you might be exposure therapy on top of visiting your OBGYN. I wish I could give you more advice, but I've been dealing with this since COVID and at this point I've become a hermit who orders all their food. I only go to school and work. It's so not worth it to end up like that. Just keep trying no matter what. You can do this.



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Abusive nepo baby ex bf Anonymous 128076[Reply]

So, my ex left me a few months ago after sexually abusing me on one occasion. He's admitted to it. I have texts of him admitting to it and apologizing. I'd wanted to leave for a long time, but I'm an actress and playwright, and I really thought he was going to be able to work on and uplift my work before he left. He was friends with a couple of celebrities growing up. I'm very aware this was stupid, and life has punished me for it. We're both in college in NYC for theater. Part of me really wants to file a Title IX, but considering his familial wealth, industry connections and that his mom is a contributor to the DSM it probably would not go in my favor. I'm just scared, I guess. This shit doesn't usually go well. I don't want revenge, but I feel I'm being punished for being "too emotional" during my college acting classes after covering for him most of my Fall semester, as the incident happened over the Summer. It's just not fucking fair. It's a small BFA program, and I just don't know how to get through the next year and a half of school watching him get opportunities over his background as mine disappear because he isolated me completely.

Has anyone been through a similar situation? How did you get through it? How were you able to stop caring about them? I hate that I do. Were you able to not talk about and if so how? Sometimes it feels like this is literally all I can talk about. I'm so fucking angry, sad, and lonely. The stress gives me rashes, but it's been better since we're not in contact.

All love to anyone dealing with anything remotely similar out there.

Anonymous 128077

You have to persist and heal…. you're in the unfortunate circumstance of a catch 22. If you come out with your story he'll probably use whatever resources are at his disposal to dismiss and call you crazy, but you'll have a chance to give him a criminal record and maybe even put him on the sex offender registry. If you dont come out he'll continue to live his life but you will suffer in multitude of ways-your opportunities seem to already been shot due to this asshole. Unfortunately the entertainment industry is fillled with Moids who abuse those they deem lower then them. I know, I used to rub elbows with a prominent musician in the local music scene in nyc before he sexually coerced me into having sex with him.

I dont think my way of going about healing will help you. It might get you in more hot water actually…. but theres a saying that "haters make you famous." If you're willingly to be annoying and persistent on knocking this guy down a couple of pegs, then you should file title IX and file a police report. But thats going to require you to be able to stand your ground and refuse to become "blacklisted" cause some rich kid asshole wants to paint you as the villain. If you dont come out, you're going to live a life that you initially didnt choose for yourself because you were afraid of what might happen if you did. I believe you. I honestly do. But you gotta be prepared of people with internalized misogyny dismissing your trauma because of bulllshit.

Whatever you choose to do is entirely up to you. I didnt go to the police with my assault. But i did end up harrassing my assaulter in subtle ways cause i was a teenager and very, very stupid but persistent. However, I'm in therapy now and im continuously facing my trauma head on doing so. And! The man who coerced me is no longer in the music scene (as of right now. And it better stay like that ^_^)

I highly recommend therapy. I'll link some different types of therapy in the reply to this so youll have a more informed opinion when you choose to seek it.

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Anonymous 128081

>>128076
>I really thought he was going to be able to work on and uplift my work before he left.
loool

Anonymous 128099

>>128077
Thank you, this is a really kind response and unfortunately most people don't understand you'll just be rubbing shoulders with so many abusive people in this industry it can all just blur together. People can laugh all they want, but the reality of working in theater is working with abusers 24/7 and learning to adapt in that environment as a woman. It's nice to see someone else in the city who really gets it.

>If you're willingly to be annoying and persistent on knocking this guy down a couple of pegs, then you should file title IX and file a police report

Fortunately, I have the texts of him admitting to it and us talking about me being referred to SA survivors group therapy. This isn't my first time going through something abusive, so I know what's required to get an investigation started, at least. I do have enough.

I'm conflicted, as I'm not really looking for revenge, more so to get those opportunities back and be part of my school environment. I spent so much time defending him and being a clear emotional wreck, people have really distanced themselves from me. Some people know due to a third party being really nosy about the abuse too and making it all about them for some weird reason. I'm worried I lost my casting eligibility going forward in school shows, too, not that my academics reflect that treatment. It's just academic sexism. I also worry part of me would always feel guilty for ruining his life, which is a crazy thing to say about someone who put their hand down my shorts after asking them not to, while I froze, blaming it on his ADHD and then not medicating. He's apologized ceaselessly, he'll say things like "nobody has anything to apologize for but me," "I understand if you hate me," or "I'll hate myself for this forever," but the only person hurting in any material way is me. I really wanted us to just break up like normal people, but this has so fucked up my life…

>I highly recommend therapy

I started going over the Summer after this happened. My provider is great, but I'm open to other options because I'm not feeling like it's enough and don't love IFS therapy rn, so thanks for your link. <3



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Sapphic girlies and lesbians Anonymous 125973[Reply]

It's hard out here for feminine woman who likes feminine women. Can I just be totally honest here though, despite the fact that I'm tolerant and have many trans friends, I gotta say I am genuinely starting to have trans fatigue. It's permeated into all walks of life to the point where we can't even have dating apps to ourselves.
It's enough that I have to sort through the usual Justin Beiber clones (as butch women are not my type), all the couples wanting to spring their boyfriend or husband onto you right out the gate, and now we gotta deal with the overwhelming amount of trans "lesbians" who most of which are still just clearly men, big ass men with stubble and balls and it's damn near impossible for lipstick lesbians to even get a fighting chance because these troops will fight tooth and nail to get into every single female only space they can. I'm not interested in dick, you can say it's fucked up that I'm concerned with what's in their pants, but that's a manipulative and almost predatory remark to make when they're fighting for their place to try and get into yours. It also makes it harder to find women when most of them are so far brainwashed you can't discuss this with them either, without them tweaking out and saying but trans women are women, like fuck off. They can exist but can they just accept being the 3d thing and leave women the fuck alone? I'm absolutely allowed care that they have a dick and not want them in my dating pool, they aren't lesbians.
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Anonymous 127263

>>125973
I have a huge preference for girls and am generally attracted to more feminine women. my issue is that i just don't know when a girl is gay too. I avoid looking at women in this way because i'd feel creepy if she turns out to be straight.
There's currently one girl I like at my work, I can assume that she's gay because she's kinda masculine (short hair, alternative), but she still acts feminine and she has soft features and she's just super cutee
Idk but my issue with girls is that I start liking them when I know I can (if theyre gay too) because it's just so difficult to find.

Anonymous 127268

>>127263
tranny

Anonymous 127270

>>127263
I wish I had this level of control over my feelings.
I ended up falling for one of my best friends and it's just hopeless. But I don't think it's creepy to fall for someone you know you won't have a chance with, you can't always control that. It only gets creepy if you act obsessed or make advances when you already know she won't be interested. It kinda sucks, but I'll just have to get over it, I'm responsible for my feelings after all.
I don't think you need to avoid looking at most women at all just because you think they might be straight though. How do you make friends if you're so distant with other women? It's not like you'll fall for every woman, right?
But yeah, you can't always tell if someone is lesbian or bi just by appearance…
Someone at my workplace invited me to a pride event and that's how I found out that she's lesbian, I wouldn't have noticed from her appearance at all.
I just try to get to know people at pride or at adjacent events and locations, like LGBTQ+ cafés, stores or conventions; much higher probability of meeting women I might have a chance with.
Anyway, good luck with your crush!
>>127268
Claiming that all butch women are secretly trans somehow is how certain misogynists wield anti-trans rhetoric to harm women. They don't care about women, they just care about the policing of anyone who's gender non-conforming, even if they're not trans at all. Don't fall for it.
I'm kinda butch, doesn't mean I'm a man trying to be a woman nor vice versa. So tired of this shit.

Anonymous 127272

>>127270
thank u for your advice and insight! I didn't mean I avoid women completely haha, I just avoid viewing/thinking about them romantically unless I'm certain that they're gay too (which i never know).

Anonymous 128094

>>125973
don't be sorry for being a homosexual, wth. Men taking horse piss pills won't turn them into a woman. There are radfems out there for you who hate men like you do! You know you can simply ask what people's sexuality is, right? Or just ask her out on a date.



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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 128034

>>125754
apartments are apart-ments not one big room with all your neighbours. what propaganda are you smoking ma'am.

Anonymous 128035

>>128031
I used to feel that way too. It's the avatars, usernames and the overall UI that makes you feel like this. Now I only browse the dedicated forums for my games, like fenoxo.

Anonymous 128038

I hate my job and I don’t want to go back in 5 days. I can’t do this. I only need to keep it for 6 more months but it all feels like such a long stretch of time looking at it now. I hate this town and I hate this job. Fuck my life.

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Online dating is fucking awful

>They poorly introduce themselves

>They try "flirting"
>They call you angel, babe, barbie (if blonde), beautiful, "cute", goddess
>They offer you money to fund your next purchases
>Dick pics
>Randomly bring up their fetishes
>Ghosting
>They can't start a normal conversation without them pivoting towards sex
>Randomly start telling you that they have no confidence in themselves and want to reach out for your pity to coddle them
>The start commenting on a woman's appearance despite themselves being fat or balding
>A "coffee date" where they start bringing up sexual topics
>He talked about himself the entire time
>They randomly give you advice you didn't ask for or don't even need or want
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Men love to bitch how they are ignored by women but from my experience it is the women who are usually decent towards strangers regardless of their looks, when men are the ones who look at you with disdain if they don't find you attractive. I went from 50 kg to 62 kg and I lost a big chunk of my hair because of my autoimmne disorder a the way they treat me now is like night and day compared to how they used to treat me. And back then I didn't even wear any make up. I was just thin and I had pretty long hair. Men were very "kind" to me and now they either treat me like I don't exist or they're straight up mean to me. I don't even talk about showing any romantic interest, just basic human decency. And just recently a male therapist, looking almost visibly disgusted, told me I looked like I didn't take care of myself and that my hair looked bad kek, which isn't my fault; I tried all kinds of products and styling but since I got sick I can't do anything about the texture of my hair, it's also so thin at the top it's hard to style anyway. Even if I wasn't performing femininity, a man would never dare to say something like this to my face 5 years ago. But now that they no longer find me fuckable they treat me like shit



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