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Anonymous 129376[Reply]

I don't take insults from men seriously but whenn it comes from a woman it really stings. Do nonas know this feel?

Anonymous 129378

>>129376
It depends who the man is and who the woman is but if a woman is unhappy with me I do sometimes take it personally

Anonymous 129379

>>129376
Yeah, same for me. When men insult me I dont really care as much unless it's something extremely important to me. But with women are mean it makes me so sensitive for some reason. I'm not sure why this is tho. Maybe I'm just used to men being rude and bitchy but when women are rude to me I do take it more seriously and introspect more when it happens

Anonymous 129380

>>129376
Same for anyone who owns a brain. Women are honest, more emotionally mature, smarter and not brain rotted from porn and red pill.
And most importantly, women are humans, males are subhumans.
Opinion of subhumans doesn't matter to humans.

Anonymous 129772

When i started dating a guy, my bestie called me a "traitor straightie" and it made me cry


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Is it normal to not have friends at 20 years old? Anonymous 129695[Reply]

I feel like the last time I had genuine friends was during middle school, if that even counts.

I am always overlooked, specially by other girls and not due to lack of social skills or initiative. It wasn't until my 16s that I decided to take the first step in making friends, since no one ever approaches me, and yet I still feel unchosen.

>meet girl
>ask for contact after cool interaction
>never invites me to do anything, never texts me, never show initiative to actually be my friend.

I feel a bit pathetic and specially lonely today, I have one friend in person and he's a moid that is already starting to distance from me.
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Anonymous 129717

>>129699
I never thought of it that way, specially because I'm quite insecure even though I have always been told I'm attractive.

I'm not perfect just like everyone but I like to think that I'm good at understanding people and getting along with them, I'm kind and entertaining, I am pretty sensitive though so maybe I value friendship more than what the average people do.

Anonymous 129718

>>129705
Yes, I struggle with this big time. I have tried this as well, I was hanging out with a girl who I thought was in the same situation as me. It was extremely one-sided, I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt (maybe she's shy/maybe she needs some time to feel comfortable with me). There weren't any signs of her not being interested besides never taking initiative. Turns out she had a bunch of friends that I never knew about.

Anonymous 129719

I feel you anon. All friends I had in school I fell out of contact with after a while (mainly because of us being put in different classes) and now I don't have any friends left from school. My only current friends are online friends but I know even those friendships are very shaky and could collapse at any time

Anonymous 129746

I'm 22 and I have no friends.

Anonymous 129771

It gets better, learn to become your own best friend and that warm glow will bring other people close to you. Im 30 and only in last couple years have i made genuine friendships, and even have a bestie now! I used to be miserable and lonely but i learned to accept things about myself and my situation, and found confidence within myself. Have self respect and don't let awful people steer your life in ways you do not want it to go, its better to be alone and calm than being around people that keep stressing you out and draining your energy. Find people who love, care, and want to grow, help them and theh will help you
♡


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my bfs porn addiction makes me want to cheat Anonymous 129689[Reply]

my boyfriend’s porn addiction is making me lose my mind. I first found out about it in early August but I keep finding out things he’s lying about. At first he framed it as just watching a random video then closing. Then, I found out he used to pay for OF while we were together. after this, I found out that he was doing this shit the entire time before I found out and he had a twitter account for OF egirls + bought an anime porn game. He first blamed his problem on our relationship issues before I found out he was doing it the whole time.
He said that what I sent him wasn’t “enough to look at” compared to porn despite him literally being overweight with a receding hairline (quickly apologized but still).

After I found out about the OF stuff, I started cheating on him online. I was a very popular cosplayer and used to make lots of money off of my looks, so it feels weird and makes me feel resentful because I feel like he doesn’t admire my looks like this. Flirting with girls/guys online feels like an escape from feeling like I’m ugly + feels like a gotcha. It makes me want to show off my body and for a while I even thought of doing gravure work when I move back to Japan. I feel horrible for doing this. I used to hate male attention, but I feel relief when a cute moid hits on me. it’s like a “atleast someone appreciates my looks”.

He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly since but I still feel this way sometimes and I feel like a horrible person. What should I do? Am I a bad person?
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Anonymous 129708

holy fuck you're a mess lmao

Anonymous 129711

>>129708
yeah this is what shitty boyfriends and having BDD/former anachan does to u lol

Anonymous 129742

>>129689
advice to you or anybody that has problems with their bf that they feel they couldn't resolve.
Break up.
Simple.
Never ever ever cheat, you immediately lose your argument if you do. Why cheat and stay in a relationship anyway if you don't like him anymore? Break up and finish it.

Anonymous 129749

>>129689
they’re all booing but im clapping. you don’t ever gotta feel bad about cheating on cheaters.

Anonymous 129770

Do both of yourselves a favor and leave him. If hes lying about porn usage what else is he lying about? cheating is not good either and if youre vernting your frustration that way, why not just cut off the source of it rather than "dealing" with it?


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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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Anonymous 128532

So, it's Halloween
And you feel like dancin'
And you feel like shinin'
And you feel like letting loose
But what ya gonna be?
Babe, you better know
And you better plan
Better plan all day

Better plan all week
Better plan all month
Better plan all year

You're dressed up like a clown
Putting on your act
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Anonymous 128628

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I ain't got no panties on
Ain't got no panties on
I ain't got no panties on
On the dancefloor

Anonymous 128636

It took so long to remember just what happened
I was so young and vestal then
You know it hurt me
But I'm breathing so I guess I'm still alive
Even if signs seem to tell me otherwise
Got my hands bound
And my head down and my eyes closed
My throat's wide open

Do unto you now what has been done to me
Do unto you now what has been done

Tool- Prison sex. The latter half of the songs explains how abuse comes full circle, the abused become the abuser. Abuse like this leaves a hole in you that only seems to be filled when you hurt others. But you never truly get your power back.

Anonymous 129754

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Yo, listen up, here's a story
About a little guy that lives in a reddit world
And all day and all night
And everything he sees is just reddit
Like him inside and outside
Reddit his house
With a reddit little window
And a reddit Corvette
And everything is reddit for him
And himself and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen)

Anonymous 129769

Rubbbin on her back as I suck on her NIPPLE!
Mane dis gal stacked butt cheeks like a HIPPO!
Jimmy crack corn Im gon bust on her LIPPO!
Jimmy in my cup my nig take a SIPPO!
Down by da benz so her cheese gonna FLIPPO!
Left the hotel with a limp like a CRIPPLE!
Pretty like highs and her smile had a DIMPLE!
Make her twat hot like a bust on a PIMPLE!

If you thinking I'm straight then you better think twice
Say you ain't got no cheese then I'm Jekyll and Hyde
'Bout to click on this bitch 'cause she need to learn me
Beat her with my pistol when I thought she burned me
It's the first of the month, you can call me Sambo
I'ma dick this ho down 'cause I like to gamble
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Does this make anyone else mad Anonymous 129315[Reply]

This ugly swede made a YouTube video whining and e-begging about how he couldn't get a gf, and ended up marrying a 7/10 woman that saw his videos and fell in love with him. Imagine if it was an ugly woman that made a video like that. She probably wouldn't have gotten as popular as he did and definitely wouldn't have got a cute bf to wanting to marry. I fucking hate moids. They have the easiest lives ever
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Anonymous 129663

>>129315
I'm not mad because I'm not bitter.

Anonymous 129677

>>129655
>rip her dms
yeah her dms would be full of ugly faggots with horrible personalities with zero redeeming qualities. she would not magically score a cutie like this guy did.

Anonymous 129745

You're not alone. Ugly man psyop is fucking real. Men love seeing women suffer.

Anonymous 129753

>>129745
If you have an ugly man all the others wil look at you and you get all the attention and you are the more attractive of the two in the couple

Anonymous 129768

>>129753
dating someone as a comparison tool is foul


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worried Anonymous 129702[Reply]

ive never really posted on here before, mostly just lurking but i don’t really have anywhere else i can vent about this stuff. i’m going to be an adult really soon and it honestly worries me because i feel liek im losing my youth and guys won’t want me anymore. i try not to center myself around men but it seems like men where most interested in me when i was a pre teen and early teen. in my later teen years it kinda just feels like im not young enough for most guys anymore even if thats really gross.

thinking about this really upsets me, but for some reason pedophilia is everywhere now and i don’t know why. i feel like i can’t do anything about it , i hate them so much and im scared i’ll end up with one. the majority of the guys I’ve talked to (even the ones who seemed super cool and normal) have some kind of weird fucked up opinion about pedophilia, or they’re “indifferent” to it. im so scared for the future because i want kids, but idk what to do anymore. is this a normal experience for you guys too?
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Anonymous 129741

>>129702
Read yaoi and mock how ugly they are as a group in return. Its the only solution to their trash existence. They are hideous compared to women and have insufferable personalities and honestly deserve to be in the basement. We are supposed to give a shit about their hideous masculinity why? Can someone seriously explain why we don't turn them all into goon material since thats all they deserve to be? Thats what they do to us. Porn has obliterated gender relations. Use it against them and goon to young bishies only. <3

Anonymous 129752

I'm 36 and my dating experience has only improved over time. I'm in a long-term committed relationship with a decent man, meanwhile in my 20s and earlier it was much harder to find someone who doesn't have brain worms. Don't let moids and crab-bucketing other women fool you into overvaluing your youth.

Anonymous 129761

>>129737
yeah that makes sense. im just paranoid about this stuff because of getting groomed and i dont want to have to go through it again. im talking to a guy right now who is a year younger than me and he’s not a weirdo thankfully, so i hope this goes well :)

buut anyways thx to everyone in this thread, you guys made me feel a lot better. i get really caught up thinking about this stuff, haha

Anonymous 129762

CC is 18+ so I don't know if you should be here as a teenager. I'm 18 though and I relate, men my age have been gross to me before and when I was 14 they were also like that. It genuinely makes me wonder if there's any point to try and find a man. I'm basically febfem at this point

Anonymous 129767

>>129761
i don't know what work you've done to understand how being groomed changed your feelings about the world and your own safety: but remember that it's naturally impacted your beliefs about vulnerable relationships. it's a- if you go through life thinking everything needs to be hammered, you'll only see nails -type of thing. and by that i mean, if you're nervous even subconsciously about being groomed or tricked again, you're putting too much burden on yourself to hyper-worry about it, which only does yourself a disservice (although it's normal to think about.) caution is warranted, just not to the degree that it sabotages your own plans and desires.
be nice to yourself and those thoughts. you can sit with the worry of the "grooming happening again", and eventually they'll start looking just like thoughts. and only thoughts. they don't represent an actual manifested reality; they're fleeting residue from previous trauma, they can't control your real world. you probably know all of this, so i'm not trying to baby you, but a reminder can't hurt.

hopefully that younger guy will be nice! it's a great idea considering recent data, so good luck
>"Research indicates that older women dating younger men often report higher sexual satisfaction and relationship well-being compared to younger women dating older men. A 2025 study published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that women in these reverse age-gap relationships experienced better sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm, while men in these pairings reported high relationship satisfaction that strongly predicted their sexual functioning."


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pet grief Anonymous 107146[Reply]

my cat just died, my first ever pet. I thought I'd have longer with him since cats can live into their twenties, but he was only 14.
I feel really lost without him, the house is too quiet.
It was a very sudden death as well. He had been himself, acting completely normal, then just died. The vet suspects cardiac arrest from a blood clot.
I just want him back nonas.
Have any of you coped with pet grief before? How long does it take to start feeling better?
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Anonymous 107168

So sorry, anon.
Yes, I lost my childhood cat (and best friend) when he was 15 a few years ago. It was awful, I broke down sobbing at work and felt the deep emptiness of his missing presence to my core. I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
My mother encouraged us to get a new kitten a month and a half later, and even if it felt like betrayal of him I'm so happy to have her! Like other anon said, she's so different in her personality that it doesn't feel like a "replacement" as I feared. I could never replace him after all, it was just meeting a new friend to help the healing process.
The period with no cat felt 6x longer than it actually was though, fuck.

All this to say, don't feel guilt about making a new friend but also only do so when you feel ready. And take as long as you need to mourn both he and your life alongside him. 14 years is a long time filled with what I assume to be some of your early memories if he was your first cat (even if you got your first cat at 20, that's young in a different way). Take time to appreciate his companionship during your ups and downs and growth. Also don't let anyone make you feel silly for mourning a pet.

Anonymous 107169

I lived in a big house in the rural area of a city for most of my life, so I've had more pets than the average person. Still, I always grief for months when my pets die.
Like >>107168 said, adopt another pet when you feel ready. Helping an animal in need is the best way to honor the memory of your pet. You're not replacing them in any way, I have so many good memories of all the pets I had. I'll die one day too, but until then I'll love and care for as many animals as I can.

Anonymous 107346

>>107168
>I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
I'm so sorry nona, this is exactly what I'm going through with my cat. He'd always jump onto the bed with me at night time and be purring away until he fell asleep. I miss him so much.
>>107169
I do actually have two other cats that I got last year. I just don't have as strong a connection with these two.
Originally I had two cats, the one who just died plus another who died at the start of 2022 (kidney disease). My senior cat went into a bad depression and stopped eating after she died, which is why I got the other two cats. So you could say they were his cats, and he became his happy self again once they settled in. Thankfully they seem to be doing okay without him, I suppose because they have each other. It's just so strangely quiet without him because he was super talkative, and they don't meow at all. I hope I can grow closer to them with time.

Anonymous 129720

One of my cats died recently in about October or November. We're not sure how, he was found dead under my sister's bed. No blood or throw up or anything. I miss him badly, my remaining cat seems so lonely and confused without him. I hope there's an afterlife for pets and that we can be with them again one day, I miss him badly. My aunt's dog died over the summer too and my childhood dogs have been gone for a while

Anonymous 129759

Its going to be 4 years since i lost 2 of my childhood cats. There are times where i feel pangs of sadness but i need to lock in for my other cat. Shes 10 years old and i just want to appreciate whatever time i have left with her. It sucks cause i gotta work a full time job now but i reframe it as making sure she has a confortable life. But after her im not having another pet until i get 6 figs annually. Being poor and having a pet fucking sucks. Sorry for going on a tangent.

To answer your question…. Let yourself feel the grief. Repression doesn't do anyone any good. Find people who you can talk about your passed on pets to, or write about them. Whatever you do, keep their memorie alive because they're only in your life for a short while, but you're their whole world for their lifetime.


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Anonymous 128629[Reply]

How do people, especially women, have casual sex and one night stands?

I cant have sex without catching feelings. i think this is true for a lot of guys that dont have sex frequently. every time feels important and special.
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Anonymous 129544

>>129537
If you like sex, casual sex isnt for you. You need to get to know each others bodies first, likes and dislikes etc.

Anonymous 129548

I have personal circumstances that prevent me from being able to have a long term relationship but I still want affection. Its not the healthiest but I can squash my feelings easily because I remind myself of the circumstances I’m in and other things that make me unworthy of a relationship. I also don’t have friends and only really interact with people for sex yet I’ve met interesting people this way.

Anonymous 129581

>>128629
I've genuinely never met anyone who enjoys casual sex other than straight men, gay men and some butches who just covet masculinity to hide their own pain. This whole thing that everyone loves casual sex is a LARP.

Anonymous 129614

>>128629
You think I'd be interested in casual sex because I'm a bippie but I've been assaulted, stalked and borderline raped that almost nothing excites me about men anymore and I haven't tried casual sex with women either so… it's not worth it. I have a surprisingly low sex drive I just blame my trauma for it

Anonymous 129747

I'm a 99% straight woman. I sleep peacefully knowing I will never have ONS with moids. Its one of the most demonic shit sold to women.
But I want to try it with a woman so bad.. Just like how it should be anyways.


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gooners ruining hobby spaces Anonymous 129634[Reply]

>recently join the vocaloid discord because i love music and want to make friends
>click on the profile of the head mod
>rabbit hole miku
>uh oh
>click his X
>his pinned post is a petite miku sex doll face down on his bed
>wtf
>he has 5 more sex dolls he photographs
>the rest is RTs of miku hentai, at least 20 from the past 24 hours
>wtf

I don't even want to talk in the server anymore. It grosses me out so much. Why is everyone else in that server okay with porn being linked at the top of the server? Why are they fine with the server being run by a chronic exhibitionist gooner? I hate how normalized it is, it feels so weird to be in the same space as those perverts, especially when it's borderline CP. I don't really know what to do anymore or where to go. I wish it didn't bother me so much so I could enjoy the server, but I can't change I know it's gross and wrong. Any advice?
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Anonymous 129715

>>129700
Two different strains of feminism that despise each other to the death, anon. You haven't picked that up yet?

Anonymous 129727

>>129715
In that case, I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism. A movement need a general direction.

Anonymous 129728

>>129727
>I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism
That's pretty much what happens

Anonymous 129729

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>>129700
Men need to have their sexuality controlled, women don't. Men should not have easy access to women's bodies through porn, prostitutes, social norms, etc. etc. but it's fine if people have easy access to men's body. These things need to be regulated for men, not women. The ONLY time a man should see a woman naked is if she decided to let him.

Anonymous 129736

The amount of fandom spaces I've been in that got infested with child groomers and other sexpests is insane so I feel your pain nona. Seems like almost every online group is full of these types of insane people


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