>>127239
yeah
if it’s fake this is godly ragebait
if it’s true this is cringe
half the thread is your posts escalating whatever was said before

>>127144
My mother married a gaming addict. Best thing you can do in this situation, nona, is to leave him.

>>127273
he’s been playing mount & blade for two hours. second he got home from work.

Stop worrying about sunk costs and break up with him
>b-but
Enjoy being treated like shit for the rest of your life if you seriously marry this man. His PC and ex are leagues more important to him than you are.

he’s played that old game for four hours today. i think my relationship is over. i can’t even imagine what we would have talked about. we can’t be alone together without both of us being on screens it turns out.

>>126937
Yes but not as blackpilled/nihilistic as you probably
voluntarily abstinent/virgin and celibate never had a bf few can relate but it brings me mystical insight

>>126937
wut is blackpill?

i crave it but im volcel

>>127262
A metaphorical term for demoralization.

>>126937
I'm asexual and not interested in ever having sex. Not sure if that counts as volcel.
>be blackpilled cuz of female role in sex being blackpilling
What does this even mean?
Being forced into roles sucks but you don't need to let yourself get defined by them.
If you have sexual interest outside of what you think is considered the social norm for women, you can voice it and demand it in your relationships. It's just a matter of sexual compatibility, isn't it?

>sapphic
you fucking cocksucker

>>125973
I have a huge preference for girls and am generally attracted to more feminine women. my issue is that i just don't know when a girl is gay too. I avoid looking at women in this way because i'd feel creepy if she turns out to be straight.
There's currently one girl I like at my work, I can assume that she's gay because she's kinda masculine (short hair, alternative), but she still acts feminine and she has soft features and she's just super cutee
Idk but my issue with girls is that I start liking them when I know I can (if theyre gay too) because it's just so difficult to find.

>>127263
tranny

>>127263
I wish I had this level of control over my feelings.
I ended up falling for one of my best friends and it's just hopeless. But I don't think it's creepy to fall for someone you know you won't have a chance with, you can't always control that. It only gets creepy if you act obsessed or make advances when you already know she won't be interested. It kinda sucks, but I'll just have to get over it, I'm responsible for my feelings after all.
I don't think you need to avoid looking at most women at all just because you think they might be straight though. How do you make friends if you're so distant with other women? It's not like you'll fall for every woman, right?
But yeah, you can't always tell if someone is lesbian or bi just by appearance…
Someone at my workplace invited me to a pride event and that's how I found out that she's lesbian, I wouldn't have noticed from her appearance at all.
I just try to get to know people at pride or at adjacent events and locations, like LGBTQ+ cafés, stores or conventions; much higher probability of meeting women I might have a chance with.
Anyway, good luck with your crush!
>>127268
Claiming that all butch women are secretly trans somehow is how certain misogynists wield anti-trans rhetoric to harm women. They don't care about women, they just care about the policing of anyone who's gender non-conforming, even if they're not trans at all. Don't fall for it.
I'm kinda butch, doesn't mean I'm a man trying to be a woman nor vice versa. So tired of this shit.

>>127270
thank u for your advice and insight! I didn't mean I avoid women completely haha, I just avoid viewing/thinking about them romantically unless I'm certain that they're gay too (which i never know).

>>118446
>>118423
>Go on soc
>See it's 99% horny dudes
How do you even find a bf there? You must be flooded by nasty moids saying anything for a lay

>>118889
Right time right place. You also gotta do background checks and search for their discord handle in the archives before adding. If you see him posting in sexting threads and shit like that, don’t add him

my gf and i have been long distance for a bit over 3 years now. im getting frustrated because every time i ask what our long term goals will be i get a vague non answer ("well when i graduate…" etc)

thankfully both of us have the income to afford multiple trips a year to see eachother but it's definitely affecting my life since i feel like all the time in between visits is just like… the void. like im standing around in an elevator waiting to get to the next floor. i almost feel like i'm wasting my life on this but that's hard to admit.

i want to make it work and i feel like we can but man this is so taxing. at least its gone better than my last LDR where the first time we met up she immediately dumped me and we had to spend the rest of the trip awkwardly being friends only lmao.

I see my post about him from a long time ago was deleted. Much to think about.

I know this thread is pretty dead but has anyone gone through the CR1 process without a lawyer? I'm worried my fiance is about to piss away thousands on something we can file for ourselves.

A 16 y/o dating a 19 y/o is statutory rape. Yall just had bad communities

>>127253
a nineteen year old having anything in common with a sixteen year old is so embarrassing oh my god. it’s so creepy and sad i hate how stunted men are. i associate immature men with being pedophiles it’s always how they justify it.

>>127091
Being friends with your ex is a red flag my dude. Kudos to "J" for being stupid enough to put up with that

Yo L…. if you see this I hope you realize that you're only a object to him. You there to refuel what he cannot give himself. You make it easy to control you through the toxicity and bs. If that's what you call a win you can keep it. Have his child. You'd just be fulfilling more generational trauma to your progeny.

Do it. I triple dog dare you.

I wish I could treat you as cold and uncaring as you treated me so you'd know the pain you put me through, but I'm nowhere near as selfish and irresponsible as you are and I actually value you and care about you.

Meanwhile you treat me like shit for a month straight making me feel like I'm a burden to you, making me lose appetite and sleep and make me cry. Only to crawl back a week later with your "uwu nona I hope you're okay I want to cuddle you uwuuu" acting like none of that fucking happened.

I wish I had it in me to not forgive you.

Whatever. You won't see that side of me that you like ever again. I'm not gonna coddle you and give in to your need of intimacy from me. Because I know I changed and I'm a better person now and you're still the whiny little fuckass who always runs from problems instead of trying to fix them.

>>126942
This happens like extremely rarely anyway

>>126942
You're right, and you also helped double convince me against even thinking about messing with this guy tonight. I was caught between "is he cute or the only guy dressed well tonight" and that's probably enough of a reason to just not.
I've been on the back end of that scenario, it's not fun. he was a porn sick guy who really didn't care about the woman's looks so long as they had a large cup size. I am small chested and eventually he sprung the "gift" of implants on me. And yeah it would be using the guy in a gross way, even if he technically is interested (but with a presumably excited and willing partner which I guess I'm not). My thoughts for getting with him absolutely are not virtuous though, I am lonely and post bad breakup with the aforementioned asshole lmao. I think some girls with uggos are like me, and some probably have low self esteem too like one of my friends who absolutely could do better than her ogrish Redditor bf

icl my boyfriend is hella ugly

>>126959
mine too lol but im so into it he's just so unique i need him. only problem is i cant stop thirsting over randoms bc theyre attractive. its too bad attractive men dont have personalities

>>126942
eh I dated a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive. He was so clingy and always wanted to be touching and kissing me or whatever, but sometimes he repulsed me. He didn't have optimal hygiene either what didn't help .

But I didn't date him as some sacrifice or whatever, I actually developed feelings for him , and over time he did start to become attractive to me. Idk how I was so blind. I started to like his smile and his eyes and freckles. Thinking back to moments I saw him, I do still look back and remember finding him attractive. But when I actually see pictures of him I'm embarrassed he can even say he was with me.

Idk if looks really matter. I'm currently talking to a guy I don't find super attractive but he's nice and I guess I could be able to find him cute if he is charismatic irl as well. But I probably wouldn't be able to find interest in someone who is actually super objectively ugly. Maybe thats shallow idk

>>119835
what?

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

>>113773
>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.

>>119668
I know a guy almost exactly like this, minus the TERF part.

Haha this is interesting. completely ideal/unrealistic:
lookswise:
>5'9-6'0
>good hygiene
>have some sense of style, or at least aware to look put together
>good dental hygiene !
>mixed or not white;
>bigger than me , but not too muscular

personality
>minimal screen usage/no social media like me
>minimal longing for sexual intimacy
>values me as a person
>can cook
>does not drink/smoke
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>>126914
DO NOT MEET WITH HIM!!

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

You are wasting both his and your time

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!

>>127201
lmao what the fuck

>>127201
so many fetish posts the past 12 hours wtf is going on

>>127201
this didn't happen

>>127233
and it seems like that person has an embarrassing kink

My hubris seems to have caught up to me. Because who in their right mind would wanna stalk me if I truely had little to no importance in the grand scheme of things? Thats neither here nor there. Im gonna put the schizo mask down for a moment and just put this out into the universe.

Youre cute when you're terrified. I will suplex you when I get the chance (◕‿◕✿)

Dont like it? Move to Florida.