>>127326
>threatening his further education/career by doing so
But what if it doesn't? I don't think your plan goes far enough, you need to actually testify against him.

>>127315
Am I missing something or are you planning an overly complicated revenge plot to get back together with a guy who abandoned you after getting you knocked up and flirted with someone else in front of you? It'd probably be easier to find some other guy to date who won't do all this shit.

>>127315
I get that feeling of absolute hate.
I sometimes wish I had the skill and nerve to pull a Uramiya tier revenge scheme on someone, but the person I hate the most moved to who knows where before I found out what he did. He raped my best friend multiple times and I wish there was something I could do to ensure he won't do it to anyone else. My friend wants to leave it in the past but I'm still so mad on her behalf…
I'll respect her wishes but damn, this sucks.

>>127320
If it won't work while you're alive, it'll work even less when you're dead.
Unless your plan involves framing him for murder, suicide just isn't a good way to get back at anyone. There are better ways to take revenge.
You want to get back at him, right? You despise that piece of shit? Then don't hurt yourself like that, live your best life and if you must, at least find a way to get back at him that elevates you above him. You can't do that if you're 6 feet under…
You deserve a good life without obsessing over some human waste of a moid and you can regain your pride without having to tear him down first.
But if you reaally want to tear him down (he 100% deserves it), don't do it in the heat of the moment and work out something that won't bite you in the ass later.
If you plan on exposing him, you could try to get some legal advice if you think it might help.
>>127316
Fpbp but yeah, it'll depend on the country.

he is just going to say you took out the trash for him and they’ll look through your stuff and see you just wanted him back. you need to become more successful and then come back and cancel him for what he actually did to you. not lies.

>>126959
mine too lol but im so into it he's just so unique i need him. only problem is i cant stop thirsting over randoms bc theyre attractive. its too bad attractive men dont have personalities

>>126942
eh I dated a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive. He was so clingy and always wanted to be touching and kissing me or whatever, but sometimes he repulsed me. He didn't have optimal hygiene either what didn't help .

But I didn't date him as some sacrifice or whatever, I actually developed feelings for him , and over time he did start to become attractive to me. Idk how I was so blind. I started to like his smile and his eyes and freckles. Thinking back to moments I saw him, I do still look back and remember finding him attractive. But when I actually see pictures of him I'm embarrassed he can even say he was with me.

Idk if looks really matter. I'm currently talking to a guy I don't find super attractive but he's nice and I guess I could be able to find him cute if he is charismatic irl as well. But I probably wouldn't be able to find interest in someone who is actually super objectively ugly. Maybe thats shallow idk

>>126942
>some ppl actually think this is a virtuous act
Who the hell… Yeah no, it's just awful.
>dating ppl you're not physically attracted to
Yeah, that and not figuring out your sexuality beforehand.
I've never been physically attracted to anyone, but when I started dating, I thought that desire would develop over time and I'd come to like sex if I just tried it. My boyfriend was very handsome and I really liked his appearance in an aesthetic sense. I didn't really want to have sex with him though. I thought, maybe that's normal for women, I just need to try harder, I just need to read more on how to have sex, I just need to practise, I just need to fantasise about him specifically and figure out how to get aroused at the sight of him, etc..
I thought the problem was that I just didn't love him enough, got really insecure about it and then we broke up.
Took me way too long to figure out that I'm asexual.
I wish I could've just told him because I really did like him.
I wish I'd figured myself out sooner or just asked him to wait when he asked me out. Or at least confided in him regarding my insecurities around sex and attraction. But I was afraid of hurting him by telling him something like that so… Yeah, I felt awful. I didn't do it on purpose but I could've hurt him really deeply. I'm glad he moved on quickly at least and started fucking around before we even broke up properly. Not really cheating because it was an open relationship sorta deal.
That relationship ended almost two decades ago when there wasn't much information on asexuality in my language (there still isn't). Even at LGBTQ+ awareness things now, it's rarely brought up. At least knowing about the concept would've been helpful…

i think a lot of women date men they aren’t attracted to because they’re conditioned to be polite and kind and never judge a book by its cover. i never see men shamed for calling women ugly. i think a lot of men will settle for whatever will let them have sex with it. gender sometimes doesn’t even matter. they’ll fuck a hole in a park bench.

>>126942
Idk, I was attracted to this one person because they had the same mental illness as a family member of mine, I think I was projecting on him, but I couldn't help it. It hurt to see him suffer from the same thing and I couldn't help but love him more for it. He rejected me though because he didn't see me the same way. He wasn't ugly, but he had some unusual features I wouldn't normally be attracted to.

>>127305
Also, I have some mental issues too, the mental one was me…

>>127305
thanks for being understanding, nona <3

>>127307
Of course; thank you for stepping up for that other noona!
People like you make this world a better place

>>66543
Genius

>>107365
>Squishes
>just a friend?
Yeah, just a term for when you really desire a close friendship with someone specific. Seems more practical and less chronically online than "blorbo" or "bias wrecker" to me, both terms I've heard more often than squish…
>Sensual Attraction
>sounds like a creep
Yeah, hugging a kitten or even your friends is really creepy, wanting to be physically close is so inhuman. /s
>Aesthetic Attraction
>why do they need a label or bullshit term for every single thing.
Because certain people act like absolute dumbasses when you're aroace and call someone "attractive" and wrongly assume that they understand the concept of appreciating beauty without physical desire.

>>127201
lmao what the fuck

>>127201
this didn't happen

>>127233
and it seems like that person has an embarrassing kink

My hubris seems to have caught up to me. Because who in their right mind would wanna stalk me if I truely had little to no importance in the grand scheme of things? Thats neither here nor there. Im gonna put the schizo mask down for a moment and just put this out into the universe.

Youre cute when you're terrified. I will suplex you when I get the chance (◕‿◕✿)

Dont like it? Move to Florida.

>>127146
Had a meeting with upper management about him and his need for a professional therapist and how it’s affecting everyone at work. They flat out rejected getting a therapist involved, but that was expected since someone else had already asked before. They are going to have his manager do 1 on 1 counselling with him to see if he doesn’t improve. I no longer have to babysit him and they said I can report straightaway if he tries to contact me during work hours.
In the end, it’s more like the manager replaced my role which is really shitty considering she is the one that DESPISES him the most (understandably). This is probably just going to make him stressed out and make even more mistakes… but I’m finally free!! This is going to put a strain between me and the manager which sucks cus she’s like the closest coworker I have and one of my only friends… But I guess we’ll have to see.

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

>>113773
>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.

>>119668
I know a guy almost exactly like this, minus the TERF part.

Haha this is interesting. completely ideal/unrealistic:
lookswise:
>5'9-6'0
>good hygiene
>have some sense of style, or at least aware to look put together
>good dental hygiene !
>mixed or not white;
>bigger than me , but not too muscular

personality
>minimal screen usage/no social media like me
>minimal longing for sexual intimacy
>values me as a person
>can cook
>does not drink/smoke
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-does not post on social media or better yet have it
-always wants to spoil me
-caring
-over 5'11
-direct
-responsible and decisive
-pudgy muscular

>>126618
>>126618
hi, just know that the closer you are to your goal weight the better you'll look. youve made so much amazing progress already, and ive been in your place before. i also struggled to lose weight on my thighs but what helped the most is incline walking and power pilates. it doesn't matter how much you've used to weigh; what matters now is that you're changing and you're becoming healthier! keep going!

>>126630
thank you for the advice and kind words i really appreciate it nona :)

Even with makeup on I still feel like shit. Because yeah, I can put it on and be objectively prettier, but I just keep thinking about how the makeup industry targets women’s insecurities to get them to spend money and how I’ve fallen into that trap. I wish I could say I do my makeup for myself, as an artistic expression, but I 100% do it for others.

I feel so ugly. My forehead is my biggest insecurity. I want to cut bangs, but i don't want people to know I'm actually insecure yk. And bangs don't even really fit with my current hair. When I see myself in pictures it actually makes me suicidal. It's always my forehead tbh. I'm too afraid to look at myself. I see people who are unattractive be so confident, post pictures, and I don't get how they do it. I don't mean to say they should feel insecure, I just don't know why I am cursed with feeling this way about myself. I wish I had that bliss of ignorance.

Ideally I want to cut my hair (bangs) and dye it (pink) but I'm afraid to do it in my current setting at school. I don't want to deal with judgements. I already feel subhuman at my school. I'm not alternative but I'm not as basic and conforming as the other girls. I feel ugly for not being conforming. And like a freak because I'm not as social. I never talk in class and I want to talk to my classmates but it usually doesn't go that well. I fear more judgement, if I cut my hair, even if it's how I truly want to be. I think as soon as I've made my final exam I'm going to do it. I think I'd feel better about myself.

And there's a guy that likes me from school but I feel so ashamed, like I've tricked him because I'm so ugly. I feel guilty because we built a connection online and now he's attached to me bc of that. We were both too shy to talk to each other irl. Despite having classes together. I don't want him to see me. I don't want anyone to see me.

As for my body… sigh. I have big boobs which should be nice. Except that they make me look so fucking fat. when I wear sweaters and stuff, it just looks horrible. i look so big. Because of the way the sweater falls, it looks like I have a giant stomach. I'm too insecure to wear tight fitted tops, maybe also because I don't want to attract that kind of attention from moids,, so idk what to wear. I'm seriously considering buying a binder to make my chest look more proportional when wearing sweaters. I just hate how it looks,. I avoid wearing color because you can see my boobs. So i just end up wearing navy and black, and look super depressing. I'm also always hunched over because it feels like they stick out so much. They just bring me down and I just look like a sad depressed wreck

Yes, I've actually had suicidal and self-harming behaviors because of it. I was overweight my entire childhood (unlike my mother, who was anorexic and obsessed with appearance). I suffered a lot from her, and she forced me to go on extreme diets from the age of 13. At 16, I gained a lot of weight (when you have nice curves, it looks good, but I was very round, lol).

And I felt disgusting. Everyone at school was disgusted by me, and there was even a very pretty girl who made me feel terrible. Because of those experiences, I suffered from anorexia for two years, and as a result, I looked awful (yes, I'm unattractive at any weight). I still have dark circles under my eyes and a very thin face with a somewhat wide nose because of that illness.

Even my family (moids) have compared me to a super pretty, white cousin. I remember at a dinner they spit in my face telling me she was better, while my face looked like a monkey's. I cried. I locked myself in the bathroom and made cuts in my legs.
I still can't forget all that. How do they expect me to feel loved? How do they expect me to feel hopeful when they all saw something horrible in me, even though I always tried to be a good person?
it might sound weird but i feel jealous of slightly chubby girls,they look healthy and cute with curves while i look flat and my face is masculine because a lack of bucal fat but i cant gain weight no matter how hard i try. I want to kill myself because i cant never be pretty or look at photos of myself with happiness.

>>118889
Right time right place. You also gotta do background checks and search for their discord handle in the archives before adding. If you see him posting in sexting threads and shit like that, don’t add him

my gf and i have been long distance for a bit over 3 years now. im getting frustrated because every time i ask what our long term goals will be i get a vague non answer ("well when i graduate…" etc)

thankfully both of us have the income to afford multiple trips a year to see eachother but it's definitely affecting my life since i feel like all the time in between visits is just like… the void. like im standing around in an elevator waiting to get to the next floor. i almost feel like i'm wasting my life on this but that's hard to admit.

i want to make it work and i feel like we can but man this is so taxing. at least its gone better than my last LDR where the first time we met up she immediately dumped me and we had to spend the rest of the trip awkwardly being friends only lmao.

I see my post about him from a long time ago was deleted. Much to think about.

I know this thread is pretty dead but has anyone gone through the CR1 process without a lawyer? I'm worried my fiance is about to piss away thousands on something we can file for ourselves.

>>127271
post on reddit maybe?

isn’t it just one of the first signs of being socially well-adjusted to at least attempt a compliment when seeing someone even if you don’t mean it? men aren’t expected to do it because they’re viewed as blunt and blind to social cues (and they generally are). women can read the room and can actually pick up on when someone needs validation or comforting. don’t fight it nano, the discomfort in being forced to compliment is just a reminder that you can emotionally understand someone.

>>126800
How is this an expectation? And it doesn't have to be from physical attraction. If I notice someone is wearing something nice that stands out to me, and I know them well enough, I'll say nice top ! where did you get it from? It's not that deep lol

But it's definitely not a good idea to compliment if that feels unnatural to you or whatever. But have people assumed you to be envious/insecure because of that?