>>275677AGP aside, a lot of the reason they get drawn to trooning is not wanting to grow up yet and take on the responsibilities of being an adult man. You know, sucking it up, being a provider, being the one in charge, that stupid hierarchical infighting they do constantly, and so on. They can talk about female pressure all they want, but other men and male society is the toughest on men and not all of them can cope.
Women mistakenly get viewed by a lot of men as "pretty things that just sit there and get attention/sex while everyone looks after them and they don't have to work", which gets conflated with their desire to stay a perma-child. They ALSO want to get attention/sex and be more attractive (women are attractive to them, so a natural choice) and have someone look after them while they just sit at home… cooking and sewing or something? Free of all the "real" responsibilities. It reflects a lot of the shitty things men seem to believe about what it is women actually do and how little respect they have for the work they're capable of noticing. So they pound down estrogen and say they're women, and that gets mixed up with their perma-child desires so they're actually "girls", and they spend so long sexualizing women and themselves and their idea of "girlhood" that it not infrequently turns into youth obsession and even pedo tendencies.
TiMs are typically trying to escape abuse, trauma, and objectification, or have been taught to think of femininity as weak and inferior (moid societal conditioning). Unfortunately for them, many are still attracted to men, but men drove them to this in the first place so they gravitate to fiction where the men have no chance of hurting her and can also be thoughtful without it being the act of a stealth shitbag. This media typically has teen anime guys, and that's what you see emulated. Add in that gay culture has its preferred subtypes with "young twink" being a big one, and that most women aren't going to turn into buff and rugged lumberjacks. Not too many choices to aim for.
t;dr: yes but also misogyny