>>113913
gtfo moid, you wouldn't get it

>>72555
Sounds like you have an attraction to the GAME of love itself, but can't commit. You like the chase, but you love it too much, and it leaves you wanting when feelings become mutual, since you haven't become content with loving what being in a relationship is actually like.

Hope you're doing better now nona, been a while.

I walked past six baby skunks eating a trash pizza

i fully believe in the concept of toxic camaraderie. the concept of friendships can be toxic, in spite of how media portrays friendship as always being pure or wholesome. for example, people who assume that you do not like them or are against them as people solely for the fact of not desiring to be their friend. in actuality, most people just want to have friends that they believe align with their goals and interests. being selective about who you are friends with, or not desiring to be friends with someone, does not indicate that you are against that person or dislike them AT ALL. it just means you do not perceive someone as adding to your life - that is not dislike or hatred, or that you are against them as people. people are groomed by society into believing that someone that does not want to be friends with them threaten their security. i can think of examples in real life where someone assumed that my desire not to be their friend was based on malicious feelings towards them, where none but neutrality existed. you do not have to want to be friends with EVERYONE - that is a waste of emotional energy and humans are limited by their lifespan and how they dedicate their time.
additionally, being friends with someone can result in malicious behavior, even if you BELIEVE that the friendship itself is pure. just because you are friends with someone does not mean you will hate someone just because your friend does. people who are friends and think of their friendship as a means of hating people together, that is absolutely dumb. friendship should be about supporting your friend, not about hating people together, even IF you care about your friend or perceive them as being hurt by someone and believe that hatred is justified, when it never is - media's portrayal of such friendships is an example of propagating and normalizing toxic camaraderie.

I tried participating in an event in Pokémon go, but the bosses was too hard for me. And the group chat im in just Said "get gud." Meanwhile they all have people they can play with irl. I don't. It just sucks that they're not there for me in game when im always there for them. Im going to try my luck again in the Big city tomorrow. Hopefully there will be enough people playing irl tomorrow.

>>125924
Nerd types are the biggest toxic losers. They never continuously bathe. They’ll e-cheat on you.

>>126991
okay but i want to know what makes a “nerd” type because don’t all men have those kinds of hobbies now? i get it used to be subcultures but now everyone is into pop culture. what makes a nerd a nerd in 2025?

>>125878
i wish i could still do this

>>125779
just don't give it up
does open here imply the relationship is incidental?

>>127041
what i mean to say is: is he really just looking for sex?

>>126994
Hey nona. The fact you're self aware about this is already a huge step. You don't need to save every animal or person that's in distress, it's another way to create a toxic environment. In fact you should be saving only yourself and people who won't inflict harm upon you. Many bad situations can be avoided this way, so hopefully you can find some solace and agency in this idea.

>>126998
those tik toks of animals with days to live have been upsetting me so bad lately. i keep emailing shelters near me to get in touch with them because i can’t have a dog on my floor and i rent. the amount of suffering in the world drives me insane. i guess that’s why i even care someone who hurt me is depressed. he let me suffer alone when he knew i was hurting. there’s just a part of me that can’t be like that towards someone when i know i’m part of it. i wanted him to say sorry and then for it to be over. not for him to be silently suicidal and think the situation is so far gone i wouldn’t care if he apologized and he doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. cos like the greater implication scares me. what if no one ever forgives each other for anything and we don’t fix climate change and the whole world is just backed into a corner and the whole earth ends.

>>127001
I actually understand you a lot…
Still I hope you remember that unless you take care of yourself nobody else will. Please put yourself first nona, and your loved ones if you have them
also these tiktoks are 100% made by manipulative mfers

>>127003
i’m glad at least for the ones connecting dogs on death row to people who have confirmed they’ve saved them at least. i tried to show my local shelter the shelter needing animals transferred out and i hope that eventually no animals have to be put down and they can just be moved to areas with not a lot of strays like where i live. it like destroys me inside seeing this stuff because there aren’t any kill shelters within driving distance of me at all so it’s hard to do anything when the most urgent need isn’t local. i try to focus on wildlife rehab and conservation stuff here. i feel like i obsessively need to focus on fixing things or the weight of the world starts driving me actually insane.

>>126989
he’s not secretly venmo-ing me and if he wanted me back it would be a temporary psychotic break. i think this might just be your best friends boyfriend.

no matter what it is he was upset about, destroying things out of anger is genuinely manchild behavior. what i would do is tell him to grow up.

at best he can't control his emotions and damages your home/belongings. at worst this is a warning sign for future domestic abuse if he can't control his violence when upset

>>127024
he was reacting to something that happened to me to be fair to him. it did scare me though.

>>127026
clear sign he thinks of you as his possession, dump him

>>127037
honestly we already had a huge fight over it and made up but he also called me his woman and it made me cringe so much. i’m “your” WHAT? we barely know each other and i low key want to bail still

>>126980
I prefer acting like muhself right off the bat unless I need something from the other party. I'm surprised so little people do this but I guess they care about their image way more than I do

>>127004
when you say small talk i'm assuming you mean quick chats with strangers. really it just comprises of things that are safe to talk about. some examples

1. the weather (i know but especially if it's been bad/nice recently)
>"it's been so nice out, what have you been up to?"
>"it's so cold, i just want to stay inside all day"

2. the location
>"this shop is so cute! i'm going to be broke by the end of the day"
>"have you been to ____ yet? it has a nice vibe!"
>"it's been so busy recently!"

3. shared obligations
>"uni work is killing me"
>"it's been slow on my end of things, what about you?"
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Like another anon said, start making small talk. If you listen to normie small talk, it's just the most mundane shit. But once you start chatting and connecting with someone it feels good.

Learn people's names. Remember what they like. They'll usually reciprocate.

>>126975
make eye contact and smile and have a high pitched voice. acting dumb is also underrated.

>>127028
>but if it’s mental illness is it maybe also caused by trauma?
Of course it is, no sane person acts this way.
>and i don’t think more pain or punishment would help him.
I guess honestly I am too coming from a family where any misdeed has been faced with cruelty, so I probably reacted in a pretty unhinged way. But honestly I don't know what else I was supposed to do.
>and you say your person is afraid of being left? do you think they might have a high opinion of you and have left first out of fear and regretted it cos they were scared you would leave first?
Uhh honestly it doesn't make a lot of sense to me given the context. Maybe true, maybe they even thought I was too emotionless to care, but in the end their actions weren't very nice and I was more scared of being disrespected like this than anything else. They outright insulted me, likely under someone's manipulation but still. I honestly wouldn't care if they just admitted to it with respect.

>>127030
but you don’t think they’re capable of having this conversation and they’re not in your life anymore so i guess i can’t advise to talk to them. i just wish more people could talk it out. if you both reacted badly i think that kind of situation has the best chance of both parties being able to be vulnerable and honest. if they have npd though they probably aren’t capable of that. i’m sorry you’re still trapped feeling things over this that you can’t resolve.

>>127031
I actually wish I could talk it out too but I didn't believe it anymore. Thanks nona, I actually really needed someone to talk about this with. I have a good honest relationship now so I'm fine.
They do kinda give a vibe that they tried latching onto me just to display me as a trophy in front of other people so I don't think they had the ability to even care what I think at all. I'm actually satisfied with the outcome of the situation, though.

>>127032
my ex treated me like that because all of his friends wanted to date me and he didn’t even want me. he just wanted what they couldn’t have to prove a point. i know how painful that is. i’m so sorry. i’m so glad you’re okay and i could be someone to scream into the void to.

>>127033
On the bright side you are popular enough to sway entire social dynamics nona! He was an asshole but he can't take away that from you. Thanks, I'm gonna head off to bed now. Have a nice time of day wherever you are <3

>>126739
That's terrible!

it’s only been a few days. breathe.

>>126739
I hate this "nonchalant" precept that zoomers follow religiously thinking it makes them cool. Ugh

>>118533
you could replace trump with alcohol and this post would fit well in prohibition. But That would hurt the nonas who cant put down the bottle too much to say

>>125949
>Most incels would've been utter normalfags if it weren't for their appearance

And most women would be incels if they hadn't been born women.

>>118525
Rodents

Men who play games all day and the only way they’ll interact with you is when you play co-op or they need you to relieve a bodily function.

>>118525
is this a carricature of nevada-tan