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my father touched me when i was 12yo Anonymous 130321[Reply]

when i was little, on weekends i would stay in my dad's bed watching movies or tv shows until late at night. we even fell asleep together several times. one of those nights, while i was asleep, my dad started touching my breasts and put his fingers inside my vagina while saying my mom's name. i didn't do anything; i feel like i should have killed him.
i never told anyone.
i still live with him as if it never happened.
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Anonymous 130343

>>130341
I was raping you with a dildo and crying tears of joy
>>130342
It isn't misandry it's just you retard

Anonymous 130344

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>>130343
Aah so you're mentally ill; somehow that never turns out to be a surprise answer, and it seems to answer all the questions I have about anyone in society.

Anonymous 130345

>>130344
>male tries to evoke shame in response
A creature incapable of having a meaningful conversation.

Anonymous 130346

>>130345
Yeah real meaingful conversation here: >>130343

Anonymous 130347

>>130346
Retarded questions get appropriate answers.



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It's only sex Anonymous 130333[Reply]

I'm 21 and a virgin. I've never had sex or a partner.
I have fantasies about men where they play a more submissive role, or where they do things for me, for me to watch.
I'd like to have someone to do those things with.
With a couple of fem coworkers, I've gone to clubs, drunk, kissed guys, and masturbated them. Once, a neighbor forgot to close his bedroom window and started masturbating. I watched him from afar and got turned on, so I did too.
I don't know how to start a sexual and emotional relationship with a man. I'm afraid he'll be heartless or try to impose his sexist ideas on me and demand a more traditional role.
I feel very sexually inhibited. There are so many handsome cis men I'd like to do a lot of things to, but I don't know how to let them know my intentions.
With the guys at the clubs, I don't know if it's avoidant attachment or a fear of not meeting their expectations, but that's why we didn't move on to the 'next phase'
I want to read about your experiences, How you all did.

Anonymous 130338

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>I'm 21 and a virgin.
Quirk Chungus
>I have fantasies about men where they play a more submissive role
Disconnected from her natural female position
>I've gone to clubs, drunk, kissed guys, and masturbated
So… not a virgin

My goodness women are such disgusting normie braindead slop scum, no offense. I can't read anymore of this. But thank you for posting on my website today.



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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 130310

>SELECT shit FROM code WHERE software = vichan
cool seething rant from someone who maintained gurochan (which runs on vichan, like CC)

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I have an rss feed now too just like all the cool kids
Needs some improvement though

Anonymous 130328

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>>130327
I didn't realise people were so interested in my little blog website. I'll have to post a lot more.

Anonymous 130329

>>130328
I mostly did that cuz I am sure a certain someone else on this site has an rss feed for discord. I don’t want to fall behind them technologically.

Anonymous 130330

I do check cc manually too much also



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I’m completely bored of life 130164[Reply]

I’m so frustrated and I feel so defeated because I just can’t make life interesting again. I can’t recall the days anymore and they all just fade into each other and time is speeding up so much because of it.

I’m 28 now but I feel old. I think of memories from just 2 years ago and I barely recognize myself in them. I used to be so adventurous and brave, and it felt like every day I’d have meaningful moments, even if they were just by myself.

Now my life is so dull and boring, it makes me want to claw my eyes out sometimes.

2 years ago I moved to the US on a hope and a prayer. I used my life savings to move on a visa and I had 4 months to find a job. It quickly became clear that I might not find one, and I’d have to go home and be broke and move back in with my parents and start over. But with an ego hit from failing in the US ontop of it. I wasn’t sure I had it in me to go through that humiliation and defeat, or even just how much energy it would all take to start over again back home - so I had it in the back of my head that I might just call it quits with life before then.

Because of this I lived each day like it was my last, I spent all my time on the streets day and night. I made so many good memories back then. I used to walk at night around, I remember sitting in the cold air by a pet cemetery at night just feeling so alive. Everything felt so real. I feel like I lived a whole lifetime in just those 4 months. But even before moving to the US my life felt so much more real.

Now everything just feels fake. I can’t escape the fake plasticness no matter what I do. Every person I meet is just sorta the same, I can make friends with them but its like they’re hardwired to never talk deep about anything. It drives me crazy and makes me feel something terribly alone. I got my wish in the end and got a job and stayed in the US, but its like some sick trick where my wish got granted but the catch was everything in life becomes hollow.

I seriously have no light in my eyes anymore. My heart just isn’t in it anymore. I force myself to go to things and talk to people, but everywhere I go I just stand there with my eyes on the ground like a statue. I feel like part of the decor rather than a human.

How can it feel so different in just 2 years? I just can’t feel anything anymore, I can’t even fantasise about a happy life for myself because I can’t even figure out what would make me happy.
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Anonymous 130323

Have you been to therapy? It sounds like depression. You might need medication. Don't be afraid to tell someone how you feel they might be able to help you in some way, even if it's just by listening.
I sincerely hope you're feeling better and that your spirits improve



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Am I a bad person? Anonymous 130237[Reply]

So I've had this "childhood friend" we met when we were 10 in school I'm exactly one month older than him we were born on the same day just different month, we grew up together then we drifted apart after COVID but I noticed that he has this weird obsession for me, from mutual friends we have they've told me and showed me videos and messages of him talking about how much he loves me and that he truly wants to be with me forever. I've known this since we were 14 no2 we are both 21. He has never dated and hasn't lost his virginity even though i have dated in the past and also already lost my virginity ( i haven't told him that im not a virgin but he is smart so he must KNOW right?) . So recently I've been talking to him and going on dates and I really like being with him but honestly he isn't my type I don't find him hot and honestly would never be able to be intimate with him, I could kiss him but I don't think I would feel anything, but I really like how he sees me and treats me. He truly love me, and shows it, he writes me letters, fixes things in my apartment, buys me dinner, etc. I know im leading him on but I'm sure he knows I don't love him back but i don't know if he cares. Am I bad person for using him?
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Anonymous 130255

Love spells
Read about it and found out it was the best option
It worked
https://spiritualherbals.com/post.php?title=why-a-personal-spell-is-different-from-ordinary-rituals

Anonymous 130316

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No you're not bad, but be open about your true feelings towards him. Be honest since he is definitely putting so much of himself into this and has been good, he deserves the truth even though it will hurt. Leading him on is only pushing this conversation down the road and going to make it more difficult to separate. If hes still cool with doing all this for you despite your feelings, then thats on him. It will suck because its nice getting treated well, but he seems like a guy with a great heart and deserves to be with someone who is crazy about him. As well as you deservd to be with someone who will make yoh happy.

Anonymous 130320

You don't owe that man anything. He's probably doing all this thinking you'll eventually have sex with him.
I'd tell you to pay attention to any warning signs, every man is a potential femicide perpetrator.



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Anonymous 130265[Reply]

What is dating like?

30 and never been asked on a date or had a BF.
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Anonymous 130270

like salty bags of coins, milk and sand or something

Anonymous 130299

OP are you abstinent by choice or not because you look great and I'm sure lots of guys and even other women would date you

Anonymous 130311

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Terrible and wonderful, depending on who you end up dating. Guys are either total moron apes with no sense of class, or absolute gentlemen but those are rare. I broke up wjth my long term gf of a couple years a few months ago and started dating. I got some matches on tinder and went on a couple dates, one of the guys was a complete fuckboy but i wanted to try out guys. He didnt hold doors, asked to pay half of the bill, drove a beat up old car, and was very insistent on going with him to an underground dj set that night. I left early and unmatched him. On the other side, i found an amazing guy that i wasnt too crazy about looks wise but we had so much in common,like playing same games and have similar hobbies, we clicked very quickly. He's polite, likes my jokes and goofy demeanor, holds doors open for me, and takes me out on cute dates all the time. I return the favor by cooking him delicious home made food he can reheat after he comes home from work over the course of the week.

The key is to not just look for attraction, but find a companion that will be your best friend and who you can rely on. Dating shitty guys feels like a waste of time and is unfulfilling, maybe you might get some action but its kinda hollow and tbh I get off better by myself. Try stuff out, get out of your comfort zone, and trust your gut.

Btw im 31 myself

Anonymous 130312

>>130265
it was the best experience of my life, albeit that's because she was the most amazing, wonderful person ever.
but being single is enjoyable too

Anonymous 130313

>>130299
its not actually op its catfish



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Anonymous 130142[Reply]

What is being in a good relationship supposed to be like?

For me it always goes like this:

>They like it when I talk about them or try to share things that might be related to them or pique their interest

>Conversations don't flow naturally. It's just like a job interview where you have to try and care about their life, or talk about whatever they want to share, otherwise nothing happens
>They don't care about my life at all
>They only like it when I'm available for them
>They only like it when I am there for them
>They only like it when I am making an effort for them
>They don't want to know anything about me
>The don't care about how I feel
>They don't even want to hang out with me
>They talk about other women more than me, they just use me as a tool for complaining about their other women
>The compliments and "I love you" feel really insincere, forced and empty, like there's nothing there, just empty words probably copied and pasted
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>>130142
If you don't share interests, there's just nothing to talk about. A guy can pretend to care about your day sure but how long could that conversation last really? I don't know why people don't bring this up more often but if you don't share interests it's likely just not going to work out long term because you'll only be interacting for sex or you'll be forcing some half-assed interest like you mentioned. The big issue is there isn't really a lot of overlap between what most guys are into vs what most women are into and this is only exacerbated by internet algorithms. I really don't know why women go around assuming as long as there's an initial spark it'll all eventually work out in the end. Relationships take a lot of work from both parties and sometimes you're just not made for each other.

Anonymous 130152

People in general and especially men are increasingly immature. The vast majority of people try their best in romantic relationships and often fail themselves despite their best intentions. Good relationships come with serendipity, it takes patience, persistence, and an openness to be surprised.

Anonymous 130268

>>130142
this checks out all the boxes for a man that wants a gf just to take, never to give. so many men dont even like women or are interested in them in any other way than that they want someone to be nice to them, ask them about stuff and all of that. if they dont even want to know who you are and whats going on with you, they dont really love you, they just want a relationship with pretty much just someone to feel less lonely.



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Anonymous 130287[Reply]

I'm ugly. I'm overweight. I'm extremely socially anxious and autistic, which is why I haven't had a single friend in almost ten years. I lack hygiene, I'm incredibly insecure and feel the need to kill myself when I have to think of my pathetic existence. Nothing is fun to me because I cannot concentrate for the life of me. I have tried to change my life multiple times but I cannot stick with it. Instead, my body keeps being pulled in to bed and my fate is probably to rot here forever.
Only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I'm still young, only 20, so I am hoping for a miracle… Advice would be very appreciated. If there is any at this point.
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>>130298
>I always find it astonishing when I hear of people who found therapy to be effective… It seems like this is more of a rare case, in which you need to be lucky to get paired with the right one who actually listens to you. I'm very glad therapy helped you overcome hurtful memories and experiences, I think those tend to hold one back a lot later in adulthood.
The first therapist messed me up (not personally just using the wrong method - CBT). My next therapist used 'talking therapy' which involved me getting things off my chest, then they would give their professional feedback on thought patterns or behaviours. It was a great way for me to get over trauma and for my body to actually release the stored stress (that was rough lol). Ever since then I've been trying to be more outgoing, and I actually want to be too.

>I would love to join a book club but unfortunately I'm even too anxious to leave the house. My autism isn't displayed when I talk only, for some reason "normal" people can clock it immediately when seeing me. Maybe due to gestures, I don't know eugh (it's exhausting).

How about attending a talk or a lecture on a subject you enjoy? You can sit at the back and not talk to anyone, but you're still in a group of people who want to focus on the same thing. I've been to a few and it still feels 'social' without having to be proactively social if that makes sense? Also you'd be surprised at the amount of people who don't care about your autism or awkwardness, there are extroverted nice people who like the same things you do and will make the effort to connect - so please don't hide from them :)

>Do you have advice on how to do that? I know people pay tons of money to get one done professionally. Also thank you again for your kind words!! :3

You absolutely don't need to spend money. There's so many useful posts on Pinterest + IG for it, I think as long as you understand the difference between contrast, saturation and cool/warm that's all you really need. I initially didn't like the colours for my season, but once I saw myself in the mirror wearing them I was like "Ok maybe there's something to this after all…"
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Anonymous 130301

I relate anon, I can't get out of bed until 1 or 2 or 3 some days, I have crippling anxiety and am unable to find any joy in life sometimes. My only cope is to remind myself I've gotten out of similar ruts in the past but even then it can only do so much for me. I want to kill myself but I'm too scared to go through with it, I want to feel better but I'm not able to even find joy in the smallest things, I just want to rip all my anxiety and sadness out of my brain and let it fade off so I can be happier but I just can't

Anonymous 130303

>>130288
my doctor wont prescribe stimulants for my adhd because I am fat and my blood pressure is too high T.T

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>>130300
>My next therapist used 'talking therapy' which involved me getting things off my chest, then they would give their professional feedback on thought patterns or behaviours.
That does sound helpful, and even though I didn't go to therapy because of childhood trauma, I wish mine was like that too. I wish she would give her professional insights on my problems but instead, she just invalidates every single one of mine. I tell her I have issues with masking constantly since I was a child, and her response to these kinds of things is "No, you don't seem to have that problem"?? It's like going to the doctor because your knee hurts, and they just tell you "No, your knee doesn't hurt. I think you're just imagining the pain!" She also told me that I cannot be autistic because my of my good ability read and write, and because I can feel emotions (I thought she was kidding me but no). What she probably meant was that I cannot be autistic because I'm a woman lol.
>there are extroverted nice people who like the same things you do and will make the effort to connect - so please don't hide from them :)
Well that sounds encouraging, I have met extroverts before who were very kind to me, I guess they liked that I'm quiet because that gave them more space to talk hah. I think I will try to attend such meeting, and if it sucked, I won't have to see the people ever again.
>Keep posting here with updates:) I believe in you!
Thank you anon, I will update under this thread in a month or two from now, I'll try to do as much of your advice as I can!

Anonymous 130309

>>130301
I'm really sorry about that, but I am positive that we can make it out of it. As you have said, you were able to pull yourself out before a couple of times. Also I think it helps to hear of other nonas who went through the same and got better eventually. I think putting in a bunch of effort is worth a try, no matter how hard it will be.
>>130303
Hmm, I have heard of obese people being prescribed stimulants such as vyvanse for weightloss since it suppresses your hunger a lot… Maybe make him aware of that. You'd solve two problems at once.



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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
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its exam period and it's getting too much for me. The past week I have been studying math for 5 hours every day. Taking one past exam which is three hours, correcting it which takes an hour, and doing weak topics or reviewing formulas for the last hour. The problem is I still fucking suck. Tomorrow is my exam. My average is at 52% and I'm really scared I won't pass. All that time spent for nothing. The past exams I did ranged from 51-79%,, but these last days have been horrible. Yesterday I did an exam and got 37% and today I made another one but didn't finish it because it was actually hurting my soul. I don't know what to do. I can't do more. I have another subject tomorrow too in the morning so I am scared my concentration will already be dwindling. Sometimes I get stuff wrong because I don't have the insight and it's so frustrating because then I watch a video explaining and it's so simple I could literally do it. But I have been making LOTS of mistakes on literally just, forgetting to put a minus here or ssometimes misreading my own previous work. It's so frustrating. I need to be extremely precise tomorrow but I am just scared. My heart hurts. I can't do more. My parents know I have been studying hard and think that my efforts will pay off but I doubt it. It will be mediocre at best… if I fail I might genuinely have to kill myself. Want to kill myself right now already. I don't feel like I am getting better. In the beginning I could see improvement between my first few exams and now I've plateaued. I think it's because I understand the material but I keep making fucking stupid careless errors. And my approach may be systematic and flawless but then I see I made a mistake with subtracting two functions from eachother which fucks up the rest and it makes me crash out. I pray tomorrow I will have the clarity to not make such mistakes- but I have been trying every day as if it were a real exam to no avail. Just sucks. My heart breaks. I don't know how to get my grade up and frankly I can't be too bothered anymore. I want it but I just, can't. But I do care actually. Kill me.

I also have another subject in the morning which is very learn heavy. The last few weeks every day I have been revising and revising and revising the material. I know pretty much every detail by heart. I think a 100% is easily in reach for me I just need to work on formulating my answers. I know I should practice by taking past exams but I just can't seem to do anythiPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 130302

I'm bullied by coworkers. I love the job, and I need it to survive, but these people make me want to die.They know it bothers me too and wont stop.
Apparently in America no one cares if someone is harassing you at work if it doesn't involve race, gender, age, religion

Anonymous 130304

It's so obvious he's losing interest in me, he only tells me he misses me at night and he is way more less affectionate than before and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've dropped all my studies and hobbies just to focus on doing things that will impress him or to engage and look into his interests, if he doesn't start loving me more I don't know what I'll do

Anonymous 130305

>>130304
i'm sorry you are going through that. it sounds very painful. sending love your way internet stranger



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